Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

edoliesmom · June 2014

mamrotu73 said:
A has started hugging my boob while eating. Only on the right, but it is super cute. I'd share a pic but there is no way to show without major boobage.

My weird brain inserted "man" between "A" and "has." I was concerned.

michaelad3 · June 2014

I'm a little behind on this convo, but we have 4 dr. Browns glass bottles and one avent glass. LO prefers dr browns, and we got them all in store at BRU, but we haven't tried evenflo

edoliesmom · June 2014

1) Would it be okay for me to take a bottle that baby girl has already drunk from to church tomorrow?

2) My FIL says inappropriate things all the time either about my breasts/breastfeeding or my and my husband's sex life. Example: he always makes jokes about hearing the bed squeaking (their room is directly below ours). Second example: tonight on our way home from dinner, baby girl was getting fussy. I had to drive because both of my ILs had been drinking. So he made a comment about me needing to get in the backseat and "flop my titty out" to feed her. My MIL laughed because of the expression that came across my face, but then casually made mention of how it was inappropriate of him. Then a little while later I told my husband he could give the baby more of her bottle since we were almost home (I didn't want her to have the full thing since she was unable to be burped), and my FIL said, "Yeah, Mommy's nipples are sore!"

It's getting to a point where something needs to be said. Aside from that quality, he's a good man, and I don't want to cause any tension since we live with them. I'm thinking the best route is to talk to my MIL with my husband to see if she'll talk to him for me. I'm afraid if I say something in the moment that the right thing won't come out, my husband is non-confrontational, and I'm not sure why my MIL hasn't put a stop to it yet... I'm hoping she'll receive it well when I talk to he about it.

edoliesmom · June 2014

@3crazykitties‌ She only fed my BIL for two weeks and then stopped. I didn't consider that attributing to his jokes.

But yeah, it's really awkward. :-w

allyandmike24 · June 2014

Ommmmggg my bestie just got engaged after 6 years!!!!!!! I'm so excited!!!

edoliesmom · June 2014

@honeyzoo‌ Yeah, I'm thinking that would be the most effective thing, but I just want it to go over well. I can't believe I have to be the one to make sure there isn't tension or awkwardness in the air when HE'S the one making the inappropriate remarks. Seems a little backwards...

RocksInTheWater · June 2014

SLSchuerg said:
@honeyzoo‌ Yeah, I'm thinking that would be the most effective thing, but I just want it to go over well. I can't believe I have to be the one to make sure there isn't tension or awkwardness in the air when HE'S the one making the inappropriate remarks. Seems a little backwards...

Sorry you have to deal with that! I can't believe those comments your FIL makes. How in the world does he think it's ok??

edoliesmom · June 2014

LoriMc12 said:

SLSchuerg said:
@honeyzoo‌ Yeah, I'm thinking that would be the most effective thing, but I just want it to go over well. I can't believe I have to be the one to make sure there isn't tension or awkwardness in the air when HE'S the one making the inappropriate remarks. Seems a little backwards...
Sorry you have to deal with that! I can't believe those comments your FIL makes. How in the world does he think it's ok??

He thinks he's being funny. :-??

MadBloom · June 2014

I feel like a bad friend

I've been neglecting RTT and the bump in general.
DH and I are at each other's throats all the time. He does NOTHING to help me. He hasn't changed a diaper in weeks, if I try to eat or take a break he sits on his phone and let's Penny cry so I have stopped asking anything of him. I feel like I'm taking care of an infant and a teenager with how he's acting. It's seriously getting to me. I told him I'm going to visit my parents for a few nights this week coming up to get a few things done with my mom but really I just want to get away from him. And I hate that I feel that way

Sorry to pop back in with such a negative post but I don't have anywhere else to vent like this.

pineconey · June 2014

DS has been asleep for an hour. DHis snoring away. And I'm wide awake. Because I'm a freaking insomniac. Agh.

