@RedBreast35 I like Stella! I think it is classic and cute for a little girl, but also a name she can grow with that won’t sound silly in adulthood. I do think it is becoming a popular/trendy name though. It seems like old fashioned names in general are becoming more popular. I’m a fan of the trend getting away from the dreaded “y” names
@RedBreast35 I like Stella! I think it’s super cute!! It does remind me of Streetcar (yo @LilyASF42). I had an older coworker whose name was Stella and she was the SWEETEST!!
AFM, I’m working on a name. I’m not 100% ready to share (sorry!). But my thing is I like the nicknames better than the “formal” name. I still like the formal name...I just LOVE the nicknames. We have a longer last name (3 syllables) and the “formal” name is 4 syllables. Is that too much of a mouthful?! DH likes the 5 syllable variation (lol) but I shot that down.
@lillywonderland I say go for it! Liking the nicknames is such a big part of picking the name and the fact that you love them is a sign IMO! You do have me curious about what the name could possibly be though lol.
@lillywonderland not knowing what the name specifically is, you can always just use the nickname as the formal name. No one says you have to use a formal name :-) Friend of mine named her daughter Lucy. Not Lucille. Just Lucy :-)
@lillywonderland I'm named a nickname. My parent's take on it was that they were just going to call me this name so didn't feel the need to give me the formal name they were never going to use.
@lillywonderland I go by my nickname and really wish it was my given name. They aren't that different, but it creates confusion. For example, my work would only use my formal name on my email, so people get confused all the time about who is emailing them. It is more annoying than anything, but still annoying.
@lillywonderland I really loved Ross for a girl but didn’t have the balls either so decided on Rosslin to begin with. I gave it the axe because DH couldn’t comprehend if it was Rosslin or Roselyn
@lillywonderland Both of my kids go by nicknames - they have full names but we have cutesy nicknames for both. They also have the option to use more “grown up” nicknames or their full name for when they are older (if they choose to!). I personally love nicknames
i am super stuck on a girls name. I am not really loving anything besides really common names, that my husband has vetoed: Caroline (“Lili”), Charlotte (“Charley”) and Catherine (“kitty”). See, I really love nn
@nomangos23 Perhaps I will share DS's name when we move to the PG. It's so freakin' perfect for him, it's nutso. And I love it so!! IT'S THE BEST NAME EVER!!
I keep feeling like maybe some inspiration will strike and we'll have the perfect name that I will love 100%. I'm waffling hardcore on like everything. URGH!
@RedBreast35 I like the name Stella, it’s a great classic name. I’ve seen it used some recently so I don’t think it seems out there or old fashioned.
@lillywonderland I agree with others that you don’t have to use the formal name if you’re just going to have her go buy the nickname. Especially if you love it. I also don’t think length really matters. DS1 has a short first name with a long middle name and a longish last name.
We we are officially naming this little dude Jackson. I’ve been calling him that for the last 8 weeks and MH is mostly on board, though he keeps calling him Jackie, which annoys me. DS1 is calling him Jackson too so that just seals the deal for me. Can’t fully decide on a middle name but it has to start with an A because I’m crazy. Thinking of Andre.
@themadcamel part of me is worried about the STTTTEEEELLLLLAAAAA reference, but then again, do young people even know who Tennessee Williams these days? Thanks all for your input! I guess DH gets to keep Stella on the table
@lillywonderland since you said your LN has 3 syllables, I became pretty convinced that it's actually "Wonderland." Sow now I'm testing 4 syllable first names with Wonderland as the last name. (eg Anastasia Wonderland.) And none of the combinations seemed like too many syllables!!
Ugh guys I pressed DH on names last night, as he hasn't really participated much at all to date.
And now he wants to name our baby Frank or David and is reeaalllyyyy loving David. David sparks no joy for this mama. It's such a... grown up business executive name. And my baby is... a baby. Davey is kind of cute I guess? I'm just not buying it. Frank is not happening.
@nomangos23 Marie Kondo then both! You want your baby’s name to spark all the joy. Are there any names you love that you can pitch to him? DH has me make a list and we agree on one. He offers no suggestions of his own.
@nomangos23 I don't think I could get on board with either of those as a first name... Also I just went looking for a Marie Kondo gif that was appropriate to use and ended up transfixed by this one for a good 4 minutes...
@duewithpu2 That's kind of where we were before I pressed him to give me names he liked. There are two that I like and he's okay with, but I guess I felt bad about him only feeling okay about the names. Last night I said "So is our baby's name xxx?" and he said "If that's what you want" and I felt terrible! I should have just shut up lol
@nomangos23 he seems very similar to DH when it comes to naming. I just say things like “Are you sure you like it? This is your kid too” a lot so there’s plenty of opportunity to speak up and say no. In the end if they’re willing to go with a name that will be with the kid forever, they must like it enough!
I think David is a good, strong name! But I agree, you have to love the name and (as a Kondo fan), it should spark joy. That said, naming gets so wonky.
