Weekly Randoms 11/26

emeraldcity603

We need to start a poll. Then all the comments can be chit chat about the sex. Maybe that would keep it out of the announcement thread. 

tuxielove93

I was thinking the same thing! Holy freaking girls! 
I have a feeling I’ll balance it out but I won’t find out for months. 

jhems776

Damn, I didn't need to shave for my NT, lol. I'm actually really happy to be back in the office after so much travel and then a sick kid. Ready for normalcy. 

ellem29

@emeraldcity603 - I *might* be breaking the trend. (I know, I know, everyone *might* be until confirmed, obviously). I haven't posted in the gender thread, b/c it's far from ironclad, but the ultrasound tech at my NT scan got a goooood look between the legs, and yeah, she's "pretty darn sure" it's a boy, in her words, even though it's officially too early to call it. Because of the baby's position & refusal to move into a place where she could measure the back of the neck, she ended-up having to do a transvaginal ultrasound during the NT and was able to get a "revealing angle," so to speak. Like I said, it's certainly not confirmed at this point though! To be honestly, I'm kind of crossing my fingers that she's wrong because I'm nervous about/have no experience taking care of boys, but will be happy either way!

Edited for clarity.

emeraldcity603

Boys have a special relationship with their moms so don't be too scared. 

You might get peed on though. 😂

tuxielove93

@ellem29 Teehee my son was the same way. At our NT scan we got a shot between the legs and my husband blurted out, “Is that a penis?”. The tech went back when she was done to get a better look, and she wouldn’t totally confirm it, but it was just too large to be a swollen clitoris. Congrats! Also, I have never once been peed on. 

sparklingdiamond

I had no experience with boys either when I had my son but I love having a boy.  They really do have a special relationship with their moms.

dntstpbelieveing

@tuxielove93 wow I can't believe you have never been peed on. When DS was a baby it was like every diaper change when air hit that bad boy he peed. 

ellem29

Thanks, all! That makes me feel a little better. I'm trying to mentally prepare myself now for pee stream accidents! 

dntstpbelieveing

@ellem29 my biggest piece of advice when someone tells me that are having a boy is making sure to point his penis down when you change his diaper. Otherwise he will pee straight up his belly. 

chrssyms

Yeah my mom told me she didn't have any problems getting pooped or peed on by my brother. But almost everyone else I know who has had a boy said their boy definitely peed on them at least a couple times. Ha

When I told my husband that we were going to be having a girl I told him that now we don't need to worry about circumcision decisions or penises in general. And all he said was, "No, now we need to worry about penises in a different way." He sounded so ominous!

ki1244

^^^ THIS. Discovered that with my nephew. Whoops. Also my niece was the sharpshooter, between her and her brother, and my sister has been peed on more by her daughter than her son. No idea how that's possible, but apparently it is.

luckystar28

Oh, I’ve been peed on 😂 And yes to facing the penis down in the diaper! It’s a must.

Also, I didn’t know it was so few boys so far! I’m sure it’ll even out as we get to anatomy scans. I was so sure I was on the girl train this time around...zero mother’s intuition 😅

luckystar28

Also, hooray for results @chrssyms! Geez! But so glad things are looking good

catmommac

I had a poll for my last BMB and I thought it worked well. Also sorry for the triple post in the gender thread. And I couldn’t delete the extras so I apologized and that double posted. Oops. 

ellem29

@chrssyms Glad you finally got your results! I'd be so mad if I found out my doctor had them that long without notifying me.

Dcwtada

I have been peed on by both my sons and daughter although DS1 wins the gold. He was getting a bath in the infant bath in the kitchen sink, I kid you not, he peed and it shot out the open window. I was horrified and impressed. I put a washcloth on his little firehose after that during bath time. 

Thank goodness our next door neighbors weren’t outside. 

jhems776

Oh yes the boys will pee on you, for about the first 3 months I swear he peed 90% of diaper changes. I had disposable pads and would put a wipe on the penis as soon as I opened it. I cannot remember when but they eventually stop, well once last week he did, really took me of guard, and I couldn't remember the last time before that it had happened. 

antera23

I was also just thinking how many girls we have in this BMB so far!! I didn’t do the early genetics screenings but now that everyone else is finding out what they’re having I wish I was too. 

ShadeofGreen816

Wild how many girls there are! So excited for you guys!! I'm wishing I'd find out sooner than the AS, but that's just life! 

I totally spent waaay too much time that I don't have today reading that BOTB thread, and then the loss thread afterward... wow. Honestly, my inclination is that she's for real. I only say that because her whole mindset and general demeanor remind me SOOO much of my cousin who has so many issues - shes a hypochondriac with 100 self-diagnosed problems, a legit diagnosed narcissist, and I think has at least 1 or more other mental health issues. She is truly very intelligent, but always thinks she knows more than she does. She once argued with my mother, an enrolled agent with the IRS to prepare taxes, about tax law. My mom was like, "do you seriously think, little 17 year old, that you know more about taxes than I do? HAH!"

I think shes Crazy with a capital C, but her thinking isn't so totally irrational or even out there that I think she's a troll, unfortunately. Lets just hope she doesn't get KU anytime soon... maybe the phantom pregnancy will keep her from getting pregnant? Is that how that works? 

DH and I leave super early tomorrow for a weekend in NYC to eat delicious food and look at Christmas lights! I'm so excited, and so under-prepared. I have to pack, and I'd like to get our house in order, but that may be out of the question at this point. I sent DD to MIL's this morning and it was so hard. This will be the longest I've ever not seen her (until Monday). I know once we get out there, it wont be so hard, but I miss her right now

kjr9519

I also spent way too much time today reading the BOTB thread. My biggest thing I don’t get is how she has so much time to respond to basically every single comment with such long replies for days on end. She has some serious commitment to defending her opinion to strangers online.

KissMeImScottish

I had noticed the girl trend, too! My NIPT isn’t until Monday and I’ll admit to being hopeful for a girl (will be thrilled for a boy, of course, but I would love my daughter to have a sister), so is it totally weird that I’m sitting over here somehow feeling like so many girls means I probably have a boy just by statistics?? Haha. Logically, I know that what everyone is having has NO bearing at all on what mine is, but I feel like a student taking a test - “haven’t had “c” in a while, better choose “c”!” 😂😂

eleven_

@KissMeImScottish That's exactly how I feel!!! Like everyone is taking all the girls. Can you guys leave one for me too? 

KissMeImScottish

Also, definitely point that thing down when diapering! Haha. I actually remember when my daughter was born, being surprised that she didn’t feel wet, and then I realized it was because she pees into the bottom of the diaper, not the front, like my boys. Totally had to relearn how to check her diaper, haha.

I will say, I have never been peed on between my two boys, but my husband definitely has. I’m either much faster than he is, or much luckier. I have, however, had a baby puke in my mouth. So I think that evens things up a bit.

ShadeofGreen816

@KissMeImScottish I feel the same way... except I'm not sure which sex I"m hoping for! But it makes me feel (inaccurately) that I'm more likely to be having a boy! 

tuxielove93

@KissMeImScottish lol I’m weird too then. I feel like it’s a boy, but I totally thought “statistically it should be 50/50 so it must be a boy, right?” I have zero feelings of care about what it is. I’m a bit surprised actually at my lack of opinion on the subject. Poor DH really wants a girl though. (Not like, will be upset if it’s a boy, just really wants a daughter) 

vv826

I've been peed and poop on by both DDs, both as I was getting ready to give them a bath. DD2 also managed to fall asleep and poop in the bath once. 

DH really wants a boy because he says we outnumber him so I'm sure he Hope's you guys are right. honestly he loves those girls more than anything and they're definitely mostly on his side lol. I however think it's a girl because  that's just how we role in my family between my siblings and I there's 6 girls and no biological boys, so I'd say odds are it's a girl.

meatballs37

Raises hand to say, please leave some girls for me too. Mostly because we can’t agree on a boy name. Lol. 

I had to respond to the troll. Ugh. Her ideas on low birth weight and chromosomal abnormalities are laughable. If she was a normal person and was serious about it. I might be offended. 

ShadeofGreen816

Oh yes, for the record, my DD peed on me at least once a week the first 3 months of her life. I always changed her in our bed in the MOTN (she slept in a bassinet next to me) and I learned quickly to use the disposable puppy-pad type deals to protect my sheets. As soon as that cool air hit her, wham! Pee!

runyogamom

I got pooped on more than peed on from DS. Although my advice to anyone who tells me their having a boy si tuck the penis down. It took me so many loads of laundry to remember that.

I'm torn on wanting a boy or girl, so will obviously be happy with either. DH and I both have the same reasons for being torn. When I picture DS older I always picture him with a little brother, close in age, doing everything with him. So we'd be happy if it was a boy. But, I was way more sick this pregnancy, like way more, and my skin is terrible right now, so since this pregnancy is so different (in a bad way from DS) I'd be relieved if it was a girl. Relieved because I could say it was worse since I'm having a girl and not just worse since it's my second pregnancy. Related because with each pregnancy my mom got sicker and morning sickness lasted longer regardless of gender. I'm afraid that's my fate too and would be happy with anything that doesn't support that theory. 

emeraldcity603

I have been peed and pooped on by my girls and boys. I have also been vomited on repeatedly for weeks on end thanks to my youngest boy having Pyloric Stenosis as a baby. There was so much vomit. I would run out of clothes for both of us. 

chachacharrrmin

I had a similar experience as @ellem29 during our last US we got a crotch shot and the doctor was "pretty sure" she saw (in her words) a "ding-a-ling". Obviously, she would not confirm, but it makes me think I am most likely having a boy. We haven't decided on the NIPT or not, so I'm not sure when I will find out. Maybe we will start slowly evening out the sex statistics on this board

chachacharrrmin

HOLY S!$%& I just caught up on the BOTB post. All I have to say is @meatballs37 you are an amazing person for the way you reacted to her insanely insensitive and irrational comment. I literally started shaking as I read her post. Wow. Just wow.

meatballs37

@wearyfuzzball

***TW*** 

I’ve dealt with a lot of insensitive people, unfortunately and I feel like I have become a pro at it. I would be offended if she was a close relative or friend, but an internet stranger. Smh. I don’t take her seriously. I just felt like I had to stick up for the other NICU loss mom. 

If you would rather have a dead child over one with Down’s syndrome and voice that as a serious thought. You shouldn’t reproduce. Period. 

chachacharrrmin

You are seriously amazing @meatballs37

sparklingdiamond

I actually never got peed on by DS because I just quickly used a wipe to cover him.  I would get it on me if his diaper leaked, but that's about it.  You gotta be quick with the wipes though!

ki1244

I'm right there with the gals wanting a girl left for us...obviously (especially after today) I'm happy with a baby that has a heartbeat, but WAAAAAAAY down the wish list is a girl, if I'm being honest. I know I'd figure out what to do with a boy (and I adore my nephew just as much as my niece), but it was just my sister and me growing up, my cousins are all girls (except one, but we just gave him the option of playing dress-up with us or going away and hanging out with the parents, so he adapted quickly), and THEIR kids are almost all girls (and the one boy who does actually come to family stuff is autistic so his parents are very, very involved with him and playtime is very different with him anyway). I just know girl stuff so much better than boy stuff, and when I think about Baby, I not-all-that-secretly think of her as a girl...although if symptoms (or lack of them) are anything to go by, I've got the boy-est boy ever growing in here.

tuxielove93

*TW*

That BOTB thread was an amusing train wreck right up until she said 
she would rather a dead baby. My heart just broke for all the loss moms, especially @meatballs37 and then seeing @SpongeWorthy was there too. She was in my first BMB. That woman was the most loving caring devoted mother and she did not deserve what happened to her poor baby. She especially didn’t deserve to even have to read the insensitivity of that troll of a “person”.  I am unfortunately not in contact with her anymore, because she left our group after she lost her baby, but maybe she’ll see this since they thankfully closed that thread. I’m sure I speak for all of us from July ‘17 when I say that I’m so sorry she had to read that and I still think about her and her precious boy all the time. 

SpongeWorthy

@tuxielove93 Thank you.  What a dumpster fire that was.  Congrats on your new little bean  The quilt you made holds a very special place in my heart 

KissMeImScottish

Oh, this breaks my heart. I zoned out after this morning and part of me is glad I did. @meatballs37 and @SpongeWorthy, you ladies especially should not have to deal with that kind of vitriol. I don’t have words for that kind of insensitivity, but I think @tuxielove93 summed it up well. Both of you (and your three boys) are very, very loved.