So, I’m apparently useless when MH is out of town and I was awake from 2-4:30 which sucks!! New goal-staying off TB and FB today so I actually get stuff done
So, I’m apparently useless when MH is out of town and I was awake from 2-4:30 which sucks!! New goal-staying off TB and FB today so I actually get stuff done
This has changed. Puked up my whole lovely breakfast I made myself so any level of productivity is gone.
@blackhottamales sorry you puked! I also surprise vomited this morning, like not just a little gag but a full out toilet hugging violent vomit. Unreal. I don't think I ever puked this late in a pregnancy before.
@Cbeanz right?! I told DH yesterday that this was our last full month before we're officially parents
I posted this in the Facebook group and I'll recap it here: I went to L&D this morning after having some brown discharge. Everything was OK, but the doctor was glad I came in just to be on the safe side. I mentioned my baby shower was yesterday and I was super stressed afterwards, and the doctor said she's seen several women experience bleeding right before or after their baby showers! Must be all the stress or change in activity. Home now resting up and slowly taking inventory of all our shower gifts
@hestia14 a friend of DHs was over yesterday and told us that his wife had gone into labor the day of and delivered their son a minute before their shower was supposed to take place after a stressful day prior of having to move the event to their own house. She was 33 1/2 weeks but all turned out ok after a week in the nicu.
Had my shower yesterday. Really upset because not a single family member outside of the hosts (MIL, SIL, & my mom) and my 3 sisters that live with my mom and we’re obligated to go attended. (Keep in mind, I have 10 siblings.... 7 of them are my sisters 3 brothers) Several people RSVPd and decided to just tell us 5 minutes before the shower that they won’t be able to make it, or just didn’t show up. My 5 friends came & that’s it. It’s not about presents for me, it’s about the support and celebration. My mom spent so much money just to have everyone to not show up.
@bartonolivia I'm so sorry you had so many people not show. That's a hard thing to deal with. I hope you can focus on the good and celebrate with those who showed they cared.
@bartonolivia Sorry about the shower disappointment. To comisserate, I have 4 siblings and a working relationship with only one of them. Had a good cry over how much that sucks when having a baby, but now just have adjusted my expectations. Also, not everyone really understands how to support a pregnancy. My 2 best friends are single guys (no gfs, no kids) and don’t know how to engage the topic AT ALL! No shower gifts from them, they’re clueless! 😂 I didnt expect anything from them anyway, and we’re good. Even I used to think showers were sort of self-indulgent parties I couldn’t get into. So, chalk it up to your siblings just not getting the importance. I doubt they didn’t show to hurt you on purpose. I know it sucks though, I’ve had to deal with sibling disconnection for years. You have to forge ahead with whatever posse you can count on! ❤️
Someone posted in one of the other threads that she delivered late May at 33 weeks but hasn't posted in birth stories - I'm also surprised there haven't been more!
I never saw the post about someone having baby at 33 weeks. Was it a regular poster?
@mamanbebe yes... I’m glad for the FB group being closed now because all of the sudden a bunch of randos have decided to join in and post. It feels weird that they all ‘lurked’ for so long and never posted anything.
And some of them aren’t even due in July, they’re just on our board because it’s still active unlike their boards that had falling outs.
The entire concept is just odd to me. Create an online group from a previous online group, and vote about who is allowed to be in it. Assign an arbitrary deadline after which the group is "closed". Share personal info with a multi billion dollar company and call it "private". I mean folks can do whatever they want but I honestly just don't get it.
@Cbeanz right?? Also it's sad that the group split off before everyone delivered. My last birth month migrated several months postpartum. Watching all the delivery updates and then the postpartum camaraderie/commiseration was the best part.
I mean a lot of us are still here.... or should we not be?
I didn’t decide dates to close - but the folks who posted after are names I don’t recognize. So there’s something to that. And it IS more private than here. The Bump is also owned by a large corporation. And anyone can see anything I type. At least there only one of those things are true.
Also. I’ve met Jesse Eisenberg and Randi Zuckerberg. So... it’s like I know everything about FB. (this is a joke.)
I’ll say this about FB: Im not posting there yet because I need to triple check my privacy settings, and even then, Im scared FB is going to notify every “friend” of mine that I posted, shared, tagged, answered a survey there in the group...
Please tell me Im wrong...if I lock down my privacy settings and it’s a closed group, would FB put notifications out to my “friends”? I hope not.
I dont care so much about FB taking data like what I click on in the closed group. That will be essentially the only place I use FB, so I dont care. But what I’ve always hated about FB is that “friends” are just anyone in your life that at some point you didn’t want to turn down their request (which I now do, since Ive been inactive). To me, its like a stalking service! I know its great for actual PR, etc, but its not my social style, at all.
So, I agree it sucks that people left completely before births. BUT- here we are! I actually feel more private here because this platform isn’t connected to my lifetime of “friends”. I could give a shit less whether my comments to you guys are searchable, not actually private...at least theres no chance that my ex boyfriends and ex friends, old acquaintances, whatever, arent going to be notified of my activities here!