My youngest has a name that I didn't love - I gave him that name to win the approval of my mom and now she’s not even in my life anymore (long story). But I will say, this name fits him perfectly! The name I wanted (Gray), would not fit his personality at all.
I am about to sound super out there: sometimes names are just meant to be - I had a diff name for 2 weeks of my life and then it was changed (my mom is nuts: see above). I guess now I feel like this name was just meant for me, same as my little guy.
So, as important as names are, I think there’s a little twist of fate that happens, so don’t sweat it too much. Also, I do like the name David a ton, prob because the one David I know is an amazing guy
@rms924 I love the perspective. And I totally get the name needing to fit the baby. I think that's why I feel so much pressure. Maybe we'll have two or three names ready for when he's born and pick the best one once we meet him?
While I don't love David, I DO love Davis and it's only one letter off and we could still call him Davey but DH is not biting. He actually said he wants a very average, middle of the road name for DS. I don't know why, but this makes me very sad.
@nomangos23 I don't know if this helps but I will tell you that every pregnancy, a certain factor becomes really important to me. I can't explain it. With my first, we were renting and I was very attached to creating a beautiful nursery. With my second, it was getting into our first home. Which is why I am currently in a house without central AC (what was I thinking!!). So I can relate to you saying that this is important to you. Maybe your husband will understand that.
Preparing for baby is such an opportunity to open the channels of communication with your husband- we've worked it out and it meant that we were able to handle other disagreements (childcare, sleep arrangements, bf vs. formula) a little easier. Is there a reason behind his thinking about the name? He seems to like to traditional names...would he be open to exploring names outside of David and Frank? I did a quick google search: William, James, Paul, Robert- the list goes on- awesome names that are more on the traditional side.
My husband and I are never going to line up with the naming so we sort of took turns (I know, it sounds strange!). This third one, we are splitting it- he's picking a name, I am picking a name and we are going to figure out the first name/middle name combo once she's here.
Btw. on the topic of traditional names- sometimes if you have an out there name (like me!), you don't want your kids dealing with the hassles of that. It's super frustrating. Is that the case with your husband?
@rms924 Actually DH has a very common name, and I guess he has enjoyed that and wants that for DS? I understand him not wanting his kid having a hard time with a name, but it's not like I'm trying to name our baby Raindrop. I like names that are not super common, but not unheard of (which is also how I feel my name is, go figure) I've never known another person with my name, but it's not uncommon at all. DH was probably 1 of 5 guys with his name in his class growing up. I guess it's just a matter of opinion.
@nomangos23 as someone who had at least 2-3 girls in her classes growing up that shared the same name, I totally get wanting some uniqueness! While I think David is a great name and not as common anymore, I do agree with what others have said about the name needing to feel special and spark joy.
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Looking for opinions on a tricky topic for myself: My son has my maiden name as his middle name. I really wanted to pass the name along especially since my dad was the only one left with the last name and my brothers are not having children. Our family history is actually really cool, so there is a lot of emotion behind the name. I’ve always felt a little badly about this because it’s not the greatest, but my son’s full name does have a strong presence, and to give an idea, it is a very simple, 1 syllable name.
So I never thought I would consider naming son number 2 the same way with my maiden name as his middle, but with where my marriage is at, I’m considering it. There’s a pretty decent possibility that I’m going to end up divorced, and the only reason I wouldn’t go back to my maiden name is to have the same last name as my sons...
what do you all think? How stupid is it to make both of my kids have my name (which would mean they would both have the same middle name). Is it reasonable and maybe even cool to have that name, or are these kids going to hate me if I do that? I see both sides and really do want the honesty from you all, so lay it on me.
Edit: and FYI, my maiden is currently my middle. I hated my given middle name, so I was happy to use it (I hope I’m not making my son feel the same way about his name!) So my son and I actually share the same middle name. I think it’s special, but I don’t want these kids to be ticked at me!
@blitzybee honestly, I think it’s cool to pass on your family’s name to them too! Middle names aren’t something they’ll have to identify themselves with at every introduction, but it’s still something that links them to your side of the family so it’s got meaning. I don’t see them being upset about having the same last name since it’s a family name and not some random trendy name. I know someone whose family passes on the grandmas maiden name to all the girls in the family. I think that’s pretty awesome!
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@blitzybee I don't see anything wrong with them both having your maiden name as middle names. Especially since it is a family name. I also don't think they'd be mad at you. If anything, I bet they'd feel cool to have a part in your family history.
@blitzybee Go for it. My favorite professor in college kept her maiden name due to professional reasons but they gave their kids her husband's last name. So they used her last name as their middle names. I always thought it was pretty cool.
@blitzybee I agree with the other ladies; it’s a great way to pass on your maiden name and keep the memory of your side of the family alive. My dad’s surname ended with me and it makes me a little sad to think that it won’t carry on in some way.
@blitzybee Go for it! You won't regret it. Family surnames are cool! My dear friend and her sister both have their mom's name as their middle. I'm v attached to my last name (it's a misspelling so if anyone else has it, we are related!) and my first name is v (v v) common. (So common that my brother is getting married this summer and his wife and I will have the exact. Same. Name.) (Sidebar: haven't changed my last name to MH's but may in the future.)
