@stormiewinter they were talking about it in the staff room. There's a kindy teacher who is also pregnant and they said our board would move her to a different school if the case is confirmed. I don't know what they would do with me, but I come in contact with more students than teachers, so... BUT! I talked to my midwife this afternoon and turns out they already tested me for immunity and I am in the clear. HUGE relief.
Unfortunately, she also said that, after consultation with the whole midwifery practice, they don't recommend me delivering at home. I'm a little sad, but I was also kind of preparing for that outcome. She said they will do everything they can to make sure I get as close to the birth I want while at the hospital.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@k2k2tog I’m sorry you won’t get the exact experience you wanted ❤️
I did a lot of things today and DS yelled loudly through most of Target and I was embarrassed. I actually asked him to chill at one point and kind of scolded him but he’s 11 mo so... On the bright side I bought two pairs of maternity jeans there to try. Would have loved to try them on in store but see above about the yelling.
@fatmonica it was miserable 😩 but it's done. Hopefully I won't have to take it again. There was no traffic getting there so it was only an hour drive, but coming back was over 2 hours and I am just MISERABLE. I JUST got home 😭 I have also never felt so stupid in my entire life. That test just made me feel like I don't know anything. My son's occupational therapy got cancelled for tomorrow so I just cancelled everything else too. We just need a day where we don't wake up at 6am and are going all day. He and I are both getting burnt out. Dh is getting the brunt of my exhaustion, I've just been nit picking. I need to just go to bed. He's just bugging the crap out of me. It's like he's not even trying to not say stupid shit.
@k2k2tog DH wants to bring our almost 3 year old to the anatomy scan to show her. She is all about babies and really excited, but I don't want it to be a distraction from the appointment.
@mbaymay we took our almost-three-year-old to our anatomy scan last time... she was interested for a little while and then played on DH's phone for the rest of the time.
@eatinwatermelonseeds Awww you poor thing! You know what, I bet that you're just being really anxious and that you actually did do really well on the exam! That's happened to me on more than one occasion. I think it was a great idea to cancel everything for today. You must certainly do need the rest. I hope this will help with your mood. Just try to relax as much as possible.
Is it weird I'm 12 weeks today and still haven't told my parents? They live down the road too haha. Part of me just wants to wait and see how long it'll take for them to notice.
@secicc12 I wouldn't have told my parents before 12 weeks except my mom was asking questions about other health stuff and it came up. My mom is terrible at keeping things quiet, so I would have avoided telling her until 2nd tri when it would be "okay" for her to tell her sisters, etc. That said she'll probably tell her sisters anyway and just pretend not to.
^ I am feeling that way with my mother in law. My husband told her and I have no confidence that she hasn't told anyone. My mom on the other hand is my best friend and suffered losses so I told her right away for support. I am still so hesitant to tell anyone else until after my first appointment. Only 6 more days now!
@mbaymay she doesn't have to be there for the whole appointment! Whenever I have an ultrasound that DH attends, he waited in the waiting room for the majority of the appointment and then was called in at the end for a peek at the baby. For most of the appointment, I don't even get to see the screen.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@secicc12 We haven’t told our parents yet either. I think I told mine around 7 weeks with DS. It about killed my mom not being able to tell people, so I figured we’d wait longer this time around as a “favor” to them. Hopefully we’ll hear the heartbeat today, and if so, we’ll probably tell our parents. Surely they can keep it to themselves for a couple of weeks.
@lappymom2019 I feel the same about telling my husband’s parents. With DS, it wasn’t even 3 hours after telling them that my FIL had told his best friend, and it was killing my MIL that we hadn’t told husband’s Nana yet. I don’t see why it’s so difficult to just keep it to yourself.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I’m sure it went great! Glad it’s over for you, and hope you can rest and relax some!
Thank you everyone for your support. Yesterday was awful.
@sleepy33 It said I should know in 48 hours, so I guess tomorrow? I'm not too certain exact timing. I tried a little trick they say you can do, but I don't know how accurate it is. Gonna try again this morning.
@sleepy33 they let you pay extra to find out early. It's such an insignificant amount for the relief, though, so I'll be paying it. There's a trick that you go to register for the test again and if it doesn't let you, it means you passed. If it lets you, it means you failed. But I am nervous because I've only known people who passed so I don't know if it would actually let me register this soon if I failed or not.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I'm so glad it's done but sorry that you feel so terrible about the whole thing. Like @sleepy33 said, you probably did better than you think. FX for you!
