Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

mrscrcalli

@poru you've got me saying "tritto" in a corporate setting X_X

snowbound

I now remember why I stay inside my house and avoid other moms. A woman was asking for baby name suggestions on a local page and I just can't. Lyrik? Jasden? What?

ambarnett1

I'm so done (

rtv3

ambarnett1 said:

I'm so done (

(((Hugs)))

chichi589

@mamrotu73‌ Ansel is perfect, sooo adorable !

RedDawnsRevenge

I just feel like I can't even talk to DH anymore. It was just more pipe dreams out of him tonight. And him calling me closed minded. "We're fine. My mom paid our bills to the 5th" F***! We aren't fine it's the 19th!!! I am I believe justifiability worried about finding a job so we can pay our bills next month! And he's being picking in NC because he feels he's worth more than$19 an hour. Well I have a fancy pants nursing degree and trauma designation and certification and if someone offered me $19 I'd fucking take it, until I could find something better. I feel like him going crazy! And I'm so isolated. None of his friends know he hasn't worked in over a month.

rtv3

I have 45 min before I need to pump. I should do school prep but I don't want to and it's Friday so I'm going to procrastinate.
Soooo do I make a cup of tea and read or pour a glass of wine and take a bath?
If I mix the wine with sprite and make a spritzer I should be good to pump right? Or should I stick with tea...

ambarnett1

RedDawnsRevenge said:

I just feel like I can't even talk to DH anymore. It was just more pipe dreams out of him tonight. And him calling me closed minded. "We're fine. My mom paid our bills to the 5th" F***! We aren't fine it's the 19th!!! I am I believe justifiability worried about finding a job so we can pay our bills next month! And he's being picking in NC because he feels he's worth more than$19 an hour. Well I have a fancy pants nursing degree and trauma designation and certification and if someone offered me $19 I'd fucking take it, until I could find something better. I feel like him going crazy! And I'm so isolated. None of his friends know he hasn't worked in over a month.

I would leave. Don't put up with it. Tell him to get his shit together or move out.

ambarnett1

@jodibolivar thanks. DH is just being an ass and insensitive. He doesn't appreciate me and I told him that if he doesn't shape up he can move back in with his parents until he can treat me better. He didn't like that much. I'm so testy lately.

Eta - spelling

knotty-girl

Vinny424 said:

I need irl mom friends. Not like play date friends but real friends. It's not that I don't love you guys but I need someone whose idea of a fun Friday night is helping me make sure I didn't miss a spot dying my hair while watching a movie while our babies sleep

Me too. Well local IRL mom friends. I can't drive 2 hours in traffic for a playdate (sorry to whomever said they hate that term.)

deidremaria

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ I'm never one to suggest someone leaves their spouse because it's not my place but I think you should leave him. You and your girls deserve better and based on what I'm getting from your posts he doesn't see it that way.

RedDawnsRevenge

It's hard after 10years but I need to get out. Need to find a job soon back home and leave. He makes me feel like I'm the crazy one!

If I change my user name do previous posts change too? Or would he be able to find them if it comes to a divorce?

MamaFantastic

It's hard after 10years but I need to get out. Need to find a job soon back home and leave. He makes me feel like I'm the crazy one! If I change my user name do previous posts change too? Or would he be able to find them if it comes to a divorce?

All of your prior posts change, but when people quote you (like I am now) it will not change my post with your name in it, and posts like this one will still show up in a search for RDR. I know because I found someone else like this... I remembered her old username and searched for it, and the last thing that showed up was a quote tree with someone tagging her old name and her new name showing up as a responder to the post. If he's savvy he'd find you still, unfortunately.

(edited out your name just in case!)

thomas930

RedDawnsRevenge said:

It's hard after 10years but I need to get out. Need to find a job soon back home and leave. He makes me feel like I'm the crazy one! If I change my user name do previous posts change too? Or would he be able to find them if it comes to a divorce?

It should change on all your old posts. I would highly suggest reguesting the change through Bump Jackie though since changing it through the Knot is not reliable and a glitch.

thomas930

You can also have this accout and its contents deleted for security reasons if it comes down to it.

knotty-girl

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ you might be able to get Bump admin to wipe the slate. I had this done before on a forum where I had a stalker and wanted all my details/existence gone from record.

MamaFantastic

I've been single parenting for the past two weeks. I didn't mention anything on here because, you know, Internet… but it has been rough stuff! My husband returned home tonight from his overseas business trip and I couldn't be happier.

moonsparkles

Vinny424 said:

I need irl mom friends. Not like play date friends but real friends. It's not that I don't love you guys but I need someone whose idea of a fun Friday night is helping me make sure I didn't miss a spot dying my hair while watching a movie while our babies sleep

Second that.

