@kissableviv Thx! Fortune to live in NYC where we have amazing doctors & my office super close to the hospital too...
@wildtot i’ve been saying I hear / feel scratchy sensations near one of my ribs. Must be a foot? It’s so odd.
@acunamatada I pretty much eat fiber non stop these days. Even my bread is high fiber bread! That + water + activity and coffee usually keep it all moving. Hope something works for you soon.
@wildtot I figured it’s baby’s heels kicking together or something? Feels so weird
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
So frustrated with the constipation. I get the urge and run to the bathroom, only for it to disappear as soon as I set down. Then later I’ll be driving to work and the urge will come back but of course I’m driving so I can’t. Then I’ll get to work and it’ll be gone again. This continues on allll day until finally I’m able to go, but then some jerk will come into the work bathroom and disturb my privacy. Every freaking day.
For those having night time hip pain, I highly recommend introducing a pillow under your belly and hips for cushion. I’ve been religiously using my Snoogle for months now (which has been a lifesaver for my SPD by stabilizing my pelvis, having it between my knees), but the hip pain was starting to wake me multiple times a night. So I added another pillow directly under my hips + belly, and 2 nights of pain-free hips + thru the nignt sleep so far! It’s worth a try!
@pretzellover i had to stop use my snoogle because it was making my pain worse. I guess it’s to big and my hips still don’t align well with it. I’ve switched to a regular pillow between my legs and it seems to help more. I also had to switch to my guest bed because ours is too soft and it wasn’t helping either. I’ve had major relief with the chiropractor too! Glad it’s working for you and i hope you continue to get relief!
@And846 I would KILL for a bagel right now. Stupid gestational diabetes I have coffee every morning, this morning I witched up my breakfast and had a protein bar instead of eggs and that seemed to do the trick.
@zande2016 coffee and yogurt seem to do the trick for me. Just getting back from travelling (babymoon) and into my regular routine has done wonders. Not even joking I didn't go for a week. It's like the floodgates have opened.
@nimmle same happened to me after the babymoon. I've actually been pretty regular this week but it's also because of this slight anxiety I've been feeling. Sends me straight to the bathroom, lol. I don't recommend it as a remedy for constipation though:)
Night sweats are a thing now. I wake up around 4am and I'm sweaty and using no blankets. Then I wake up again with my alarm and I'm chilly. Wtf.
Also I wake up with extra sore calves like I've walked 5 miles the day before. In reality I'm barely meeting my step goal every day. Might be time to start rolling them on the foam roller and get some more yoga and stretching in.
pretzellover - so sorry that is scary. I had a similar issue in my second trimester - def worse in the morning and racing heart (160) at normal activity then feeling faint. My BP has been low first thing (esp before coffee) - did an echo and 24 hr halter and they found nothing - cardio said he figured it was just pregnancy, anemia, and dehydration. I've just been taking it easy and avoiding activity. My garmin keeps going nuts clearing my move bar within seconds and giving me high intensity points for walking to the dr's office. Hope you get answers!
Man ladies, I have been having such a rough time lately, and reading through your symptoms makes me feel so much less alone.
I went to the dr earlier this week and baby is still breech (which really bummed me out), and my dr is a little concerned that my uterus may be measuring a little bit small. I have an ultrasound scheduled for the 30th to check size and position of baby, and we may have to start talking about scheduling a repeat c section if she is small and/or still breech. I had a breakdown when I got back to my office because this is my last pregnancy/baby and I really had my heart set on delivering vaginally. I know the most important thing is that she gets here safely though, AND I don't even know anything for sure yet, but I have just been really sad all week.
I also think that 90% of these feelings are just coming from something I never experienced with my son. I have been feeling so depressed/weepy for no reason. Almost like I have PPD, but pre-delivery! Does anyone have any experience with this? I was thinking about asking my dr, but I thought I would check in here first.
Also my seasonal allergies have been TERRIBLE, much like some of you have reported, so I don't know how much of that is impacting my mood. I am just really struggling the last couple of weeks. Sorry I have been MIA...it wasn't intentional!
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@pretzellover, that sounds really scary. Glad the baby is looking well and hope you don't go stir crazy!
@stlmegs, I've been worried about PPD too because I often find myself mourning the fact that DD won't be an only child any more. I've read articles on Motherly that speak to it being normal but I should probably bring it up with my doctor too. Let me know what yours says!
@stlmegs I'm sorry for the news about possibility of not being able to have the birth you want. I can totally relate, while I am not in your exact position (no c-section), I had my heart really set on a different birth experience this time and when I learned I'd likely have to be induced again due to medical reasons, I was really upset, and did not wait to get home/back to work to have a break down, I did it right there in the doctors office. Of course in the end all that matters is baby gets here safely, but that doesn't make it any easier or make your feelings any less valid. I've definitely heard of PPD before delivery, and would encourage you to speak to someone if you think you might have it.
@MichelleAG05 I sure will. @zande2016 I actually feel better just putting it out there, as weird as that sounds, and knowing that there are others who are feeling the same way that I am .
One of my challenges is that I have two very close friends who have been through (and one is currently going through) IVF. They have had so many struggles and I feel like my complaining about my maybe having to have a c-section when I really wanted to have a vaginal birth is so trivial that I don't even want to bring it up to them. Watching the pain they have been through in their journey, I feel like it would be a slap in the face, and super whiny on my part, to be like "oh, poor me, I don't get the perfect birth experience I wanted to have". Does that make sense? But then when I don't talk to them about it, I don't really talk to anyone about it and I think it just all builds up and then I end up crying in my cubicle at work. Oh, pregnancy is so fun.
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@stlmegs that makes total sense! I don't blame you for not wanting to talk to them about it, but still, your feelings are valid and real even if they seem trivial in comparison to what your friends went through.
@stlmegs i get what your say of not wanting to share when you feel others are dealing with their own struggles but i don’t think you should hold back. A friendship should be mutual with listening and talking. Once you start think others have it worse than you you start to close your opportunity to really just let it out. Definitely find someone you can talk to, even if your not seeking advice and just need to vent.
@stlmegs I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Like @zande2016 I have also heard that depression before delivery is very common something like 25% of women will experience it. I also recommend talking to your doctor about it if you think you might have it as there are a number of things that can be done to help.
@stlmegs@zande2016 I’m officially joining the ‘having a meltdown over the delivery I won’t have’ club. Doctor just called and my platelet count is 51. Down from 72 just 6w ago (which was already absurdly low), and still dropping... I’m literally sitting in my office freaking the eff out - sobbing & nearly hyperventilating, afraid I’m going to bleed to death, or require a c/s super early under general anesthesia (where my husband and I will both miss the birth), where my baby will end up in the NICU, and where I will need a transfusion. The whole situation is beyond overwhelming and feels so hopeless. Literally I went from ‘I just want my Baby to be healthy’ to ‘i dont want to die.’ Need to pull myself together and trust my doctors will figure it out. Easier said than done though.
@pretzellover I’m so sorry! Is there anything you can try to get the count up, like medication or any treatments? I don’t know much about platelets, except I am familiar with the implications for epidurals. Would this rule out the possibility of vaginal delivery? I’d think c section would be more risky with the anesthesia. I’m glad your doctors are clearly monitoring this closely and I’m sure you’re in excellent hands.
I’ve been having on and off cramping and tightening for about an hour now. Its like almost constant cramping, but it gets worse and then better every couple mins, and the tightening is less frequent. What the hell. Is the cramping normal? I never had this in the 3rd trimester last time.
@zande2016 i get cramping here and there. Had it bad two weeks ago for two days straight. Mine were due to a super overly active baby irritated my uterus.
@wildtot I feel like that may be what it is, he’s sooo active, but the cramps scare me because I don’t know how to tell if it’s contractions or just Normal cramping.
@zande2016 my cramps were pretty low in the pelvic area and would come with some back pain too (similar to my period cramps). My contractions usually include all that but i start to get really out of breath and a super hard belly. Nothing i can time.
Hm what you’re describing sounds like what I’m having. I’m pretty sure it’s an irritated uterus from all the baby movement, plus some BH thrown in. The cramping sort of wraps from my low back to low front but it’s not bad pain or anything. I’ll prob check in with the midwife tomorrow if it continues just to be safe.
@wildtot, I woke up on my side STILL feeling the cramps, so I guess not! But the good news is they subsided as I was running around getting ready for work. Now as I sit at my desk, the baby is back to his crazy activity and I'm starting to feel them again, so I really think he is giving my uterus a work out and my uterus is not happy about it.
@pretzellover I'm so sorry. I know epi is out but have you discussed other pain management options during vaginal such as gas or general pain meds? I know there's some differing opinions, but it might help get you closer to the birth you wanted.
@zande2016 I actually was coming here to post about bad cramp/pain and saw yours. Not sure if it's my digestive system trying to reboot, trapped gas, kid trying to turn, kid kicking my f'd discs, or what. It starts left flank at where natural waist would be and harpoons to the back. No pattern, went to bed early because of pain but it would wake me up. Got bad all last night and woke me up again this morning so now DH is freaking out and wants me to call the nurse line. I rolled a pillow at my low back and that seems to be helping... Of course this all got worse AFTER i confirmed my damn massage...this is why I never do anything for myself.
@gingerbride26 sorry you're dealing with it too! I am sitting at work contemplating if I should call. I always agonize over the decision whether to call. Part of me is like yeah of course you're cramping, its normal pregnancy stuff and they will just think I'm ridiculous if I call. But then I'm like, what if I have a UTI or something? I guess I should try timing when the cramping happens. The pain isn't severe, just noticeable, but every time the baby moves it seems to cause cramps. Ughhh.
@zande2016 I hate calling because although they always say use the nurse line for anything, better safe than sorry, blah blah blah....when I do call (usually to appease DH) they tell me to come in (probably as a CYA), then I feel judged for coming in like I'm a PITA - but you freaking told me to come in! He's been going straight to freaking out because they keep saying i'm high risk but not explaining well exactly what for, so he goes straight to worry. My pain was getting pretty severe - like lean on the wall moaning/panting, clutching font and back. It happened while reading bedtime story to DD and I cried out and she started saying "mommy boo boo". BUT I do have a chronic pain condition, I had pretty severe cramps while puking and felt like my vertibrea twisted again, and after the hospital and stomach stuff this week i'm already pretty raw and he's been moving like crazy. The bump has completely changed shape and tripled in size since Monday so my gut says he rolled butt out and is kicking my hemorrhaged discs.
@gingerbride26 if the pain is bad enough that you have to breathe/pant through it, I'd say maybe call. But I know what you mean, they have to cover their ass so they tell you to come in, but then you can feel them judging you and making you feel like a big baby for coming in. It's so annoying. Also my midwifes office is a couple hours away from work, so I'm like knowing my luck I'll start driving and suddenly feel much better and they will be like why the f are you here.
@zande2016 I'm lucky mine is like 15 min away, but it's always at a time when I have to reschedule something to make it work, and even if nurse says "come in" sometimes the OB is still like WTF. Since rolling the pillow at my lumbar, I haven't had a noticeable pain spike in roughly 2.5 hours. I can still feel the spasms but if back support takes it from a 8 to a 2, I'm confident it's my existing back issues. Talked to a mom-friend who said she had a lot of similar issues with her second pregnancy and agrees it sounds like trapped gas and pissed off back from the puking and baby aerobics. So hopefully coffee gets the gas moving (first one since Sunday!! ) and massage calms those tight/pulled muscles further.
I'm also having a rough day physically, with my back hurting, it being hard to walk, and a super active baby today perhaps irritating my uterus. Boo....
Man I had to play some catch up on this thread but I hope everyone is feeling better!
I went to bed with and woke up with a hard belly, maybe 3 inch radius all around my belly button was so hard! I had never experienced that before, and got super freaked out because Bernie wasn't moving too much this morning. Luckily he's being a crazy man now and the stomach softened after I had been up for like an hour but it was super weird. I wonder if it was just him curled up, back, butt and head around my belly button. Seems odd.
Re: May Symptoms
@wildtot i’ve been saying I hear / feel scratchy sensations near one of my ribs. Must be a foot? It’s so odd.
@acunamatada I pretty much eat fiber non stop these days. Even my bread is high fiber bread! That + water + activity and coffee usually keep it all moving. Hope something works for you soon.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
Night sweats are a thing now. I wake up around 4am and I'm sweaty and using no blankets. Then I wake up again with my alarm and I'm chilly. Wtf.
Also I wake up with extra sore calves like I've walked 5 miles the day before. In reality I'm barely meeting my step goal every day. Might be time to start rolling them on the foam roller and get some more yoga and stretching in.
I went to the dr earlier this week and baby is still breech (which really bummed me out), and my dr is a little concerned that my uterus may be measuring a little bit small. I have an ultrasound scheduled for the 30th to check size and position of baby, and we may have to start talking about scheduling a repeat c section if she is small and/or still breech. I had a breakdown when I got back to my office because this is my last pregnancy/baby and I really had my heart set on delivering vaginally. I know the most important thing is that she gets here safely though, AND I don't even know anything for sure yet, but I have just been really sad all week.
I also think that 90% of these feelings are just coming from something I never experienced with my son. I have been feeling so depressed/weepy for no reason. Almost like I have PPD, but pre-delivery! Does anyone have any experience with this? I was thinking about asking my dr, but I thought I would check in here first.
Also my seasonal allergies have been TERRIBLE, much like some of you have reported, so I don't know how much of that is impacting my mood. I am just really struggling the last couple of weeks. Sorry I have been MIA...it wasn't intentional!
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@stlmegs, I've been worried about PPD too because I often find myself mourning the fact that DD won't be an only child any more. I've read articles on Motherly that speak to it being normal but I should probably bring it up with my doctor too. Let me know what yours says!
One of my challenges is that I have two very close friends who have been through (and one is currently going through) IVF. They have had so many struggles and I feel like my complaining about my maybe having to have a c-section when I really wanted to have a vaginal birth is so trivial that I don't even want to bring it up to them. Watching the pain they have been through in their journey, I feel like it would be a slap in the face, and super whiny on my part, to be like "oh, poor me, I don't get the perfect birth experience I wanted to have". Does that make sense? But then when I don't talk to them about it, I don't really talk to anyone about it and I think it just all builds up and then I end up crying in my cubicle at work. Oh, pregnancy is so fun.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Doctor just called and my platelet count is 51. Down from 72 just 6w ago (which was already absurdly low), and still dropping... I’m literally sitting in my office freaking the eff out - sobbing & nearly hyperventilating, afraid I’m going to bleed to death, or require a c/s super early under general anesthesia (where my husband and I will both miss the birth), where my baby will end up in the NICU, and where I will need a transfusion.
The whole situation is beyond overwhelming and feels so hopeless. Literally I went from ‘I just want my Baby to be healthy’ to ‘i dont want to die.’ Need to pull myself together and trust my doctors will figure it out. Easier said than done though.
constant cramping, but it gets worse and then better every couple mins, and the tightening is less frequent. What the hell. Is the cramping normal? I never had this in the 3rd trimester last time.
@zande2016 I actually was coming here to post about bad cramp/pain and saw yours. Not sure if it's my digestive system trying to reboot, trapped gas, kid trying to turn, kid kicking my f'd discs, or what. It starts left flank at where natural waist would be and harpoons to the back. No pattern, went to bed early because of pain but it would wake me up. Got bad all last night and woke me up again this morning so now DH is freaking out and wants me to call the nurse line. I rolled a pillow at my low back and that seems to be helping... Of course this all got worse AFTER i confirmed my damn massage...this is why I never do anything for myself.
@stlmegs, I hope you can get the support you need from friends. It's natural to feel disappointed in a situation like that.
@zande2016 and @gingerbride26, I hope the cramping eases!
I'm also having a rough day physically, with my back hurting, it being hard to walk, and a super active baby today perhaps irritating my uterus. Boo....
I went to bed with and woke up with a hard belly, maybe 3 inch radius all around my belly button was so hard! I had never experienced that before, and got super freaked out because Bernie wasn't moving too much this morning. Luckily he's being a crazy man now and the stomach softened after I had been up for like an hour but it was super weird. I wonder if it was just him curled up, back, butt and head around my belly button. Seems odd.