Add me to the butt sweat camp. I can't remember if it happened last time, but I finding sweat spots often this time. I also freaked out the first time it happened, worrying it was my waters because I had been laying down. Nope, just extreme butt sweat.
UPS just emailed me.. my dresser has been delivered!!! We now have all of the nursery furniture... woop woop!! Although we're using the changing table and glider from Emmett's room, so we won't move those until the very end of pregnancy.. but I think I'll be putting together the crib and dresser in the next week or two as we finish moving the bed and other spare bedroom furniture out!
SarahDarah333 I do the same thing with the scale. I weigh myself everyday but I don't let it affect my mood. I have done it for years. Even before I was pregnant I have been one of those people that NEVER feels full. So by weighing myself it helps keep me in check. If I weigh myself one morning and I am up 2lbs, I might skip the cake and cookies and eat a few more carrots that day!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Apologies ladies, all my comments are completely random:
Love the smell of lilacs but wish that they didn't make me sneeze. Stupid seasonal allergies!
My city has food trucks in the summer and my office building is now a daily spot on their schedule. My tummy is very happy with the ever changing culinary options available. A bacon brownie with my schnitzel burger? Why yes, please!
On a more serious note, another girl in my office who is 33 weeks pregnant has just been diagnosed and hospitalized with PKD and apparently there is a risk of her baby not surviving long last birth. I have never even heard of this before and will have to research it. It's hard to not get scared when I hear these stories. I am sending her as many positive thoughts as I can and counting down the days to my a/s on Wednesday next week. I can't imagine the stress she is under right now.
Speaking of moving your glider from one child's room to another... We didn't have a glider with DD. I wanted one but didn't want to spend the money and, at the time, we lived in a tiny, tiny house so the walk from her bedroom (or ours) to the living room recliner was less than ten steps. Now, we live in a much larger two-story house so using the downstairs recliner for late-night feeding, rocking, etc is unrealistic. We found a super good deal on a glider at a consignment store and scooped it right up about a month ago! Since we don't have use for it in the nursery (which is also currently being remodeled), we put it in DD's room. Now, I LOVE having it in there and couldn't imagine not having it...! We read/rock before bed every night. On weekdays, when we have to wake her early to go to daycare, I scoop her out of bed and rock/sing her awake gently. So now I'm going to be sad to take it out of her room to move to the nursery when the time comes, haha!
@geminigirl16 I'm so sorry to hear about your coworker. I hope that everything turns out okay for her and her baby. For your peace of mind, PKD is a hereditary genetic disorder, so unless you have family history it is unlikely your LO will have it. Also, it is definitely a manageable condition, with proper diet and medical intervention. Out of curiosity, and you may not know this, does she have PKD, or is it her baby that has been diagnosed?
@Jabreen Thanks for the information, I am so happy to hear that it is a manageable condition. Based on what we've been told so far is that it is the baby that has it. She is meeting with doctors to determine a treatment plan. We are all really hoping that this ends positively for her - she's really sweet and it's her first baby.
@geminigirl16 I'm glad she's meeting with the doctors already. Obviously prognosis will depend on how severe the baby's case is, and which type of PKD, and it there are definitely hard days ahead, but plenty of people with PKD live long lives. If you're curious, here's a quick overview of the condition. https://www.pkdcure.org/document.doc?id=466
@JennM205 Is it possible to get another one for the baby and keep the one you have in your daughter's room? That is what I would do, but I'm not the most conservative of people when it comes to buying things.
We are actually going to keep the glider in our room this time. We used it all the time with McKenna when it was in our room, but about two months after it went to her room, it became the place to throw things onto, and we just used (still use) the livingroom recliner. I also like the idea of not taking up space in her room with the glider because our 2nd and 3rd bedrooms aren't very big. I hadn't realized how much space it really took up until we moved it out of McKenna's room to make room for her play kitchen.
Today at work someone brought in bagels for breakfast, then we had a carnival type thing and I got chik-fil-a and a giant snocone. Then I realized it was cake day...of course I had everything on top of my regular food, and now I feel a little bit sick. oops
@camichael84 and @JennM205We used the glider so much in the first few months for MOTN feedings. Since then it gets used about once every 3 or 4 months if little man needs a quick rock during the night. We do story time in the living room before going up to tubby, PJs, bed. The nursery will have a futon in it still and I hope when the kiddos are both toddlers that we will do family story night up in that room on the futon before bed.. I can't wait!