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AFM, I’m working on a name. I’m not 100% ready to share (sorry!). But my thing is I like the nicknames better than the “formal” name. I still like the formal name...I just LOVE the nicknames. We have a longer last name (3 syllables) and the “formal” name is 4 syllables. Is that too much of a mouthful?! DH likes the 5 syllable variation (lol) but I shot that down.
@lillywonderland I don't think a lot of syllables is a bad thing, but maybe just keep the middle name short? I'm a big nickname person too!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
I’m prolly about 95% sure Jane is our middle name.
@RedBreast35 I love the name Stella. So classic.
i am super stuck on a girls name. I am not really loving anything besides really common names, that my husband has vetoed: Caroline (“Lili”), Charlotte (“Charley”) and Catherine (“kitty”). See, I really love nn
DS: 18 months
Dx DOR AMH .2
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I keep feeling like maybe some inspiration will strike and we'll have the perfect name that I will love 100%. I'm waffling hardcore on like everything. URGH!
@lillywonderland I agree with others that you don’t have to use the formal name if you’re just going to have her go buy the nickname. Especially if you love it. I also don’t think length really matters. DS1 has a short first name with a long middle name and a longish last name.
We we are officially naming this little dude Jackson. I’ve been calling him that for the last 8 weeks and MH is mostly on board, though he keeps calling him Jackie, which annoys me. DS1 is calling him Jackson too so that just seals the deal for me. Can’t fully decide on a middle name but it has to start with an A because I’m crazy. Thinking of Andre.
Thanks all for your input! I guess DH gets to keep Stella on the table
@lillywonderland since you said your LN has 3 syllables, I became pretty convinced that it's actually "Wonderland." Sow now I'm testing 4 syllable first names with Wonderland as the last name. (eg Anastasia Wonderland.) And none of the combinations seemed like too many syllables!!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
And now he wants to name our baby Frank or David and is reeaalllyyyy loving David. David sparks no joy for this mama. It's such a... grown up business executive name. And my baby is... a baby. Davey is kind of cute I guess? I'm just not buying it. Frank is not happening.
ETA: Grammar
Also I just went looking for a Marie Kondo gif that was appropriate to use and ended up transfixed by this one for a good 4 minutes...
@nomangos23 Are you into calling him Dah-veed? Like the Spanish version of David? It’s spelled the same!
Other than that, I’m on team Marie Kondo the names!
My youngest has a name that I didn't love - I gave him that name to win the approval of my mom and now she’s not even in my life anymore (long story). But I will say, this name fits him perfectly! The name I wanted (Gray), would not fit his personality at all.
I am about to sound super out there: sometimes names are just meant to be - I had a diff name for 2 weeks of my life and then it was changed (my mom is nuts: see above). I guess now I feel like this name was just meant for me, same as my little guy.
So, as important as names are, I think there’s a little twist of fate that happens, so don’t sweat it too much. Also, I do like the name David a ton, prob because the one David I know is an amazing guy
ETA: I re read my post and I sound crazy lol
DS: 18 months
Dx DOR AMH .2
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While I don't love David, I DO love Davis and it's only one letter off and we could still call him Davey but DH is not biting. He actually said he wants a very average, middle of the road name for DS. I don't know why, but this makes me very sad.
Preparing for baby is such an opportunity to open the channels of communication with your husband- we've worked it out and it meant that we were able to handle other disagreements (childcare, sleep arrangements, bf vs. formula) a little easier. Is there a reason behind his thinking about the name? He seems to like to traditional names...would he be open to exploring names outside of David and Frank? I did a quick google search: William, James, Paul, Robert- the list goes on- awesome names that are more on the traditional side.
My husband and I are never going to line up with the naming so we sort of took turns (I know, it sounds strange!). This third one, we are splitting it- he's picking a name, I am picking a name and we are going to figure out the first name/middle name combo once she's here.
Btw. on the topic of traditional names- sometimes if you have an out there name (like me!), you don't want your kids dealing with the hassles of that. It's super frustrating. Is that the case with your husband?
DS: 18 months
Dx DOR AMH .2
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Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
So I never thought I would consider naming son number 2 the same way with my maiden name as his middle, but with where my marriage is at, I’m considering it. There’s a pretty decent possibility that I’m going to end up divorced, and the only reason I wouldn’t go back to my maiden name is to have the same last name as my sons...
what do you all think? How stupid is it to make both of my kids have my name (which would mean they would both have the same middle name). Is it reasonable and maybe even cool to have that name, or are these kids going to hate me if I do that? I see both sides and really do want the honesty from you all, so lay it on me.
Edit: and FYI, my maiden is currently my middle. I hated my given middle name, so I was happy to use it (I hope I’m not making my son feel the same way about his name!) So my son and I actually share the same middle name. I think it’s special, but I don’t want these kids to be ticked at me!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle