Awkward questions & comments said to you when you announced

runningmama14

One friend made the Valentine's comment to us, but her math is flawed. We conceived a little over a week later. I didn't correct her.

iheartscraps

Aren't you too old?  You're 41.  Thanks *&^%^ pooo pooo head, yes I know my age... It bothers me that people don't know your story but will judge you.  

Its fine, I don't really like people I work with anyway!

mamatohne

Yesterday I got a "you know what causes that right?"

crystaldh

My grandma told me that when she told one of my cousins, she said, "How did THAT happen?" 

I get it, I went through a year of fertility treatments with no luck and I'm 38, so I can see how she may think I'm infertile. Even I was starting to believe I was infertile, but STILL....what a comment.

Sarahbeth612

LadyBird9 said:

I haven't had any awkward or rude questions yet - but I didn't like it when I chose to tell certain people early, and they reminded me that I shouldn't be telling people so early just in case something happens.

I know bad shit can happen, and I chose to tell you because I'd tell you if something bad happened.  It rubbed me the wrong way when a miscarriage was the first thing they thought about when I told them I was pregnant!

Oh well... 

I wish more people would consider this.  Did you say this to anyone?

I feel like its so old fashioned that a woman should hide her pregnancy as if it is shameful, and then should something unfortunate happen, have to deal with it in solitude without support.  

On the flip side, I've had to "un-tell" a lot of people when my MMC occurred and it sucked.  We still haven't told anyone outside of close family and friends, but the ones who know are people I need support from regardless the outcome.

mizzjeffers0n

I haven't told my mom because shes too negative she probably say why you don't need anymore kids she says this like she helped financially Or ever baby sat. I'm sure she knows now but she didn't here it from me, the crazy part is that I don't talk to her and she's the first person to call me to tell me that my grandfather just passed and said nothing to me about my pregnancy.

tylerkingrn

My father in law said "I guess DH hasn't been TOO busy at work" and "how does that work exactly when you co-sleep with your kid? Did you go in another room?" I was mortified.

FirstBabyDoyle

Dang @tylerkingrn‌ that is pretty mortifying. Not to be a rude asshole, but bc I am considering a side-sleeper or even co-sleeping for a while. Does it affect the sex life greatly? That's DHs major hang up.

mussalynn

I have a cute story from when I was pregnant with DS.  We went out for dinner with my brother, SIL and my niece to tell them the news.  My niece was 4 at the time, and I told her I wanted to tell her something so I whispered in her ear "Aunty has a baby in her belly".  She looked at me kind of confused, went back over and sat between her mom and dad for a while, looking at me confused and then whispered really quietly to her mom "I have a question".  My SIL is like "okay honey, what's your question?" and she blurts out really loud "Aunty how did the baby get in your belly????"

It was super adorable, and my brother and SIL were like "whaaaattt!!!" We couldn't have planned it better. 

missnacholover

My nephews have given me some funny comments.  One (9 years old) requested a girl because he already has 2 boy cousins.  "Aunt MissNachoLover, can you make sure your baby is a GIRL?"  Haha.

The other one, 6 years old, asked me to make sure there is only one baby in there because "two babies at one time sounds like A LOT of work."

So cute.

laheath28

From my boss:

"HEATHER!!! No that's great, congrats!....awww, but you just got so skinny again, too!!"

...I had a baby Jan 13 and got to super skinny status from nursing for 14 months. Not the reaction I was looking for. She also took it upon herself to send a schoolwide email to all staff announcing my pregnancy when I said I was not making a big announcement. 

missnacholover

laheath28 said:

From my boss:

"HEATHER!!! No that's great, congrats!....awww, but you just got so skinny again, too!!"

...I had a baby Jan 13 and got to super skinny status from nursing for 14 months. Not the reaction I was looking for. She also took it upon herself to send a schoolwide email to all staff announcing my pregnancy when I said I was not making a big announcement. 

I hate, hate, hate when people share other people's life news.  So fucking obnoxious.

suzyrenee

missnacholover said:

laheath28 said:

From my boss:

"HEATHER!!! No that's great, congrats!....awww, but you just got so skinny again, too!!"

...I had a baby Jan 13 and got to super skinny status from nursing for 14 months. Not the reaction I was looking for. She also took it upon herself to send a schoolwide email to all staff announcing my pregnancy when I said I was not making a big announcement. 

I hate, hate, hate when people share other people's life news.  So fucking obnoxious.

