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  • PinkPuffyHeart2PinkPuffyHeart2 member
    edited January 2014
    subliminalrabbit said:



    Now. Wtf is going on with your H? If you went back to work could he work less? Is he currently working more than 40 hours per week? What would you do for child care?

    I'm sorry. ((hugs))

    He would not work less if I went back to work. He may work over 40 hrs but not by much. He manages a vitamin store. We would have to put k in daycare or hire a sitter, whichever was more cost effective. We have no family that can watch her. Saying things would be more "even" was his backhanded way of saying I don't work. Ever since I became a SAHM he has developed an attitude of superiority toward me... It's reaaaaally getting old. We both decided I would be a SAHM because that is what we both wanted, and now he is telling me he is super stressed and that would be resolved if we had a double income.

    ETA: sorry, he said he is stressed, tired, and depressed. All of which would be resolved if I went back to work. He also said he's had chest pain from the stress but refuses to make a drs appt... That really ticks me off and I yelled at him this morning because hello... You had a heart transplant, chest pain could be something serious, you have a wife and child to think about, go to the dr NOW. He said he wants to wait until his annual in March. I could kill him.

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    ChicagoChic82 said:

    PinkPuffyHeart2 said:

    subliminalrabbit said:



    Now. Wtf is going on with your H? If you went back to work could he work less? Is he currently working more than 40 hours per week? What would you do for child care?

    I'm sorry. ((hugs))

    He would not work less if I went back to work. He may work over 40 hrs but not by much. He manages a vitamin store. We would have to put k in daycare or hire a sitter, whichever was more cost effective. We have no family that can watch her. Saying things would be more "even" was his backhanded way of saying I don't work. Ever since I became a SAHM he has developed an attitude of superiority toward me... It's reaaaaally getting old. We both decided I would be a SAHM because that is what we both wanted, and now he is telling me he is super stressed and that would be resolved if we had a double income.

    ETA: sorry, he said he is stressed, tired, and depressed. All of which would be resolved if I went back to work. He also said he's had chest pain from the stress but refuses to make a drs appt... That really ticks me off and I yelled at him this morning because hello... You had a heart transplant, chest pain could be something serious, you have a wife and child to think about, go to the dr NOW. He said he wants to wait until his annual in March. I could kill him.
    Uhg... Douchecanoe. He needs to put on his big boy pants!!!!!!! Since you both agreed staying home with the little darling was the best idea, he just has to deal. But if you feel like being more sensitive to his whines, maybe you could strike some kind of deal. Such as: "right now I am still BFing and would like to continue doing so exclusively until sweetie is 1 year old. When she turns one I will begin looking for a job..."
    Thanks @chicagochic82 I have told him I want to wait until she is at least a year old. He flip flops back and forth. In one breath he says he wants me to stay home and in the next he says he wants me back at work. I don't want him to stress because of his heart condition but at the same time I feel like slapping him. I had a talk with him this morning and told him he either needs to seek help via counseling for his stress and depression (and I'm more than happy to help set up appts for him or whatever) or he just needs to get over it and deal. Cause we are all tired. We all have things we don't want to do. But we have to be adults and do them. (This is in reference to another argument we had bc he hasn't shoveled our driveway and its under about 2 feet of snow. I can't shovel it bc of my bad wrists and he knows that... But won't do it because he doesn't want to deal with it because he is so stressed out)

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  • PinkPuffyHeart2PinkPuffyHeart2 member
    No longer the best said:

    @PinkPuffyHeart2 I know its different for us because I"m in Canada so I'm still on mat leave and while the pay isn't great at least it is money coming in  But I tend to throw it back in his face.


    I tell him that when I go back to work he is going to be shocked how much more work he has to do around here!  I will be working during the day so ALL household duties will have to be split, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the animals, all kid/pet appointments, watching the baby, getting up in the MOTN with the baby, grocery shopping, all other errands.  It will be WAY more work for him when I go back.  I might point that out if I were you!

    Otherwise I'm thinking of you!! 
    Lol I had this conversation with him last night, almost verbatim. He said he was fine with that... When in reality, Pre-baby, when I worked more hours than him, I still did all the housework minus dishes. I still did all the pet care and appts. I also took care of all the bills.

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    libberluru said:

    @pinkpuffyheart2 Do you want to go back to work? What did you do before? It would suck that you change everything in hopes of him changing, and he is still the same guy. Maybe you could take in a kid or two and be a small in home day care? I know you love on your baby so much, it would be a tough transition at this point to leave her 40 hrs a week.

    Thanks for understanding! I do not want to go back to work, mainly because I think LO would have a hard time with it... But who am I kidding, I would have an extremely hard time with it. I want to be with her 24-7. All of my life I wanted one thing: to be a mom. This is my dream come true. This is my goal in life. I'm not career focused at all. I am family focused. (Not saying you can't be both, just saying I am not both)... My job was at an animal hospital. It was very high stress and demanding. Not sure if I would go back to that or try to find something else. I am very open to watching other kids but my h is nervous about that because of germs. He has a suppressed immune system due to the meds he is on for his heart transplant and if he gets sick it can be serious. I think it would be fine as long as ppl keep their sick kids home. He probably comes in contact with more sick ppl at his job than we would watching kids. (he works at a mall) But I can't watch other kids until k let's me put her down for naps anyway. :( haha

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  • PinkPuffyHeart2PinkPuffyHeart2 member
    Yes @subliminalrabbit that's a great point. Financially, we probably would not be tons better off with me at work... I would prefer our own sitter/nanny and they make more $ than I ever did.

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    Although, a former coworker gets in home daycare for $25 a day. If I could do the same, then financially we would benefit by me going back to work.

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    Just watched a car blow up its motor in front of my house. We are the second house from the corner and a little Focus was trying to turn. You hear him revving trying to go with no luck, and then the car dies and smoke comes billowing out from under the hood. He's now blocking the intersection causing another car to get stuck.
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    @zigspective she asked us first and we told her not to bother but she brought it anyway. She loves creating more work for us just so we do things her way.

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  • tiffletons518tiffletons518 member
    edited January 2014
    WorkinIt said:

    Poor DH is about to make his 4th trip outside to shovel with no sight of letting up.... Although it was him that said he didn't want to get a snow blower because he likes the exercise from shoveling.

    Haha bet his kicking himself for that right about now. When my H was on his second time outside with the snowblower, we got about an inch just while he was out there. I heard some of us will get close to 16 inches. Gross.

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    The Bachelor is on, ahhh I love it too much really. Juan Pablo's daughter was not strapped in her carseat correctly though.

     

     

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    Thoughts after catching up:

    I wish I had known how important it was to marry someone who was domestic. My DH doesn't cook or clean unless it's a special occasion.

    I will be watching 90 day fiancé or whatever it's called. I like shows about relationships and crap tv.

    I think cold temps in ATL feel warmer than cold in NY. It was 20 degrees yesterday morning and I was fine without a real coat on. I love living in the south and will not complain about the cold.
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    tttwalters said:

    The Bachelor is on, ahhh I love it too much really. Juan Pablo's daughter was not strapped in her carseat correctly though.

    Yes! I was wondering if anyone else caught that.

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    subliminalrabbit said:

    Well, since E keeps popping awake I'll be a bit of an AW while I test my bladder control with a dozing baby on me:

    We hit some awesome milestones this weekend!

    1. Finally ate and enjoyed solids (banana).

    2. Napped in his crib for the first time.

    3. Allowed me to wear him in the Ergo and even fell asleep! (He's rejected baby wearing since he was just a few weeks old.)

    All these things make me so happy!

    Yay!! Go E!!!

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  • CindyRelluhCindyRelluh member
    edited January 2014
    Eta ugh fuck my phone.
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    There are no spoilers @cl8badb don't worry! I cautiously looked through it.
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  • HeartLikeMine3HeartLikeMine3 member
    @cl8badb me too can't wait for LO's morning nap so I can catch up on revenge and the bachelor.
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    Was the bachelor only a one hour episode last night?
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    Us to rabbit, I go feed him, 15 minute later he cries, 2 hrs later more cries, then at 3 hrs since last feeding I feed him again.

    We were making so much good progress...
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    &subliminalrabbit said:

    @wasnotwas, that sounds exactly like what's happening here...

    That makes me feel a little better, I was attributing it to taking the pillow out from under his mattress...always blame the kid, I should know this by now
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    I am hiding in bed while H entertains both kids before we all get ready for the day. One of these days I'm gonna go to the gym or something after his 5 am wake up/feeding. BAHAHAHA
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