Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

mamahann

rockstarlaw said:

I went clothes shopping today out of necessity - my cousin is getting married next week & I needed a dress. Holy depressing endeavor, Batman! And I have to force myself to do more of this SOON because momma is going back to work the second week of July and has NOTHING to wear. Ugh. I need a drink.

Sympathy love tit. I tried on 9 dresses at Target today because I go back to work on Tuesday. Of the 9 only 2 were flattering and I didnt get them because it would be impossible to nurse LO or pump at work without getting naked.

pineconey

Jessieann1020 said:

I'm off tomorrow. The baby is sleeping. So the question is...Rum, Vodka, or Whisky???

The answer is always yes.

Mamamonzo

The only beer I can tolerate these days is bud light. Before the BFP I was into all sorts of beers. My cousin works for Bells and would give me all the good stuff! Now I have no taste for it.

So here I sit with my weak as watered down bud light wishing I had tequila for margaritas.

Serious FWP here

janice9821

Gold star to DH. Last day of maternity leave and he bought me Kahlua and made me a White Russian. My favorite!

rockstarlaw

Ashleyahann said:

Sympathy love tit. I tried on 9 dresses at Target today because I go back to work on Tuesday. Of the 9 only 2 were flattering and I didnt get them because it would be impossible to nurse LO or pump at work without getting naked.

OMG. I can't even believe the pumping aspect didn't occur to me! Dresses were the few items I thought I could get away with from my pre-preg wardrobe! Now I have truly NOTHING!!

fourthnlast

ColleenSwerb said:

I totally left DS on his play mat or in the bouncer so I could do shit. And I do the same with DD when I can, so I can do stuff, or pay attention to DS. Doesn't mean she is starved for attention.

How the fuck else are we supposed to get shit done? Fucking magic?!

janice9821

DD makes this sad whimpering noise in her sleep sometimes and will occasionally start screaming like she is terrified but I put my hand on her and she settles right back down. I really hope she doesn't wind up having night terrors like I did when I was a kid.

Jennmoak

I was soooo close to putting LO in her crib for the first time last night (LO is about 9 weeks old). I chickened out at the last minute. Why am I being such a puss about it?! LO naps in her crib during the day and sleeps like a champ. Anyone else having a hard time transitioning? For me it's for purely selfish reasons (

BiggerinRealLife

Catching up. @snmetz7 You're not being unreasonable. And I appreciate your post because, honestly, your husband sounds a lot like me. I've never done the "I get her five days a week, you try it," thing and think that's pretty whack. But I do mostly reserve tackling household stuff for when DH comes home and can watch the baby, but he's still doing the lion's share of the housework. To be fair, I feel like I'm still getting this parenting thing down, and am struggling to find balance in general. I have no self care going on, and adding that, cleaning, and relationships back into my life is something I'm working on. And I never wanted to be a SAHM. (Nothing wrong with it, I've just always wanted to work.) I am by default because of my long leave, but I hate housework and don't want it to all be my job just because I'm staying home with the baby.

Anyway. I appreciated your post because it helped me see my husband's side. He really doesn't expect much from me other than taking care of Josie, but I could be doing more and trying harder. So thank you.

Also, your post struck me as ironic because I feel like a lot of STAMs feel the way your husband does, and when it's a woman posting those complaints in a board, it's all "men don't get it," and "unless they stay home all day they just don't KNOW!"

Eta: clarity

janice9821

@Jennmoak‌ - I totally get it. DD slept in bed with me for the first 8 weeks because she wouldn't sleep anywhere else. Then when I finally got her to sleep in the PNP next to the bed,I wanted to bring her back in bed because I missed the snuggles. Now I'm going back to work and trying decide when to move her into the nursery and I'll probably put it off for a while. I'm not ready for her to be in a different room and I'm not ready for her to be a"big girl"!

snmetz7

@birl when I was on leave he slept all day and took care of her all night. So during the day I was basically a sahm. I was able to watch after her an do a load of dishes or laundry.

Like I Said I don't expect the house to be spotless. But it shouldn't be all my job either. I *get* that watching her during the day is a full time job. But when I get home from my full time job parenting and household chores become shared responsibility.