@secicc12 If I lived closer to family, I would be super interested when they'd notice. Since we're across the country, it's a little different. DH saw his parents at 9 weeks so he told them. Probably would've waited until after the NT scan if he hadn't seen them, though. I told my mom the day after I told DH because she's my "person" (after him, of course). I was on the phone with her when I started bleeding with my SCH so I'm so glad she knew. Plus she was always planning to come out when I was due with #2 (like she did with DD) for 2 weeks and it's already impacted her plans for taking time off from work. I haven't told my dad or brother or basically anyone else not mentioned above and likely won't for a while. Aside from medical staff, my mom, sister, DH's parents, and 2 of my friends know (one who is struggling TTGP who asked if we were trying again yet and the other who is my neighbor and has helped me with DD while on modified bed rest when DH isn't around).
@eatinwatermelonseeds I hope it all ends up well, but yes congratulations on being done! That's an achievement in and of itself. I hope you don't have to wait too long to find out, fingers crossed!
I'm not being as secretive about this pregnancy as with DS. Idk, I've had two ultrasounds and saw the heartbeat both times, I'm nauseous every day, no spotting or anything. I don't feel 100% secure, but also not as on edge as I was with DS. Maybe because now he's here to occupy me all the time haha! Plus if anything were to happen, I wouldn't want to keep it a secret. It's not shameful and a big thing like that isn't something I'd be able to just sweep under the rug and pretend never happened. But I totally understand others don't want to talk about it and need to process/grieve in private. I have no idea, honestly, and I hope I don't find out, but it's one of the reasons I'm a little more chill this time around I think. Also I get so mad that people think women have to be quiet about it. If you want to announce at 4 weeks, GO AHEAD. You go, girl. If you need to grieve publicly, do that. We don't have to keep quiet to make those around us feel comfortable.
Not much going on today. I hope DS naps this afternoon because I NEED to fold laundry. And catch up on This Is Us while I do it
They sprayed for bugs in my office like almost 2 weeks ago and my damn pregnancy super smell can still smell it and it's grossing me out like constantly.
I think I posted this a while back that I went nuts on my good friend's baby registry because I love her, but also because I didn't have faith that her friends and family would get her much. Sure enough, I just checked the registry and it's only about 20% complete. The shower is next week so I guess there is some time, but I feel bummed if this is how it goes. If it's anything like her bridal shower, her guests will come up short with off-registry crap she doesn't need or want.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@peachy13 ugh that stinks. You're such a good friend, though! I swear, being team green really helped us get what we wanted off the registry instead of people buying pink or blue clothes.
ETA @DuchessOfCambridge I side-eye FB announcements before 12 weeks because there's only a handful of people I'm friends with on FB that would really want to be open about it if something happened. I would never say anything to anyone for announcing early but if you're the type of person who wouldn't want to grieve publicly, I don't think it's the best idea and it wasn't necessarily thought through on their part. One girl I grew up with shared a video of her telling her husband with her positive pregnancy test THE DAY SHE GOT IT...but she is also one of those people who shares everything on FB. *TW* they miscarried that pregnancy but went on to have a successful one 2 months later but she was totally fine sharing their miscarriage which is all good in my book *endTW* People have lots of reasons for sharing the news early (debilitating morning sickness, wanting support if something would happen, etc.). DH already told his boss but she has two young boys and he had to switch his travel plans to come back 12 hours early from a work trip right after my SCH bleed. I work from home and my boss is remote and I'm just not ready to share yet although I'm sure she knows.
Opinion question. I want to take DS somewhere. I was considering taking him to the trampoline park thing and now I'm wondering if that's a bad idea. I've read a couple things that said not to. It seems kind of silly to me though, I just want to play with my kid.
@kvh22 I guess I just feel it's their pregnancy and their thing to deal with should anything happen. Women shouldn't be told to kept quiet about one of the happiest and most exciting things in their lives, and it's your own medical information. Plus, risk drops every week and gets into single digits earlier than 12 weeks so I don't see the need to wait if you don't want to. That being said, announcing like that is not for me. We're not announcing on FB until after the anatomy scan and we didn't announce with DS until 13 weeks - Facebook grieving is not for me, I just try to support women who do announce early because it's theirs, not mine. I don't need to have an opinion on how long they should wait.
I will say though, I 100% side eye AWs. I won't side-eye you announcing literally as soon as you POAS, but I WILL side-eye weekly bump pics or constant posts because come on! Chill. I'm like that with everything though. So happy for you. Don't need to see it in my news feed every five seconds.