One of my good friends/coworker told my boss that I was pregnant. She did it out of excitement, not maliciously, but it really upset me. 

missnacholover

suzyrenee said:

missnacholover said:

laheath28 said:

From my boss:

"HEATHER!!! No that's great, congrats!....awww, but you just got so skinny again, too!!"

...I had a baby Jan 13 and got to super skinny status from nursing for 14 months. Not the reaction I was looking for. She also took it upon herself to send a schoolwide email to all staff announcing my pregnancy when I said I was not making a big announcement. 

I hate, hate, hate when people share other people's life news.  So fucking obnoxious.

One of my good friends/coworker told my boss that I was pregnant. She did it out of excitement, not maliciously, but it really upset me. 

I think that's usually the case, but I still would never dream of sharing someone's news, no matter how excited I am for them!  Just not cool.  this really pisses me off on facebook!!!

hjenni

I had someone I barely know today ask me how far along I was and I said 14 weeks. She then said "Damn are you sure it's not twins? That's kind of big for 14 weeks." Ugh! Everyone carries differently but thanks so much for the input!

hjenni

Whoops! probably not the right thread to post that since it didn't happen when I announced. Sorry! But it was awkward

cbiewer

Not a birth announcement per se, but when I mentioned that we were trying for our second child MIL's ex-boyfriend said he felt bad for DH b/c he will be tied down.

Ummm, WTF? Because having one kid isn't having too much commitment but two, then the world's over?

I ended the conversation there. 

tylerkingrn

@FirstBabyDoyle‌ Yeah a little bit. I have more of an issue than DH but we make it work!

maebee87

"How far along are you? 13 and half weeks. Oh so your keeping it then?"- My Mother in law.

runningmama14

maebee87 said:

"How far along are you? 13 and half weeks. Oh so your keeping it then?"- My Mother in law.

Holy mother, that would have set off uncontrolled pregnancy rage at my house.

maebee87

Yeah it was happy to raging bitch as soon as I picked my jaw up off the floor. 

We have a tense relationship.

DH's 29, I'm 27, been together for 6 years, married 2 and there has been zero love from MIL along the way, guess our baby won't be getting any either.

RachelC79

Announced to my folks and DH's brother and wife this weekend! From SIL got our first "was it planned?" (no, after being married for 10 years and together for 16.)

From my mother, with whom I am NOT close at all, "When do I get to throw MY shower?" and "If the OB tells you you can't fly after 33 weeks or so, maybe you could just drive to visit us before you give birth!" (it's a 20 hour drive, Mom. Not going to happen.)

mussalynn

maebee87 said:

"How far along are you? 13 and half weeks. Oh so your keeping it then?"- My Mother in law.

What the actual fuck.  ( @Maelara - stole that one from you.  It's my favourite new saying.)

hjenni

ClrkKntismyAE said:

A guy FI used to work with was recently told I was pregnant again (DD is 16 months). He looked at me and said, "One word: Condoms. Learn how to use them." I honestly couldn't form the words to reply. I might have even done to fish thing with my mouth. I ended up just walking away.

I would have punched this guy in the penis! How rude! This got me particularly riled up as it reminds me of one of DH's friends. It's hard because it's his only friend that I don't like. He's always so rude when he comes to the house! Anywho, I think you handled that better than I would have. 

hjenni

ClrkKntismyAE said:

@hjenni I was holding DD and his wife has standing next to him holding their DS who is around two. I figured any of the responses I was considering would have upset the babies, so I just left. Penis punching would have been satisfying though. FI ended up telling him that if we didn't want a baby then I wouldn't be pregnant. The guy still didn't think he was out of line. On the contrary, he thinks he is hilarious.  8-|

Oy he sounds like a moron. Probably good you didn't say anything with the kiddies around lol. Good on FI though for standing up for you in a classy way!

Mimihuff

We haven't announced yet, but there are rumors going around at my place of work. Someone is announcing that I have a baby bump. I'm only 12 weeks & I'm not showing yet. I just wish people would mind their own business. It doesn't concern them, so why do they feel the need to spread rumors & gossip? She's not wrong, but she needs to keep it to herself instead of announcing it to others like she knows.

runningmama14

Mimihuff said:

We haven't announced yet, but there are rumors going around at my place of work. Someone is announcing that I have a baby bump. I'm only 12 weeks & I'm not showing yet. I just wish people would mind their own business. It doesn't concern them, so why do they feel the need to spread rumors & gossip? She's not wrong, but she needs to keep it to herself instead of announcing it to others like she knows.

Makes it seem like you are a celebrity in a gossip magazine!