I slept from 10pm-6am last night and I'm just having one of those exhausting days (I feel like I could fall asleep at my desk) and I keep thinking of you STMs. It's hard to imagine having to wake up, take care of baby, get ready for work, get baby to daycare, and get myself to work. I am so slow in the morning (hour and 15 minutes from waking up to being out the door) that I can't imagine how early I'll have to be up with a baby around as well! Not to mention all of the baby activities after work!
Anyway, you STM ladies are awesome and I hope you're proud of yourselves! That's all.
@Sbrown721 I agree! I can't imagine being pregnant PLUS having a little one at home to care for! My routine basically consists of sleeping in as late as possible. Feeding Fred. Putting on whatever clothes is on top of the "clean" pile and happens to fit. Contemplating brushing my hair before leaving for work and deciding there is NO TIME. Grabbing my pre-packed snacks (and often forgetting) and getting my booty out the door for work. I can't imagine adding the care of a child while I'm so exhausted and feel like I'm barely able to take care of myself! So to all you STMs.
@Sbrown721- I found it really daunting as well. Maternity leave the mornings were easy, but how on earth would I get myself and baby out the door in the mornings? When I first went back to work I would wake around 5am to make sure I had time to shower and brush my teeth/put a face on before little one woke. Then I'd get him fed and put in a swing (at his youngest.. 10 weeks) that I had near the kitchen while I finished getting ready for the day. Packing bottles the night before, and my lunch made a world of difference.
Now we've been at this routine for over a year. I wake up around 6-6:30 depending on when I roll out of bed and into the shower, but little man is content to hang out in his crib after he wakes up and adjusts to the day. I wake him, dress him and let him run around with a sippy cup of milk while I pack myself a lunch. Daycare feeds him 2 meals and a snack so I literally have nothing to pack for him and don't have to feed him breakfast (some days he has some cheerios or a breakfast bar before we head out the door) and we somehow get him to daycare semi on-time, and I roll into work semi-on time.. usually with wet hair and in desperate need of coffee and/or breakfast.
That's a really really drawn out example and response that basically says - you'll make it work! It all becomes routine, but I was extremely anxious about it for the first couple months back to work. Now I'm trying to picture mashing our current routine with the newborn routine and wondering how I'll manage.. but I'll do just that. I'll manage.
@AnnaS930 that's what I think will happen to the rest of us FTMs and even those like you who are jumping from one to multiple kids.
Your outline made me wonder though since you said you get up, you pack the bottles/meals, etc. How many moms on here do/or plan on doing all the getting ready with the kiddos in the morning? My DH is NOT a morning person but because of when daycare opens and when I have to be to work he'll be responsible for dropping the baby off at daycare. I plan on having baby ready and their pack stuffed and stocked for him to just grab on the way out the door....because in all reality I worry simply having the task of dropping the kid off might be too much for his morning brain to remember. Anyone else have a DH or worry like this?
@LakeR2014 I'm your DH in our situation. I am NOT a morning person - my DH is. He has been in charge of DD's morning routine since I went back to work nearly 2.5 years ago. I help out when she's having a rough morning or when I have extra time but the bulk of the morning responsibility is his. (This is also partially because he worked so late in the evenings, he took the morning duties and I took the evening ones.) Honestly, he's a Saint. I'm lucky to have him - but I also have to be careful not to take advantage.
I think that the DHs will get into the routine of it pretty quickly (you'll be packing the same things every day and a lot of stuff will just stay at the daycare in their cubby). I am worried about the amount of time it'll take to breastfeed in the morning and having to pump at work.
@LakeR2014 my husband leaves for work at 5:15am so mornings will be all on me. I've got a good routine down now with getting myself up and ready before waking my daughter up in the morning, then sticking her in front of the TV with breakfast while I get everything else done. The thought of getting two children up and out the door by myself is terrifying, especially on the days that Reese decides her feet don't work or she doesn't want to wear her coat or any number of ridiculous three year old excuses. Hopefully by then my daughter will be able to dress herself. She's getting there. Too bad she isn't freaking potty trained.
