Community› The Bump Message Boards› Multiples
Multiples
New Discussion

CRAZY COMMENTS

123578

Re: CRAZY COMMENTS

  • Loading the player...
  • YlvelillYlvelill member
    Sadly this was said by me :/

    During my last u/s the tech said "oh and there is the tiny bladder!" And I said "good it's small wouldn't want it to pee on me a lot already"
    Report Reply
  • 24karat24karat member
    marchesa28 said:
    AshB62 said:
    Last night we went out to dinner and one of the waitresses kept going on and on about how it was "her turn" to have twins in her family. She is not currently pregnant. These are a few direct quotes: "It's my turn to have twins. They run on both sides of my family and I'm the only one." "When I have my twins, I hope it's two boys. Most twins are girls." "I want to have my twins as soon as possible." I think she may be setting herself up for disappointment. I didn't have the time (or patience... I just wanted to eat!) to explain to her how it actually works. Smile and nod. Smile and nod. She stood there talking to me for 10 minutes before she decided she should go check on her tables and I finally got to look at the menu.
    I wonder if she's posted here..... ;)
    Lol that was my first thought... Seriously though, I think it's sad how some women will ignorantly get their hopes up/wish for multiples and then feel disappointed when they find out there's one baby there.
    J13 May Siggy Challenge: People lacking in common sense raise my blood pressure.
    image

    imageimage
    DD 8/11 | DS1 7/13 | DS2 7/13
    Report Reply
  • Labyrinth3000Labyrinth3000 member

    After telling my husband’s uncle that we were having twins his face darkened and with the most serious look he says, “Oh, I feel so sorry for you guys.  Geez.  I’m glad it’s not me.  That’s just awful.”  I thought he was joking but now every time I see him he shakes his head and sighs like someone just died!  I’m going to lose it on him soon.

    My husband keeps getting this from random people:  “Oh, twin girls…I bet you wanted twin boys.  That would have been easier.  Yuck!  That’s too much estrogen in the house!”

    Report Reply
  • raraavis28raraavis28 member
    Labyrinth3000 said:

    After telling my husband’s uncle that we were having twins his face darkened and with the most serious look he says, “Oh, I feel so sorry for you guys.  Geez.  I’m glad it’s not me.  That’s just awful.”  I thought he was joking but now every time I see him he shakes his head and sighs like someone just died!  I’m going to lose it on him soon.

    My husband keeps getting this from random people:  “Oh, twin girls…I bet you wanted twin boys.  That would have been easier.  Yuck!  That’s too much estrogen in the house!”

    That's awful! I definitely think the "I'm sorry for you" comments are a million times worse than the naive wishing-for-multiples ones.

    I have 4 sisters and, growing up, we constantly heard the "Your poor dad" line. So freaking obnoxious!
     image
    Report Reply
  • megknycmegknyc member
    I love this thread. My father informed me that my mom carrying a 9-10 pound baby was the same as carrying twins. Can't wait for the advice once they are here! ;)
    It's a boy and a girl!

    image
    image
    Report Reply
  • raraavis28raraavis28 member
    A friend of mine posted a pic on FB of a double-yolk and someone commented (joking, I hope) that "it's a sign that you'll soon be prego w/ twins!" Of course, I thought of you ladies. :)
     image
    Report Reply
  • MissMarneeMissMarnee member
    ...I was just asked how much I paid for my kids while at Starbucks yesterday. Wtf!?!? Seriously, wtf does that even mean??!?! Is it b/c I have twins, which makes most people assume we had fertility treatments, or b/c my husband is of a different ethnicity & my kids look like I adopted them? I was just so floored I babbled something about "priceless" & ran away. Normally people being looks doesn't affect me, but I gotta tell you, it's taking me some time to shake that one off...

    JoDoc--the fact that the desk gave out your location to a staff member for personal use is appalling...I can totally understand why you'd be upset, some folks just cannot imagine life beyond their own sphere of experiences & it kinda makes things always about them...
    Report Reply
  • dmurriedmurrie member
    edited February 2014
    I registered at BRU today, and the associate was totally appalled that even though it's even too early to tell if my twins are boys or girls, I didn't know for sure if they're identical or fraternal (they're di/di). "What do you mean they don't know!? I thought they could tell!". And the look on her face, even after I explained that they're most likely fraternal but could be identical if the egg split before implantation. "Well, when can they tell you then?". Um, unless they're boy/girl twins...

