Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Introductions
Took two tests “wrong” and went out and bought three different tests! Finally did it right (3 times!).
My husband and I have been together for 21 years (high school sweethearts) and married for 11. We have an 8yo son that is going to be a fantastic brother judging by how he’s taking care of his mama! We have a “hobby farm” with 3 dogs, 4 chickens, and a cranky tortoise. My husband and I both work for the same company that has allowed us to work from home even before the pandemic. I really enjoy crafting, especially crochet.
”Morning sickness” is no joke!!! I thought it was bad with my first, maybe 9 years made me forget! This is week 9 so hopefully we will be settling down soon. We are high risk and have to do lovenox injections twice a day, which isn’t the most fun. On the flip side high risk means we get lots of appointments to check on our little “jalapeño popper (JP)”. First appointment went well, strong heartbeat!
Excited to get to know everyone!
Due date? January 29th.
Due date? January 17th
We have our first appt. and ultrasound on the 14th and I am extremely nervous since I’m an older gal. Hoping to finally get some relief after seeing that heartbeat.
Looking forward to getting to know everyone and our journeys together through this!
Due date? January 15th
How did you find out? I took a pregnancy test early one morning on a complete whim. I was not expecting a positive result at all, and I’m thrilled.
Tell us about yourself? No other children…or pets, so baby will be a big change! I enjoy outdoor activities (hiking, camping, running, etc). My husband and I just bought a house and will be moving across the country to the Bay Area (where he’s from), so two big, exciting changes all at once.
How are you feeling?
Luckily, I feel okay, just really TIRED. I have a demanding job and I’ve been feeling sooo unmotivated and distracted. I’ve had two appointments and two ultrasounds already (my first U/S was too early to get an accurate due date). So far so good. *fingers crossed*
Due date? 1/30
To you and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy
Due Date? Jan 28.
Tell us about yourself (Other children/pets?Job? Things you like to do? Spouse/partner?) I have 2 Children 7 year old daughter from a previous marriage and soon to be 1 year old son (bday is 7/8) Hubby and I have been together for 5 years.
How are you feeling? (First appointment? Any symptoms? Emotionally?) I am feeling excited and a bit surprised this was all very unexpected. Symptoms I have morning sickness but in the afternoon. My favorite foods make me sick. Have been eating very bland foods and Italian ices to get me through the nausea. 1st appointment went well, heart beat is strong. So far so good 😊
Due date?
January 6th
I peed on a stick 2 days before my period was due and voila! Of course I had to take another test the next day...and then one a week later, just to be sure.
My husband and I got married last year and we both work in the same career field for the government. Before pregnancy, I loved to dirt bike riding. We hike a lot and spend as much time as we can outdoors. I also love eating out and trying new restaurants. We're an older couple and neither of us have kids from a previous relationship, so this is a first for both of us! We don't have any pets yet, but we really want to get a dog.
I recently did my NIPT and nuchal translucency ultrasound as well as 12 week checkup. I had moderate morning sickness (without puking) from weeks 6/7-10, with the 10th week being the absolute worst. Oh, and NO ONE ever tells you how much gas you'll have in those first few weeks! Emotionally, I was great up until last week or so, now I get irritable easily and feel like I have a constant case of PMS. Fun times!
-LMP gives due date of January 9th
How did you find out?
-We were using LH testing and took a pregnancy test 2 wks after ovulation that was positive.
Tell us about yourself (Other children/pets?Job? Things you like to do? Spouse/partner?)
-I am a pediatric hematology/ oncology nurse. This is my first biological child, my husband has a 17 yr old daughter from his first marriage. In my free time I love sailing and baking.
How are you feeling? (First appointment? Any symptoms? Emotionally?)
-I was quite nauseated from weeks 6-11 but got lucky and was only sick a couple of times. I am high risk so I joke that my body took it easy on me for the first trimester since the third is likely to be extra rough. Mostly just crying at things that wouldn't normally make me cry.
Due date: 1/11/22
How did you find out: took a few tests because I was feeling very tired and naseaus in the mornings
Tell us about yourself: we have a 21 month old wild child who keeps us very busy! I work part time as a pediatric occupational therapist in home health with kiddos birth to age 3 through early intervention. My husband is a chemical engineer. We are high school sweethearts and have been married for almost 6 years now. We love to be outside, go on walks with our dog, visit family, and binge tv shows.
How are you feeling: finally starting to relax- it's been a crazy few weeks but baby is looking healthy and I am finally getting a little more energy back! We told our parents over the 4th and plan to tell the rest of our family and close friends soon!
Due date? January 6th
(I have tried to change this username & It won’t change so please ignore this ridiculous username LOL)
Due date? January 14th
Introduce yourself:
I'm Teja, 29yrs old, momma to be with our first child. One quirk you notice about me first is my height.
I'm 5ft 10inc. yep wow yes
Due date?
Currently I'm given Jan 20th as my due date. yet to know the gender. I've my scan on the 26th-Aug. I'm super nervous and excited at the same time.
We started planning start of this year(2021) and I was super excited as my next menstrual date was approaching in May 20th. So I've been testing and testing and testing... a week before and there the stick turned "Pregnant" on May 19th 7.05 am. I was super gassy and my breasts hurt like hell the week before, I never felt that way and I thought that was the cue and I was super duper excited for the stick to turn. Although the first test was disappointing but the second one was exciting, confusing(because I was waiting n waiting for the stick to turn BUTTTT I don't know what in the world to do after the stick turns)...
No other children/pets.
I'm an engineer and so comes the stress along.
My spouse is Pranav(yep also an engineer) and we have been married for 2+ yrs now.
Primary Symptoms I faced were nausea, mild headache, excessive gassiness and OMG I can't tell you how terrible was my breast tenderness.
Emotionally it's a roller coaster , I feel happy suddenly, start crying unnecessarily, moody mostly. So that's how my mood train has been going.
I really would love to know you folks more, catch up and make some great friends through this community.