Awkward questions & comments said to you when you announced

marajay6

What kind of awkward comments and/or questions have people said to you when you told them you were pregnant?

DH and I told a friend this past weekend. He started asking all sorts of questions about the timing of me getting pregnant and how I found out. It was really awkward - he apologized and said he was really just wondering if I just knew I was pregnant right away.

Almost as awkward was my brother. We told him how many weeks I was and he started doing the math on when we conceived. It was around the weekend he visited us and he was wondering if we actually conceived while he was there. I just looked at my brother and said "do you really want to have his conversation". He realized how creepy he was and shut up.

RedBirdFly

"Is that why you got married?"

Um, no, I wasn't even pregnant when we got married dipshit. Math, do it.

venussapphire

just annoying...Dh's sisters made the whole thing about how they knew it. one said she even told their grandma I was pregnant because she was so sure I was. ugh I hate his family. dhs was dreading telling them.

missnacholover

Nothing too bad, but both sets of grandparents asked us if this changed our house buying plans.  Ummmm, no.  Sorry we are not going to be homeowners when this baby is born, but WTF?  Why does it matter.  We live in a beautiful home and will be buying a house when baby is about 5-6 months old. 

*sigh*  I think in their minds we are doing things backwards but we are 33/34 and decided we need to get moving on the baby thing even if that means we (*GASP*!) live in a rental when he/she is born.

kaimom2

My ILs live over 1000 miles away so telling them in person wasn't possible.  After the first appt we called them on speaker phone.  DH said - We're Having a Baby!!!  My FIL's reaction - Is Sarah the mother?  Oh WOW!  DH was speechless.  He then followed up with that's great son, I'm very proud of you.  My dad told him he was proud of him too!  Both DH and I found this to be VERY awkward! Proud of him?  

marajay6

Thought of another one - we told one family member and she started asking all sorts of questions. She tried asking us what color we were doing for the nursery, but left out a few words and ending up asking "what color is it?" DH and I are both white, so DH said "pretty sure it will be white" and I said "if it isn't white I have a lot of explaining to do"

LongIslandMama1114

Prior to getting pregnant I lost 30 pounds. When I told one of my co-worker's (who, of course, is a man) his response was...."Damn, and you just got yourself in such good shape, too"

Emmy Lou

I have a GOOOOD one.

We went to a party during my first pregnancy, I was about 4 or 5 months along but we hadn't told these particular friends yet.  When we showed up everyone was all excited, but one dude who we had never met looked directly at my DH (then my fiance) and said in all seriousness,

"Is it yours?"

Singingmama10

We told DH's aunts and uncles this weekend at a family get together.  We didn't want to make a huge deal about it, because it was announced that his uncle had just beat cancer so we did not want to overshadow that.  So my MIL kept telling people that they were "summoned" (her actual word) to my husband and I.  People kept coming in and saying we were "summoned to you for some reason" and then we would tell them. It was totally awkward, but whatever, I guess it works. 

moroccojade

We haven't told too many people yet.

But I did feel I should tell my secretary with all of the appts and tests... My co-worker just so happens to be pregnant too. (5 days behind me). So we told her at the same time. (I'm 38, coworker is 43).

The secretary starts jumping up and down whooping for joy and hugging my coworker. Asking her a million questions. I was just standing there. Feeling uncomfortable as she gushed about my coworker's unplanned miracle.

I guess my baby is just a result of a cheap screw and not worthy of any acknowledgement? Lol. It was pretty weird. No, I didn't expect a parade. But a polite smile and a "that's nice" would have been decent.

Yes, my baby was planned and the other was a surprise. But geez I felt uncomfortable.

Needless to say I say NOTHING about this pregnancy around the secretary.

Forgive me if I sound whiny. It was just sooooo awkward.

TeeJ526

Yeah, I've been asked on a few occasions whether or not it was planned. But, the winner of the awkward award goes to my grandparents. I announced on my birthday and my grandmother tried to give my husband a high five. As if that wasn't weird enough, she then said, "Well someone has been putting in work."

