So definitely TMI here, but at this point, is anything really TMI anymore? Ha! Anyway, I am 1 month pp and I had a CS. I have to ask, wtf is up with this Lochia crap? I didn't bleed too heavy to begin with afterwards and it's tapered off to a light spotting which just smells awful!!! I mean maybe I am more hypersensitive to it because I normally have no scent whatsoever- but omg it's really disgusting. I thought maybe it was bv- but it doesn't have that fishy odor, it's just plain nasty! Anyone else dealing with this lovely aroma?
@Nicbert1214 it definitely has a smell. I find that the smell is made worse by disposable pads. I'm using mama cloth (reusable pads that I wash) this time and the odor doesn't get to me as much.
I cosleep and I've never woken in a baby panic. If I open my eyes I'm staring at her. Plus the way we lay we're always touching. LO sleeps in either our armpit or the crook of our elbow and we sleep on our backs. Pregnancy got me used to back sleeping so it's not a big deal and she sleeps better on a little incline propped up on us.
Anybody having a return of morning sickness/nausea? I suspect it's the sleep deprivation (though DH took over last night so I could get some actual sleep). This is one experience I was hoping I'd be done with at this point...
If so, is there any difference between it and a PNP besides the fact that the bedside rail seems to lower and that there are additional parts you can buy to raise it to the level of your bed? Am thinking of making the splurge, if it means more sleep (I'm too paranoid for bed sharing, but this seems like a good compromise)?
I have one! We bed share some now because I found a safer position to do it, but I put him there if I can't get comfortable. It's very nice to but have to get out of bed at all. I barely even have to sit up. I have the European version because we don't have a bed frame. Apparently Europeans have shorter beds?lionstigersbears said:
@Nicbert1214 it definitely has a smell. I find that the smell is made worse by disposable pads. I'm using mama cloth (reusable pads that I wash) this time and the odor doesn't get to me as much.
I switched to cloth pads because of this and feeling irritated, but right after I started my lochia stopped! I'm glad I switched, though. But now I probably won't get my period for a year or more
Anybody having a return of morning sickness/nausea? I suspect it's the sleep deprivation (though DH took over last night so I could get some actual sleep). This is one experience I was hoping I'd be done with at this point...
Yes, off and on. I almost puked brushing my teeth the other day. And 2 or 3 times smells have made me really nauseous.
I've been co-sleeping because I was having anxiety that she would accidentally pull the blankets over her face and would wake up freaking out and checking her cradle constantly. Or I would freak out if I woke up and couldn't hear her breathing, so I let her sleep in my arms. This took my anxiety away and she sleeps on my chest with one arm across her or her head on my shoulder. My older sister co-slept with her infants bcuz of the same anxiety.
Anybody having a return of morning sickness/nausea? I suspect it's the sleep deprivation (though DH took over last night so I could get some actual sleep). This is one experience I was hoping I'd be done with at this point...
Changing postpartum hormones can bring back bouts of nausea. When things start leveling out it should go away but I know that doesn't help in the meantime. I find that sniffing peppermint or lemon oil helps me a ton - I did this during labor even to help with the horrible nausea I had. Hang in there!
Okay...glad to hear I'm not the only one! My husband thinks I'm crazy! He's always like, "Please stop. The baby is right here." & I have to tell him that no, I'm looking for the other baby! So weird this happens to lots of women...someone needs to do a study on it lol
I do this too! My theory is that primally, we expect baby to be sleeping with us and when he/she isn't, it causes sleepy panic. I didn't bedshare until later with DS, once this had subsided though, so I have no idea...it's just a thought. I forget who all is bedsharing vs cosleeping/room sharing. Any bedsharing mamas freak out this way nightly?
We began bed sharing after Munchkin decided she absolutely hated her bassinet and refused to sleep in it and I'm not ready to move her to her crib yet. I've woken up in panic that Munchkin rolled. Of course everytime I check she is still safely in the same spot but it never fails to induce panic! Now that I think of it, when we were cosleeping, I would wake up in panic too thinking Munchkin was missing. I also think as Mommy's our children's safety is our number one priority, and subconsciously while sleeping fears are often presented which causes us to freak out.
If so, is there any difference between it and a PNP besides the fact that the bedside rail seems to lower and that there are additional parts you can buy to raise it to the level of your bed? Am thinking of making the splurge, if it means more sleep (I'm too paranoid for bed sharing, but this seems like a good compromise)?
I have one that I barrowed from my SIL. I just set it up the other night and I'm not seeing a whole lot of difference. The only differences I do see is that it's a little smaller, has the one lower side rail and it attaches to your bed. I haven't had little one yet so I'm not sure if I'll like it or not.
