Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Which spelling is cuter?!
Harper is one of my girl names too
Harper Jane, and ps this thread got real crazy real fast
Harper Jane, and ps this thread got real crazy real fast
It did get crazy real fast didnt think that would happen but thats what happens when you ask for honest opinions huh?! Whoo i have a headache from all of this. Im not a confrontational person but omg today was horrible on here.
So how many people get Aisjah wrong?
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Today was horrible because YOU called people crazy racists bitches.
So how many people get Aisjah wrong?
So far none... And she is 9 and has never had a problem.
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And my SIL's name is Elycia and pronounced like Alicia. I think no matter what, people will not pronounce it the way OP wants.
Her dad chose her name he named her aisjah because shes mixed with asian lol. Thats what he said because he is filipino and white and always loved that name.
I don't believe it either.
How so?
Because phonetically Aisjah does not equal Aisa
I know a few asia's that spell it diff like my friend aysha and a mutual friend spelled asja so its just how you choose to spell it but ya thats how her father spelled it.
Name your kid whatever idiotic thing you want, but don't think it won't have an impact on his/her life.
Fitting into the mainstream of the culture the kid grows up in/going to live in is has an impact on their future well being. Names totally outside the mainstream will make teachers think they are less intelligent, employers think they are less employable, etc... Can this be overcome? Yes. But why on earth would you want to set up your kid with something they have to overcome right from the start?
BTW-- I'd have the same advice if you said you were Saudi or Japanese (and raising the kid there) and said you were going to name your kid Susan or Aidan.
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Once knew a kid named Zebulon...
My friend is an elementary school teacher and had a kid named "Shhhhh....Acadia Dawn." Now, Acadia Dawn might be a bit hippish for my taste, but otherwise an ok name... However the parents INSISTED that the teacher say "Shhhhh...." (which was part of the name), have a moment of silence, and THEN say "Acadia Dawn." Nutters.
I think the kid ended up going by Cadi (Katie) once she finally got a say in it.
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I also believe andrewsgal is just very truthful and very blunt about how he feels. And some people take it as her being mean but she just goves it to you straight and you gotta respect that. Even if you dont like what she has to say.
October 30, 2011
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For me?
Aysha = Eye-sha
Asja = Az-jah or Ass-jah
Aisjah = Ace-jah
You know how I'd spell it if I wanted my child called "Asia?"
ASIA.
Christ on a cracker, what happened to phonics.
October 30, 2011
For me?
Aysha = Eye-sha
Asja = Az-jah or Ass-jah
Aisjah = Ace-jah
You know how I'd spell it if I wanted my child called "Asia?"
ASIA.
Christ on a cracker, what happened to phonics.
I love you!
And @KyllaRae my mom LOVES Anne McCaffrey. I could have been you. Had she not loved the book Christy more. *whew*
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
I also hire for entry level positions. Name like those get put on the bottom of the pile as a previous poster said.