Bandia12

My grandma told my son, "If it's a boy we'll send it back". That pissed me off so much! 

milanese0521

When we told my hubbys aunt:
She looked at me
looked at him
looked at me
looked at him and said "e, you said you didnt want children!!"

melissajam

MIL: *slaps DH* You know how babies are made, right? *leaves the room sobbing*
This was her reaction to my pregnancy with DD and this one too. And for the record, both pregnancies were in fact planned.

ktibbits1

The accountant at work (who I don't like and didn't even want her knowing yet, but she overheard a convo) spilled the beans to my boss that I'm having twins (really?! Who tells someone else's news?!) and his response was, "Your body is never going to be the same! Better start that plastic surgery fund now." Thanks, asshole

missnacholover

TeeJ526 said:

Yeah, I've been asked on a few occasions whether or not it was planned. But, the winner of the awkward award goes to my grandparents. I announced on my birthday and my grandmother tried to give my husband a high five. As if that wasn't weird enough, she then said, "Well someone has been putting in work."

LOL, this made me laugh.  I love how as people get older, they lose their filter.

Celticlass6

My FIL told my husband good job. My mom kept trying to figure out when we conceived until I flat out pointed out she was trying to figure out when we had sex.

jf198400

DHs friend was over hanging out Friday night and we told him that were pregnant. He was like so that would be what like "January or February?" And I said no I'm due end of November. He said "no, I mean when it happened." AWKWARD. I was just like umm "no, I drank with you at st Patricks day". "Oh that happened quick then."

runningmama14

I told friends at Bunko the other night.  There was a woman there who I had never met.  She was in the other room when I told the friends I'm closest to.  They started yelling and getting all excited and the woman I had never met walks in and says "Were you hoping to get pregnant?  Cause if not, that would kinda be a shame."  I was so surprised, I just said 'umm, yes."  My friend who had invited her was so mortified and apologized profusely after she left.

Another one, we do foster care and have been hoping to adopt.  Our pregnancy and desire for a bio child is completely separate from our desire to do foster care and adopt a child that needs a home.  We have some older neighbors that were completely perplexed by us doing foster care and wanting to adopt, so when we told them last night the wife says "well now you can just quit all that nonsense about adopting!"  She was so excited that we could stop.  I just smiled and said "oh, no.  We'll take a bit of a break from it, but we'll try to adopt again."  She looked to confused.  I'm sure she thought we were infertile and that foster care was some sort of a consolation prize, but it just rubbed me wrong.  

vkhitt

Oh man! I got a few!

We found found out from my doc fairly early and DH blurted out I was pregnant in front of "the overly involved friend who needs to get a life of their own" and she started flipping out all excited thinking of nursery ideas, baby stuff, /being our live in nanny/, etc., all the while I'm trying to wrap my head around the idea of being pregnant. Not to mention I was pretty sick and can't take any meds that are safe for baby, cuz I'm allergic. And anytime we told another friend and she was around, the whole scene played over again. I really should firmly tell her to back the F off.

Another time telling friends, they weren't excited or even happy. They stared asking me and DH how are we going to afford a baby. We may not live in a house or have $100,000 jobs, but we can manage just fine. Talk about awkward having to defend your lower income life, why couldn't they just be happy?

Finally, we told DH's family over Easter. Before we announced and were waiting for a few stragglers to come in, his step-grandma started going off about how we were the best chance for great-grand babies, but we should wait bc she wasn't ready to become a great-grandma. Well too bad! DH told her sorry to disappoint you, but you're gonna be one in Nov. Happy Easter!! DH's grandpa was beaming and she just sat there stunned. The rest of the family was stuck between staring at her with her foot in her mouth and congratulating us.

Hurray for awkward moments!!!

Kristy774

melissajam said:

MIL: *slaps DH* You know how babies are made, right? *leaves the room sobbing*
This was her reaction to my pregnancy with DD and this one too. And for the record, both pregnancies were in fact planned.