@lovelylauren86 - At that point I kind want to say, "Well done young man!". I mean, let's be honest, it takes true talent to accomplish that in such a short amount of time.
Oh, @lovelylauren86 ! I Feel your pain! It's amazing what a toddler left alone for a few minutes can accomplish!
catching up: yes to lilacs! Ours is blooming. Love. Need to clip some blooms and bring them inside.
Shoot. There was more. I forgot what.
Just packed up my lo's old clothes to sell. I am proud of myself for only keeping like 5 outfits from his early days as keepsakes. Now I just hope once upon a child buys most of this so I can have a nice fund for baby girl's wardrobe!
DH is definitely not a morning person and I never was but kind of converted to one since someone had to with DS. DH is barely awake before DS and I are out the door at 6:45am. I've always been type to be able to get up and be out the door in 30 mins or less, and 30 min was when I would shower in the AM. Somehow DS and I manage to get up and out the door in 20-30 minutes every morning. Granted, my hair is 99% of the time in a ponytail(shower the night before) and I rarely have the motivation for makeup (okay never), but I like my sleep way too much to wake up any earlier than I absolutely have to. I've figured out exactly how much time I need to get the 2 of us ready and a lot of mornings we are a little rushed. If DH had to get DS to daycare, I can only imagine the chaos. My work is super strict about clock in times so I'm always super jealous of those who can be a few minutes late and it not matter. I'm really looking forward to staying at home when DD is born, I'm getting my license to run a home daycare and the thought of not being rushed in the morning sounds like heaven.
Anybody have any opinions on HMO insurance plans? We're in the process of reviewing insurance options with DH's new job and the best plan seems to be an HMO (just have to make sure my doctor and hospital are in network). I'm a little wary because I've never had an HMO before...and also the whole "PCP refers to you to everything else in order to get preapproval" thing throws me off...especially when I'm already halfway through a pregnancy and have a relationship established with my provider. Any insights??
@JennM205 I'm interested in hearing responses to this as well, in fact I was going to make a post about it.
@Sporty1216 let me know how you make out! I'm thinking about doing the same thing. I know it sounds weird, but I'm really attached to my sons clothing. I like how you kept some outfits
@LakeR2014 - we actually split the morning routine pretty evenly. DH gets up and showers while I sleep in a bit more. I've always needed more sleep than him and now that I am pregnant it is much worse! Once he is ready, he goes to the kitchen and starts making DS's bottle while I get out of bed and use the bathroom. We then wake DS up together - he wakes up so happy and my husband says that it starts his day off on a high note. I then get DS ready: change diaper, feed bottle, put on clothes. At the same time, my husband finishes getting himself ready, gets DS's stuff packed for daycare, and usually finds time to unload the dishwasher. DH then takes DS to daycare and heads off to work. It gives me about 45 minutes to myself to get ready before I have to leave the house for work. Back when I was still breastfeeding, the routine was more or less the same except I would wake up earlier and get DS up and start feeding him before DH got out of the shower.
Yea, my husband is not helpful whatsoever to get DS ready for the day or if we're going somewhere. I'm fortunate that our parents watch him in our house, but back when I was nursing I'd get up an hour earlier, pump, clean pump parts, make sure bottles/food were prepared, typically take care of some sort of laundry, and then could get ready myself. He'd roll out of bed, get ready for work, and leave. So annoying.
@LakeR2014 I will clarify, for the first 6 months or so of baby #1 my husband was working a 4am-1230pm shift so I was alone for mornings, and husband would get baby from daycare and have the afternoon together until I'd get home. He now works a rotating schedule so he's around for a morning or two per week. He's totally capable of getting the little man to daycare and mornings we are both here are rare but easier because we can tag team a lot of morning activities!
I'm also a person who rarely asks for help until I'm drowning, but I'm working on that!!
@JennM205 I have an HMO right now, and it works well. Usually, you won't need to be referred to your OB, it is only if you need a specialist. (Of course, this all depends on the plan...) I have even listed my OB as my PCP in the past. I now have a family doctor as my PCP, and I see my OB for all things baby related. It's nice having a family practice doc when something like strep of bronchitis comes up...my OB doesn't know a whole lot about some of the nuances of antibiotics, or some other medicines I need to take.
I have to see a pulmonologist, and it hasn't been a problem. I DID get nailed with some high bills for one specialist, though...It all just depends, I suppose.
HMOs seem to be fine, but it's good to have a solid relationship with your PCP. If they know who you are, they'll be less hesitant to refer you when necessary.
Will do, @RedMar ! I'm attached to it too--but realized I had to let it go to make room (and funds!) for baby girl's clothes. I just told myself I could keep anything that was too hard. And when it came down to it, that was about five things: the first sleeper he wore in the hospital, the outfit he came home in, his baptism outfit, one other sleeper I just always loved, and some striped railroad engineer overalls that he just grew out of, but carry great memories. I also kept a bunch of neutral stuff to use for baby girl.
@JennM205 I'm certified in medical billing and coding, and I've seen a lot of different insurance plans. HMOs don't seem to bother most people, and as a previous poster mentioned you generally only need the referral for a specialist. Also, a lot of doctors aren't particularly stringent about reauirements to give you a referral for something like a pregnancy. Honestly, good insurance is very difficult to come by in the US right now since the big insurers responded to Obamacare by gutting all of their policies and raising deductibles and prices. So, if something looks like a good deal for the most part right now I'd take it.
@JennM205 I haven't had the best experience with HMOs but they're not bad if you're and "average user". I had an HMO when I was going through getting a diagnosis for a rare muscle disease and I had to see many specialists. I have a great relationship with my PCP but things still got messed up either in the specialist's office or by the insurance. I can't tell you how many times I heard "we don't have that referral". One time my doctor referred me to a specialist and their office scheduled me with the first available person and not the one I was referred to... nightmare. I didn't need a referral for my OB at all, since it's only for specialists, and there was a list of other doctors I didn't need to be referred to.
Bottom line, my insurance company is huge but it's not the best, and I don't think you'd have a problem. I don't think the HMO was the problem, I think it was a combination of the insurance company itself and the doctor's offices. I still opted to not get an HMO this time around.
does anyone one know if I can reuse my toddlers crib mattress? We purchased it in 2013 and she slept on it until this year when we changed her in a big girl. I didn't know if there were guidelines for this?
I was thinking we would just get a new mattress for new baby but DH said to reuse this one.
@Sbrown721 I am with you on that. I am pretty slow to rise in the morning and get ready for work. For the last two years I have been working an 11:30am to 8pm schedule and I rarely can get my butt out of bed before 8. I guess that is going to have to change soon
I can't remember who even asked this at this point but mornings are all on me. My husband leaves by 530 at the latest (this morning was 4!). Now that my son sleeps until 7ish it isn't bad. I try to get showered before he gets up but if I don't he will play in the bathroom with me. The key is to get as much ready (lunches and bags packed, clothes laid out, etc) the night before so you don't have to rush to find stuff.
I am so incredibly angry right now. My sister flew down today as a surprise to my mom for a belated Mother's Day. We had plans to go to dinner when my dad and husband got off work. My dad managed to leave work early and came home to hang out with my sister and me before mom came home. He is a smoker and they smoke inside, he will step outside or go to his office to smoke if anyone is around that is bothered by smoke. Everyone except me. Since I am his daughter, apparently I don't deserve the respect. Even now that I'm pregnant, he will only go outside of my mom makes him. So as we are hanging out, he smoked 5 cigarettes while sitting right next to me. Fast forward an hour or so later, we are out at dinner and they decided to order wine. He automatically counted me in and when I said no he asked why. I replied "well I'm pregnant and doctors say no alcohol" and his response was "well that's stupid, your mother drank and you and your sister are fine" well she also smoked and they say that's not good at all now, and ultimately, it's my body, my baby and my fucking choice! He kept trying to argue so I asked my husband to call us a lyft or uber so we could get back to my parents where our cars were. At that point, my mom also got up and we all left. I was fuming and I told my mom to tell him that if he keeps up this "doctors are exaggerating" bullshit he will lose the chance to see the baby and the baby will not come to their house or stay there. And to top it off, my car almost ran out of gas while I was stuck in traffic of the people going to the stupid Beyoncé concert. sorty for giant wall of text. I needed to vent
Re: May Randoms Thread
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Love the smell of lilacs but wish that they didn't make me sneeze. Stupid seasonal allergies!