I also had the panic trying to finding the baby at night with DS. I was always afraid I had fell asleep feeding him or something and forgot to put him in the RNP. I think it's normal.
So I'm having a really hard time the last two or three days! LO is crying constantly and I feed her every time! She unlatches and then ten minutes later wants to eat again (which I know can be a growth spurt) but when she gets full she still screams and I can't seem to soothe her. Sometimes she acts like she's hungry so I try to nurse and she doesn't want to. Sometimes she screams through feedings. The only time she isn't crying is when she's asleep. She's been pooping and peeing regularly and doesn't seem to be gasy. Any ideas on how to soothe her or what may be the culprit? I'm at my wits end and it makes me sad that I can't help her
So I'm having a really hard time the last two or three days! LO is crying constantly and I feed her every time! She unlatches and then ten minutes later wants to eat again (which I know can be a growth spurt) but when she gets full she still screams and I can't seem to soothe her. Sometimes she acts like she's hungry so I try to nurse and she doesn't want to. Sometimes she screams through feedings. The only time she isn't crying is when she's asleep. She's been pooping and peeing regularly and doesn't seem to be gasy. Any ideas on how to soothe her or what may be the culprit? I'm at my wits end and it makes me sad that I can't help her
Have you tried a paci? Ezra was exactly like that when I gave him a paci and it's seriously a life saver, especially since I'm a big producer so every time he sucks he gets lots of milk. Next time she's popping off every few minutes at a feed give her your pinky finger and see what she does. alternatively, she might be too hot. For some weird reason Ezra gets boiling hot when he eats and he looooves being naked so unless we're out I try and let him do feedings naked/just diapered or give a few minutes of naked time during the day.
@maybaby0519 If baby just needs soothing my best trick with DS was a dark bathroom with the fan on. I think @JoMunson might be right about the desire to suck but not eat though.
@maybaby0519 If baby just needs soothing my best trick with DS was a dark bathroom with the fan on. I think @JoMunson might be right about the desire to suck but not eat though.
Yes! Try this too! Especially if you guys do a lot during the day or even listen to a lot of music or tv she might just need to relax
I do the dark room/rocking chair in the nursery as well. I've learned that my LO can tolerate about 1 hour of awake time between naps. Usually half of that is eaten up by breastfeeding and letting her take a milk coma snooze for a couple of minutes, then another 30 minutes of calm awake time. At this point, she starts getting really fussy, and the longer I wait to bring her upstairs to a non-stimulating environment to rock her to sleep, the worse it gets. We just bought a rocker for downstairs, but we still go upstairs to soothe and calm her. There's just too much stimulation in our living room between the sun staying out later, the TV, the dog, and both my husband and me.
I do the dark room/rocking chair in the nursery as well. I've learned that my LO can tolerate about 1 hour of awake time between naps. Usually half of that is eaten up by breastfeeding and letting her take a milk coma snooze for a couple of minutes, then another 30 minutes of calm awake time. At this point, she starts getting really fussy, and the longer I wait to bring her upstairs to a non-stimulating environment to rock her to sleep, the worse it gets. We just bought a rocker for downstairs, but we still go upstairs to soothe and calm her. There's just too much stimulation in our living room between the sun staying out later, the TV, the dog, and both my husband and me.
I'm going to try this today. My LO refuses to nap during the day unless we're outside. And no naps means super fussy baby. Sad part is, if we're outside, I obviously can't take a nap.
@JoMunson I did introduce the paci a week ago and she has done well with it but this weekend once she realized there was no food coming out she would scream. @lionstigersbears this did help! I think that between being hot (she is like a furnace) and being over stimulated the last few days with people coming over and running errands, it was too much. I put on the white noise machine in the bedroom and shut the lights off. She actually slept all night! She woke up once to be comforted but didn't want to nurse. thanks ladies!
@JoMunson I did introduce the paci a week ago and she has done well with it but this weekend once she realized there was no food coming out she would scream. @lionstigersbears this did help! I think that between being hot (she is like a furnace) and being over stimulated the last few days with people coming over and running errands, it was too much. I put on the white noise machine in the bedroom and shut the lights off. She actually slept all night! She woke up once to be comforted but didn't want to nurse. thanks ladies!
That's awesome that she's doing better! Too bad about the paci, sometimes they're too smart these babies
Has anyone had their 6w check up and not been cleared? Im 8 days away from my appt and still have majority of my stitches and still bleeding- not heavy but still red.