    What!? So, so you just don't know?
    Report Reply
  • Labyrinth3000Labyrinth3000 member
    This morning at work a lady said, "Uh, Oh. Pregnant lady blocking the hallway.  HaHa!  Just kidding."  I'm starting to have mobility issues as I near my third trimester and walking starts to hurt my hips really bad.  I walk slow, need frequent breathing breaks, and my belly takes up a lot of room.  That lady might have just been kidding but it's still not nice to make fun of a slow pregnant woman.  It's hard carrying two babies around! 
    Report Reply
  • JoDocJoDoc member
    We had a real Doozie this past Saturday.  I've been "stuck" at home since the end of January (had hernia surgery so, while I can carry my babies, I can't carry then IN a car seat so unless my hubby takes us, we are stuck at home during the day.  I do get out to shop alone in the evenings if needed though...).  My husband, 15 yr old son, myself and our 3 month old sons all went to the mall here.  Just to walk around (and stop at Target to get some store brand Diaper Genie liners) and get out.  It got to be feeding time so we all found an out-of-the way bench/booth so sit at and feed them.  As we're sitting there and old guy (at least 70) is walking by and said "Twins?"  My husband said "Yep." (really, what the hell else would they be?  "Nope, Triplets, we just had the first one 15 years ago...") Anyway, he looks at us for a bit then said "My son got married and they were trying and trying and couldn't get pregnant.  I finally said to him 'You aren't plowing deep enough!'  Sure enough a year later they were pregnant with Twins"  Luckily I wasn't looking directly at the man, because my mouth dropped.  I mean, really dude?  Saying that in front of my 15 year old son??  WTH????  My husband just did his "fake laugh" and the guy talked a bit more, telling us what they had and how they're 10 now or something like that.  Honestly, I stopped listening after I heard him say "You aren't plowing deep enough"  
    *Shudder*  Like that's something you'd want to hear from your father.  His poor son!

     

    Report Reply
  • SpinelliSmithSpinelliSmith member

    I'm so glad I discovered this thread.  People are so stupid with what they say. 

    A-Hole: So when does your bedrest start?

    Me: Well, I'm very lucky that my pregnancy has been extremely healthy so far, so we don't expect any bedrest. 

    AHole:  Oh... nah.  You'll go on bedrest- you'll see.

     

    Um, are you trying to wish me ill or something?

    Report Reply
  • SpinelliSmithSpinelliSmith member

    One baby is about a tenth of an ounce bigger than the other and my father in law insists on asking which one is "the fat one?"  I told him that I won't tell him until he phrases the question appropriately.  Took him ten tries.  I think around the fifth try he genuinely wanted to know and not piss me off but he really struggled to find the right way. 

    Report Reply
  • JoDocJoDoc member
    Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:
    AshB62 said:
    JoDoc said:
    We had a real Doozie this past Saturday.  I've been "stuck" at home since the end of January (had hernia surgery so, while I can carry my babies, I can't carry then IN a car seat so unless my hubby takes us, we are stuck at home during the day.  I do get out to shop alone in the evenings if needed though...).  My husband, 15 yr old son, myself and our 3 month old sons all went to the mall here.  Just to walk around (and stop at Target to get some store brand Diaper Genie liners) and get out.  It got to be feeding time so we all found an out-of-the way bench/booth so sit at and feed them.  As we're sitting there and old guy (at least 70) is walking by and said "Twins?"  My husband said "Yep." (really, what the hell else would they be?  "Nope, Triplets, we just had the first one 15 years ago...") Anyway, he looks at us for a bit then said "My son got married and they were trying and trying and couldn't get pregnant.  I finally said to him 'You aren't plowing deep enough!'  Sure enough a year later they were pregnant with Twins"  Luckily I wasn't looking directly at the man, because my mouth dropped.  I mean, really dude?  Saying that in front of my 15 year old son??  WTH????  My husband just did his "fake laugh" and the guy talked a bit more, telling us what they had and how they're 10 now or something like that.  Honestly, I stopped listening after I heard him say "You aren't plowing deep enough"  
    *Shudder*  Like that's something you'd want to hear from your father.  His poor son!
    That is seriously one of the most ignorant and offensive comments I've seen about people with IF issues. What a douchenozzle! 
    I cant imagine one of my parents downplaying my infertility like that. Kind of makes you wonder if his son and DIL went through fertility treatments, but didn't tell him because he's an asshole.
    That's my thought too.
    I know this sounds wrong in some ways, but I can only hope that they went through treatment and didn't tell the father.  Not that I hope they had trouble, but that if they sought help they kept it to themselves.  

    My husband and I had troubles and went through IVF.  Long, long story short we had to use donor sperm AND egg.  We refuse to tell my hubby's family that we had any help at all.  They're judgmental.  Only a few close friends and understanding family on my side know the whole story, and they've been incredibly encouraging and supportive.  My in-laws would be like this douchebag mentioned above, making snide comments.  

     

    Report Reply
  • randi.wolfrandi.wolf member
    edited February 2014
    People keep saying "I'm not sure how you can get much bigger.  HAHA"
    I'm only 30 weeks so obviously I have a bit more growing to do... thanks for the encouragement!
    Report Reply
  • TheDairyQueenx3TheDairyQueenx3 member
    I haven't read threw all these so sorry if this is a repeat but I just had too!

