@austinjl Unless your husband has opted to invest more money to up his coverage, I am going to guess that it is going to be less than what you want. Maybe more than funeral costs but probably not what you're looking for which I assume is enough to take care of your impending child until they're an adult.
If you're already talking someone, it might make sense to bring you both in and talk about your goals and what makes the most sense. If you're going to spend the money and make a commitment, might as well be doing it right.
@whataboutscience ahh that sucks. I keep telling myself to be grateful that I'm not dealing with anything that poses a risk to LO, but it's still super unpleasant!
@stellaluna14 Omg I love that print!! We have so much mint going on between our nursery and accessories j might be overdoing it but I really do LOVE that fabric, hahaha!!!
Mint and navy are two of my favorite colors, especially together. It wasn't until I got home and looked at the Tula and then looked around that I realized it's almost the same colors as my nursery and living room haha. I guess I know what colors I gravitate towards....
So just left a dr appt. Evidently baby has dropped, is head down, and is "burrowing" down. Told to make sure a bag is packed and baby will probably come in 6 weeks. I'm thrilled because I'm so uncomfortable, but OMG I'm actually going to have a baby!!!
I was lurking on either April or May, and someone asked what real contractions feel like. As a STM I was cringing at the descriptions. Although pretty accurate (it varies by person but accurate none the less), any FTM should enter a thread like that with caution or not at all and just experience them as they come. Although the OP asked, I can't help but feel like that information could do just as much harm (inducing fear) as good.
@LDSJM123 that thread had me intrigued by the title but I should have known better! I almost threw my phone to make it stop quicker! I understand it will be painful, probably the most painful thing we have ever endured, but our bodies are meant for this. I keep telling myself that it is a natural pain and women do this everyday and live to tell about it. I hate running, but it's only a short period of my life that I am running and when it's over I don't care how much it sucks, I am just glad I got through it and am reaping the benefits. I am hoping this is the same
@arhodes6 unless you have Pitocin-enhanced contractions. I was handling contractions just fine on my own until they decided they wanted to "speed things up a bit" and add some Pitocin. It went from moderate pain I could handle to me grabbing the nurse's shoulders and screaming at her that I wanted an epidural. Luckily they were already set up and waiting for me to crack! They kept on increasing the dosage of Pitocin so fast there was no chance for me to adjust. It was intense!
Just left the doctor myself. I went in thinking I was 29 weeks... but the nurse just casually mentioned I am 30. I know it's not a big jump but this kind of alarmed me a bit. One, where in the hell did I learn math? and two, that leaves 10 weeks. In my mind 30 weeks was this big ominous number in my head, as was 10 weeks being left. I hadn't mentally prepped myself to hit it today.
ETA: i just noticed my ticker says 30. what's going on with my life????
@rnyland1 Yikes that does sound intense! I guess I was more thinking about the beginning or labor. The thread from May was discussing how to know that labor is happening and not just false labor and all the women on there were making it out to be completely unbearable. But they all made it through so it must have been bearable right? My plan is to just take it moment by moment and whatever happens works for me as long as my baby and I are alright! I am hoping for an unmedicated birth and that I don't have to have Pitocin because I am not sure if I will handle those contractions without meds!
@arhodes6 I'm tempted to look at that thread but I also don't want to go into this fearfully. I think you have to just be as mindful as you can about it - you have the right attitude! One contraction at a time. And don't let other people scare you because fear makes physical pain so much worse.
And now, having said all that, I REALLY want to go look at that thread!
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Read the thread, isn't anything I haven't heard before. Everyone's labor experience is different, but they don't call it "walk in the park", they call it LABOR. You will work and your body will work the hardest it probably ever will. I'm pretty sure I'll know when I'm going into labor. Like @joleri23 I'll take it one contraction at a time.
My labor will be a peaceful medley of unicorn farts and kittens with rainbows, after which my baby will gently slide out, and I only want to read stories of similar experiences. Believe in the power of positive thinking!
I roped DH into helping me with my perineal massage last night. Thanks to Pinterest for the educational diagrams, since I can no longer see my parts to instruct him, and it's much easier to have him do it than try to contort myself enough to reach.
@arhodes6@dolewhipper@rakel88 I read it and I didn't think it was that bad! It made me laugh more than anything else. I'm reading Mindful Birthing and it's really got me sort of excited for the challenge. We'll see how it goes!