@pooputtette I'm about to have my appt at 4 weeks bc she said 4-6 weeks this time and I wanted to be cleared earlier. I'm still bleeding and my apt is tomorrow. I am wondering the same thing. You had a pretty intense tear right? I'll keep you posted, but I don't remember bleeding this long last time (but my appt was at 6 weeks).
@That1didntcount yes i had a bilateral periuretheral tear. So i tore on both sides of my urethra. The stitches on one side are halfway gone and the other side still has all the stitches
@pooputtette & @That1didntcount - I'm curious how your appointments went and what your Dr's said? I'm only about 3.5 weeks PP but I had to call the Dr today because it seems like my bleeding has increased over the past week and I've been passing some bigger clots for the past two days. I have my appointment in about 10 days, so they gave me things to watch out for, told me to take ibuprofen/motrin around the clock and to contact them if it continues to get worse before my appointment.
@pooputtette & @That1didntcount - I'm curious how your appointments went and what your Dr's said? I'm only about 3.5 weeks PP but I had to call the Dr today because it seems like my bleeding has increased over the past week and I've been passing some bigger clots for the past two days. I have my appointment in about 10 days, so they gave me things to watch out for, told me to take ibuprofen/motrin around the clock and to contact them if it continues to get worse before my appointment.
I had my appt today and she cleared me for my big 3: sex, exercise, and the pool! Who hooo! She told me I was healed, and my bleeding is basically gone/very light. I do have diastasis recti which is a tear in my stomach muscles. I'm not surprised, I suspected the last few weeks of pregnancy and after delivery I was pretty sure. She told me to wait until 8 weeks for abdominal work but let's be honest, that was never my thing before pregnancy!
I'm gunna admit it. I had sex at 5 weeks pp. DH started working out again and gave up sugar and alcohol and hugged me while I cried. He pretty much looked like Alexander Skarsgaard to me so I went for it. since TMI went out the door at about month 6 for this group, I'll say two things: I had a once centimeter one degree perineal tear that required two stitches. Doggy style wasn't painful but it was uncomfortable to arch my back.
hilariously, DH says I do feel "slightly bigger" down there. I don't know why but it cracks me up. I wonder what it will be like after baby 2, 3, and maybe 4!
DH was freaked out by sex once the bump came and I think we last had sex at about month 8 so it's been two months since I've had sex. It was amazing!
Does anyone ever wonder how our husbands would feel if they read some of the stuff we post? Mine would be mortified. @JoMunson I would love to know what your DH would think of your last post!
Does anyone ever wonder how our husbands would feel if they read some of the stuff we post? Mine would be mortified. @JoMunson I would love to know what your DH would think of your last post!
Oh in sure he'd laugh! I'm always going on about what's happening "on the boards"
@JoMunson I had sex at 5wks too. My stitches were completely gone and I figured it wasn't a huge deal since I hardly tore. Plus my bleeding had stopped, but after the deed, I've been bleeding heavily again until yesterday. I'm 6.5wks pp and my dr is booked until the end of July so I have to see the NP at 7.5wks pp. neither of us wanted to wait that long haha. Although it didn't feel the best and felt like I was stretching, he enjoyed it and said it didn't really feel different, thanks to kegels I believe.
How long did ya'lls obgyn said to wait before getting pregnant again? Mine was very adamant, and I'm wondering how much of it was due to my difficult end of pregnancy.
@pooputtette I wasn't cleared at my 6 week appointment. I was also given miso prostol at the 3 week mark for suspected retained product and was also on prophylactic blood thinners due to a suspected blood clotting disorder. My bleeding continued until almost 7 weeks. My course of blood thinners stopped at 6 weeks so I went back to my OB at 8 weeks and was cleared at that appointment.
How long did ya'lls obgyn said to wait before getting pregnant again? Mine was very adamant, and I'm wondering how much of it was due to my difficult end of pregnancy.
My midwives encouraged me to wait at least 9 months after DS, because if I got pregnant quickly, it would put 18 months between deliveries. 18 months minimum between vaginal deliveries is medically supported for having the best outcomes (with a big range, I believe up to five years, before some risks rise again related to super far apart). Sorry I don't have sources but I remember this from our convo.
Does anyone ever wonder how our husbands would feel if they read some of the stuff we post? Mine would be mortified. @JoMunson I would love to know what your DH would think of your last post!
My husband just wonders if I complain about him on here a lot lol! He knows I'm on here all the time.
@AliciaD39 I had a c-section so not sure if this will help but they said 1 year from my c-section date would be optimal before getting pregnant again.
Yeah... I think my doctor is trying to make sure I'm ok since I have preeclampsia and an enlarged heart, but she said 2 years before I even get pregnant. It broke my heart.
My last stitch finally came out, but now there's a swollen red bump where the stitch was. I remember being sore when the other stitches came out, but I don't remember something like this. I have my 6 week appointment tomorrow, but I'm wondering if anyone else experienced this? I walked on Tuesday, and the stitch dissolved after leaving this bump. Wondering if I caused the swelling.
My midwife recommended a year to give your body time to fully return to pre pregnancy state. We'll see if we make it that long!
I think it totally depends on the person! I was back to pre pregnancy weight when I got pregnant with DD when DS was 10-11 months old so I was close to the year mark. I gained less and overall handled the pregnancy well (besides catching every bug possible). I'm not sure if it would have been the same regardless of timing, conceiving sooner or later on, but a second pregnancy was definitely different. In many ways easier but some things were rough, like pelvic joint pain which I've learned typically gets worse with each subsequent pregnancy. I highly encourage everyone to look into women's pelvic floor physical therapy--I'm starting it now because I feel it's important (especially if we have more kids) but really should have after my first. Anyway....I had the itch for a second so quickly after DS. Now after DD I feel pretty content to wait 1.5-2 years and then reasses if our family is complete or not.
My midwife recommended a year to give your body time to fully return to pre pregnancy state. We'll see if we make it that long!
I think it totally depends on the person! I was back to pre pregnancy weight when I got pregnant with DD when DS was 10-11 months old so I was close to the year mark. I gained less and overall handled the pregnancy well (besides catching every bug possible). I'm not sure if it would have been the same regardless of timing, conceiving sooner or later on, but a second pregnancy was definitely different. In many ways easier but some things were rough, like pelvic joint pain which I've learned typically gets worse with each subsequent pregnancy. I highly encourage everyone to look into women's pelvic floor physical therapy--I'm starting it now because I feel it's important (especially if we have more kids) but really should have after my first. Anyway....I had the itch for a second so quickly after DS. Now after DD I feel pretty content to wait 1.5-2 years and then reasses if our family is complete or not.
Ah! My pelvic joint pain was so bad this time I can't imagine it being worse!
For those that had a CSection, is the scar supposed to be hard? It looks fine but the area around it is still puffy and the scar line itself feels hard. I'm guessing scar tissue but does it go away?? When does the puffiness go away? I'm four weeks pp today.
For those that had a CSection, is the scar supposed to be hard? It looks fine but the area around it is still puffy and the scar line itself feels hard. I'm guessing scar tissue but does it go away?? When does the puffiness go away? I'm four weeks pp today.
I always had hardness along my scar because my body naturally makes lots of scar tissue. Once you hit 6 weeks, you can safely massage the scar tissue and it will become more pliable over time. I'm not sure if dome rope-y-ness stats for everyone or if I'm just a bit unlucky that way. (Video on how-to: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=he_YB9e__rQ)
The puffiness lessened for me last time as my skin continued to tighten back up, but some stayed unless my weight was down, as my body decided that its new favorite place to retain water/fat was right above my scar.
I just had my six week appointment. The midwife said my abdominal muscles were separated only about one finger width apart and gave me information on exercises I could do to bring them together, but the information said not to do certain exercises if you're two-two and a half fingers spread apart. So am I good to go? It said don't lift heavy things and certain yoga poses.
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I also had the panic trying to finding the baby at night with DS. I was always afraid I had fell asleep feeding him or something and forgot to put him in the RNP. I think it's normal.
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alternatively, she might be too hot. For some weird reason Ezra gets boiling hot when he eats and he looooves being naked so unless we're out I try and let him do feedings naked/just diapered or give a few minutes of naked time during the day.
living room between the sun staying out later, the TV, the dog, and both my husband and me.
@lionstigersbears this did help! I think that between being hot (she is like a furnace) and being over stimulated the last few days with people coming over and running errands, it was too much. I put on the white noise machine in the bedroom and shut the lights off. She actually slept all night! She woke up once to be comforted but didn't want to nurse.
thanks ladies!
since TMI went out the door at about month 6 for this group, I'll say two things:
I had a once centimeter one degree perineal tear that required two stitches. Doggy style wasn't painful but it was uncomfortable to arch my back.
hilariously, DH says I do feel "slightly bigger" down there. I don't know why but it cracks me up. I wonder what it will be like after baby 2, 3, and maybe 4!
DH was freaked out by sex once the bump came and I think we last had sex at about month 8 so it's been two months since I've had sex. It was amazing!
@AliciaD39 I had a c-section so not sure if this will help but they said 1 year from my c-section date would be optimal before getting pregnant again.
The puffiness lessened for me last time as my skin continued to tighten back up, but some stayed unless my weight was down, as my body decided that its new favorite place to retain water/fat was right above my scar.