MadBloom · June 2014

@ColleenSwerb It would be nice for him to simply put his dirty dishes in the dishwasher even half of the time. I just went to the kitchen for water and his supper plate was on the coffee table with food still on it.... I'm practicing some breathing exercises right now.
He expects applause and infinite handjobs for emptying the dishwasher once in a blue moon.

bootsiebabe · June 2014

So behind, but congrats @MrsStanton87‌ !!

@SLSchuerg‌ ugh I'm sorry you have to deal with that awkwardness.

JessieAlbin · June 2014

aronie82 said:
Oh FFS when I say you never put anything in the dishwasher you know I don't mean it literally. And it's not a jab that you don't do anything around the house just that you could try harder at this one thing. Why does he get so defensive about this? Why is this a huge fight

I'm on the other side of this one with my hubs. His ocds make for a husband who does more than his fair share of the housework sometimes, which is a lovely problem to have! When he starts to get irritated with me, it's usually when we are both stressed and I already feel like I'm letting things slip through the cracks somewhere which isn't a fun feeling and I'm likely to get more defensive than usual. "You never" and "you always" statements are pretty much guaranteed to put me on the defensive when he doesn't necessarily intend to have a huge fight, and generally he'd have a much more productive response from me if he said something more along the lines of, "could you make an effort to do (insert task) more? I feel like I'm doing it a lot lately." I'll be like, "oh shit babe, I have been kinda slack on the dishes front lately, my bad." instead of "I'll show you what 'never doing the dishes' looks like, Captain Asshole." Kwim?

rockstarlaw · June 2014

@honeyzoo‌ pump just to the point to relieve engorgement if you're attempting to regulate your supply

Sisimama10 · June 2014

JessieAlbin said:

aronie82 said:
Oh FFS when I say you never put anything in the dishwasher you know I don't mean it literally. And it's not a jab that you don't do anything around the house just that you could try harder at this one thing. Why does he get so defensive about this? Why is this a huge fight
I'm on the other side of this one with my hubs. His ocds make for a husband who does more than his fair share of the housework sometimes, which is a lovely problem to have! When he starts to get irritated with me, it's usually when we are both stressed and I already feel like I'm letting things slip through the cracks somewhere which isn't a fun feeling and I'm likely to get more defensive than usual. "You never" and "you always" statements are pretty much guaranteed to put me on the defensive when he doesn't necessarily intend to have a huge fight, and generally he'd have a much more productive response from me if he said something more along the lines of, "could you make an effort to do (insert task) more? I feel like I'm doing it a lot lately." I'll be like, "oh shit babe, I have been kinda slack on the dishes front lately, my bad." instead of "I'll show you what 'never doing the dishes' looks like, Captain Asshole." Kwim?

So true!

MadBloom · June 2014

All of these things are happening with my DH right now. The tone is brutal. Like RIGHT NOW he just fucking set me off. I asked if he could burp Penny and he says, "stop fucking nagging me." I called him an asshole and had to leave the room. Good fucking morning to you too.

Mamamonzo · June 2014

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macgrs said:

ColleenSwerb said:
I've currently given up on expecting much help in the kitchen and just do it all myself. It gives me less stress to do the dishes at night, no matter how tired I am, than to expect (or even ask) for him to do them and then wake up the next morning to a mess.

DH doesn't understand how his TONE affects everything. He tells me I'm ridiculous, which is always awesome. ::eye roll::
His word choices suck too. "Hey hon, can you try and remember to close this door/turn off this light" comes across a hell of a lot better than "is there a reason why this door is open/light is on?!?!", kwim? One is a gentle reminder, the other makes me feel like he's accusing me of being an idiot. But he also doesn't understand that.
Oh man this is totally us. If I make a mistake or do something accidentally like drop something DH will say, "Why did you do THAT?" Like I did it on purpose. I've started responding with, "Because I'm a huge fucking idiot." He's starting to get it. He's also a crazy perfectionist with house projects (but not tidiness - damn!) and micromanages and criticizes so much I've basically given up helping. Tone goes a loonnng way.

