Wow. Lots of boys. I'm hoping for another little girl. I'm probably not going to be able to find out what it is again until my 20 week ultrasound. I'm planning on doing genetic counseling but last time that was around 12 weeks and they did blood test and u/s and said the sexual orientation of the baby wasn't a genetic defect so they wouldn't tell me if they knew or not.
I can't imagine that they could make that determination without also knowing the sex. If they refuse to tell you again, it may be worth insisting they disclose that information if you really want to know. I'm not a health care attorney, but my understanding is that HIPAA (if you're in the US) gives a patient the right to access her own medical records, with very limited exceptions.
I had my blood drawn last Friday for my NIPT (Panorama brand) and I'm impatiently waiting on the results. We have an ultrasound and meeting with a genetic counselor on Friday so having all this (hopefully good) information all at once would be such a relief. We have not told anyone about our pregnancy but plan to after getting these results.
My question is has anyone done any cute gender revels with just their SO? Do we just scroll down the computer screen together? My OB said she'd post the results on my patient portal as soon as she got them. I could theoretically print it out and stick it in an envelope without looking and give it to a baker to make us a cupcake but maybe that seems overkill? It is our first pregnancy and I guess I had dreams of doing something fun for just the two of us but because no one else knows I'm pregnant it makes it challenging.
side note (maybe UO): I think gender revel parties are ridiculous and have no interest in anything other than me and my husband doing something together and then telling out families that baby boy or baby girl is due in January.
@lacroixliz I hope your panorama is in by Friday! Heads up though, we did panorama with DD and a week and 1 day later when we had the NT the panorama was still not in yet, so don't be surprised if it's not available. We didn't end up getting our results until I saw my OB the following week, and then she just asked if we wanted to know the sex and showed me the screen first and then I told DH.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
@lacroixliz DH and I did something just us for our son. We had the tech put the results in an envelope and took it to a restaurant. We gave the envelope to the waiter and told him to make either this drink if its a boy or this drink for a girl. He brought out a silver shaker so we couldn't see and then poured it at the table. It was really fun. The staff all came around and the patrons around us became excited. It was pretty amazing. I didn't feel like the attention was all on me because I didn't know any of these people but they enjoyed it. DH, DD and I just had this moment to ourselves where we found out we were having our son. One of my best pregnancy memories.
Saw this morning it said my results were in "clinical review" - which means the results were done but they were giving my doc a few days to review and call me. Because I'm impatient, I set up a genetic counselor consult for this afternoon to get my results early... and, they're great! Negative for all the chromosomal abnormalities, and also we're (probably) having a girl
@lacroixliz We’re kinda mixed on the gender reveal party idea. Only our families know we’re pregnant and since we’re getting NIPT and will know the gender early, we were thinking of giving out a pregnancy announcement + gender reveal party invite combo to our friends. But the more I think about it, the less enthused I am about throwing a party just for that reason. So, idk. This will be our first baby so there’s a lot of excitement, but I feel like it might be more work than it’s worth. Or that it might not be as fun as I’m envisioning it. (We want to know the results ASAP, so it’d just be revealing the gender to our friends and family).
@featherchicki when I was PG with DD I announced my pregnancy and sex of baby all at once. The end of first trimester lined up perfectly with Thanksgiving so we just did it then. Everyone was already together so I didn't have to plan anything special just " surprise I'm pregnant and it's a girl" we did make a pink cake but that was it. IDK if there will be a time your family will all be together but it worked well for us.
@BitterBetty12 I'm trying to not get my hopes up for a 7 day turnaround time on the Panorama test. The average I've found from my obsessive googling is 7-10 days from women in the past 6-9 months. I'll keep working on my patience! Thanks for sharing your experience!
@sparkymcgeee this is adorable!! We might have to go out to dinner this weekend if the results get posted!
@featherchicki in my opinion (and seriously this may just be me) the exciting part of a gender reveal party would be seeing the parents' reaction to learning the sex of the baby. If you and your parter know already, I think it would lose some of it's 'spark' so to speak. But, I'm always down for any reason to have a party / celebrate so it is as good of a reason as any!
