Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

Jessimax

dani+california said:

Jessimax said:

I quit. That is all.

What's up? >:D<

Would need a novel. I HATE winter even though I grew up in the Laurentien mountains. Was half an hour late for drop in daycare this morning after a battle with a leaky sippy cup, battling with snow suites, ripping my wiper off trying to clean it and still having summer tires on.

my child doesn't sleep. And I have 2 huge essays to write by the end of December.

My husband is an ass. He books off work for hockey, baseball etc. All the time. I have an aqua fit class with the baby tomorrow and he made to snow tire appt for the car and took an overtime shift at work so I can't go to my only activity. He goes to the city once or twice a month to play hockey with his friends and I got a lecture about how useless it was to drive to laval last week to meet the Montreal bump girls. His life has not changed at all since we has the baby. My MIL has spent more alone time with DD then DH has and I am not exaggerating. He has gotten up about 4 times total with her since she has been born, each time lasted about 90 seconds then he gives up and comes back to bed. We have an empty rental property that is starting to look really tempting. One that I would probably already be at if it wasn't for a friend of mine who has a son Finn's age. He was such a nice boy but has completely gone to hell since his parents split up and I don't want that to happen to Finn.

Sorry for the novel. Bad day.

ETA and the only thing Finn has asked for from santa; a double trailer flatbed truck with bags of Styrofoam on the back. Where the fuck am I suppose to find that??!!

RedDawnsRevenge

They lie when they tell you your baby will stop this committing by 6months. It's worse than ever now at 7months.

Roufi

Jessimax said:

dani+california said:

Jessimax said:

I quit. That is all.

What's up? >:D<

Would need a novel. I HATE winter even though I grew up in the Laurentien mountains. Was half an hour late for drop in daycare this morning after a battle with a leaky sippy cup, battling with snow suites, ripping my wiper off trying to clean it and still having summer tires on.

my child doesn't sleep. And I have 2 huge essays to write by the end of December.

My husband is an ass. He books off work for hockey, baseball etc. All the time. I have an aqua fit class with the baby tomorrow and he made to snow tire appt for the car and took an overtime shift at work so I can't go to my only activity. He goes to the city once or twice a month to play hockey with his friends and I got a lecture about how useless it was to drive to laval last week to meet the Montreal bump girls. His life has not changed at all since we has the baby. My MIL has spent more alone time with DD then DH has and I am not exaggerating. He has gotten up about 4 times total with her since she has been born, each time lasted about 90 seconds then he gives up and comes back to bed. We have an empty rental property that is starting to look really tempting. One that I would probably already be at if it wasn't for a friend of mine who has a son Finn's age. He was such a nice boy but has completely gone to hell since his parents split up and I don't want that to happen to Finn.

Sorry for the novel. Bad day.

ETA and the only thing Finn has asked for from santa; a double trailer flatbed truck with bags of Styrofoam on the back. Where the fuck am I suppose to find that??!!

Big hugs Jessimax. That's such a crap day, and YH needs a come to Jesus talk. I hope that everything goes smoothly this afternoon, that your pretty little energizer bunny takes a snooze and you can sit down with a mug of tea and your papers. And doing something to feel less isolated is never useless, you more than deserve some you time.

snowbound

They have your LO go under water at this age @Vinny424?

I just made a quick run to pick up the essentials for this storm that we are supposed to have. You know, diapers, water, chocolate, and most importantly beer. Bring it on.

edoliesmom

snowbound said:

They have your LO go under water at this age @Vinny424?

I just made a quick run to pick up the essentials for this storm that we are supposed to have. You know, diapers, water, chocolate, and most importantly beer. Bring it on.

I think at this age and even younger it's instinctual for them to hold their breath, so it's a good learning time for them. Correct me if I'm wrong. :-?

snowbound

@edoliesmom‌ that could be it. They just has us do raspberries in their faces when I took my LO to his lessons.

Tferr02

DS1 started swim classes at a Lil less than 6 months and they had us putting him under. He's 2 and half now and still loves going under water.