Mimihuff

Well the girl doesn't think before she speaks, so I shouldn't be so upset. I do want to punch her right in the mouth though. Think I would get fired for that?

snarkylibrarian

Coworker: "You look great for being pregnant! Are you sure you're pregnant, because you don't look like it!" (Ummmm, I'm only 12 weeks, of course I don't look pregnant or did you expect my head to be in the toilet the whole time?)

Another coworker: "Was it planned?" (Yes) "Are you happy?" (No, I just wanted to get pregnant for an exercise in masochism...of course I'm happy, if I wanted it!)

Dad "About damn time. I wasn't sure if your husband was up to the task" (all kinds of WTF!)

Brother "So you're due around the same time that Weston (my nephew) was due, that means....ughhhhh gross! Nevermind!"

Maelara

snarkylibrarian said:

Coworker: "You look great for being pregnant! Are you sure you're pregnant, because you don't look like it!" (Ummmm, I'm only 12 weeks, of course I don't look pregnant or did you expect my head to be in the toilet the whole time?)

Another coworker: "Was it planned?" (Yes) "Are you happy?" (No, I just wanted to get pregnant for an exercise in masochism...of course I'm happy, if I wanted it!)

Dad "About damn time. I wasn't sure if your husband was up to the task" (all kinds of WTF!)

Brother "So you're due around the same time that Weston (my nephew) was due, that means....ughhhhh gross! Nevermind!"

This reminded me of one from my first pregnancy. We had just told the inlaws and they knew we were trying so we got a 'finally! I was going to start giving you pointers' from my MIL. She knew I was having issues with my birth control because it seriously messed me up. They had a blow by blow, they knew about our troubles. It really pissed me off and hurt my feeling. I can't help what my body does.

missnacholover

So I know this thread's been snoozing for over a week, but I have a funny one.

DH called his friend to tell him we are expecting.  Friend says congrats and then asks if we are going to have the baby up in Delaware (Where we're from).  DH was like, "uhhhh, no, we live in NC and MissNachoLover's docs and stuff are down here." 

I really think our friends and family haven't accepted that we moved and aren't coming back.  It's been 5 years, folks!!!

runningmama14

Only a man would think that you would travel that far to have a baby.

missnacholover

runningmama14 said:

Only a man would think that you would travel that far to have a baby.

DH and I were cracking up.  We were like, "Totally.  I mean, people do destination weddings, why not do a destination birth!"

mommymeg143

Ooooo...I want one of those.   I think Hawaii would be a perfect place to have a baby.   Calling DH now...  

wildflower75

My boss said: "that's fine"

A co-worker said: "AGAIN????"

And a friend's teenage son said: "Another one???"

mussalynn

Maelara said:

snarkylibrarian said:

Coworker: "You look great for being pregnant! Are you sure you're pregnant, because you don't look like it!" (Ummmm, I'm only 12 weeks, of course I don't look pregnant or did you expect my head to be in the toilet the whole time?)

Another coworker: "Was it planned?" (Yes) "Are you happy?" (No, I just wanted to get pregnant for an exercise in masochism...of course I'm happy, if I wanted it!)

Dad "About damn time. I wasn't sure if your husband was up to the task" (all kinds of WTF!)

Brother "So you're due around the same time that Weston (my nephew) was due, that means....ughhhhh gross! Nevermind!"

This reminded me of one from my first pregnancy. We had just told the inlaws and they knew we were trying so we got a 'finally! I was going to start giving you pointers' from my MIL. She knew I was having issues with my birth control because it seriously messed me up. They had a blow by blow, they knew about our troubles. It really pissed me off and hurt my feeling. I can't help what my body does.

@Maelara - I don't know if this was a typo or you did it on purpose, but it totally made me LOL!!!  (the bolded part, not the part about your MIL being a dumbass)

lisalynnmama

My SIL is the worst in general.  When we announced to she and my brother, she made a disgusted sort of sound and said something touching like, "I knew it."  Long pause.  "So, when are you due?"  When we told her our due date and then told her that it was twins, her mouth dropped open and she said, "Greeeeeat.  That sounds like it will be miserable."  

I love her...really.  Not at all.  

Maelara

@mussalynn‌ it totally was a typo but when you pointed it out it made me laugh pretty hard too! I have one whole feeling XD

runningmama14

@Maelara‌ is almost a heartless bitch, but that one feeling saves her from the distinction. Lol!

Maelara

runningmama14 said:

@Maelara‌ is almost a heartless bitch, but that one feeling saves her from the distinction. Lol!

LMAO!