@bunnybb13 I’m sorry for the worry. It sounds like this is something your doctor sees often enough not to be concerned, so I would try to focus on that, especially given that your baby’s heart and lungs have looked great thus far.
@kat_vegan87 at 1000-1200 calories a day, your body’s metabolism has probably plummeted in an attempt to provide your baby with sufficient nutrition. That’s not enough, period. It really sounds like this doctor has gotten in your head and stirred up some unhealthy feelings. Highly recommend getting a new doctor, as others have said.
I switched doctors midway through my second pregnancy when the doctor tried to bully me into getting induced early or scheduling a c section. She actually tried to talk me out of going into labor on my own to VBAC. I ended up calling my old doctor and she essentially told me what the other doctor suggested was BS and dangerous. I ended up switching back to her even though she was in Skokie and I was over an hour drive from there. It was worth it because she was absolutely great and supportive. We need to normalize firing OBs who aren't there for us because no one should feel picked on or triggered during their pregnancy.
I’d put stuff like that on your registry and mark it as “purchased” - also I think people tend to include gift receipts when they go off registry because they know they are taking a chance, so you can hopefully just return it. I am older and maybe a little old fashioned so I wouldn’t outright say anything about sticking to the registry.
That's what we did and it seems to be working so far. We'll find out in a couple weeks when we have the shower if we got any stuff we marked as purchased already on the registry. The mountains of gifts / registries people have at baby showers now are a relatively new "tradition", dating back to about 1940 in the U.S. So I wouldn't feel bad about dropping "traditions" like this or modifying them to fit your personal values.
*prayers appreciated please!* I know this is not your typical pregnancy related question whatsoever, but I don’t even know where to write this type of thing. I’m heartbroken writing this, but every good thought/vibe, or prayers (whatever your religious beliefs) would be appreciated tremendously right now. Yesterday afternoon, my boyfriend was on his way home from work, where we were planning on telling our parents the gender reveal of our baby, when he got in an accident. He’s eighteen years old and currently on life support. I don’t have many answers at the moment to his current condition, but it’s extremely critical. I’m almost 21 weeks pregnant and I’m beyond scared out of my mind at the thought of raising, and delivering this baby on my own. The hospital isn’t letting any visitors in other than his parents because of a COVID spike, so I haven’t even been allowed in to be with him. I cant sleep, my anxiety is through the roof right now, and I feel at such a total loss right now with getting through this and this pregnancy. This is our first baby, and on top of an already difficult pregnancy so far and the fears from that, I just don’t know how I will be able to be a good mom if I lose him. Thoughts and prayers appreciated so so much!! ❤️❤️❤️
@daisyyyy that is absolutely heartbreaking and I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. I will send every prayer, vibe, and good feeling your way. The best thing you can do for him is to take care of yourself and that baby. There are no words that can help you. Please keep us updated. I hope he will be okay.
@daisyyyy I am so incredibly sorry to hear about your boyfriend and can only imagine the waves of emotions that you're feeling. It's so hard to take care of yourself when you want to be taking care of the ones you love, and whatever form that takes is okay. Please be sure to ask those around you for any and all help that you need right now. If you need someone to make sure your eating, or resting, or even just someone around, you are not alone. Sending you all the strength and positive energy--know that you can do this, even when it doesn't feel like it
@daisyyyy. I am so sorry to hear about your news. I agree - please ask for help when you need it and you have a community on here to support you as well. Sending all the healing vibes
@daisyyyy I am sending hugs, strength, and healing to both of you. Based on what I seem to remember, you have a support system around you - use it as much as you can, allow people to help you.
@daisyyyy That's so scary and I can only imagine how sad and vulnerable you're feeling. Sending you so much strength and love to get you through the unknowns 💕
Thank you all ❤️ He’s in surgery as of now from some complications and scares late last night, but we’re hoping for a good outcome! I should be allowed to see him at some point tonight by switching out with one of his parents. Just trying my best to take care of me and the baby like he’d want, and not trying to let all the fears overcome me with this pregnancy right now. Will be off my phone for some time, until he’s stable, but best of wishes with you all and your babies!