    We were out to lunch after church last weekend as we were leaving a lady stopped me. She asked "are they twins?" I said yes and she goes "so they are both yours then I am assuming?" UM WHAT!?!? Yes lady they are both mine. I couldn't even respond I just turned and walked away with a very annoyed and confused look on my face. Not to mention she asked if she could hold them both.


    Together 6 wonderful years.
    TTC #1 18 months 1 loss DX unexplained IF-- BFP July 2009-- ITS A BOY
    TTC #2 3 years and 3 losses DX PCOS -- BFP April 2013-- TWIN BOYS!
    ~DS1-Feb 2010~ 
    ~DS2&3- Nov 2013  {7 weeks early}~ TTC #4~
    Report Reply
  • mommaoftripsmommaoftrips member
    I have triplets - they are all about the same size. We went to a different playgroup yesterday. I ran in an asked if they still had spaces for three more, they said yes. When we came in the same worker asked if this was our first time there, walked me through the sign-in process etc. Than we exclaimed, so you have twins and a 3 year old?
    Please tell me, how can an 18 month old that are all the same size compare to the size of a 3 year old?
    Report Reply
  • ntdanentdane member
    My twins are only 2 1/2 weeks old and of course you get comments everywhere you go. Today I had a good one.

    Random guy: Twins?

    Me: Yes, Owen and Keira (his LO wanted to know names).

    RG: A boy and a girl? Is that real?

    Me: Umm...yes....

    RG: Did you have help with that?

    I said no, but of course wish I had asked if "help" from DH counted :). This one threw me a little. Has he never heard of boy/girl twins before?
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • SockMonkeySamSockMonkeySam member

    When Pregnant with my (now rainbow) Twins, I had a 23 week loss in 2010 with twins and my 3 month old son loss in 2012.. my aunt told me if these two dont' work out I can always adopt.

    Gee thanks.


    image

    Lilypie Premature Baby tickers

     


    Report Reply
  • LittleLady77LittleLady77 member
    It's my last week of work. At my team meeting my boss asked me to give the rest of the team an update. I was about to basically say goodbye to everyone when one of my male coworkers blurted out "ya, give us an update, how far dilated are you?". Awkward!!!

    imageimageimage
    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • 24karat24karat member
    Yesterday at the grocery store with my boys:

    Her: "I have only two grandchildren, twin boys who are 17. How old are yours?"
    Me: "Seven months old."
    Her: "A boy and a girl?"
    Me: "No, two boys. They're identical twins."

    ::she takes a closer look at the twins in their stroller::

    Her: "This one is almost too pretty to be a boy."
    J13 May Siggy Challenge: People lacking in common sense raise my blood pressure.
    image

    imageimage
    DD 8/11 | DS1 7/13 | DS2 7/13
    Report Reply
  • BabyCarryingVesselBabyCarryingVessel member
    Have any of you ever experienced a really "handsy" stranger who waaaay oversteps boundaries? How do you tell them to back off?? We were at our favorite smorgasboard restaurant last week and the woman at the neighboring table was especially chatty. All the usual questions with these additions: Is your husband helpful? Are their personalities different? Do they eat good? Which one is the dominant one? And many, many more. Julie had a piece of cornbread go down the wrong pipe so she started coughing and I took her outside. Once the coughing stopped we returned to the table to find a bowl of lima beans. DH said the woman brought them. She told me lima beans are great for clearing mucus. Wait, this isn't the strange part... Julie also had a runny nose. Out of the blue this woman comes over and WIPES MY DAUGHTER'S NOSE. Boundaries, people!

     

    Report Reply
  • Labyrinth3000Labyrinth3000 member
    29 weeks pregnant at an arts fair:
    Old man walks up to us with the usual questions (what are you having...etc) and says, "I'm about to be mean."
    I look at my husband begging him to make the old man disappear.  Old people are usually the worst about pregnant comments.
    Old man, "If there are two in there then two men poked you where they didn't belong.  (looks at my husband) Who's the other guy I wonder?"  Old man walks away.  Pregnant bellies bring out the crazies!!
    Report Reply
  • SV917SV917 member
    Labyrinth3000 said:
    29 weeks pregnant at an arts fair:
    Old man walks up to us with the usual questions (what are you having...etc) and says, "I'm about to be mean."
    I look at my husband begging him to make the old man disappear.  Old people are usually the worst about pregnant comments.
    Old man, "If there are two in there then two men poked you where they didn't belong.  (looks at my husband) Who's the other guy I wonder?"  Old man walks away.  Pregnant bellies bring out the crazies!!