@lacroixliz I gave DH permission in my patient file to receive test results so that he could call the office when our results are in and learn the sex. It is up to him to surprise me with the news somehow since I surprised him with this pregnancy news. With our DD, we had the tech put the sex in an envelope and we opened it on Christmas morning with our families. My SIL opened the envelope and we had confetti poppers of each color. She handed out the correct color and we all popped the confetti together. It was exciting but I remember feeling sad that I now had to share the baby with the world. Once people know the sex, they can picture that child in your life and in their own lives and I wanted more time being the only person on the planet who knew DD. Maybe that's selfish but it's a short period of time in the grand scheme of life. This time around, DH and I are finding out together but not sharing the news!
Wanted to post an update! My Panorama results came back in 6 days! I did the blood work last Friday morning and I had the results on my patient portal from my OB this afternoon (Thursday). Low risk! We choose not to scroll down today to find out the sex, my husband found a bakery that will fill and decorate a cupcake for us tomorrow while we wait. I really do not care either way, I'm just so relieved with a low risk result.
Our first test results are in for the sequential screening that we began on Tuesday. Combined with normal NT measurements, LO is low risk for Downs and Trisomy 18! The next panel will be done at the 15-week appt to test for neural tube defects. Glad that everything is looking good. It’s making me more confident about announcing at the start of second tri instead of waiting after the anatomy scan (which is soooo far away!)
@featherchicki in my opinion (and seriously this may just be me) the exciting part of a gender reveal party would be seeing the parents' reaction to learning the sex of the baby. If you and your parter know already, I think it would lose some of it's 'spark' so to speak. But, I'm always down for any reason to have a party / celebrate so it is as good of a reason as any!
Yeah that’s why I’m wavering on the idea since we’ll already know.
@featherchicki if you don’t want to do a big gender reveal party, you could just do a small one with family. That’s what we did with DD1. We had three of her four great-grandmothers open a box of balloons that my co-workers had filled, so no one there knew she was a girl. It was a surprise for everyone!
@featherchicki if you don’t want to do a big gender reveal party, you could just do a small one with family. That’s what we did with DD1. We had three of her four great-grandmothers open a box of balloons that my co-workers had filled, so no one there knew she was a girl. It was a surprise for everyone!
We did this for my in laws. I baked a blue cake and sent it over to their house. My very Korean MIL did not understand the concept at all lol despite my SIL explaining how it was going to work. My husband was so disappointed in the fail lololol
I sent my parents a gif of someone cutting a blue cake and my dad was like “oh did you guys have a gender reveal party?” ... no dad it’s just a rando a gif
Seriously got the the best birthday gift i could ever ask for. My Dr called right as my husband got home so I put her on speaker. Our genetic results came back. Baby doesn't have any markers. AND we're having a Boy!!!!!!
NT scan and meeting with the genetic counselor yesterday went well. It was wonderful seeing our little GIRL moving around. We were able to get a cupcake made and came home and cut it (I was so surprised, I really thought it was a boy) and then shared the news with our families. This pregnancy seems so much more real now!
**Lurking since we opted out of genetic testing** Congrats to everyone on the low risk test result news! So, DH and I decided to stay team green but I will admit that seeing all of you know the gender already is making me v jealous and second guessing my stance juuuuuuuust a tad
Finally got called and all genetic markers look normal and it’s a GIRL! We already have one of each, and I really wanted a girl for our last so I’m ecstatic!
We just got our Maternity 21 results just 4 business days after getting blood drawn. We are low risk for everything so we finally feel like we can relax and celebrate a bit more and start sharing the news more. We’re 11w3days. Not finding out the baby’s sex... at least yet.
Married 6.21.2014 DD #1: 8.16.2015 #2 EDD: 1.13.2019
Out of desperation I discovered today that you can create a labcorp account and get test results that way if you went through labcorp. I did it and they were released to me today! (They had already been sent to the doc but haven’t gotten a call yet). I ended up having my bff look at the results to make sure everything is ok and then text my coworker the sex. Coworker wrote it down on a sticky and put it in a sealed envelope. Still trying to figure out how we are going to do the reveal but thinking something small with just me and DH. The best part is he’s been stuck at home with a power outage and we have no cell phone reception without WiFi so he doesn’t even have a clue that results are in!
I called and our panorama results were finally in! We are LOW RISK. I am so relieved. H is at work all day so I somehow had enough self control not to ask for the sex. I texted him to see if he wants me to call back and find out though.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Waited 9 days and finally called today to check in and it turned out my results were in! All low risk, and they were able to determine the sex, but we’re gojng to wait till Sunday to look because we’re both going away for the weekend to different places tomorrow. Gonna have a small cake or cupcake made for Sunday night.
Not enough fetal DNA. They require a redraw. I really don't want to pay another copay for this. Like my part wasn't cheap. I sent them an email asking them what the policy is. It's only 7:30 so I want an answer fairly quickly.
@sparkymcgeee same thing happened to me. Annoying. I am not wanting to pay again. The US tech gave me her guess the other day, but still not sure how confident I am of that answer just yet. Although I did see what she saw (a boy part).
@sparkymcgeee oh no! That's got to be frustrating. I hope you don't have to pay again. How far along we're you when you went?
10w 4d. I specifically waited until mid 10 to do it. What they don't tell you until after is that it really depends on the mother's weight. If you're on the bigger side the chances of getting enough DNA is lowered. Of the 2.4% they were able to extract the chance of getting results was only 56%.
@sparkymcgeee UGH I would be sooo annoyed and frustrated. They'd better not make you pay another copay - especially since they weren't totally upfront with you about the chance of getting enough DNA was so low!
@sparkymcgeee oh no! That's got to be frustrating. I hope you don't have to pay again. How far along we're you when you went?
10w 4d. I specifically waited until mid 10 to do it. What they don't tell you until after is that it really depends on the mother's weight. If you're on the bigger side the chances of getting enough DNA is lowered. Of the 2.4% they were able to extract the chance of getting results was only 56%.
@sparkymcgeee I didn't know that either (weight). Guess since I'm heavier, maybe that's why. I was 10w3d and was told at 10 weeks they can get results. Blah!
@sparkymcgeee I really hope you don’t have to pay for it again! I had no idea about weight being a factor. Mine was drawn at 11+5 (doc was on vacation the 2 weeks prior) so I couldn’t go in at 10w even if I wanted to. But he specifically told me 11w for bloodwork. Maybe it’s because so many others have had redraws? idk.
@sparkymcgeee ugh. Getting that answer after the agonizing wait for results is incredibly unfair. I hope they don’t charge you for the redraw and the results come in quickly.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Ugh, how frustrating @sparkymcgeee. And I had no idea that weight was a factor! If I'd known that, I probably would have waited a few more days just to be sure.
They called me and told me it was the same claim so a redraw is no big deal. The office was really sweet about it sharing in my disappointment. We were laughing and joking and I need to remember to just go with the flow more. I got worked up thinking worst case and plan Bs instead of waiting for the information. So hopefully in a week I'll know and we'll just announce then. Or I'll announce without the sex added. I'm not sure yet.
My doc just said I can come in anytime for my NIPT test as it’s a blood draw. My next appt is 7/13 and I’m 10 weeks today. I think I’ll go in next Thursday when I’m 11 weeks based on LMP and maybe have the results by 7/13?!
Sounds like most of you received or will receive your blood work results in a week or so. I was disappointed to learn yesterday it will be two weeks until the results are in, not sure what lab it is, just hoping the next two weeks go fast.
Re: Genetic Testing Results
My question is has anyone done any cute gender revels with just their SO? Do we just scroll down the computer screen together? My OB said she'd post the results on my patient portal as soon as she got them. I could theoretically print it out and stick it in an envelope without looking and give it to a baker to make us a cupcake but maybe that seems overkill? It is our first pregnancy and I guess I had dreams of doing something fun for just the two of us but because no one else knows I'm pregnant it makes it challenging.
side note (maybe UO): I think gender revel parties are ridiculous and have no interest in anything other than me and my husband doing something together and then telling out families that baby boy or baby girl is due in January.
EDD for #2 1/28/2021
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
@sparkymcgeee this is adorable!! We might have to go out to dinner this weekend if the results get posted!
@featherchicki in my opinion (and seriously this may just be me) the exciting part of a gender reveal party would be seeing the parents' reaction to learning the sex of the baby. If you and your parter know already, I think it would lose some of it's 'spark' so to speak. But, I'm always down for any reason to have a party / celebrate so it is as good of a reason as any!
EDD for #2 1/28/2021
Good luck to everyone else waiting!
EDD for #2 1/28/2021
I sent my parents a gif of someone cutting a blue cake and my dad was like “oh did you guys have a gender reveal party?” ... no dad it’s just a rando a gif
EDD for #2 1/28/2021
DD #1: 8.16.2015
#2 EDD: 1.13.2019
Outcome:
It feels so real now! Now to start focusing on girl names...
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more