Agreed on calling out topics that could be their own thread. I don't think I've ever posted anything that isn't random on here, but this is my go to thread to post anything, so the thought of creating a new thread just never occurs to me. But I can see how people who never participate on this thread miss out on discussions that the whole board could benefit from.
And the reason I love the random thread is I can say things like this: it is almost lunch time and I am waaaay more excited than a person should be about eating. I don't even know what I'm going to pick up but foooood.
I like the monthly random thread because even when I miss a few days (usually don't bump on the weekends) it's all there for me to skim and get caught up on when I get on Monday even if I don't comment on it. I'm pretty sure I'd forget (or be too lazy) to do that if it was more broken out.
I brought a PB&J for lunch, that we bought for my son on Wednesday while out for lunch and he had no interest in. Then I got here and remembered we're having a PIZZA PARTY!! oh yea! oh yea! oh oh oh yea!! I still ate half of the PB&J, obviously.
Someone posted somewhere the name of a child...God, pregnancy brain makes me not able to come up with words..."a child disciplining advice-giver" that they use as their go-to. I think the name was Jane something? I need her. Please. The biting....
@AnnaS930 Yay for pizza parties! Last night at Target I got McKenna some little frozen mini pizzas for lunch today. But I got myself a frozen Auntie Anne's pretzel pocket thingy... it's filled with tons of mozzarella cheese. I cannot wait to eat that thing.
@MrsVoorhees Was it Janet Lansbury? I wasn't the one that recommended her, but with my Amazon registery I got a free parenting e-book. One of hers was on there, and I got it because I've heard people rave about her on here. (Haven't read it yet.)
Eta Or I may be totally wrong, and got mixed up. I'm now doubting myself...
Someone posted somewhere the name of a child...God, pregnancy brain makes me not able to come up with words..."a child disciplining advice-giver" that they use as their go-to. I think the name was Jane something? I need her. Please. The biting....
Was it @PSUBecky23 that posted it? I was trying to think of who was recommended the other day and failed. I really need to write stuff down!
@MrsVoorhees - I think CaMichael is right. The suggestion was for me, not from me.. with my child who enjoyed ripping faces off for a month (we appear to be past it!) and Janet Lansbury was certainly suggested
All the food posts - my appetite this pregnancy isn't anywhere near my normal appetite levels or the levels I had last pregnancy. I hardly ever feel really hungry and I get full quickly. And the only foods I crave are candy and baked goods - both of which I've eaten too much of! And I still have plenty of aversions - not as severe as 1st tri, but it is still annoying and makes meal planning hard. In some ways I feel glad that I don't have the huge pregnant appetite - it has helped keep my weight gain under control. But it also sucks to know that I should be eating but not want to eat anything but cookies and candy...
@Sbrown721Every time I pack exclusively healthy foods for work, I also convince myself it's a great idea to take a lunchtime walk.... to the nearby bakery
@marajay6 - I'm the same way. I just want sweets all the time! Normally I'm all about veggies and lean proteins and healthy grains, but I just can't seem to bring myself to eat those things. I feel so bad for my developing baby, but it's basically eat the sweet foods or don't eat at all. I do try to eat the "healthier" options of what I can tolerate, like maple syrup sweetened oatmeal, but I must admit, they aren't really healthy.
@AnnaS930 it might be worth a 2 hour drive down!! Also, I'm from your neck of the woods originally (came down here for college and never went back), so I love hearing you talk about it up there because it reminds me of home!
I only got to semi-enjoy the pizza party. I couldn't find a box of cheese so I grabbed some veggie pizza. I don't like onions or olives, so I had to pick off 90% of the veggies and with it, most of the cheese (NOOOOO!) but it was still ok. Munching a mini bag of doritos and going back to get a dessert plate. That will make up for it.
I don't know what in the ever-loving-%#*! it is that you're doing in your yard at all hours of the day and night that sounds like you're digging out a tree stump made of solid concrete with some sort of extremely loud machinery, but would you please stop? Please? I can't sleep and the noise is giving me a constant headache.
