June 2019 Moms

PGAL 10/17

meatballs37meatballs37 member
edited October 2018 in June 2019 Moms
This thread is a safe place for those who are pregnant after a loss. (PGAL).  If you have suffered a loss please feel free to answer the questions below and keep things going throughout the week as a continuing conversation. 

If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you! 

1. How many weeks are you?

2. Previous loss(es)?

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?

4. Any appointment updates?

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? 

6. Any milestones coming up? 

7. GTKY: Where is your dream vacation? What has been your favorite vacation? 
*TW* Spoiler
Me: 33 DH:30
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months 
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18



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Re: PGAL 10/17

  • 1. How many weeks are you? 5+2

    2. Previous loss(es)? 22w, 29w, 6w

    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I’m just counting down the days until first US

    4. Any appointment updates?next Thursday, the 25th 

    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m getting the cold DD has. But physically I still don’t really have any pregnancy symptoms. I POAS again yesterday just because the waiting game is so awful. The line was waaaay darker than the control line, sonit was a little reassuring. 

    6. Any milestones coming up? Next week my first US will be one day later than my D&C was in July. 

    7. GTKY: Where is your dream vacation? What has been your favorite vacation? My UO: I don’t like traveling. But I would love to take DD to Disney land like I did as a kid. 
    *TW* Spoiler
    Me: 33 DH:30
    DD: Aug '16
    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18



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  • @meatballs37 that's amazing! I think you doing that was a fantastic way to honor the boys memory! You are going to do great things for those families ❤
  • 1. How many weeks are you? 5+2

    2. Previous loss(es)? CP, M/C around 7 weeks, stillbirth at 32 weeks this past March

    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?  I am coming up to when i had my earlier m/c, so am trying to stay calm.  It's hard.  Especially when my appt isn't for 2 more weeks.

    4. Any appointment updates?  I went to LabCorp and had another beta done yesterday for my peace of mind.  

    5. Rants/Raves/Questions?  DS woke up in the middle of the night and threw up twice.  There has been a stomach bug going around his preschool and almost every kid has had it at some point this past week.  So far, he hasn't thrown up anymore, so fingers crossed he stays that way.  I had to take off work though to stay home with him.

    6. Any milestones coming up?   The 6-7 week mark when I had my miscarriage.

    7. GTKY: Where is your dream vacation? What has been your favorite vacation?  Scotland all the way.  I have been to Edinburgh twice and want to visit other places there.  So beautiful!
  • @meatballs37 I POAS today and was so hoping that the line would be darker than the control line, but it wasn't.  Still super dark though.  But it was a wondfo and I know those can be finnicky.  That is so great about the boxes!!  It's awesome you can honor their memory.

    @srscott3 Wow that is ridiculous.  I would be embarrassed if DS continued to hit another kid!  I hope you can make some other friends there.  It's so hard to meet people sometimes.

    @prpl11butterfly I hope this house works out and you like it!  Finding a house is hard.
  • @srscott3 that's tough. I would stick to being neighborly and polite in public. Perhaps they are just in denial about the issue and will come around. But they better have a nice apology at the ready because that's not cool to make it look like you guys are the problem. 
  • @sparklingdiamond @prpl11butterfly thanks ladies. I’m sure their reaction has some deeper meaning for them and whatever they may be going through. I’m just at a mix of mad, sad, and anxious. And I’m enrolling DD in little gym so maybe we’ll make some new friends there. Neighbors last text said to “think twice before making new mom friends”, whatever that means 😂 
  • @srscott3 Ok that text is just weird!  You can make better friends! :smile:
  • Yea, that's an odd thing to say. I'd guess she hasnt had much luck with mom friends....
  • srscott3srscott3 member
    edited October 2018
    In the same text she said that moms shouldn’t talk like that about each other’s kids. So maybe that’s what she meant. Like don’t do this to someone else. I don’t even know. On to better friends!
  • meatballs37meatballs37 member
    edited October 2018
    @srscott3

    sounds like you may have dodged a bullet with that family. Eek! I’m not sure how not correcting a child’s dangerous behavior = insulting to the son. I could maybe see them (the parents) being insulted that you mentioned it. But putting it on their son that he is insulted, nah dude. Clearly they don’t know how to parent if they give their kid that much power and it will bite them in the ass, probably literally. 

    Eta: hold your head high and just smile at then when you see them. Sometimes that’s enough to diffuse some of the awkwardness. But if I were you I wouldn’t pursue anything more with them. You did nothing wrong. 
    *TW* Spoiler
    Me: 33 DH:30
    DD: Aug '16
    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18



  • @meatballs37 you are awesome. Thank you. Definitely what I needed to hear ❤️
  • 1. How many weeks are you? 4+3 2. Previous loss(es)? MMC in July 3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Yesterday I was a mess because I haven’t felt any symptoms in a couple of days like I had started to, and I had cramping all day, some was very light, but some was a little stronger and worrying for me. I’m sure everything is fine, but sometimes it’s just hard to stop the worrying. 4. Any appointment updates? I need to actually schedule one. I had really bad experiences with the staff at my OB, but absolutely love the doctor, so I’ve been putting it off. 5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I just want to get out of the first trimester. 6. Any milestones coming up? None soon. 7. GTKY: Where is your dream vacation? What has been your favorite vacation? That’s a hard one. I’m going to go with Iceland because I wasn’t exactly looking forward to that trip, but I ended up finding one of my favorite places on earth.
  • . How many weeks are you? 5 weeks

    2. Previous loss(es)? Early m/c

    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Anxious and alone. My loss was a long time ago with another partner before my Husband. He has zero sympathy and doesn’t even like to talk about it. He actually rolled his eyes at the candle on Monday. I understand he is dealing with his own anxiety (our last pregnancy was scary and my 1 year old still has heath issues that concern us) but it is getting to me. I am tempted to tell someone I trust so I have SOMEONE to talk to, besides you lovely ladies and a couple of my previous bumpies who stalked me and know now :) 

    4. Any appointment updates? In the process of getting a referral to my MFM. It’s all the way up in Chicago so I am hoping we can see a local OB for regular visits but insurance is not an understanding abstract concept

    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Anyone getting a random white hot pain in your previous c-section scar? I never had that was my other two but randomly now if I sneeze or move funny it burns like 3 weeks post op. 

    6. Any milestones coming up? 

    7. GTKY: Where is your dream vacation? What has been your favorite vacation? My dream vacation will be taking our RV across the country and visiting different states and off-road parks (we have a couple rzrs and love everything about camping and riding - although my definition of camping includes hot water, private toilets and A/C - don’t want to mislead anyone lol) favorite vacation was more a study abroad trip but it was in Japan - we went from Osaka to Tokyo over the course of 3 weeks
  • @Dcwtada I’m so sorry YH is not more understanding. I hope that you can find some good support from someone else in your life.
  • @srscott3 dont get me wrong, they are dicks. 
  • @Dcwtada I think confiding on someone IRL will be good. Aside from my parents, my 2 coworkers knowing has made life a bit easier. They are both super supportive of how scary this is and let me talk when I need or give me space when I'm clearly not having a good PGAL day. You need someone like that.
  • 1. How many weeks are you? 4, I'm just starting, my crazy pee stick obsession let me know early.

    2. Previous loss(es)? 2 at 6 weeks, second one was a blighted ovum

    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Feeling good physically, emotionally trying not to get too excited yet

    4. Any appointment updates? No, waiting until 7 weeks to schedule an appointment

    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? No

    6. Any milestones coming up? No

    7. GTKY: Where is your dream vacation? What has been your favorite vacation? My favorite vacation was to Belize and I'd love to go back.
  • mrsbaker89mrsbaker89 member
    edited October 2018
    I am here for support ladies!
  • @mrsbaker89 PGAL stands for Pregnant After Loss. Your stats show you've had no losses. If you have, please feel free to edit your post and participate. If you have in fact never suffered a loss, please refrain from posting here unless you are offering us support.
  • @eleven_ I remember how hard it was when I was pregnant with DD and had to get DS ready. Not gonna lie, I'm kind of dreading it this time. 
  • @ruby696 I swear it gets harder as they get older too. My kids are now big enough to make it difficult for me to get them dressed. I can't imagine having to pin down a 4 year old with a huge bump  :s  Also, I know we didn't post much together in TTGP, but I'm so happy you are joining us  <3