This is one of the worst ones! I'm so sorry your MIL acted that way!

Lilwatz

After trying for a year, a failed IUI and a lot of tears, we got pregnant naturally.  My sister's first response was: "See, you're not infertile, you're impatient! :P"  As though the :P makes it ok to say rude things.

sweetbabyrahe

these are too funny. I have gotten the "were you trying?" question which is always a classic. My teenage cousin said to DH "I did the math, someone had a good Valentine's day!"... awkward.

babidaj

the boss said "oh, wow, that was quick." my husband and i got married in November.

the IL's said, "oh, good." but then they called us back later saying how they were at a restaurant and couldn't talk...?!

we found out the sex last week (yes, end of week 11 - got the harmony test done), and told my mom that it's going to be a girl. she said, "oh its ok, it's your first baby"...

other than that, was just friends who have been trying to a very long time, gave me the stunned look. felt a little bad, but we have been pretty public about the fact that we would be trying as soon as we are married...

CountryMama1114

Plenty of peoe have commented on how we waited SO long (DD is 8 and we were really young when we had her... Neither of us are in our 30s yet...)

And a coworker said "is it a boy or a girl?" Really? You're a mother yourself... Do you not remember how long it takes to find out ! Lol

Mommieofdrew

With my son my husband's step dad told him he needed to get a real job. He was a manager a a resturant. With this one my MIL stated she thought we were past "this" and when was it happening. Btw my husbands fake job pays the bills and he still works there but is now the store manager.

jlove253

I hate when people ask if we were trying. DH and I have been married 6.5 years, and have a 2.5 year old. I hate feeling like I need to explain my decisions to have a baby, and furthermore, explain my sex life.

No good stories, but thank you for sharing yours! It's helping to pass the time for this nauseous woman!

marajay6

CountryMama1114 said:

Plenty of peoe have commented on how we waited SO long (DD is 8 and we were really young when we had her... Neither of us are in our 30s yet...)

And a coworker said "is it a boy or a girl?" Really? You're a mother yourself... Do you not remember how long it takes to find out ! Lol

Everyone in DH's family has already asked if it's a boy or girl. SIL is currently pregnant and she is 38. She had the genetic test at the end of 1st tri so they knew early. DH's assumed it was standard these days. My family asked if it was twins.

absolutelymaybe

I'm just tired of the nosy questions that people seem totally fine with asking. 

"Was it planned?" 

And "Do twins run in your family?" (As a matter of fact they do, but why don't you come right out and just ask if we used fertility treatments ?)

mussalynn

Kllopez1221 said:

My extended family has not been supportive. I've gotten... "What the hell are you thinking" "You're not even married" "Do you think your BF will stick around" "Don't come asking for help if he leaves" "You don't even own a house" All of the above, from my moms sisters. Who I used to be extremely close to.

Ummm... all of this... WTF!  Especially "don't come asking for help if he leaves"... wow.  How about "we love you and support you and hope everything works out great for you!"  Sorry your family hasn't been supportive, but we're here for you!!

babidaj

one of my friends asked me if i am carrying twins. and i think she was trying to ask if we used fertility treatment. we didn't, but so what if we did? 

NunyaBennis

There was general disbelief followed by excitement... then the apparently typical (and keep in mind we told the immediate family early, like at 6wks):

Let me see it!
But you said you weren't trying hard ... ?
Can you physically do that?
You'll look like you swallowed a basketball in no time!
Is it a girl or or boy?
We need you to have a girl (from one side) & Good, it's about time for a boy! (from the other)
We gave up on you!
You'll be put on bed rest soon you know.
Why can't we tell anyone?
Good luck, you're in for it.

Where do people come up with this shit?

I must say, my very most favorite response came from my husband: Thank goodness! You not being a mother would be like if Einstein never pursued mathematics!
Sorry-not-sorry that amidst all the goofy shit people say I had to throw in a little awesome. I love that man! :x

missnacholover

Oh, also to add one, my mom said "You guys will have to be real adults now!" because I suppose we've just been pretending the past 6 years.  Thefuck?

lincoln79

this are hilarious and ridiculous, if you didn't laugh you would have to cry...