Sincerely, Your crabby, fed-up pregnant neighbor
Seriously, I'm going insane over here. The noise is unreal. You'd think we had a lumberjacks (power saws, not axes) vs. construction workers competition going on just beyond our backyard.
@MojieJo That sounds terrible! I too am dealing with an annoying neighbor. They leave this huge floodlight on ALL NIGHT and it faces straight into our bedroom. WHY do they need this obscene light on?! We aren't close enough to have a simple conversation about it in passing but I am thinking we might need to one of these days. I hate waking up to pee at night and then not being able to fall asleep because the room is basically lit up!
I'm thinking of starting a baby shower thread (where we share our baby shower experiences/details as they happen). Probably sometime this month. Yay or nay? We have a thread that discusses baby showers but not really our own.
My baby shower random is that a very close friend cannot come because she is planning to go out of town that weekend. "Save the dates" for the shower were sent to hopefully avoid this since I am having a very small one (20 person luncheon). I'm not peeved, I'm just bummed. I really wanted her to come. Maybe I'm being emotional. Also, she didn't even tell me, she just RSVPed to the save the date on Paperless Post which my mom sent out. I never get to see these friends (we just chat/text) since they are in another city so I just wanted it to be a big get together. Sigh. She is not married, does not have children, so I understand she may think of these things differently and might not get that it's important to me but idk, it's my first freakin baby!
@PoodleDoodleOoo - we are planning to fix up the baby's bathroom a bit. For some reason the old owner put wood laminate in their and its not in the best shape. We will replace it will tile and get a new vanity. Should be easy, I have everything I need to tile and its only about a 4x4 area since its a small bath
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@camichael84@Steephers123@AnnaS930 Yes! That's the one! Thank you so much! We get an incident report at daycare almost daily due to biting. It's difficult because she doesn't really do it at home
@MrsVoorhees- Welcome to my world for the past month. My 17 month old son was grabbing the other kids' faces and leaving scratches - any time a mark is left, we have to sign an incident report. It was breaking my heart to also think that the poor scratched up kids and their parents were also signing reports about the incidents. Same boat with it being hard, he doesn't have access to our faces often so how do you reason with a tot not to do something that you aren't witnessing? We would discuss it in the evening but it's nothing like intervening right before it happened. We bought the book "hands are not for hitting" on amazon prime, it was a good way to talk about it at home, there's definitely a "teeth are not for biting" in the same line.
We seem to be coming out of the phase, I think largely due to daycare teachers staying right on top of it and redirecting him when he'd try. First it was tons of scratches, then a few scratches and tons of times they had to intervene, now it seems like neither. It's definitely not an easy position to be in as the parent, I cried at daycare a few times last month signing the reports because I just felt defeated and overwhelmed.
Someone (maybe @JennM205??) here was looking for some quick workouts. This one only takes me maybe 10 minutes, I do it in the living room while we watch TV in the evening and it gets my heart pumping but isn't too much at the same time. I've been trying to do it at least every other day for the past 3 weeks and I can feel a difference for at least doing something (also been getting out for a lot of walks with this nice weather which is contributing).
@mom2adoodle Ugh, that sucks! I think the light might bother me more than the noise does. WTF is with these inconsiderate people?
Our neighbors also love to scream at each other and their son all day long. I don't think they're capable of having normal conversations. Everything is yelled at top volume and in a nasty tone of voice. I don't know what their problem is, but I'm on the verge of losing it.
And on the subject of baby showers, my random is mostly unrelated to me and maybe more of a UO mixed with a FFFC...
A family member is having her second shower for her third child (it's also her second child of the same sex, so not even a situation where she has nothing "gender-appropriate" for the baby) exactly a week before our shower.
She invited DH and I, but I'm refusing to go because I think it's so incredibly tacky and gift-grabby. DH had originally planned on not going, but now he's saying he's going to go and just bring a small gift because of family dynamics (people being petty and not coming to ours if we don't go to hers). She's inviting something like 60 people from our side of the family (and friends). Her last shower was for her husband's side of the family.