Opinion question. I want to take DS somewhere. I was considering taking him to the trampoline park thing and now I'm wondering if that's a bad idea. I've read a couple things that said not to. It seems kind of silly to me though, I just want to play with my kid.
My kids love going. Just be careful to not land on him. My sil landed on her one twin and broke her leg.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Today has been rainy and cold and miserable. I havent been on much but im trying to lurk and catch up today.
I ended up passing my 3 hour test by some miracle. But they still want me on the gd diet.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Opinion question. I want to take DS somewhere. I was considering taking him to the trampoline park thing and now I'm wondering if that's a bad idea. I've read a couple things that said not to. It seems kind of silly to me though, I just want to play with my kid.
What were the reasons to not? I've been before and from what I've seen, everyone else there is respectful and cognizant of those around them to avoid accidentally hurting anyone.
@eatinwatermelonseeds jog my memory - he's 5, right? I think he would love it! We have a play place that includes a small trampoline section and we took both girls last spring. Even DD2 loved it and she's only 2, was about 20 months at the time.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@DuchessOfCambridge I think I'm colored by the area I live in. The Bay Area is basically the place in the US where people wait the longest to get pregnant. I know so many people who have struggled getting and staying pregnant *TW* many of whom discovered a MMC at their 12 week ultrasound *end TW* These are not the people sharing publicly early, though. A positive about living here is that IF and loss is discussed a lot more openly than other areas of the country, I think.
Anyways, I say tell whoever you want as long as you're okay sharing with them if something were to happen, I just think FB sharing isn't always thought through completely.
One of my favourite things about working in a school learning commons is that, sometimes, classes use the space to host a speaker. Today, I get to learn all about bats.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
So since there’s talk of announcements... agree that sharing you should at whatever time you’re comfortable with. For me I’m not exactly secretive, but I only tell the people I need for support. *tw* I made the mistake of telling my hairdresser who knew we were trying (we run in kind of the same group of friends). It was super uncomfortable when I had to text her to tell her what happened so she didn’t say anything to my daughter during her haircut. Won’t make that mistake again.
This time I’m struggling with how to announce. I really don’t want to do a fb announcement, but I want to announce at work somehow. There are people that I don’t see often, and I’d like it to come from me somehow rather than gossip... just not quite sure how to go about it. An email seems cheesy.
@thebobloblaw work is hard because same.. I want people to hear it from me and not from their neighbor. With DD I approached people I wanted to know and talked to them in person and told them. This time around I'm kind of just letting it out as I see people.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
I don’t know what to do about telling my office either. A coworker around my age has been pretty open on Facebook a couple of times about her losses, and I really don’t want to come off as insensitive to her by doing a little announcement at the office (with DS I brought in donuts for everyone and put the announcement on the box lid). Between October being infant loss awareness month and another worker being pregnant and due a couple of months before me, I think I may just kind of let the word get as on its own. 🤷🏼♀️
@eatinwatermelonseeds Are you worried about the trampoline park for you being pregnant or for DS?
Lol I should've clarified I'm sorry. I mean, am I able to jump on the trampolines? I don't want to take him and not be able to play with him. We've been before and I know he does well there, I've just read that you shouldn't jump on a trampoline while pregnant.
@megsb615 ooh I like the donut idea! That would work well, there are always snacks around and that would be kind of fun. What did you write inside? I’ve thought about using an ultrasound... but then maybe people don't want to see inside my uterus lol. Also props to you for being considerate to those with losses. I had a coworker announce *tw* a couple weeks after my mc and it made me super upset and hard to go to work for awhile, but only a couple people knew what had happened.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I assumed it was fine, but I haven’t looked into it. Curious what others say because our indoor trampoline place has toddler time once a month, and I’d like to take DS.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I assumed it was something like "trampolines are bad for kids" lol. I haven't researched it but if something says you shouldn't and seems like a legit source, I'd trust that.
Re: Weekly Randoms 22.10
Unfortunately, she also said that, after consultation with the whole midwifery practice, they don't recommend me delivering at home. I'm a little sad, but I was also kind of preparing for that outcome. She said they will do everything they can to make sure I get as close to the birth I want while at the hospital.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
@k2k2tog I’m sorry you won’t get the exact experience you wanted ❤️
I did a lot of things today and DS yelled loudly through most of Target and I was embarrassed. I actually asked him to chill at one point and kind of scolded him but he’s 11 mo so... On the bright side I bought two pairs of maternity jeans there to try. Would have loved to try them on in store but see above about the yelling.
