@cindler I agree with all the above. I have been steadily losing weight for the past 6 weeks (since food won't stay down) and the doctors are not concerned at all. As said above, the baby will take what they need first. I also went from my fundal height measuring 4cm ahead to being exactly on par with where I should be. I'm sure everything is perfect:)
@cindler Also agree with everyone else. Measurements are less accurate the further along we get. That being said, I'm in the same boat as you - been measuring super consistently until a few weeks ago when I fell behind and have stayed behind. Getting my growth u/s on Tuesday, but my OB says she's not super concerned either. Basically just why not check since we have the ability to do so!
There have been quite a few new babes recently on FB! I’m not sure if they are planning to share their birth stories here as well but we’ve had about 5 so far in the last week, week and a half.
All of the birth stories are actually giving me anxiety lol. Not that they’re not beautiful and exciting but it reminds me that I’m due in 4 weeks and baby can literally come at any time now. I’m both excited and not ready lol.
I’m so jealous of all the July births happening already. I though with an earlier July date and twins I would be one of the first this time around. Dang you cervix of steel!
I’m 37+2 today, which is the same as I was induced with my last pregnancy. What’s funny is last time I was fully unprepared to go early, and had nothing ready. This time I prepared just in case, and she will probably hold out until the end 😆
@nolemomma14 I'm at 37 wks, too, and I was really worried about having things happen early, and then at my appt last week the Dr said I still had at least 2-3 weeks left (so probably not smart, but I now feel like I've got some time to breathe and the temptation to procrastinate on some things is strong).
@Cbeanz ^^this!! My neighbor (a grandmother who has 4 kids and 5 grandchildren) references every day when I walk my dog something like “you’re still pregnant?” “You’re still here?” “No baby yet?”
its pissing me off but I have to just smile and nod. She’s not forgetful she’s just annoying. This is why I didn’t tell any neighbors until April and I’m still getting comments. What part of “I still have a month” do you not understand?
One more rant: MIL is horrible. Her newest excuse for not coming to meet the baby is we’ll have too many visitors so she’ll come after the first of next year. Yep—there is no time for you to come in 2019 because my parents are here for a week, my sister is coming for a weekend in September and your ex-husband (my FIL) is coming for thanksgiving. Again-I shouldn’t complain because I don’t really want her here but I can tell that it’s upsetting MH when she makes those comments.
@blackhottamales I'm sorry, but your MIL is ridiculous!! I feel bad that your husband has to deal with that too. It's such a catch 22... we want people to come see our babies, but at the same time, we want nobody coming over LOL
I have the most first world MIL problem, but she keeps buying us stuff that we don't need (this is baby #2 and I kept almost everything from baby #1 who is just 19 mo old) and most importantly, don't have space for it. We just moved into a very small two-bedroom house that's literally half the size of our old house and now we will have twice the kids, so not only do I have all the toddler stuff but I brought back out all of the baby stuff too. I was just telling last week her how we had to rent a U-Haul to donate a ton of stuff that just doesn't fit in our new house, and yesterday, I get a package delivered from her with new toys for our toddler (plus two new sets of clothing this week alone). I literally just told her how I had to donate unopened toys that she never even played with. We keep telling her the "rule" - buy whatever you want, as long as you keep it at your house, because we don't want to deny grandparents their spoiling rights. But due to divorce, we have three sets of grandparents and our daughter and soon to be son are the only child-aged grandchildren, so the spoiling will get out of control if we let it. Again, smallest violins are playing for us, but trying to keep this tiny house tidy is a problem with so much stuff, not to mention that I'm a firm believer that too much toy clutter isn't good for kiddos. She doesn't need 23982094820498 toys, especially since she spends her days in daycare. I just wish she'd LISTEN and quit going against our wishes. She does the same thing with food - I don't have a pantry, just put food away in the cabinets. I tell her please don't bring any food when you come over, I barely have space for the staples and necessities and then she comes with a grocery bag of sugary snacks and junk food and stuff we don't/won't eat. It's so wasteful, just tossing it after she leaves but I don't know what else to do. Even if we ate that kind of food, we literally DO. NOT. HAVE. SPACE.