Bluebird2318

poru said:

dani+california said:

Question because I'm honestly curious...why do people refer to themselves in the 3rd person when speaking to their child? Like 'what did mommy say about touching that' or 'didn't mommy tell you XYZ' Do kids understand that better than 'what did I say'? It seems unnecessarily confusing. There. An actual random thought for RTT.

I am pages behind so this may be answered by someone... but I believe it helps them learn your name "mama" .  I was really adamantly against third person talk at first and then someone pointed that out to me when I mentioned DS had a lot of first words before mama or papa. 

This. It helps them to associate the action with you (and understand the sentence structure) early on when they just know you as "mama" or "mommy" or whatever. Now that my daughter is 2 and a half I find that I'm replacing the "mama"s with "I"s a bit more. 

CalinAZ

Yeah, same for our swim lessons. LO hated them, though, so we're not continuing now that they cost money (they were free for the first 7 months). 

@jessimax - sorry life is sucking right now . Agree that having a sit down talk with DH sounds in order. Hope things look up soon.

Question - have I inadvertently been a really bad mom? Because LO has torticollis, there's a possibility he could have hip displasia. However, everyone who has ever evaluated him hasn't heard a hip click, which is the big indicator (two pediatricians, two physical therapists, an orthopedic assistant and an orthopedist). The only indicator that there could be an issue is a slight asymmetry in his skin folds, but everyone has said it's very mild and not a huge red flag. 

The orthopedist wanted us to get an x-ray between 6-7months old, but we got feedback from the pedi and PT that that seemed odd considering the lack of evidence that something was wrong. I've been so busy with physical therapy and helmet appts. that I never got around to calling the orthopedist to talk through my doubts and just never got the x-ray. We have an appointment tomorrow and I told the receptionist that we didn't feel comfortable with the x-ray based on his evaluations, and that I wanted to go tomorrow to get checked again to get some more reasoning for x-raying. 

The receptionist seemed really taken aback and said that the doctor would need to call me to "discuss this." Then I did some research on hip displasia and it seems like if he did have it, it might be too late for just a brace and he'd need surgery and a huge cast! I'm frustrated with the orthopedist, since the told me to wait until after 6 months for any x-rays, and it seems like 6-months was the cut off for non surgical treatment. I'm also afraid I made the total wrong call here, and should have been putting more focus into this.

How freaked out should I be here? Now I'm picturing my poor boy getting surgery and being in a huge cast.

ambarnett1

Kegels

RedDawnsRevenge

Done with all christmas themed knitting!!! For this year anyway. Now to sit down and write my own Mario pattern, possibly other scifi characters as well. :-B

deidremaria

@Jessimax‌ I'm really sorry about you and your husband. I hope you guys get to have a talk and he's able to see your perspective. You guys need to come to some sort of comprise. Also. Just because your little one's friend had a drastic behavioral change because of a split doesn't mean it'll happen to your lo.

ambarnett1

Yay @meg.eliz1. Good luck! I hope you see a healthy baby. How far along are you now? I'm on mobile, so I can't see a siggy if you have one.

Teresa1896

Good luck @meg.eliz!

Teresa1896

My bro and SIL go in today to start the process of their termination. Docs gave them about zero chance of a healthy baby. Apparently they have 2 days of appts and then the "whole shebang" on Thursday. :-(

Tferr02

So DH family draws names and we buy "stockings" for whoever we draw and that's the only person we buy for. Stockings can be one big item (like I got SIL a coach purse before) or a bunch of smaller items. Whenever we don't go to his family's christmas, we never get our stocking unless BIL has our name. Well I have SIL this year and I asked her if she had any suggestions and she said all she wants is money. Seriously? My biggest pet peeve is when people ask for money...if you really just want to go buy something yourself than say a gift card to this store would be great too...but give me options! She has me this year and since she recently asked BIL if he'd give her $100 a month since her child support got cut because she lost custody of one of the kids...I'm going to guess I'm not getting anything. I think I'm going to tell her to just keep her money for my present, I'll keep my money for her present and we can spend it on what we want.

Tferr02

@Vinny424 glad my DH family isnt the only one tgat does this. Gift buying stresses me out enough, this makes it awful.

