I’m feeling soooo discouraged. I’m still only 1 cm and 80% (I was told 1.5 last time and 1 this time by different midwives which is sooo aggravating). I am already feeling like I’ll be induced on Thursday and just feeling defeated, she did another sweep and said she hopes to see me this weekend in labor and delivery but I have a strong feeling I’ll be back Tuesday for my last check up and checking into the hospital Wednesday night for ripening. My mom and H keep telling me to stay positive but for some reason that just makes me feel angry and more upset. I just wanna crawl into a hole and hide until the baby comes out.
@zande2016 hope you progress on your own! I went into labor with 2cm and 80% effaced, so it’s still possible! Hopefully the sweep will work and getting things going.
@zande2016 I've got my fingers crossed for you! I still have some time at only 37 weeks tomorrow no matter how uncomfortable I am. I'm sure I'll be singing a different tune in a couple weeks.
@zande2016 try the @wildtot cleaning spree method? I have a jungle in my front yard I'll selflessly volunteer to the cause...drive alone from NY to CT should kickstart you ;-) They say relaxing does a lot more for kick starting labor than stress - I swear that's why I went so over with my first - pull the kiddie pool back out with a book, mocktail, and good tunes??
@zande2016 FX for you that you can progress quickly on your own. Lots of cleaning, walking, try getting a pedicure and have them go after the pressure points, sexy time and hopefully with the sweep that will help.
Thanks @wildtot@nimmle@gingerbride26 I'm just mad at my body for not dilating more even though it's so ridiculous because I'm not even at my due date yet and my body is just going what it's supposed to. But I was 1cm at 39 weeks with my first, so I stupidly thought surely by 39 weeks with my 2nd I'd be at least 2. @gingerbride26 I have a jungle of weeds too, but I can't stand the heat. I will definitely try going on an inside cleaning spree tomorrow though. I know the hormones we emit when we are stressed does not help with labor, and I know hormones we emit when we are happy and calm can promote labor. So I am thinking this means I finally need to go get that massage I've been wanting. We'll see, I still have one more acupuncture session tomorrow, which if nothing else I do find extremely relaxing. I'll try sex again tonight but honestly I am sooooo sick of sex LOL it's been every single night for a week now and I'm just over it.
Thanks @and846 your post just reminded me of one more thing I was thinking of trying, there is a foot reflexology spa near me. Maybe I will try that tonight or tomorrow.
@gingerbride26 - same doc at every appointment so I can't play them off each other! I will likely have DH come with me though - he came to more appointments with DD and was great about reminding me to ask things. It often takes me a bit of time to process a curveball before I can think of what else I want to ask, which isn't conducive in a doctor's appointment!
I'm spotting some from my exam yesterday and was crampy last night.
@zande2016 thinking of you and sending all the labor dust I know how much you want this. I don't want to sound naive/hippy but try not to be hard on yourself, I truly think mantras can help especially with the stress level. I think effacing is actually great and equally as good as dilation, your cervix is doing its job.
I honestly have no idea what helped me, I didn't even try the evening primrose oil or sex, just the raspberry tea. I must say the day before labor started I literally got the last things done like installing the monitor and DH said "well now we really are ready for him, your mom is here and all the stuff is done". I also kind of overdid it, went to the beach, did a bunch of stairs. I don't want to say that that's what did it but at that point I was just more ok with whatever was going to happen, early or late. Maybe those happy hormones you're talking about it stirred something up??
@kissableviv I hope that’s true! Today is the first day since being on maternity leave (2 weeks) that I’ve finally reached the end of my to-do lists. Just doing a load of my own laundry and relaxing. Trying to resist the urge to mop the floors again.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@kissableviv I do think positive thinking and envisioning the reality you want can help, but I am also a pessimist/realist by nature so it's so hard for me to give in to that. I think I need to just let go of trying to control my body. I actually have had my baby to do list done for a couple weeks now and at the end of every work day I'm like okay, things are under control, I can have the baby now. Maybe I really need to get moving more. Hopefully tonight it'll be cool enough for a long walk.
@zande2016 I know how you're feeling 100%. I was admitted this morning for my induction and I'm waiting on my first dose of misoprostol to do its thing, just twiddling thumbs in the meantime. While I really wish I could have gone on my own (and I admit, I cried a bit this morning for reasons I don't think I can even put my finger on), I have to admit that I feel a lot more calm about what's in store than I probably would have felt if I'd gone spontaneously and we showed up to the hospital in the midst of all that excitement.
Good luck and best wishes for a smooth delivery @perhapsitalian! I know when I’m there being induced I’ll just be focused on the baby and meeting him soon, it’s the lead up to it that’s killing me. All those hormones just don’t help.
@zande2016 I know how disappointing it is to know your body isn't doing it on its own, and @perhapsitalian I also know the cry for not sure what reason cry when being induced! The whole process of being overdue/leading up to an inevitable induction is such a mind eff. Hugs to both of you!
I just got back from my NST. Baby looked good but the monitors picked up ZERO contractions. I had a membrane sweep yesterday, I was almost 1cm, I was on my feet the rest of the day and nothing.
I have moments where I'm frustrated and bummed about the possibility of another induction. Then, I have moments where I don't care. I'm 39 weeks this weekend, I feel totally fine, whatever.
@zande2016 I know, that's why even though I like it as an outlook towards life I also don't like to be all "just think positive" Because realistically that would be basically solving the world's problems if it always worked...
We have mucus plug! Hopefully that means things are moving along. If not, I'm asking to schedule an induction at my appointment this Monday because I am DONE.