@fichey re:round ligament pain. During the second trimester of my last pregnancy, I had extremely bad round ligament pain, where I couldn't walk without using a belt to physically move my leg forward with each step, and it kept me up at night. It was both sharp and acute with movement, and dull and constantly throbbing the rest of the time. I used tylenol, pillows between my knees, and a heat pad at night so I could sleep. I went to a chiropractor, and he did 2 rounds of deep tissue massage and acupuncture, and gave me some exercises to do at home. It took about a week until it was where I could walk slowly without pain, and about 2 until it was completely gone. It was horrible, but apparently pretty common, and even without intervention, generally resolves by itself as things get more stretched out as you head into the 3rd trimester. I'm 22.5weeks now, and so far so good, hoping I don't have to go through that again!
FTM, 23 weeks, and anytime I think of even starting my registry for baby shower or anything similar I get overwhelmed and have no idea what I'll need or where to start..so I just havnt done it. But I need to bc my mom is sending out invites for my shower soon. There's just so many things i dont know if i will need or wont need. Any advice on basics/how to start? Where I should register?
I have similar road blocks with starting the nursery or even birthing/infant care classes. It feels overwhelming even tho I know it's simple to register for a class at local hospitals.
@moogieks I googled mommy bloggers registry lists and went off of that. It was complete and has categories so you can break up building your registry little by little (furniture, decor, feeding, sleeping, first aid etc). A few I used are:
@moogieks I used myregistry.com because it allowed me to register for products from anywhere I could find online. Guests enter items as purchased themselves, which allowed them to price shop rather than having to stick to any company I'd found. You can also link it to any company registries you choose to make. I believe there are other similar hosting sites that give you that freedom.
If you're feeling intimidated by starting, it's a lot easier if you break it down into categories, such as bathtime, feeding, changing, for mum, toys, etc. Just pick away at one category at a time. Once you get going it's a lot easier. Also, if you have one item you do know you really want, just enter that and you may find that it gets easier from there.
@moogieks I'm using Babylist because it allows me to add items from absolutely anywhere, and I'm not too worried about discounts from some places.
@mcclanna I am going to stalk those lists right now because I was told I need to expand the list. Like WHAT I have almost 50 items already and a very limited living space.
@pangolindrome I used Babylist as well for the same reason. You can add a button to your browser that allows you to add anything from anywhere to your registry. Mega convenient. Good luck!
Babylist all the way!!!! People can choose where to buy from if it’s available at multiple places which is handy especially if they have a target card, or Amazon prime…
I used Babylist and Amazon too. They'll both send you a box of free baby stuff if you meet certain requirements. Babylist has several nice kits they've curated that you can add to their registry. That made it easier to add things like a box of different diaper brands without having to research and figure out which one I wanted. If you take a look at the Finnish tradition of the baby box they send to new mothers, the list of things you really *need* for the first months with a new baby is pretty small. Most things are easy to get used if you decide you need it after the baby gets here. The main exceptions would be consumables and the car seat.
I should also include that we are really the only people who buy off our registry (especially this time with a secret fourth baby) so I go for places with a completion discount so I can add other stuff like toys for my other kids for Christmas onto it so I can get a discount. That's why I favor both Amazon and Target. If I were having a baby shower or something I would do a universal registry.
Side note: if any Chicagoland Mamas are looking for a used city mini gt double in blue complete with belly bars, trays, a cooler, and rain shield; let me know. It's in excellent condition. I'm about to list it on Facebook marketplace.
Anyone had constant yeast infections?? I’m now on my second or third. Same annoying strain as last time. Candida glabrata. So harder to get rid of. Any advice?
@jilliboo I've been dealing with both YI and BV. My body doesn't respond to antibiotic treatment for BV and The YI doesn't seem to want to go away. I'm extremely uncomfortable. I go to the doctor on Tuesday.
My 5 year old son brought COVID home from school. My mom got stuck quarantining with us because I asked her to take him to the dr for me since I had an ultrasound scheduled. Of course my mom and I both now have COVID. DS was sick for just one day and is all over the place now, my mom is suffering in our guest bedroom and I’m kind of in the middle.
Has anyone had COVID while pregnant?
Did you take any medicine?
Tips on what to do to not get super sick?
I’m really nervous about having COVID, we escaped it for so long!