You probably wont see my face here ever...but I still like chatting here and having the support. Neither platform is perfect. But I think I like TB more now that its a smaller group! I had trouble keeping up before. Now we’re checking in in one thread...Randoms are not 4 pages long on day one... 😂
@expatmom39 private and closed groups don’t share to your friends. Buy sell trade and other public groups do though.
As as far as everyone, I’ve still been checking in here even though I joined FB. I’ve had a personally busy week this week so I haven’t been super active. Today I’m off and am more active but it’s nice being able to have better threads on Facebook and conversations with the original poster.
I'm glad a bunch of people stayed or are still in both groups! Ideally I wish everyone would've just stayed, but again, to each her own. The birth stories are some of the best parts.
@Cbeanz I always enjoyed reading the birth stories. I see them less and less in BMBs and it stinks. I know a lot of the ladies from my Jan17 group still shared them in our BMB, even though we had moved to FB.
@cbeanz I would’ve stayed just here but I submitted feedback to TB several times about glitches and nothing has been done. I really want to keep an interactive experience with my peeps and every week I lose a feature. It won’t even let me post bump pics which is my favorite Wednesday activity lol.
I’m excited to hear everyone’s birth stories though! And share mine!
I’m still here. just had a CRAZY week last week. I’ve got this job interview going on right now. Lot so of crazy things going on as they try to cram as much work into my last weeks! And then my family was out for the weekend. So I just didn’t have time.
Re: June Randoms
I posted this in the Facebook group and I'll recap it here: I went to L&D this morning after having some brown discharge. Everything was OK, but the doctor was glad I came in just to be on the safe side. I mentioned my baby shower was yesterday and I was super stressed afterwards, and the doctor said she's seen several women experience bleeding right before or after their baby showers! Must be all the stress or change in activity. Home now resting up and slowly taking inventory of all our shower gifts
@hestia14 So scary--but glad everything is ok. Enjoy going through all the gifts!
@bartonolivia The picture is beautiful. I'm sorry your shower wasn't what you expected but i hope you were able to enjoy those people that attended.
@bartonolivia I'm sorry no one showed but you looked absolutely stunning! 😍
, 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Also, not everyone really understands how to support a pregnancy. My 2 best friends are single guys (no gfs, no kids) and don’t know how to engage the topic AT ALL! No shower gifts from them, they’re clueless! 😂 I didnt expect anything from them anyway, and we’re good.
Even I used to think showers were sort of self-indulgent parties I couldn’t get into.
So, chalk it up to your siblings just not getting the importance. I doubt they didn’t show to hurt you on purpose. I know it sucks though, I’ve had to deal with sibling disconnection for years. You have to forge ahead with whatever posse you can count on! ❤️
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@mamanbebe yes... I’m glad for the FB group being closed now because all of the sudden a bunch of randos have decided to join in and post. It feels weird that they all ‘lurked’ for so long and never posted anything.
And some of them aren’t even due in July, they’re just on our board because it’s still active unlike their boards that had falling outs.
Also it's sad that the group split off before everyone delivered. My last birth month migrated several months postpartum. Watching all the delivery updates and then the postpartum camaraderie/commiseration was the best part.
I didn’t decide dates to close - but the folks who posted after are names I don’t recognize. So there’s something to that. And it IS more private than here. The Bump is also owned by a large corporation. And anyone can see anything I type. At least there only one of those things are true.
Also. I’ve met Jesse Eisenberg and Randi Zuckerberg. So... it’s like I know everything about FB. (this is a joke.)
Im not posting there yet because I need to triple check my privacy settings, and even then, Im scared FB is going to notify every “friend” of mine that I posted, shared, tagged, answered a survey there in the group...
Please tell me Im wrong...if I lock down my privacy settings and it’s a closed group, would FB put notifications out to my “friends”? I hope not.
I dont care so much about FB taking data like what I click on in the closed group. That will be essentially the only place I use FB, so I dont care.
But what I’ve always hated about FB is that “friends” are just anyone in your life that at some point you didn’t want to turn down their request (which I now do, since Ive been inactive). To me, its like a stalking service! I know its great for actual PR, etc, but its not my social style, at all.
So, I agree it sucks that people left completely before births. BUT- here we are! I actually feel more private here because this platform isn’t connected to my lifetime of “friends”. I could give a shit less whether my comments to you guys are searchable, not actually private...at least theres no chance that my ex boyfriends and ex friends, old acquaintances, whatever, arent going to be notified of my activities here!
You probably wont see my face here ever...but I still like chatting here and having the support. Neither platform is perfect. But I think I like TB more now that its a smaller group! I had trouble keeping up before. Now we’re checking in in one thread...Randoms are not 4 pages long on day one... 😂
As as far as everyone, I’ve still been checking in here even though I joined FB. I’ve had a personally busy week this week so I haven’t been super active. Today I’m off and am more active but it’s nice being able to have better threads on Facebook and conversations with the original poster.
I’m excited to hear everyone’s birth stories though! And share mine!
And then my family was out for the weekend. So I just didn’t have time.