@eatinwatermelonseeds Awww you poor thing! You know what, I bet that you're just being really anxious and that you actually did do really well on the exam! That's happened to me on more than one occasion.
I think it was a great idea to cancel everything for today. You must certainly do need the rest. I hope this will help with your mood. Just try to relax as much as possible.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
@lappymom2019 I feel the same about telling my husband’s parents. With DS, it wasn’t even 3 hours after telling them that my FIL had told his best friend, and it was killing my MIL that we hadn’t told husband’s Nana yet. I don’t see why it’s so difficult to just keep it to yourself.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I’m sure it went great! Glad it’s over for you, and hope you can rest and relax some!
@sleepy33 It said I should know in 48 hours, so I guess tomorrow? I'm not too certain exact timing. I tried a little trick they say you can do, but I don't know how accurate it is. Gonna try again this morning.
@secicc12 If I lived closer to family, I would be super interested when they'd notice. Since we're across the country, it's a little different. DH saw his parents at 9 weeks so he told them. Probably would've waited until after the NT scan if he hadn't seen them, though. I told my mom the day after I told DH because she's my "person" (after him, of course). I was on the phone with her when I started bleeding with my SCH so I'm so glad she knew. Plus she was always planning to come out when I was due with #2 (like she did with DD) for 2 weeks and it's already impacted her plans for taking time off from work. I haven't told my dad or brother or basically anyone else not mentioned above and likely won't for a while. Aside from medical staff, my mom, sister, DH's parents, and 2 of my friends know (one who is struggling TTGP who asked if we were trying again yet and the other who is my neighbor and has helped me with DD while on modified bed rest when DH isn't around).
I'm not being as secretive about this pregnancy as with DS. Idk, I've had two ultrasounds and saw the heartbeat both times, I'm nauseous every day, no spotting or anything. I don't feel 100% secure, but also not as on edge as I was with DS. Maybe because now he's here to occupy me all the time haha! Plus if anything were to happen, I wouldn't want to keep it a secret. It's not shameful and a big thing like that isn't something I'd be able to just sweep under the rug and pretend never happened. But I totally understand others don't want to talk about it and need to process/grieve in private. I have no idea, honestly, and I hope I don't find out, but it's one of the reasons I'm a little more chill this time around I think. Also I get so mad that people think women have to be quiet about it. If you want to announce at 4 weeks, GO AHEAD. You go, girl. If you need to grieve publicly, do that. We don't have to keep quiet to make those around us feel comfortable.
Not much going on today. I hope DS naps this afternoon because I NEED to fold laundry. And catch up on This Is Us while I do it
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
ETA @DuchessOfCambridge I side-eye FB announcements before 12 weeks because there's only a handful of people I'm friends with on FB that would really want to be open about it if something happened. I would never say anything to anyone for announcing early but if you're the type of person who wouldn't want to grieve publicly, I don't think it's the best idea and it wasn't necessarily thought through on their part. One girl I grew up with shared a video of her telling her husband with her positive pregnancy test THE DAY SHE GOT IT...but she is also one of those people who shares everything on FB. *TW* they miscarried that pregnancy but went on to have a successful one 2 months later but she was totally fine sharing their miscarriage which is all good in my book *endTW* People have lots of reasons for sharing the news early (debilitating morning sickness, wanting support if something would happen, etc.). DH already told his boss but she has two young boys and he had to switch his travel plans to come back 12 hours early from a work trip right after my SCH bleed. I work from home and my boss is remote and I'm just not ready to share yet although I'm sure she knows.
I will say though, I 100% side eye AWs. I won't side-eye you announcing literally as soon as you POAS, but I WILL side-eye weekly bump pics or constant posts because come on! Chill. I'm like that with everything though. So happy for you. Don't need to see it in my news feed every five seconds.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Today has been rainy and cold and miserable. I havent been on much but im trying to lurk and catch up today.
I ended up passing my 3 hour test by some miracle. But they still want me on the gd diet.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
Anyways, I say tell whoever you want as long as you're okay sharing with them if something were to happen, I just think FB sharing isn't always thought through completely.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
This time I’m struggling with how to announce. I really don’t want to do a fb announcement, but I want to announce at work somehow. There are people that I don’t see often, and I’d like it to come from me somehow rather than gossip... just not quite sure how to go about it. An email seems cheesy.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
@eatinwatermelonseeds Are you worried about the trampoline park for you being pregnant or for DS?