@kat_vegan87 That really sucks and I'm sorry. My husband caught it last month and it took him out hard. I didn't catch it because he banished himself to the office for almost 3 weeks and we both masked with n95s any time he was out. It was rough on all of us.
I would really recommend asking your OB what they would recommend taking. He was able to take sudafed, mucinex, nyquil, doxycycline/inhaler (because he also developed pneumonia), vitamin c and d. We were basically just trying to throw everything we could at it and I know some of these are not recommended during pregnancy. One of my friends who caught the initial omicron wave while pregnant did take sudafed (which is class C) and was under close watch by her OB.
Have some tea, rest as much as you can, and sanitize everything once you feel better. It sucks and I'm so sorry that y'all are dealing with it right now. Hope that you and your mom feel better soon
@daisyyyy - I am doing a birth center this time. I had a hospital birth the first time, I was grateful that I was there because my son was all wrapped up in his umbilical cord and I ended up with an emergency C-section. I wanted to do a home birth, but because of Sammy’s birth my boyfriend vetoed the idea and we compromised on a birthing center right next to the hospital. Hospital births are very clinical which I wasn’t a fan of and the birthing center offers the best of both worlds.
I second a birthing center. I ended up having two emergency c sections so while I have to have hospital births if I didn't I would go for a birthing center that is hospital adjacent. Home births are a beautiful thing and chances are you'll have an uncomplicated delivery. Birthing centers can offer tubs for labor and some even offer water births (this is how I wish I had been able to give birth).
@daisyyyy I ended up doing a hospital birth after a long labour with my first that needed to be augmented with pitocin, but my first choice was a birth centre. My first choice this time is also the birth centre, but my hospital experience was fine with no complications even during the first wave of covid. I prefer birth centre to home birth because the one where I live is right by some of the best hospitals in the city, so it gave me peace of mind. I also ideally want to labour and potentially birth in the tub and they have massive beautiful tubs there as opposed to having to rent and set up a big ol birth pool in our apartment.
@kat_vegan87 I'm so sorry! Our family just recovered from Covid this week. It sucked-- wasn't the worst illness we've ever had, but it was the worst in a few years (we are vaccinated). I've heard experiences ranging all over the board though and it's kind of luck of the draw for how bad it is, and maybe which substrain too. Hope you get a mild case!
I didn't take much medication, but did do Zinc lozenges every day (2-3 a day, more is not recommended for pregnancy), extra vitamin C and D, and Sudafed PE a couple of nights when the congestion was really bad. Other than that, just natural remedies that tend to work for me. Most other meds aren't recommended for pregnancy. I get super snotty with upper respiratory illnesses and a neti pot kinda helped clear things out. Right now my sinuses are still really dry from all the nose blowing, so I'm doing some saline spray. That's it though. I never had a fever, but take Tylenol if you do.
Oh-- and hydration is extra important for Covid, and extra extra important when pregnant. So just get a few cases of your favorite beverage from grocery pickup and settle in. And plain water too, of course.
Lastly, I'd just message your OB or midwife to let them know. They probably won't be concerned but it's good to keep them posted in case you have any weird or lasting effects.
@merostomata - awesome! Thanks for the tips, I hope you and everyone else are doing better. If only as adults we could have the energy of 5 year olds 😂
My sons pediatrician said the strain that’s going around right now is staying at the top of the lungs and is mild so I’m hoping that’s the strain we got stuck with!
I don’t really know much about birth centers, but definitely not opposed to them. What would be things to look for when choosing a good one and comparing multiple?
@daisyyyy - I first looked for better ratings/reviews to narrow down the search, then I looked at the different websites to see which ones I felt “connected” to and how close to the hospitals they were. I then contacted the midwives to talk to them and to see what they offered/their experience. Depends on what kind of birthing experience you’d like (birthing stool, water birth, etc.) Also check on insurance! I have private insurance so I was lucky that my midwife accepts my insurance. The first birthing center I contacted didn’t do VBAC’s, but they recommended another birthing center about 45 minutes from my house. It’s a bit farther than I’d like, but it’s the next closest city.