    Ew. Ew. Ew.
    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • LittleLady77LittleLady77 member
    Labyrinth3000 said:
    29 weeks pregnant at an arts fair:
    Old man walks up to us with the usual questions (what are you having...etc) and says, "I'm about to be mean."
    I look at my husband begging him to make the old man disappear.  Old people are usually the worst about pregnant comments.
    Old man, "If there are two in there then two men poked you where they didn't belong.  (looks at my husband) Who's the other guy I wonder?"  Old man walks away.  Pregnant bellies bring out the crazies!!

    Wow @-)

    imageimageimage
    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • jennybean80jennybean80 member
    DH, DS1, the twins and I were out at a 'mom, pop and tot' fair yesterday. The twins are boy/girl and are just over 5 weeks (but were 33 weekers, so still around 6lbs each). We had all of the normal questions but then I had this slightly frazzled woman come over to me. She asked how old the babies and DS are, if it was hectic. Then told me she's got 5 year old twin boys, and is 3 months pregnant with triplets - two girls and a boy. I congratulated her, and she just stared at me with this expectant look. Not sure if I was supposed to commiserate on how hard that was, hug her or ask her if she wanted to be BFFs!? She stayed a few seconds then mumbled 'thanks' and wandered away.

    I think she was just still in shock, but it was very random and awkward!
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • katekat8721katekat8721 member
    What do you ladies say to people who are constantly commenting on your look/weight? I'm 24 weeks along now and have a decent sized bump when I'm standing. When I'm sitting it looks much smaller. Never worried about it.

    But my coworkers, random acquaintances and even the Mary Kay lady I ran into yesterday all seem to say the same thing "six months with twins?? But you're not even that big! You look great!"

    So if I was bigger I'd look like crap? WTH people.

    Report Reply
  • JennyS86JennyS86 member
    katekat8721 said:
    What do you ladies say to people who are constantly commenting on your look/weight? I'm 24 weeks along now and have a decent sized bump when I'm standing. When I'm sitting it looks much smaller. Never worried about it.

    But my coworkers, random acquaintances and even the Mary Kay lady I ran into yesterday all seem to say the same thing "six months with twins?? But you're not even that big! You look great!"

    So if I was bigger I'd look like crap? WTH people.
    Exactly!!  I've been dealing with this too for a while now...I'm either Too Big or Too Small.  But DH finally got to witness it too last week :)  On the same day, the man at the smoothie bar thought I was "in the mid-30 weeks" and the lady measuring DH for a tux for a friend's wedding said " I didn't even know you were pregnant until you stood up!"  haha.  Finally DH believes me that the pregnancy causes people to lose their filters!
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    Mama to Three Girls: 
    Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
    and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!






    Report Reply
  • raynadawnraynadawn member
    My most favorite repeated commentary/ questions... Are they twins? (No. I invested in this ridiculous double stroller so my son could bring a friend.) Oh! Identical! (This one I do give a nope to. And I always get that are you effing with me look back) Woah, you must have your hands full! (...) I always wanted/ I want twins My kids are only xxx months/years apart is I know what it's like. (A single baby is not equal to multiples.) I get all of these pretty much every single time we go out.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers

    Report Reply
  • raynadawnraynadawn member
    :) just reading more of these. So great. The comments made about "looking great... For twins." while pregnant brought back memories, lol - jerks. Also made me think about how often my husband and I get the "you're such amazing parents/ mom / dad." In that tone of complete awe. I know it's meant as a compliment, but my husband and I feel we just do as right as we can by our kids and family. We make mistakes but hopefully we get most of it right. I think it says very little about what people think of my generation as parents, more than it compliments us. I'm not saying raising kids is easy and multiples add a layer of complexity to the family dynamic, but it's not some impossible feat either!
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers

    Report Reply
  • AngelahelenaAngelahelena member
    Lol. Too funny switching name tags
    Report Reply
  • Labyrinth3000Labyrinth3000 member
    I'm having trouble with pushy questions/opinions about what names my husband and I have chosen for our twin girls.  We have been in no hurry to decide and thought we'd wait until they were born to settle on our top name list.  People do not accept this explanation and we don't like giving away our ideas because others have ruined names early in my pregnancy.  

    For example:
    "Oh, well I guess they're your babies!  Why do you like such old sounding names? Have you thought of any names today?  I like Elise, Mildred, Zoey, Kylie, and Dani.  Which of those do you like?  I've decided I don't like the name Blair.  It's too masculine.  Alexandria is too long!  I like Matilda much better.  How are little Maddy and Tilly today?  Don't those names sound great together?  Your names just don't sound good together.  Haha, you like Hannah?!?  Oh, no we'll call her Hannah Montana!"

    The worst comment so far after giving up some name ideas has been,  "Oh, you wouldn't do that to them would you?"  As if the names I choose for them will hurt them in some way!  People are giving me a headache!
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"