Aside from the issue of the tackiness of her shower situation, I'm frustrated for somewhat selfish reasons. (1) People are going to be less inclined to buy us things we need (being first time parents of twins)because they'll be spending money on her (unnecessarily, in my opinion, given her situation) and (2) I'm somewhat afraid people won't come to our shower because they're so close together (plus there's a wedding in the family not long before and a family reunion picnic a few weeks later, and the relative who's getting married just had her wedding shower not long ago, so people might be sick of all these events).
Thatall probably makes me sound selfish and whiny, but I'm extremely frustrated. I can't even tell if I'm a bad person for being upset about this (for our sake; I think I'm justified in thinking the whole thing is tacky).
@MojieJo I don't think people will spend less on you because her shower happens first.
I do think having a shower for your third child is a bit much (and having two HUGE showers is most definitely tacky) so I think you're justified in side eying that situation. But I don't think it will affect you and your shower the way you're worried it will.
Is she also throwing it herself? If so, here's my advice if you want to go the passive aggressive route. Buy one small package of size 6 store brand diapers for her, and then eat more food than those diapers cost, so that your presence is a net loss and she has to hang on to diapers she doesn't want for years.
@AnnaS930 thank you for saying that! It's so hard thinking she's hurting other kids, and may be the "bad kid" at daycare. Plus, I'm sure the other parents think, "why can't she discipline her kid?" because that's the parent reaction when someone hurts your kid. It was really bad about a month ago at 18 months but she's gotten a lot better. I felt so defeated then, I had no idea what to do. They called me one day and said she had bitten 4 kids in an hour. It's frustrating too because I feel like if they would step in sooner it wouldn't come to that, but I can't be sure because I'm not there. And then more guilt and defeated feelings set in. Im buying Teeth Aren't For Biting today! Thank you!!
@mrsvoorhees 1st. We were obviously destined to be bump friends. (Nice username)
Also, I wouldn't sweat the biting thing. As someone who has a toddler and is familiar with the idea that they are wild animals, I don't judge it. It's a normal phase to go through, and if the other children's parents aren't dealing with it now, they likely will be within the year. Do not feel guilty, it is not a reflection of your parenting.
@kimmyschmidt I'm totally open to the idea that I'm worrying too much about how her shower is going to affect us (I have an anxiety disorder and tend to let my fears run away with me), so I honestly appreciate your input.
I've been unsure about whether I'm letting my distaste over the whole situation cloud my judgment on things unrelated to tackiness, so I may need to just let that side of things go and just look forward to enjoying our baby shower.
I think she's throwing it herself since it's at her house and she did the inviting. I like the way you think.
@MrsVoorhees- happy to pay forward some of the amazing support I got here when feeling my lowest about the wild toddler. Also, as others have said.. parents of toddlers are (or should be) pretty understanding. If we got an incident report that another kid had scratched/bitten Emmett I wouldn't be mad at that child or that parent, but rather would hope that daycare would keep a closer eye and try to intervene.
If it were to happen at a playgroup and I was lacking in watching closely enough I might feel guilt, but I'm not feeling bad about what happens at daycare when we're doing our best at home to not promote the behavior. Even if I was watching him at a playgroup.. it happens so fast! They're playing so nice and all jumbled up in a tiny space (especially at daycare) then WHAM! a hit/scratch/shove/bite happens. Maybe out of frustration, maybe for attention, maybe just a lack of self control. It happens.
@KimmySchmidt Hooray for a mutual liking of an awesome show! Definitely destined to be bump friends!
thank you and thank you @AnnaS930 it definitely helps to hear everyone else's experiences!
She just recently started to hug or pat where she bit, so I think she's starting to catch on that it's not okay. We call her a Sour Patch Kid, first she's sour, then she's sweet.
