Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: June Randoms
I posted this in the Facebook group and I'll recap it here: I went to L&D this morning after having some brown discharge. Everything was OK, but the doctor was glad I came in just to be on the safe side. I mentioned my baby shower was yesterday and I was super stressed afterwards, and the doctor said she's seen several women experience bleeding right before or after their baby showers! Must be all the stress or change in activity. Home now resting up and slowly taking inventory of all our shower gifts
@hestia14 So scary--but glad everything is ok. Enjoy going through all the gifts!
@bartonolivia The picture is beautiful. I'm sorry your shower wasn't what you expected but i hope you were able to enjoy those people that attended.
@bartonolivia I'm sorry no one showed but you looked absolutely stunning! 😍
, 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Also, not everyone really understands how to support a pregnancy. My 2 best friends are single guys (no gfs, no kids) and don’t know how to engage the topic AT ALL! No shower gifts from them, they’re clueless! 😂 I didnt expect anything from them anyway, and we’re good.
Even I used to think showers were sort of self-indulgent parties I couldn’t get into.
So, chalk it up to your siblings just not getting the importance. I doubt they didn’t show to hurt you on purpose. I know it sucks though, I’ve had to deal with sibling disconnection for years. You have to forge ahead with whatever posse you can count on! ❤️
@mamanbebe yes... I’m glad for the FB group being closed now because all of the sudden a bunch of randos have decided to join in and post. It feels weird that they all ‘lurked’ for so long and never posted anything.
And some of them aren’t even due in July, they’re just on our board because it’s still active unlike their boards that had falling outs.
Also it's sad that the group split off before everyone delivered. My last birth month migrated several months postpartum. Watching all the delivery updates and then the postpartum camaraderie/commiseration was the best part.
I didn’t decide dates to close - but the folks who posted after are names I don’t recognize. So there’s something to that. And it IS more private than here. The Bump is also owned by a large corporation. And anyone can see anything I type. At least there only one of those things are true.
Also. I’ve met Jesse Eisenberg and Randi Zuckerberg. So... it’s like I know everything about FB. (this is a joke.)
Im not posting there yet because I need to triple check my privacy settings, and even then, Im scared FB is going to notify every “friend” of mine that I posted, shared, tagged, answered a survey there in the group...
Please tell me Im wrong...if I lock down my privacy settings and it’s a closed group, would FB put notifications out to my “friends”? I hope not.
I dont care so much about FB taking data like what I click on in the closed group. That will be essentially the only place I use FB, so I dont care.
But what I’ve always hated about FB is that “friends” are just anyone in your life that at some point you didn’t want to turn down their request (which I now do, since Ive been inactive). To me, its like a stalking service! I know its great for actual PR, etc, but its not my social style, at all.
So, I agree it sucks that people left completely before births. BUT- here we are! I actually feel more private here because this platform isn’t connected to my lifetime of “friends”. I could give a shit less whether my comments to you guys are searchable, not actually private...at least theres no chance that my ex boyfriends and ex friends, old acquaintances, whatever, arent going to be notified of my activities here!
You probably wont see my face here ever...but I still like chatting here and having the support. Neither platform is perfect. But I think I like TB more now that its a smaller group! I had trouble keeping up before. Now we’re checking in in one thread...Randoms are not 4 pages long on day one... 😂
As as far as everyone, I’ve still been checking in here even though I joined FB. I’ve had a personally busy week this week so I haven’t been super active. Today I’m off and am more active but it’s nice being able to have better threads on Facebook and conversations with the original poster.
I’m excited to hear everyone’s birth stories though! And share mine!
And then my family was out for the weekend. So I just didn’t have time.