What if I give her less money than she gives me? I'd feel so bad...there's no set amount on what to spend, so it could be anything. If it's just cash back and forth, what's the point? Ugh..I think I'm going to tell DH to tell his family to take us out of the stocking rotation next year.

janice9821

dani+california said:

Halppp I'm stuck

I cannot help for I, too, am on cat lock.

smushi

@tferr02 your sister in law is crappy.  Love titting your idea

Tferr02

Just told SIL to keep her money for clothes and I'll keep my money for my new business. And I know the talking shit about me has started.....now.

rtv3

Aaaaaaarrrrggghhhh :-( I have to lead assembly tomorrow. 30 min, 20ish of which is me talking. I'm working on my "speech" right now, but I have zero ambition and ideas. Can I get some A14 RTT juju for a snow day tomorrow? :P (I'm in Grand Rapids, MI).

rtv3

Also, hugs @Jessimax‌ - I agree with PPs about talking to YH. DH is pretty good at helping, but he can be super oblivious sometimes and I have to point-blank tell him what I need. Good luck!

@Tferr02‌ that's weird that there's no set amount. We do secret santa on both sides but there's always a set amount, usually $25-$35, so that teen siblings can manage it, and the couples that are technically buying 2 gifts aren't too strapped either.

Shelbysteffens

That's what she gets for asking for money as a gift. She's a Christmas party pooper @Tferr02‌

ambarnett1

@Teresa1896‌ that's so sad, I'm so very sorry for them and all the must go through.

@meg.eliz1 that's awesome. Good luck. I hope it all goes well. Keep us updated.

@Tferr02 asking for money is ridiculous. She gets what she deserves.

deidremaria

I miss cats

janellemj928

@Teresa1896‌ I'm so sorry

@rtv3‌ there's definitely a chance that could happen! I'm on the east side of the state and wish we were getting all that snow!

janellemj928

If anyone is interested in a "Lost My Name" book, I have two coupons for 15% off!

rtv3

janellemj928 said:

@Teresa1896‌ I'm so sorry

@rtv3‌ there's definitely a chance that could happen! I'm on the east side of the state and wish we were getting all that snow!

We had a snow day today, which is why I'm doubtful we'll have another. But here's hoping!

cnbean

I am unreasonable jealous of everyone who has snow. We have only had one snowfall this year and it all melted. Usually by this time of year we have a pretty decent amount and I miss it. Its all brown and ugly outside instead of white and pretty. Seriously the rest of the US needs to send the snow back to Alaska where it belongs! ok ridiculous rant over now. 

@Teresa1896 I'm so sorry for your family. I was hoping that they might get some good news. Prayers for you all.  

RedDawnsRevenge

DHs boss has agreed to pay him a retainer fee while they are out of work!!! Hooray!

eireyes

Vinny424 said:

Anyone read the stupid that is jaden and willow smith?

Yeah, stupid doesn't even begin to describe it! I'm all for encouraging kids to think and form their own opinions, but those two need a serious dose of reality...

Teresa1896

Those kids sound like nut jobs. Will Smith seems relatively grounded, so I'm surprised his kids are so ditzy.

emilyann64

I just read the NY times article about them. I couldn't even get through all of it. "And then you think about what you think, which is very dangerous". What??

RedDawnsRevenge

tlp2558 said:

Fleece lined baby jeans? Who woulda thunk it? Genius.

We have flannel line baby jeans. That said its 72 degrees here in California today. They were hand me downs, because I'd never pay $40 for baby jeans at The Childrens Place.

emilyann64

I wish they made adult fleece-lined jeans.

RedDawnsRevenge

emilyann64 said:

I wish they made adult fleece-lined jeans.

Duluth trading company does. DH has many pairs, he wears when he works.

RedDawnsRevenge

embear22 said:

Duluth makes so much awesome crap. I could buy it all. My H loves their flannel shirts.

DH uses their cloths for work since they are limited on the types of materials they can wear while working in and on a turbine. And they are indestructible and uber warm.

emilyann64

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ after I posted, I thought about it. An extra layer of fleece would make these thighs look worse than they already do "> but I'd be warm!!

ladygali

I feel like Land's End does, as well.

ladygali

My electricity went out. Guess I'll just snuggle under the covers some more. Anyone want to deliver some coffee to me?