    @meatballs37 Looks good to me!
    TW
    Me: 33 DH: 32
    DS:  March 2014
    DD: May 2015
    BFP: 12/24/17 CP: 1/2/18 @ 4w 3d
    BFP: 1/26/18 CP: 2/2/18 @ 4w 4d
    BFP: 5/16/18 MMC: 6/15/18 @ 7w 5d
    BFP: 9/25/18! EDD: 6/9/19 TEAM GREEN  <3 

    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
  • eleven_eleven_ member
    edited October 2018
    Do you guys know what the normal range for a HB is at 6 weeks? I'm getting conflicting answers when I Google. 

    ETA: NM. I found this one that I'm satisfied with. I need to step away from Google.


    TW
    Me: 33 DH: 32
    DS:  March 2014
    DD: May 2015
    BFP: 12/24/17 CP: 1/2/18 @ 4w 3d
    BFP: 1/26/18 CP: 2/2/18 @ 4w 4d
    BFP: 5/16/18 MMC: 6/15/18 @ 7w 5d
    BFP: 9/25/18! EDD: 6/9/19 TEAM GREEN  <3 

    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
  • @eleven_ I imagine I will be googling this next week if we have a Hb. I see anywhere from 90-110. But that looks like it goes down to 5 weeks. 
    *TW* Spoiler
    Me: 33 DH:30
    DD: Aug '16
    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18



  • @eleven_ OMG yes and how they want you to run and chase them. The mom guilt is no joke. Also, thank you  <3
  • edited October 2018
    @meatballs37 perfect, thank you!

    @eleven_ it's hard when your doing it all alone in the morning. Especially if your like me and totally not a morning person..... ETA step away from the google!!
  • 1. How many weeks are you? 
    6+5
     
    2. Previous loss(es)?
    7/16 (11 wks) and 8/17 (5 /12 wks)

    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?

    Emotionally - I was on such a high after seeing our little bean and a good HB Monday, but as the PGAL brain gets to you I'm trying not to get too worked up about the next US. The good news is my RE wants to see me weekly so hopefully that will alleviate some of the stress of knowing one way or the other how things are.
    Physically - OK but just bloated and occasional cramping/nausea all day 


    4. Any appointment updates?
    US next week 10/24 

     
    5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
    Rant - It would be awesome if they made progesterone suppositories any color other than red!


    6. Any milestones coming up?
    Each US and I would love to get past the first trimester unscathed.

    7. GTKY: Where is your dream vacation? What has been your favorite vacation? 
    So many vacations have been amazing, but one of my favorites was renting a yacht in St. Maarten with friends for the week. So relaxing and we didn't have to plan anything, the crew did it all!  My current bucket list of vacations includes Argentina/Chile (hike Patagonia then wine tasting) and also to stay at one of those huts on the water somewhere like Bora Bora or Tahiti.

    @srscott3 I'm so sorry you had to deal with neighbors like that.  It definitely sounds like a case of people taking their insecurities and issues out on you rather than taking care of their own business and being decent human beings to others. Hopefully you are able to meet better people to make your Chicago experience that much better. I lived there for 15 years and it's a great city! I still work for the same company, so I can go back every couple of months to get my city fix and then come back home to the mountains.

    @eleven_ I don't know a "range", but my RE said they are happy if the HB over 100 (said at 6 1/2 week appt).
  • @mackorori They do make them in different colors!!! My Dr. has to write it one the script but I have white one this time. 
  • @mackorori Mine are pink and I've often thought the same thing!

    So I called to make an OB appt and they won't schedule one until starting the 31st or later either.  I really am just trying to figure out why that day in particular.  I would be 7+2 then.  So now my OB appt is the day after my RE appt!  But at least they are both scheduled.  Now I just wait two weeks.
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