My city has food trucks in the summer and my office building is now a daily spot on their schedule. My tummy is very happy with the ever changing culinary options available. A bacon brownie with my schnitzel burger? Why yes, please!
On a more serious note, another girl in my office who is 33 weeks pregnant has just been diagnosed and hospitalized with PKD and apparently there is a risk of her baby not surviving long last birth. I have never even heard of this before and will have to research it. It's hard to not get scared when I hear these stories. I am sending her as many positive thoughts as I can and counting down the days to my a/s on Wednesday next week. I can't imagine the stress she is under right now.
We are actually going to keep the glider in our room this time. We used it all the time with McKenna when it was in our room, but about two months after it went to her room, it became the place to throw things onto, and we just used (still use) the livingroom recliner. I also like the idea of not taking up space in her room with the glider because our 2nd and 3rd bedrooms aren't very big. I hadn't realized how much space it really took up until we moved it out of McKenna's room to make room for her play kitchen.
July: Patriotic Fails
Anyway, you STM ladies are awesome and I hope you're proud of yourselves! That's all.
Now we've been at this routine for over a year. I wake up around 6-6:30 depending on when I roll out of bed and into the shower, but little man is content to hang out in his crib after he wakes up and adjusts to the day. I wake him, dress him and let him run around with a sippy cup of milk while I pack myself a lunch. Daycare feeds him 2 meals and a snack so I literally have nothing to pack for him and don't have to feed him breakfast (some days he has some cheerios or a breakfast bar before we head out the door) and we somehow get him to daycare semi on-time, and I roll into work semi-on time.. usually with wet hair and in desperate need of coffee and/or breakfast.
That's a really really drawn out example and response that basically says - you'll make it work! It all becomes routine, but I was extremely anxious about it for the first couple months back to work. Now I'm trying to picture mashing our current routine with the newborn routine and wondering how I'll manage.. but I'll do just that. I'll manage.
Your outline made me wonder though since you said you get up, you pack the bottles/meals, etc. How many moms on here do/or plan on doing all the getting ready with the kiddos in the morning? My DH is NOT a morning person but because of when daycare opens and when I have to be to work he'll be responsible for dropping the baby off at daycare. I plan on having baby ready and their pack stuffed and stocked for him to just grab on the way out the door....because in all reality I worry simply having the task of dropping the kid off might be too much for his morning brain to remember. Anyone else have a DH or worry like this?
I just had to poop!!!
catching up: yes to lilacs! Ours is blooming. Love. Need to clip some blooms and bring them inside.
Shoot. There was more. I forgot what.
Just packed up my lo's old clothes to sell. I am proud of myself for only keeping like 5 outfits from his early days as keepsakes. Now I just hope once upon a child buys most of this so I can have a nice fund for baby girl's wardrobe!
@Sporty1216 let me know how you make out! I'm thinking about doing the same thing. I know it sounds weird, but I'm really attached to my sons clothing. I like how you kept some outfits
I'm also a person who rarely asks for help until I'm drowning, but I'm working on that!!
I have to see a pulmonologist, and it hasn't been a problem. I DID get nailed with some high bills for one specialist, though...It all just depends, I suppose.
HMOs seem to be fine, but it's good to have a solid relationship with your PCP. If they know who you are, they'll be less hesitant to refer you when necessary.
Bottom line, my insurance company is huge but it's not the best, and I don't think you'd have a problem. I don't think the HMO was the problem, I think it was a combination of the insurance company itself and the doctor's offices. I still opted to not get an HMO this time around.
does anyone one know if I can reuse my toddlers crib mattress? We purchased it in 2013 and she slept on it until this year when we changed her in a big girl. I didn't know if there were guidelines for this?
I was thinking we would just get a new mattress for new baby but DH said to reuse this one.
Edit bc I can't spell
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
And to top it off, my car almost ran out of gas while I was stuck in traffic of the people going to the stupid Beyoncé concert.
sorty for giant wall of text. I needed to vent