@blitzybee I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time in your marriage, but echoing what everyone else said I think it’s a great idea that they will some day be proud of. I know a family who uses the previous child’s first name as the next child’s middle name and they have 4 boys.
@blitzybee I live in the northeast, went to prep school blah blah. It’s pretty common here to do that- not that this should sway you, because I think you should do what works for you. But just saying that there is precedent, since I’ve had many classmates &/or colleagues from old families that have the same middle name as siblings, and that name is traced back to a maiden name.
Maybe you are starting a tradition with your boys and they’ll be the ones to continue it!
@nomangos23 lol “raindrop” - I am honestly totally fine w out there names but sometimes it goes too far (apple?!) that said, I know someone who recently had a daughter and her name is Nova. I think that’s so freaking cool.
@blitzybee my SIL (married, but did not change her last name) has three kids and all three have her last name as their middle. It has never struck me as odd! I would definitely do it.
Will you use their middle as a 'bonus surname' as they get older? So that if you do change yours back, they still identify with you to teachers, classmates, etc?
So sorry to hear you guys are struggling. Having been through it, it really, truly sucks.
@blitzybee Everyone has already said exactly what I wanted to say (doooooo it!!), but just wanted to send you a gigantic hug! I’m sorry you’ve been dealing with this and you’re a mega rockstar for it!
@blitzybee everyone else has it covered! But wanted to add I know a family of grown up kids who all have the same middle name (mom's last name, she never changed it), and none of them - and there are more than two - has ever had anything bad to say about it! Sending thoughts and your way, I'm sorry this is such a rough time.
@blitzybee I agree with everyone else, I think it would be really nice for you to all share the same name (and conversely if you don't do it, then child #2 may feel a bit miffed that you and #1 share a name with meaning to you, but he doesn't?) I say go for it! Also, I'm really sorry that your marriage is struggling especially during such an emotional time for you to begin with (pregnancy). I'm thinking of you!
@blitzybee first I’m sorry you are having marriage struggles and I do hope it resolves the best way possible, whatever way that may be
As for maiden names as middle names, to me and many other families/cultures it’s perfectly normal. My middle name is my mom’s maiden name and I also shoved my maiden name into my middle name when I got married. I didn’t end up passing on that tradition to my kids but that was just a personal choice. I do think it would be wonderful for all your kids to share that same middle name. Familial bonding 💕
Re: Baby Names!
Maybe you are starting a tradition with your boys and they’ll be the ones to continue it!
@nomangos23 lol “raindrop” - I am honestly totally fine w out there names but sometimes it goes too far (apple?!) that said, I know someone who recently had a daughter and her name
is Nova. I think that’s so freaking cool.
DS: 18 months
Dx DOR AMH .2
<a href="http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Pregnancy"><img
Will you use their middle as a 'bonus surname' as they get older? So that if you do change yours back, they still identify with you to teachers, classmates, etc?
So sorry to hear you guys are struggling. Having been through it, it really, truly sucks.
you all rock my world 🥰🤗
thank you so much for the input! And thanks for the support, too!
As for maiden names as middle names, to me and many other families/cultures it’s perfectly normal. My middle name is my mom’s maiden name and I also shoved my maiden name into my middle name when I got married. I didn’t end up passing on that tradition to my kids but that was just a personal choice. I do think it would be wonderful for all your kids to share that same middle name. Familial bonding 💕