I hope I haven't offended any sahms.

BiggerinRealLife

DH brag: I woke up not feeling well after a few days of feeling like I was fighting something off. Nothing big yet, but I told DH it would be good to rest today while he was home so I could get over whatever I have before it starts. He was all, "say no more." Josie's growth spurting or something because she's been eating every 1-2 hours for the last 48 so sleep has been crap. But other than feeding her, DH let me sleep all day. ALL DAY. I've literally slept when she slept, and a lot of time when she wasn't. (Yay for sickness giving me the ability to nap!) He waited to go and work out until Josie and I were down for a nap and decided to keep checking the app we share to keep track of her eating and sleeping while he worked out so he could come home once she was awake. Working out is super important to him, so this was really above and beyond, and made me feel super loved. Mega awesome husband points.

janice9821

Vinny424 said:

Any of you NE ladies available for a GTG during the weeks days? I think baby aprilmay needs to meet her A14 buddies too.

I'm usually free on Fridays and would love a bump date... I'm in the Southern Tier region of NY though and would prefer not to drive TOO far. (Boston is a hike. )

JessieAlbin

It might be due to the fact that I'm so bummed about my body (fat with no tits really is the most unfair of body compositions) and the last time I decided to go vegetarian I lost thirty pounds and kept it off without trying or stressing, but I am starting to miss my old vegetarian lifestyle. Since I'm not breastfeeding and I know better than to subsist on veggie burgers and mac&cheese, I am really considering it.

pineconey

KEGELS

MadBloom

So hot in my house.... Penny and I are in the guest room in the basement where it's nice and cool while DH and the pup are Sharing the couch in the bonus room just out the door.
I can't wait to move and have AC.

Speaking of moving.... We had a market evaluation done on our house today and found out that it's worth a crap ton more then what we paid for it back 5 years ago. Bought low and will be selling super high. Gotta love Alberta's economy.

Stace0616

Woke up at 1am to pump because I was super engorged. LO decided to wake up almost immediately after the pump turned off (I swear he can hear it in his sleep). Was letting him fuss a little while I got the milk into the fridge and DH comes rushing in to change and feed the baby. Good wife would have said "I'm up anyway, I got this", but I totally went back to our bed without a word to him.

I'll be up another 4-5hrs from now to pump and feed him while DH sleeps peacefully until his 8am alarm goes off. I figure until he starts lactating, I'll feel zero guilt about snatching what little sleep I can between pump sessions!

JessieAlbin

ColleenSwerb said:

E is kicking and grunting so much right now, the whole PNP is shaking and creaking. Chill out girl! It's sleepy time!

The kicking and the grunting, man! Sullivan waits to kick and grunt until he's eating. Little overachiever has to multitask. And then he's choking every time while he fills his pants, and loses his mind if I take the bottle from him. Sigh. At least once he has a new diaper and is topped off he goes right back to sleep.

Mamamonzo

We just slept through the night \:D/ \:D/ 7 blissful hours of sleep!!

He's freshly fed, and I'm freshly pumped. I may out us back in bed for morning cuddles coffee and the news and see what happens.
Here's some cuteness for your Monday morning.

Tferr02

G had an entire week of 7 hours straight. It was amazing, but then he went back to 4-5 hours. Then last week he dropped back to 3-4 hours. Last night it was 2-3 hours. Why son?! I liked that 7 hour option! I felt human for a week.

Stace0616

Tferr02 said:

G had an entire week of 7 hours straight. It was amazing, but then he went back to 4-5 hours. Then last week he dropped back to 3-4 hours. Last night it was 2-3 hours. Why son?! I liked that 7 hour option! I felt human for a week.

Same here! We were getting a 7hr stretch followed by another 5hrs. But last night got 5hrs then 3.5hrs and now god knows when he'll wake up again. Grrrr Mommy misses her sleep!!

thomas930

That's a start @ColleenSwerb!