(male) coworker after finding out we are pregnant by gestational carrier - "Please don't ruin your child by spoiling it rotten. That happens a lot with these miracle babies"

Um, congrats would have sufficed....

DoubleUp8

"Was it planned?"/"Were you trying?"

"When did it happen?" - Do really want to know the schedule of when we had sex in February?

"I thought your guys were waiting until you were financially stable/ready?" - This one pissed me off because it was from a friend, and I really wanted to tell her since she couldn't see our bank accounts what the f**k did she know!

sweetbabyrahe

@NunyaBennis- I cracked up at "But you said you weren't trying hard...?" ...got some weird images of what trying hard vs. regular trying might consist of

yess0311

I told my boss last Thursday and after I told him my EDD his response was "Have you guys tried to do the math and figure out when it happened?" And I can tell he was trying to do the math in his head...very awkward!!!

Kehlepop

We had an awkward announcement to my parents.
At dinner, DH and I were building up the courage to tell them,
I said, well we came down here to tell you guys...
I look over at DH who blurts out SHE'S GONNA HAVE A BABY
My dad, a little caught off guard manages to say, uhm...when?
Everyone's excited now, but we still have everybody else to tell and I'm not sure how to do it.

melissajam

Kristy774 said:

MIL: *slaps DH* You know how babies are made, right? *leaves the room sobbing*
This was her reaction to my pregnancy with DD and this one too. And for the record, both pregnancies were in fact planned.

This is one of the worst ones! I'm so sorry your MIL acted that way!

Thanks @Kristy774. She can be pretty dramatic at times. She'll get over it eventually.

Deardra77

We are infertile and can only get pregnant through IVF. Took a couple of years & lots of invasive testing & treatments to get pregnant with my DS. When we told my MIL her response was "oh you know DH's brother & his wife had a miscarriage". No congratulations, nothing. Literally all she said. Needless to say I started crying. On top of everything we had gone through to get pregnant we had a SCH and lost my DS's twin at 8 weeks, granted neither of which will she EVER know about due to her complete lack of ability to be appropriate. She couldn't even say good news or good for you guys or anything.

We haven't told her about this pregnancy yet. I wish my DH would just tell him herself & leave me out of it but that wouldn't be nice of me to make him do that so instead we will be telling her over FaceTime (she lives 5+ hours away thank god). 

Let it slip accidently over the weekend to some girlfriends. Couple of them said oh we knew you were trying. No, no you didn't. I'm infertile, I don't get to try (in the context they mean) I get to have very expensive & invasive medical procedures. That made me kinda crazy. People have a very annoying habit of trying to make infertility into some type of imaginary medical condition. I'm very glass half full in that I will never have to use birth control again & they were like oh you never know! Yes, yes I do. Just like if I was in a car accident & had both hands amputated I know I'll never play piano. I know Ill never get pregnant with out IVF ISCI.

My parents were amazing though, one of the real cool things about IVF is you get to see the embryo being placed into your uterus on the ultrasound screen. Was able to share that with my parents & the picture of the morula stage embryo too. Very cool :-)

krgriffin26

I just learned today that I'm "too pregnant to do anything". Yep! lol I have a friend that was supposed to get married in October but due to insurance reasons (which in her case are lame) she decided that her and the fiancé had to move the wedding up to May 10. I have been offering to her for the past 2 weeks and she has been telling me that she's good, things are good, and she doesn't need help. Well found out today that she was bitching to another friend that no one is helping her because we have lives, families, I'm too pregnant and another friend goes out of town to see her BF on the weekends.

At Easter DH decided that we should tell his extended family. He jumps out of the car and yells "I knocked her up!" lol yep he's super classy lol. They are a fun bunch and were all really excited for us. They knew about the MC back in Nov so they have kinda been waiting on this news anyways.