The why did you do that? Drives me nuts!!! Because I wanted to drop the salt shaker spilling salt everywhere waking up the baby!
Gahhh men.

mrscrcalli · June 2014

Don't stone me... Buuuut DH woke up early took DS down stairs so I could sleep in, made homemade sourdough banana waffles and brought me coffee in bed. Also the dishes are done from last nights dinner... X_X

Sun is shining time to get our USA gear on!!!

I believe
I believe that
I believe that we will win!
I believe that we will win!
GO USA!

Teresa1896 · June 2014

Sorry for the asshole DHs. I also feel bad because I'm the one who usually says the assy things in my house because I let things fester until they come out in stupid passive aggressive ways that would not fly if he did them to me.
We'll all be decked out for the USA game later. DS has a jersey outfit, dd is rocking the Stars and Stripes along with these awesome antennas, and DH and I are both wearing some flags. Heading to BW3 for the game! Yay!

michaelad3 · June 2014

Ugh I also get super frustrated with my DH and his lack of help. I'm too nice. I let him sleep in every day, and then he doesn't do anything to help around the house. He sits and plays on his phone or computer or watches sports. I'm getting so frustrated! I need to work on nice ways to ask for help instead of just exploding and nagging because that gets me nowhere. I also need to not be so passive aggressive. Blah.

Also, what happened to DD? She slept one 3.5 hour stretch last night and then woke up every 1-2 hours after that. I'm so tired, and she is wide awake in her swing, happy as can be, which is great, but she needs to take a nap!

mrscrcalli · June 2014

Reading the paper with dad..

LO is obsessed with his chair he loves to sit!

Eta: pic doesn't attach, SOB

rockstarlaw · June 2014

@Teresa1896‌ those antennas totally win!

snmetz7 · June 2014

Ooh ill play DH and I have been bickering all week about the house being dirty. He is a sahd and I work full time. Wile I don't expect the house to be clean when I get home, I also expect that he doesn't spend all his free time (ie baby asleep/content time) playing video games. And he expects me to clean the whole house all the time. We both have full time jobs (him the baby me a 9-5) and we BOTH need to keep the house clean. While they were asleep this morning I cleaned and swept the living room and front doning room. Put a load of laundry in the wash and dryer and put away the clean dishes and started filling up the dirty ones. (DD woke up three times to feed and we played on te gym a little and she went back to sleep) when DH finally woke up at 1000am dd woke up too for the day. I fed her and tried to give her to DH so I could finish the dishes and straighten the bedroom. He wouldn't take her! "I deal with this 5 days a week. Lets see you tend to her and clean" dude wtf.
1. You don't turn off daddy duty just because it is the weekend and you do it all during the week.
2. I got a lot of shit done while looking after her. Way more than you have ever attempted to do.
3. I only have one room left just watch her
4 it's your damn house too how about you clean !
5. My g dad is going to be here in about an hour!
6. Just UGH!!

Am I being unreasonable here?

KatieGummow · June 2014

DH hasn't figured out how to manage both boys at the same time and got snippy because I took an hour to get ready. I showered, pumped, and got dressed. So sue me. He gets to shower whenever he wants. And I make sure I leave him with at least one sleeping baby and one content baby. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr.... Now my weekends are nothing to look forward to.

rockstarlaw · June 2014

@snmetz7‌ you are not being unreasonable. I admire any of you ladies who can have SAHDs. I could not. I would expect way more as the breadwinner than what most men would do during the day (and I wouldn't expect to clean much myself at all) so I know it would just result in a disaster situation for me. More power to you for being far more reasonable and equitable than I would be!

Teresa1896 · June 2014

rockstarlaw said:
@Teresa1896‌ those antennas totally win!

Got them at the little girl section of Target.

I kinda want them for myself!

pineconey · June 2014

RTT is broken on my mobile. I can't try to go back and catch up or it freezes. I feel like a part of me is missing....

Got to hold my friends new baby last night. She's SIX POUNDS. I think my kid was six pounds in like February....