Not to completely change subjects, I’m doing a birth center that’s in a hospital, but I’m 22/3 now and I’ve actually lost a couple lbs. not on purpose, but I have had a cold/sore throat and just kinda felt out of it for a few days. Should I be worried? Should I call the dr? He’s still movin and groovin often so that’s at least a tad reassuring. FTM and nervous as always
@jilliboo with DD I gained all of my weight in the first 24 weeks or so. I didn’t gain any more after that and no one said anything to me. So I think I was losing my regular weight while gaining baby weight and it must have been fine? If you are feeling off I think it is worth a message to your OB but I don’t think losing a few pounds is anything to worry about assuming you have an appetite and everything
I didn't gain any weight after 28 weeks with my last. I probably lost normal weight while he gained and gained and gained. He was over 10 lbs. My doc told me some women gain all their weight in the second trimester and then stop. Our bodies just do what they feel like I think.
Re: The Great Big Question Thread!
I know this is not your typical pregnancy related question whatsoever, but I don’t even know where to write this type of thing. I’m heartbroken writing this, but every good thought/vibe, or prayers (whatever your religious beliefs) would be appreciated tremendously right now. Yesterday afternoon, my boyfriend was on his way home from work, where we were planning on telling our parents the gender reveal of our baby, when he got in an accident. He’s eighteen years old and currently on life support. I don’t have many answers at the moment to his current condition, but it’s extremely critical. I’m almost 21 weeks pregnant and I’m beyond scared out of my mind at the thought of raising, and delivering this baby on my own. The hospital isn’t letting any visitors in other than his parents because of a COVID spike, so I haven’t even been allowed in to be with him. I cant sleep, my anxiety is through the roof right now, and I feel at such a total loss right now with getting through this and this pregnancy. This is our first baby, and on top of an already difficult pregnancy so far and the fears from that, I just don’t know how I will be able to be a good mom if I lose him. Thoughts and prayers appreciated so so much!! ❤️❤️❤️
I have similar road blocks with starting the nursery or even birthing/infant care classes. It feels overwhelming even tho I know it's simple to register for a class at local hospitals.
https://www.mackenziehoran.com/2019/06/11/whats-on-our-baby-registry/
https://carlyriordan.com/what-we-registered-for.html
If you're feeling intimidated by starting, it's a lot easier if you break it down into categories, such as bathtime, feeding, changing, for mum, toys, etc. Just pick away at one category at a time. Once you get going it's a lot easier. Also, if you have one item you do know you really want, just enter that and you may find that it gets easier from there.
@mcclanna I am going to stalk those lists right now because I was told I need to expand the list. Like WHAT I have almost 50 items already and a very limited living space.
Also I love babylist, but it can be a pain to organize. Still better than other registries I've tried, though!
Side note: if any Chicagoland Mamas are looking for a used city mini gt double in blue complete with belly bars, trays, a cooler, and rain shield; let me know. It's in excellent condition. I'm about to list it on Facebook marketplace.
I would really recommend asking your OB what they would recommend taking. He was able to take sudafed, mucinex, nyquil, doxycycline/inhaler (because he also developed pneumonia), vitamin c and d. We were basically just trying to throw everything we could at it and I know some of these are not recommended during pregnancy. One of my friends who caught the initial omicron wave while pregnant did take sudafed (which is class C) and was under close watch by her OB.
Have some tea, rest as much as you can, and sanitize everything once you feel better. It sucks and I'm so sorry that y'all are dealing with it right now. Hope that you and your mom feel better soon
I didn't take much medication, but did do Zinc lozenges every day (2-3 a day, more is not recommended for pregnancy), extra vitamin C and D, and Sudafed PE a couple of nights when the congestion was really bad. Other than that, just natural remedies that tend to work for me. Most other meds aren't recommended for pregnancy. I get super snotty with upper respiratory illnesses and a neti pot kinda helped clear things out. Right now my sinuses are still really dry from all the nose blowing, so I'm doing some saline spray. That's it though. I never had a fever, but take Tylenol if you do.
Oh-- and hydration is extra important for Covid, and extra extra important when pregnant. So just get a few cases of your favorite beverage from grocery pickup and settle in. And plain water too, of course.
Lastly, I'd just message your OB or midwife to let them know. They probably won't be concerned but it's good to keep them posted in case you have any weird or lasting effects.
My sons pediatrician said the strain that’s going around right now is staying at the top of the lungs and is mild so I’m hoping that’s the strain we got stuck with!