@theshannondee Ugh that is super frustrating your dr office isn't listening to you! I hope you get some answers soon!
I just made the mistake of lurking in Octobers bmb and there is a thread about rehoming a dog. I'm now going to go to bed super annoyed. Pets are not freakin disposable. And if you're going to adopt a dog and plan on having kids in the future you better have a plan on how your going to train that dog to be around kids/babies and vice versa. Or don't get the dog! Those types of threads make me so angry!!!
or use some crisco...lmao mine have been sausages lately! A girl I work with had her DD in November and got so swollen, she wore her rings on a necklace.
Thanks Butters. Long story: I called spoke with the first competent sounding nurse since this whole mess started and she told me I needed to come in right away because of the swelling, so I did. Then the nurse there took my blood pressure (still high but slightly lower than yesterday) and spoke with a doctor on call and they decided since I wasn't having a headache right now it was safe to go home. I said WTF I was told to come in because of my swelling with pitting, is that NBD now? And they said well you have an appointment tomorrow, so we feel safe letting you go home and just come back tomorrow. So now today is my appointment with my actual doctor and I'm bringing my husband so he can lay it all out there when I turn into a little bitch and start weeping in the exam room.
TLDR: Pre-e symptoms present, docs feel "meh" about it, still no answers.
@theshannondee WTF that's so frustrating. I'm glad you're bringing your husband and he can explain if you get upset. I would start crying too but only because I'm so enraged and pissed that they're not being straightforward. I hope your regular doctor sees how much stress and anxiety this uncertainty is causing. But yay to BP being lower. Good luck!!!
Thanks Butters. Long story: I called spoke with the first competent sounding nurse since this whole mess started and she told me I needed to come in right away because of the swelling, so I did. Then the nurse there took my blood pressure (still high but slightly lower than yesterday) and spoke with a doctor on call and they decided since I wasn't having a headache right now it was safe to go home. I said WTF I was told to come in because of my swelling with pitting, is that NBD now? And they said well you have an appointment tomorrow, so we feel safe letting you go home and just come back tomorrow. So now today is my appointment with my actual doctor and I'm bringing my husband so he can lay it all out there when I turn into a little bitch and start weeping in the exam room.
TLDR: Pre-e symptoms present, docs feel "meh" about it, still no answers.
Poop on your office. I hope your doctor takes you seriously today!
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@theshannondee I hope all goes well today and you are doing a great job of advocating for yourself (even though it feels so frustrating). Not sure if it would be helpful for you & hubby to write all your symptoms/questions down before going in. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with doctors and forget a couple of things and then get annoyed with myself for not asking everything I wanted. Good luck!
@theshannondee Love tits of support. Sorry you're going through this and I hope you get some real answers at your appointment. Hang in there girl and take it easy on yourself!
@theshannondee I'm glad you're bringing your husband with you! I did the same thing after my scary BP visit with my doctor a couple months ago, and it really helped to have him there for moral support. I hope everything goes well at your appointment; keep advocating for yourself for sure! You'll be in my thoughts today.
@theshannondeeGood luck at your appointment and I hope that get you some good news. Hopefully your doctor listens to you and can address your concerns. Glad your husband is tagging along too for support.
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@theshannondee good luck today, I second the writing things down! I know I get overwhelmed sometimes at my appts and forget everything I was going to say so a list can be helpful. Sending all the good thoughts!
Only two weeks of work left and I can't wait! And even these last two weeks aren't a full schedule. And my sister in law and her kids are coming in tonight for a week! This is great!
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Is there something specific you're looking for from them? Or is it that you don't feel confident in the advice the nurses are giving you? The symptoms they are telling you to come in for are signs of pre-e, but the BP and urine collection are the more objective measures that would raise alarm. So if they're coming back ok, then watchful waiting is the way to go and it sounds like they are keeping a close eye on you.
@theshannondee - Good luck and I'm so glad your husband is going with you. Pretty much every appointment I forget to ask something important! I would really try to get some parameters written down as to when they want you to call in the future, or when to go to the ER. It seems like they keep telling you to worry and then they aren't worried when you are, which seems to be leading to a lot of distrust in your providers.
@theshannondee (this is not meant as a snark post in any way)
Is there something specific you're looking for from them? Or is it that you don't feel confident in the advice the nurses are giving you? The symptoms they are telling you to come in for are signs of pre-e, but the BP and urine collection are the more objective measures that would raise alarm. So if they're coming back ok, then watchful waiting is the way to go and it sounds like they are keeping a close eye on you.
My BP went from 107/70 to 154/92 basically overnight and has stayed elevated which is what they're most concerned about. The secondary symptoms like swelling, headaches, vision changes, etc. I know can be multiple things, I've just been told to call if they show up which they have.
I think where I am getting frustrated/emotional is when I am told "You show signs of pre-e, call us ASAP if X, Y, or Z happens." So when X happens I've called and came in. Then I was told "Well if Y or Z happens, thats when its serious!" So when Y happens I've called and came in. Then I was told "Well now if Z happens, that is a big deal. Don't wait." So when Z happens I did what they said and came in and was told "Well hmm... Lets see what happens...Come back tomorrow..." I keep being told its serious but then I get sort of wishy washy responses when I follow through...And maybe that's normal? I'm a FTM and just following what they tell me to do but I feel like I'm getting mixed messages on the severity of things if that makes sense.
That totally makes sense. It seems like you're someone who likes to understand things in a little more detail, so when you get to see your doc today I would specifically ask what it is that reassures them when you call in with the symptoms, and what would be their threshold to start intervening (which could be anywhere from bed rest to BP meds, admission for IV mag and preparing for delivery, vs immediate delivery). It's important that people know warning signs to look for, and some people are reassured with 'everything looks ok', but a lot of people want to know a little more detail about what it is they're actually looking for when you come in and you're doctor can def explain that.
Pre-e exists along a spectrum and the only definitive treatment is delivery, which obviously has its own risks this early so a lot of the management is weighing the risk vs benefit, which may be the reason things seem wishy-washy.
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I have no appetite at all today. It's amazing. I've had a pack of peanut butter crackers, but that was breakfast. I'm a little upset about this because... well...., I like food. Work even ordered breakfast for everyone and I couldn't eat it.
@mnkenned thanks, that does make sense. I feel like when I get there I have a hard time putting my thoughts/worries into words which is where writing things out and having my husband there to hear things too/ask questions will be good. I am of course hopeful its all just things to keep an eye on and a bummer part of 3rd trimester worry for me. I think like you said, I just need to be more firm for information I want on my end.
@YeezusButters I'm in the same boat. Today has been really slow at work (very weird for a Friday) and I'm trying so hard to not fall asleep. Was alone in the office up until half an hour ago... so hopefully having co-workers here now will keep me awake! I hope your day goes quickly!
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I just made the mistake of lurking in Octobers bmb and there is a thread about rehoming a dog. I'm now going to go to bed super annoyed. Pets are not freakin disposable. And if you're going to adopt a dog and plan on having kids in the future you better have a plan on how your going to train that dog to be around kids/babies and vice versa. Or don't get the dog! Those types of threads make me so angry!!!
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mine have been sausages lately! A girl I work with had her DD in November and got so swollen, she wore her rings on a necklace.
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Long story: I called spoke with the first competent sounding nurse since this whole mess started and she told me I needed to come in right away because of the swelling, so I did. Then the nurse there took my blood pressure (still high but slightly lower than yesterday) and spoke with a doctor on call and they decided since I wasn't having a headache right now it was safe to go home. I said WTF I was told to come in because of my swelling with pitting, is that NBD now? And they said well you have an appointment tomorrow, so we feel safe letting you go home and just come back tomorrow. So now today is my appointment with my actual doctor and I'm bringing my husband so he can lay it all out there when I turn into a little bitch and start weeping in the exam room.
TLDR: Pre-e symptoms present, docs feel "meh" about it, still no answers.
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(this is not meant as a snark post in any way)
Is there something specific you're looking for from them? Or is it that you don't feel confident in the advice the nurses are giving you? The symptoms they are telling you to come in for are signs of pre-e, but the BP and urine collection are the more objective measures that would raise alarm. So if they're coming back ok, then watchful waiting is the way to go and it sounds like they are keeping a close eye on you.
I think where I am getting frustrated/emotional is when I am told "You show signs of pre-e, call us ASAP if X, Y, or Z happens." So when X happens I've called and came in. Then I was told "Well if Y or Z happens, thats when its serious!" So when Y happens I've called and came in. Then I was told "Well now if Z happens, that is a big deal. Don't wait." So when Z happens I did what they said and came in and was told "Well hmm... Lets see what happens...Come back tomorrow..." I keep being told its serious but then I get sort of wishy washy responses when I follow through...And maybe that's normal? I'm a FTM and just following what they tell me to do but I feel like I'm getting mixed messages on the severity of things if that makes sense.
Pre-e exists along a spectrum and the only definitive treatment is delivery, which obviously has its own risks this early so a lot of the management is weighing the risk vs benefit, which may be the reason things seem wishy-washy.
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