Mamamonzo · June 2014

Just hear this come from the living room where Lucas is fussing an DH is "watching" him. "Dude I'm trying to watch a shark attack chill"

X(

Mamamonzo · June 2014

celticlullaby said:

Mamamonzo said:
Just hear this come from the living room where Lucas is fussing an DH is "watching" him. "Dude I'm trying to watch a shark attack chill"

X(
Like because I hear so many similar comments at this house!

It's probably one of the dumbest things I have ever heard him say.. Just because there is a shark attack on tv luke should be quiet...WTAF??

Edit: Lea use = just because in auto correct??

MadBloom · June 2014

So after my early morning meltdown I took the worlds longest shower to cool off, then hit the grocery store to pick up a few things for breakfast. Left Penny with DH alone for only like the 3rd time ever. Came home and he was super apologetic. He even listed off a half dozen things that he knew he had neglected (ie clothes on the floor, putting his dishes in the dishwasher, emptying the garbage and putting his empties in the recycling)
Now he's cleaning the garage. So the day has gotten a bit better.

mrscrcalli · June 2014

We have our Bradley Method reunion today with all the babies... The problem is most of the class and especially our instructor is super "by the book" so drinking any amount and BF is a no no.. So I'm having a beer before we head out so I can manage this group.. Spoken like an alcoholic, which I'm totally not... Yet.

Here we go!

baileymama3 · June 2014

I cannot believe how closely my DS follows the wonderweeks. Today is day one of leap 2 and he has been on the boob all day or screaming (to be fair it started ramping up over the past 2 days with bouts of tantrums and unsoothable crying). He is usually a calm, self-soothing baby but I swear when one of these hits he is so distressed. It's frustrating and exhausting. My nipples haven't been this sore in weeks. And we are going to my neighbors for dinner... This is going to be disasterous. Luckiliy we are close to home. And I don't have to cook.
As for all the piss ass DH's, mine has not been gold star material lately either...he doesn't realize how much work a baby is! You can't just put them in the pack and play or swing and go do something all day!!! Ugh!!! They need interaction and stimulation and attention!

pineconey · June 2014

I had a brilliant idea to do a few 1 hour shifts with DH today so I could get some stuff done. I spent my hour cleaning, planning out the week, and putting lotion on my feet that are cracked and dry. DH is 15 min into his hour and he's on the couch watching YouTube videos. His hour with DS was spent laying in bed with him.
I don't think he understands the concept I was going for....

rockstarlaw · June 2014

I went clothes shopping today out of necessity - my cousin is getting married next week & I needed a dress. Holy depressing endeavor, Batman! And I have to force myself to do more of this SOON because momma is going back to work the second week of July and has NOTHING to wear. Ugh. I need a drink.

fourthnlast · June 2014

236 messages since friday night. Way to go RTT! We finally started the re model on our house, which means we moved out for the duration.

allyandmike24 · June 2014

Interesting turn of events in our housing dramz today- as you remember, they're selling our apartment (which is in a 2-family and priced at way more than we can afford). I get a text while we were out for the open house from a girl who was in my birth class saying "OMG WE ARE IN YOUR APARTMENT!!!". As it turns out, her MIL wants to buy the building and rent one side out to them...

I have no idea if it would be her intention to keep us as tenants, but if so that would rule so hard to have neighbors who we know, like and who have a baby the same age as ours!!!

FX!

Tferr02 · June 2014

Started watching Sherlock tonight, purely because of A14. I'm really liking it so far.

pineconey · June 2014

jellysparkles said:
The CDing bug is biting me. Darn you crazy hippies!

Welcome to the dark side.

pineconey · June 2014

DH surprised me by taking my car to get washed and brought me flowers. Third time he's EVER brought me flowers.
And it was all "just because".
:x

speechie517 · June 2014

B fell asleep during the World Cup game and is still asleep. She normally catnaps around 6:30-7 for 20-30 minutes and doesn't go to bed until about 10. WTH baby?

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