@MrsVoorhees As a former childcare teacher, a biting kid does not equal "the bad kid". I've seen some of the sweetest, happiest kids go through biting stages. I can say the teachers stepping in sooner may not be possible. I'm sure knowing your daughter is a biter, they keep an extra close eye on her, but a 1 to 5 ratio makes it impossible to have a watch on her 100% of the time. To me, though, that is something the parents of the ones getting bitten should understand as well. Biting/scratching is just going to happen when you have a 1 or 2 year old in daycare. The lack of verbal skills causes this because they dont know how to express frustration, anger, excitement, ect. Aside from the teachers keeping a close eye and redirecting (and the book suggestion), another thing I've seen parents do is bring in a teether or blanket for the biter to bite on if they are feeling the urge.
My random today is that I hadn’t seen a difference in my belly pics from weeks 20-22 until I took another one yesterday at 22w6d. The belly really went through a growth spurt! Only crappy thing about that is that it's full of stretch marks that appeared seemingly overnight. Genetics is definitely not on my side. I feel yucky now and uncomfortable letting my DH see me topless. He says he doesn't care, he's really a sweetheart and seems enthralled in the whole me growing a baby is beautiful thing which is awesome, but my mind says otherwise. With all the body image talk on here recently, it bothers me so much that we as women are so programmed to get down on ourselves so easily.
I like the long monthly randoms. No particular reason. I just do.
Calling out (in a friendly-hey! that's a great topic! way) posts in randoms that could/should be new threads sounds like a great idea.
GIVE ME ALL THE FOOD! my appetite for a while was smaller than when I wasn't pregnant. All the sudden now, all I want to do is eat. Too bad the things I want to eat aren't the healthy things...
Three cheers for Friday and a kid who is napping so I can do a little work, eat, do some bumping, eat, do a little reading, eat, and (hopefully) close my eyes for a minute.
@camichael84 that's why I haven't ever said anything to them about stepping in, I think they do when they can or I probably wouldn't have her in daycare there. I've been trying to help her use her words, any advise on how to do that? I don't know if she knows what I'm asking of her. When she whines about a snack but won't tell me what she wants, I try to get her to say "cracker" or "cheese" or whatever before I give it to her. I think maybe I expect results too soon!
Re: May Randoms Thread
Eta Or I may be totally wrong, and got mixed up. I'm now doubting myself...
July: Patriotic Fails
I don't know what in the ever-loving-%#*! it is that you're doing in your yard at all hours of the day and night that sounds like you're digging out a tree stump made of solid concrete with some sort of extremely loud machinery, but would you please stop? Please? I can't sleep and the noise is giving me a constant headache.
Sincerely,
Your crabby, fed-up pregnant neighbor
Seriously, I'm going insane over here. The noise is unreal. You'd think we had a lumberjacks (power saws, not axes) vs. construction workers competition going on just beyond our backyard.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
My baby shower random is that a very close friend cannot come because she is planning to go out of town that weekend. "Save the dates" for the shower were sent to hopefully avoid this since I am having a very small one (20 person luncheon). I'm not peeved, I'm just bummed. I really wanted her to come. Maybe I'm being emotional. Also, she didn't even tell me, she just RSVPed to the save the date on Paperless Post which my mom sent out. I never get to see these friends (we just chat/text) since they are in another city so I just wanted it to be a big get together. Sigh. She is not married, does not have children, so I understand she may think of these things differently and might not get that it's important to me but idk, it's my first freakin baby!
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Yes! That's the one! Thank you so much! We get an incident report at daycare almost daily due to biting. It's difficult because she doesn't really do it at home
Same boat with it being hard, he doesn't have access to our faces often so how do you reason with a tot not to do something that you aren't witnessing? We would discuss it in the evening but it's nothing like intervening right before it happened. We bought the book "hands are not for hitting" on amazon prime, it was a good way to talk about it at home, there's definitely a "teeth are not for biting" in the same line.
We seem to be coming out of the phase, I think largely due to daycare teachers staying right on top of it and redirecting him when he'd try. First it was tons of scratches, then a few scratches and tons of times they had to intervene, now it seems like neither. It's definitely not an easy position to be in as the parent, I cried at daycare a few times last month signing the reports because I just felt defeated and overwhelmed.
Hang in there, it will pass!!!
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Our neighbors also love to scream at each other and their son all day long. I don't think they're capable of having normal conversations. Everything is yelled at top volume and in a nasty tone of voice. I don't know what their problem is, but I'm on the verge of losing it.
And on the subject of baby showers, my random is mostly unrelated to me and maybe more of a UO mixed with a FFFC...
A family member is having her second shower for her third child (it's also her second child of the same sex, so not even a situation where she has nothing "gender-appropriate" for the baby) exactly a week before our shower.
She invited DH and I, but I'm refusing to go because I think it's so incredibly tacky and gift-grabby. DH had originally planned on not going, but now he's saying he's going to go and just bring a small gift because of family dynamics (people being petty and not coming to ours if we don't go to hers). She's inviting something like 60 people from our side of the family (and friends). Her last shower was for her husband's side of the family.
Aside from the issue of the tackiness of her shower situation, I'm frustrated for somewhat selfish reasons. (1) People are going to be less inclined to buy us things we need (being first time parents of twins) because they'll be spending money on her (unnecessarily, in my opinion, given her situation) and (2) I'm somewhat afraid people won't come to our shower because they're so close together (plus there's a wedding in the family not long before and a family reunion picnic a few weeks later, and the relative who's getting married just had her wedding shower not long ago, so people might be sick of all these events).
That all probably makes me sound selfish and whiny, but I'm extremely frustrated. I can't even tell if I'm a bad person for being upset about this (for our sake; I think I'm justified in thinking the whole thing is tacky).
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
I do think having a shower for your third child is a bit much (and having two HUGE showers is most definitely tacky) so I think you're justified in side eying that situation. But I don't think it will affect you and your shower the way you're worried it will.
Is she also throwing it herself? If so, here's my advice if you want to go the passive aggressive route. Buy one small package of size 6 store brand diapers for her, and then eat more food than those diapers cost, so that your presence is a net loss and she has to hang on to diapers she doesn't want for years.
Also, I wouldn't sweat the biting thing. As someone who has a toddler and is familiar with the idea that they are wild animals, I don't judge it. It's a normal phase to go through, and if the other children's parents aren't dealing with it now, they likely will be within the year. Do not feel guilty, it is not a reflection of your parenting.
I've been unsure about whether I'm letting my distaste over the whole situation cloud my judgment on things unrelated to tackiness, so I may need to just let that side of things go and just look forward to enjoying our baby shower.
I think she's throwing it herself since it's at her house and she did the inviting. I like the way you think.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
If it were to happen at a playgroup and I was lacking in watching closely enough I might feel guilt, but I'm not feeling bad about what happens at daycare when we're doing our best at home to not promote the behavior. Even if I was watching him at a playgroup.. it happens so fast! They're playing so nice and all jumbled up in a tiny space (especially at daycare) then WHAM! a hit/scratch/shove/bite happens. Maybe out of frustration, maybe for attention, maybe just a lack of self control. It happens.
thank you and thank you @AnnaS930 it definitely helps to hear everyone else's experiences!
She just recently started to hug or pat where she bit, so I think she's starting to catch on that it's not okay. We call her a Sour Patch Kid, first she's sour, then she's sweet.
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I like the long monthly randoms. No particular reason. I just do.
Calling out (in a friendly-hey! that's a great topic! way) posts in randoms that could/should be new threads sounds like a great idea.
GIVE ME ALL THE FOOD! my appetite for a while was smaller than when I wasn't pregnant. All the sudden now, all I want to do is eat. Too bad the things I want to eat aren't the healthy things...
Three cheers for Friday and a kid who is napping so I can do a little work, eat, do some bumping, eat, do a little reading, eat, and (hopefully) close my eyes for a minute.