@tsa208 sounds like your problem is more that the grandparents won't listen than the consumerism. We have had issues with my mom not listening to our wishes and I just know there is a day on the horizon where shit is going to hit the fan over that. I'm not one to hold a grudge, so we'll get past whatever blow up happens, but if she keeps ignoring my wishes and requests, I'll have no choice but to go ape shit.
@tsa208 We have this exact same problem with our families, it's hard having baby boomer grandparents who are so stuck in their consumerist hoarder ways. For xmas last year I told my mom she could pickout a lego star wars set for my son and she sent a gigantic moving box filled to the brim with presents, I think he got 5 or 6 large lego sets, a number of other toys and then she sent unwrapped messy gifts like play-doh, bathtub paints and such that we cannot have in our teeny tiny house. I'm considering a present ban since kids don't really expect things from grandparents anyway.
@tsa208 - we have the same issue with presents when the grandparents come. They are here about twice per month and bring my daughter toys EVERY time. We have asked them multiple times not to and my MIL blatantly ignores us. It's so annoying. She argues that it's just small things but that's even worse - they get played with for like one day, break, and I end up throwing away all of this plastic garbage. Ugh. She also laughs about how her daughter doesn't let her bring anything to their kids and I want to scream and be like so why do you not listen to us when we ask you the same thing?! Anyway, I feel you.
@tsa208 I have been telling my mom in advance not to buy stuff and that I want my baby to just make memories with her. She still buys stuff though. Sometimes it’s second hand, which I don’t mind but I don’t need it.
I have lots of hand me down love and clothes and stuff which I’m super grateful for. But what has been bothering me is actually the opposite oddly.
my sister is expecting baby #3 and we don’t know gender yet. She keeps mentally or physically taking away things from my baby to hoard for my sister’s and I hate it. When my son is done using it, I’ll be happy to donate but please don’t take my box of newborn diapers because you think I have too many and he’ll outgrow them before using them and try to give me the generic ones you bought from Walmart because they’ll work.
No. Not yours to give away! It’s mine and my baby’s ass is my priority right now. My sister is on her third kid- it’s her responsibility to budget for paying for her own diapers.
@cbeanz I agree! I read them but they aren't as good as some of the past ones were.
Also--not worth starting a UO thread but i realized I don't like it when people in the office say "bless you" or really acknowledge my sneezing. Like i'm in the office, with the door mostly closed and you still feel the need to shout "bless you"? I don't like it.
@tsa208 thank you! It just really irks me. I am really happy for my sister and for my son to have a cousin so close in age but I feel slighted. There are other things that she’s done too and she puts so much pressure on me that she doesn’t do to the parents of her other grandkids.
@cbeanz I keep checking back for more birth announcements from regulars, wishful thinking!
DH and I did housework and yardwork all weekend, baby shifted positions overnight and now I'm anxious to see what direction they are facing at my weekly ultrasound tomorrow. Are you in the clear for childcare yet??
So close!! I hope that your baby (and body) holds out until Tuesday!
I have no idea which way the baby has turned, but I'm hopeful that they are still head down. They were LOA for the past few weeks but everything feels different today. I don't know if they just rotated slightly and dropped more of if they completely flipped into a different direction.
Tuesday I think I sort out the sibling doula stuff. I have a meeting with a nanny who is a doula in the morning and then with a doula group who offers sibling support in the afternoon. I think the nanny will probably offer more thorough care but it would be easier if the doula group worked out since I am a little familiar with them and they used to be in the same office as my midwives.
@cbeanz there have been a few births. I don’t know if they’ll come back to post here but we have quite a few squishes on Facebook.
I might end up induced on a Tuesday as my BP was elevated and if it is too elevated then she might induce. I’ve been eating different and upping my exercise but baby nearly drowned me at the pool yesterday lol.
i am no longer capable of backfloating because my bidding half starts to sink and when I would swim, he’d kick too and I’d lose my balance. 😂😩. It’s 104 degrees today and the pool sounds nice but I definitely would have to stay in the kiddie side and just do squats not swimming.
@mamanbebe Fingers crossed for a head down baby today. LOA/ROA is ideal, right? Although I have heard they can spin a LOT during labor. And a skilled midwife can help them turn.
@leylea89 104 WOW! I'd be in the pool too! How high was your BP? I know you are planning to go without an epidural. Remember you can ask the pitocin be turned down (or OFF!) once contractions become regular. It's good to have your nurse agree to that before things get started.
@cbeanz that's good info about having the pitocin turned off! I didn't realize that. I will be scheduling to be induced at my appointment tomorrow for sometime next week if he does not make his appearance. trying to go natural, so wanting to avoid pitocin if possible, because I've heard it makes it so much harder to avoid the pain meds (went natural with my first on my own).
Are there other ways to be induced without pitocin? Maybe breaking water without pit? or getting the balloon without pit? But would that even start contractions or just dilate me more?
@nagrom9319 I've experienced labor with and without pit, and I will tell you that pitocin is more painful. It's still possible to go without pain meds but it really helps to have a nurse with you who will dial it back when you ask. Once contractions become regular your body takes over and there's no medical indication to continue pitocin. Can you talk this over with your OB or MW?
Not sure if you can access this article, but if you do a Google Scholar search, the overall recommendation is to discontinue pit once labor is active:
I've personally never asked to have my water broken because that starts the clock (generally they will give you 48 hours or 24 to deliver if you are GBS+) and I didn't want to feel rushed in case labor didn't start on its own. But rupturing membranes does start labor for some people.
@nagrom9319 Breaking of the waters puts you on a stricter timeline of vaginal delivery where if you do not progress quickly enough, you run the risk of infection. Maybe try a few acupuncture appts to see if your body gets the hint that it's go time?
@cbeanz this study is really helpful. Thank you. I am definitely going to have this conversation with the OB i see tomorrow. unfortunately, mine was just out for 2 weeks and is out again all of this week. Nice to know after the fact! But the one I will see delivered my first daughter, and she was just fine, so I'm sure she will be just as good.
@mamanbebe I definitely don't want to be on a timeline. My active labor with my first was about 4 hours, but that was when I went on my own. I know it can be a lot different if I'm induced unfortunately. I live in a small rural area, so unfortunately acupuncture isn't really an option for me. Going to try everything else under the sun though!
@nagrom9319 I was induced with my second. Started on minimal pitocin for about an hour. My dr came in to check me, and I was at 4cm, which I had been at my appt the day before. She offered to break my water and I was hesitant because I didn’t want to be on a clock. She told me she often sees STM+ moms go quicker after breaking water because the body has already labored before, and can react better to that than pitocin. So I went ahead and agreed to breaking my water, and she had them the pit off for a bit to see how my body reacted. My contractions picked up immediately, I went from 4cm to holding my son in 2 hours. I was able to go natural, and I think not having the pit played a big role in that. I have an induction scheduled for Friday, and I will be discussing with my dr water breaking vs pit, since my body responded well to that last time.
@Cbeanz I didn’t know I could do that! I’m definitely going to ask my doctor about it tomorrow in the case I don’t get to go into labor on my own. I’ve also been told cervidil can be administered and i want to try that first if possible. My cervix has responded well to vaginal suppositories with my miscarriages so I’m hopeful on that.
I’m even willing to let her do a membrane sweep despite hearing mixed and mostly negative reviews on it. It might work since I have been having more early labor and less Braxton Hicks type contractions this whole week.
I am scheduled to be induced on Monday, and i am absolutely TERRIFIED!!!! I am 3+ cm & 70 % effaced. I went on my own with my daughter and went natural, but the idea of meds being put into me to artificially do all this scares me so bad. What if i don't progress fast enough and end up having to have a c-section? ughhhhhh
@nagrom9319 I can understand your fears! Objectively though, at 3cm and having already had a natural birth you're a good candidate for a successful induction. I hope you can talk through your fears with your provider and the staff and they can take things very slowly and according to your wishes.
Re: June Randoms
Packed my hospital bag last night just in case. And hubs and I confirmed our two names this morning, boy and girl.
I really hope most people come back to share their stories on TB, I've taken to reading random ones around the internet to get myself hyped up.
Warning: some of these are graphic
https://badassmotherbirther.com/
https://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com
its pissing me off but I have to just smile and nod. She’s not forgetful she’s just annoying. This is why I didn’t tell any neighbors until April and I’m still getting comments. What part of “I still have a month” do you not understand?
One more rant: MIL is horrible. Her newest excuse for not coming to meet the baby is we’ll have too many visitors so she’ll come after the first of next year. Yep—there is no time for you to come in 2019 because my parents are here for a week, my sister is coming for a weekend in September and your ex-husband (my FIL) is coming for thanksgiving. Again-I shouldn’t complain because I don’t really want her here but I can tell that it’s upsetting MH when she makes those comments.
of this plastic garbage. Ugh. She also laughs about how her daughter doesn't let her bring anything to their kids and I want to scream and be like so why do you not listen to us when we ask you the same thing?! Anyway, I feel you.
I have lots of hand me down love and clothes and stuff which I’m super grateful for. But what has been bothering me is actually the opposite oddly.
my sister is expecting baby #3 and we don’t know gender yet. She keeps mentally or physically taking away things from my baby to hoard for my sister’s and I hate it. When my son is done using it, I’ll be happy to donate but please don’t take my box of newborn diapers because you think I have too many and he’ll outgrow them before using them and try to give me the generic ones you bought from Walmart because they’ll work.
No. Not yours to give away! It’s mine and my baby’s ass is my priority right now. My sister is on her third kid- it’s her responsibility to budget for paying for her own diapers.
Also--not worth starting a UO thread but i realized I don't like it when people in the office say "bless you" or really acknowledge my sneezing. Like i'm in the office, with the door mostly closed and you still feel the need to shout "bless you"? I don't like it.
DH and I did housework and yardwork all weekend, baby shifted positions overnight and now I'm anxious to see what direction they are facing at my weekly ultrasound tomorrow. Are you in the clear for childcare yet??
Did you find a sibling doula?
We are 33 hours from being in the clear for childcare! I'm so nervous I'm nauseous but also worried that my nausea is a labor sign.
I have no idea which way the baby has turned, but I'm hopeful that they are still head down. They were LOA for the past few weeks but everything feels different today. I don't know if they just rotated slightly and dropped more of if they completely flipped into a different direction.
Tuesday I think I sort out the sibling doula stuff. I have a meeting with a nanny who is a doula in the morning and then with a doula group who offers sibling support in the afternoon. I think the nanny will probably offer more thorough care but it would be easier if the doula group worked out since I am a little familiar with them and they used to be in the same office as my midwives.
I might end up induced on a Tuesday as my BP was elevated and if it is too elevated then she might induce. I’ve been eating different and upping my exercise but baby nearly drowned me at the pool yesterday lol.
i am no longer capable of backfloating because my bidding half starts to sink and when I would swim, he’d kick too and I’d lose my balance. 😂😩. It’s 104 degrees today and the pool sounds nice but I definitely would have to stay in the kiddie side and just do squats not swimming.
@leylea89 104 WOW! I'd be in the pool too! How high was your BP? I know you are planning to go without an epidural. Remember you can ask the pitocin be turned down (or OFF!) once contractions become regular. It's good to have your nurse agree to that before things get started.
Are there other ways to be induced without pitocin? Maybe breaking water without pit? or getting the balloon without pit? But would that even start contractions or just dilate me more?
I've experienced labor with and without pit, and I will tell you that pitocin is more painful. It's still possible to go without pain meds but it really helps to have a nurse with you who will dial it back when you ask. Once contractions become regular your body takes over and there's no medical indication to continue pitocin. Can you talk this over with your OB or MW?
Not sure if you can access this article, but if you do a Google Scholar search, the overall recommendation is to discontinue pit once labor is active:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30087073
I've personally never asked to have my water broken because that starts the clock (generally they will give you 48 hours or 24 to deliver if you are GBS+) and I didn't want to feel rushed in case labor didn't start on its own. But rupturing membranes does start labor for some people.
@mamanbebe I definitely don't want to be on a timeline. My active labor with my first was about 4 hours, but that was when I went on my own. I know it can be a lot different if I'm induced unfortunately. I live in a small rural area, so unfortunately acupuncture isn't really an option for me. Going to try everything else under the sun though!
I’ve also been told cervidil can be administered and i want to try that first if possible. My cervix has responded well to vaginal suppositories with my miscarriages so I’m hopeful on that.
I’m even willing to let her do a membrane sweep despite hearing mixed and mostly negative reviews on it. It might work since I have been having more early labor and less Braxton Hicks type contractions this whole week.