Roufi

Wow @RedDawnsRevenge‌. Just wow. You don't deserve that bullshit. Beyond the diva, get rich quick, shouldn't have to work bullshit, he hasn't been working for a month then he damn well should have been home being somewhat fucking useful to you and you know, giving a fuck about the daughters whose lives he is missing out on. I'm really, really sorry if this is out of line but I am so angry for you and your girls.

RedDawnsRevenge

@swerbtastic3351‌ at the beginning of August DH quit his job in Wind to go sell insurance with a friend. He's spent hundreds of dollars on CCs getting his licenses and has made no money. So I guess I shouldn't say he hasn't worked but he's not doing anything that's making a living. Now I have to try to find a job and child care, which will essentially mean moving in with my parents and sleeping on the couch. MIL has been paying all our bills while DH is in NC. He's flying home Monday but I truthfully wish he wasn't. He has 2 companies he could go back to work for at $19 and $23 dollars an hour but refuses. And after 10 years of marriage I believe the smartest thing I can do is leave.

moonsparkles

So sorry RDR.

RedDawnsRevenge

Vinny424 said:

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ is there a reason your afraid of him finding you?

I'm afraid he'll use it in court to get spousal support. This is a very very strongly Portuguese community and it would be seen as husband shaming, true or not.

Vjlewis07

MamaFantastic said:

I've been single parenting for the past two weeks. I didn't mention anything on here because, you know, Internet… but it has been rough stuff! My husband returned home tonight from his overseas business trip and I couldn't be happier.

My DH just got home too! He was gone for a week. Props for 2 weeks on your own

ladygali

I've been trying to get DS to sleep for over two hours and every time I put him down he wakes up and screams. DH just took him for a drive. Hope this works (:|

ladygali

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ I'm sorry you're in such a shitty situation. You deserve much better.

@ambarnett1‌ you deserve better, too. Hang in there.

Hugs to all!

moonsparkles

DH is out hunting. I don't know why but when he's all dressed up in his camo, I find him ridiculously sexy. Same during calving when he's got his big overalls on and his hat and boots. Perhaps it's the added height. The problem with finding guys hot in certain outfits (like uniforms!) is that they then have to be removed to take advantage. 

janellemj928

RDR I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now. Those girls deserve so much better and so do you.

@ambarnett1‌ hugs to you, too!

In other news, I went to a rummage sale today and bought 14 jeans/leggings, 16 shirts/onesies, and 2 coats for $56. Some of the stuff still has tags. I'm ridiculously excited and DH couldn't care less. :-B

smushi

@elyse4281 Good luck!  I'm so sorry... We've had a week of that .  Tonight, he shocked the heck out of me and went to sleep after 15 minutes of boob.  

@reddawnsrevenge Hugs...

DH was gone all week while I was sick/LO was sick, and thankfully my mom came to watch LO and stay the night while I went to work and then got rest at night.  DH came home last night, and I was so happy.  Then this morning he woke up 20 minutes late and expected to leave the house at his normal time (20 minutes later...) Essentially it caused a big blowup - he was pissed at me for not magically having LO totally ready to leave for daycare all by myself in that span of time.  So I essentially am going to remove the stressor and just start taking him to daycare myself.  I learned one great lesson while DH had a broken foot - I can do it myself.  It sucks, but I can.  I'd rather that than he be perpetually angry for something he created.

J&NL

I wish our liquor store had a delivery service.. Or a drive thru.

RedDawnsRevenge

@AprilMay9‌ I really don't know how it works truthfully. I guess I figure they just use their personal discretion.

RedDawnsRevenge

I don't recognize that person

avidkeo

poru said:

Vinny424 said:

Lol at GBCBers come back

who what when where why how

this! link please!

RedDawnsRevenge

How you figure that out?

KatieGummow

Vinny424 said:

KatieGummow said:

anyone know what this is for?

Phone kick stand?

Yup!

KatieGummow

mrscrcalli said:

KatieGummow said:

anyone know what this is for?

Clip it on your hip like a pager?

Nailed it.

J&NL

Lol Katie you cray

KatieGummow

Wow, that was inappropriate in the middle of the serious conversation. Sorry @RedDawnsRevenge‌! Hugs to you!!!!

RedDawnsRevenge

I just laughed her off the boob.

mrscrcalli

@KatieGummow‌ bump Instagram crush level up!

ladygali

Update: car ride did not work but I am nonetheless thankful that DH stepped in. Currently reading a few books to see if that will help.