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Read the thread, isn't anything I haven't heard before. Everyone's labor experience is different, but they don't call it "walk in the park", they call it LABOR. You will work and your body will work the hardest it probably ever will. I'm pretty sure I'll know when I'm going into labor. Like @joleri23 I'll take it one contraction at a time.
So true. My experience was rough, and I have zero desire to attempt it again, hence my decision for a repeat c-section. That said, I know far, far more women who had overall positive experiences than I do women who had experiences like mine. I even know a few women who genuinely found their unmedicated, or medicated but non-epidural, births relatively "easy" (for lack of a better word - I don't know that any labour/delivery is easy but they found it very manageable). Everyone's experience is different - prepare yourself with coping strategies and do your research about any interventions you may or may not want, and then go in hoping for the best.
@erin7264 how did he go? I've prepped DH on doing it because I am petrified of tears. When did you start? I read you shouldn't start until 35 weeks, but if I can I'd like to start now.
@KatieBird0106 and @TiffRox81 I don't want to disappoint, but if you are not delivering at home, you might want to check your hospital's policy on that. I was hoping for wine after delivery (hadn't researched) with my first baby, but the hospital won't allow it because of the affect it can have on your blood pressure. I'm pretty sure it was not allowed for the duration of my stay. The logic was enough to convince me not to try to argue at all, so I waited until it was not a concern, and then enjoyed my celebratory glass of wine. It's worth researching and asking your provider about!
@KatieBird0106 My friends and family have pledged to bring me champagne!! And I am looking forward to it.
My husband is picking up splits of champagne to toast with in the hospital for us, so I love this! We plan being very discreet about it. As I'm sure our hospital doesn't allow it either. But I'm not too concerned about a half glass of bubbles.
I am so done. My cervix hurts. My back hurts. My lower belly hurts. It's not like cramps or contractions-- just extreme pressure. I have two more weeks of teaching and then I'm off, thank goodness. I just always feel like I need to lay down or the baby will fall out.
@LilLambie he did good, all things considered. I think it was more awkward for me than anyone, and neither of us was exactly sure how much pressure was enough. I did make a point of explaining that it needs to be a non-sexual exercise, it is somewhat uncomfortable and no it does not feel good. He was very respectful.
I've read conflicting advice on when to start - different opinions say as early as 32w, others say not til 36. I'm 33 this week and I figured there isn't harm in starting now, I actually tried by myself a couple times last week but I just don't have the reach to do it for the 5-10 minutes needed. We used coconut oil for lube. I'm also including dates and raspberry leaf tea in my daily pre-labor prep!
@BecauseBabyIamAPug I might be joining you, I find out Friday. I guess my protein numbers came back okay but my blood pressure has been super high the last few days and I've had a couple bad headaches and eyesight weirdness. I wish I knew what to expect to hear on Friday. I hate waiting.
@arhodes6@rnyland1 Labor is very different for every woman. I had pitocin and no epi and found the majority of labor to be pretty manageable, but I have a high pain tolerance and pitocin can also affect each woman differently. I echo pp who said to try not to go in fearful because that just makes it worse. I took your attitude that millions of women have done it and lived to tell the tale.
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If you're already talking someone, it might make sense to bring you both in and talk about your goals and what makes the most sense. If you're going to spend the money and make a commitment, might as well be doing it right.
I have spent the most of the day in bed. Drinking water and peeing in my jug. Which btw, grossest out my 5 year old.
It's called Fletcher. I saw Archer online and liked it, but I like the colors on this more.
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ETA: i just noticed my ticker says 30. what's going on with my life????
And now, having said all that, I REALLY want to go look at that thread!
I roped DH into helping me with my perineal massage last night. Thanks to Pinterest for the educational diagrams, since I can no longer see my parts to instruct him, and it's much easier to have him do it than try to contort myself enough to reach.
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I've read conflicting advice on when to start - different opinions say as early as 32w, others say not til 36. I'm 33 this week and I figured there isn't harm in starting now, I actually tried by myself a couple times last week but I just don't have the reach to do it for the 5-10 minutes needed. We used coconut oil for lube. I'm also including dates and raspberry leaf tea in my daily pre-labor prep!