I had my 37 week appt this morning and was 1cm and 50% effaced. MFM said my cervix is really soft (which I would think would mean more than 50% but whatever) and seemed impressed by that. And actually I am too. With my last pregnancy I was always closed and thick at this point. He said he thinks in the next week or two I should start dilating more and possibly go into labor on my own. I hope he’s right but I’m trying not to get my hopes up. He’s also pretty sure they will change my induction to pitocin only (or possibly just breaking my water depending on how dilated I am) rather than coming in for cytotec the night before. So we’ll see. I’m only slightly crampy from the cervical check today. I don’t plan on doing much in the way of getting labor going until 38 weeks. I think I might pick up some red raspberry leaf tea and start having more sex though (it’s been a few weeks, poor DH lol).
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
Sorry I hit post prematurely. With my last baby I tried literally everything. Castor oil, evening promise, raspberry leaf, pumping, sex, walking, pineapple, sitting on a ball... I made myself literally sick. For 2 weeks i was 2 cm. Membrane sweep did nothing. Then one day I went into labor (40w5). So with this baby I decided nothing induces labor so I'm doing nothing. It's out of my control so I'm gonna be a lazy ass and just chill. I'll let you know if that works.
I asked for a massage last night to get some oxytocin flowing and DH obliged, but then I started bumping my butt into his crotch and he stopped massaging and moved away because he had to remove himself from a situation he didn't want to be in lol! I am still laughing because he loves when I initiate sex but we joked about how maybe it was the facts that I am 4cm, mucus is falling out my vagina, and my waters could possibly break on him that made sex unappealing. It's gonna be a looooong 6-8 weeks!
@brookp literally same. Although I’ve still been walking, having sex, and eating pineapple. Haha. I tried the “baby mama dance” and that did nothinggg. So I’m just gonna sit on my butt and relax before this guy comes!
Scheduled to be induced tonight at 8pm, woke up with contractions about 5am today. We just started timing them and looks like baby wants to come out on his own today. Just like my H's kid to turn this into a race!
I wasn’t in any rush to have this baby but now I can’t wait after hearing that so many will get to meet their LO soon!
I might start at least drinking the tea but I also tried everything last time to get labor started and nothing happened until I gave up on that stuff. But the waiting....
I’ve been walking, eating pineapple, eating spicy, bobbing on a exercise ball, wall squats, cleaning, relaxing. Last night tried pressing on pressure points and having sex. Had a lot of cramping last night, and possibly even some contractions; but they went away.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I've been walking, ball bouncing, EPO, dates, RRL tea, and some yoga. I'll try nipple stimulation soon, its good to know that it won't start anything that my body isn't already ready for. Sex has been tossed around but not happening. I bought a pineapple its just not ripe so I am waiting.
Been having a lot of BH since this afternoon but they’re pretty mild. Also some cramping. Still no bloody show though. Is it possible to go into labor without having any spotting first? Also I feel like the baby moved higher up?? His butt is sticking out at the very top of my uterus. How is this possible? Engage baby, engage! I’m just so over this. I can feel by baby’s movements that he’s totally out of room in there, and I’m just so uncomfortable. I feel like I’m losing my mind over here.
@zande2016 I was only ever induced but i never had bloody show until I was in transition when my water broke the first time, second time I don't even remember losing my plug, but it certainly didn't happen in the early stages when I was walking around. I don't know if that's different than going into spontaneous labor.
@smashjam I was induced too and have zero idea what happened with my mucus plug and bloody show, never saw any of that. This time I definitely lost my mucus plug Friday night into Saturday morning but it was totally white/clear, not a trace of blood. Every time I pee I check obsessively for blood. Never thought i’d Be hoping to see blood during pregnancy haha
@zande2016 when I lost my MP with DS2 I only saw a very small bit with very little blood. I guess the rest came out when my water broke?? How far along are you?
Re: It's Labor Time!
and more upset. I just wanna crawl into a hole and hide until the baby comes out.
@gingerbride26 - same doc at every appointment so I can't play them off each other! I will likely have DH come with me though - he came to more appointments with DD and was great about reminding me to ask things. It often takes me a bit of time to process a curveball before I can think of what else I want to ask, which isn't conducive in a doctor's appointment!
I'm spotting some from my exam yesterday and was crampy last night.
Good vibes Zande and Acuma!!
@kat029 4cm is when I went to the hospital! Stay positive!
I honestly have no idea what helped me, I didn't even try the evening primrose oil or sex, just the raspberry tea. I must say the day before labor started I literally got the last things done like installing the monitor and DH said "well now we really are ready for him, your mom is here and all the stuff is done". I also kind of overdid it, went to the beach, did a bunch of stairs. I don't want to say that that's what did it but at that point I was just more ok with whatever was going to happen, early or late. Maybe those happy hormones you're talking about it stirred something up??
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@zande2016 I know how you're feeling 100%. I was admitted this morning for my induction and I'm waiting on my first dose of misoprostol to do its thing, just twiddling thumbs in the meantime. While I really wish I could have gone on my own (and I admit, I cried a bit this morning for reasons I don't think I can even put my finger on), I have to admit that I feel a lot more calm about what's in store than I probably would have felt if I'd gone spontaneously and we showed up to the hospital in the midst of all that excitement.
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
I’ve been walking, eating pineapple, eating spicy, bobbing on a exercise ball, wall squats, cleaning, relaxing. Last night tried pressing on pressure points and having sex. Had a lot of cramping last night, and possibly even some contractions; but they went away.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I've been walking, ball bouncing, EPO, dates, RRL tea, and some yoga. I'll try nipple stimulation soon, its good to know that it won't start anything that my body isn't already ready for. Sex has been tossed around but not happening. I bought a pineapple its just not ripe so I am waiting.
Had my LO 7-7 @ 1:10 AM. I have officially survived my first 24!
How far along are you?