JessieAlbin

Woohoo @mamrotu73‌ !! When you talk about flying the Peter Pan song about flying gets stuck in my head.

eireyes

dani+california said:

 Meanwhile, this is happening...little bugger. Just waiting for him to startle himself awake, surprised it's been an hour like this and he hasn't yet!

That was my little Houdini this morning too, only he was in a SwaddleMe - I don't know how he did it, but it was pretty funny looking!

Teresa1896

Awesome that some of our LOs are getting longer stretches of sleep! DS slept an 8 hour stretch last night, and it was glorious. The flip side is that he barely napped all day, just catnaps here and there.

This begins my last full week maternity leave.blah. Looking forward to getting a break from LO but not thrilled about 10 hour days for the first few weeks. At least he takes a bottle now after minimal resistance. For the record, latex nipples were the key.

thomas930

How exciting @mamrotu73!

BiggerinRealLife

Add me to the backwards sleep club. She'll do a few nights of 5-7 hours, then back to 2-3. Whyyyyyy?

Mamamonzo

ColleenSwerb said:

Sleepy lady. yes, she's on a blanket, judge away.

She looks like her brother!!!

Xxlilies

my baby gets his needles today  

also the photo thank-you cards I ordered from Shoppers Drug Mart are still not ready. Really need to get these things in the mail as its been awihle already. Bad enough I suck and went the photo card route so I can avoid writing nonsense like " thank you so much for that leopard print onesie. My son looks so cute in it " and writing thank yous for fifty Sophies I'm grateful and all , I just really hate thank you cards.

pineconey

Dude. Not falling asleep after your MOTN feeding is not cool. I mean, thanks for not crying (staring at his mobile while sucking furiously on his paci) but mom can't sleep when you're awake.

mamahann

Add me to the backwards sleep club. Last week was all 5-7 hours and starting Saturday we're back to 3 hours. Of course she does this when my first day back at work is tomorrow.

On that front I'm a hot mess today and I keep crying looking at DD. I know I'm not a regular around here and I feel like I'm being too sensitive but I'd appreciate any good thoughts sent my way. This is way harder than I thought it would be

Mamamonzo

Apparently 7 hours of sleep means we lose our shit all morning long

eireyes

DH normally does the daycare drop off and pick up because it's on his normal route to and from work, and he leaves later and gets home earlier than I do. (I'd still like to figure out how he manages to do that - probably because his office doesn't care about him actually doing a full 8 every day.)

I'm irrationally excited that I get to pick Aiden up from daycare today. 

eireyes

@Ashleyahann ((hugs)) you can do it, and it does get easier! I'm on my third week back and Aiden's second week at daycare, and it really is easier this week. It helps to know that everyone at his daycare says he's doing really well.

Don't be afraid to call them to check in too if it makes you feel better.  Like my DH said "you're a new mom, you're allowed to be worried, and the daycare deals with this all the time. They won't care at all!"

mamahann

Thanks ladies The rational part of me knows it will get better and that this is the best thing for our family but man the mom guilt is strong.

@Eireyes my SIL will be our full time nanny so I know DD is in good hands. She's already promised lots of photos and updates. I'm sure I'll still text her non stop to make sure everything is fine lol

Teresa1896

Hugs, @Ashleyahann‌. It gets easier but it never stops sucking. My little guy is a hard baby and I know there are going to be times where he'll cry nonstop for our daycare lady (licensed home). She won't be able to pick him up as much as we do. But I know that he will be ok, and that he'llearn good skills from being there, even this young.

mrscrcalli

What.is.happening!!

We got a 6 hour stretch then a 5 hour stretch!!!!!!
First time ever! \:D/

mrscrcalli

And then there's this :x

baileymama3

We have a mover and shaker! My little grumpy bear started out in the middle of the crib last night and moved to the bottom corner. I put him back, next feeding and he did it again!!! He's 7 weeks!!Am I am gonna need crib bumpers to keep his legs from dangling?? Anyone else have little roly polys?
Good luck @Ashleyahann‌!!!

Mamamonzo

mrscrcalli said:

And then there's this :x

1) the pj's are frickin adorable!
2) Lucas sleeps the same way and I absolutely love it!