Question for you guys who made a list and then chose from a short list, how did you go about choosing from your short list? I mean what was your process?
We finally have the list narrowed down to two names: Harper and Mackenzie.
No clue how to choose from here. With DD I had a huge list, DH mentioned a name not on my list and that just was her name. Totally different process.
Lcardinal04 We started out with 5 names we both liked and we gave each other the lists. We chose our favs from our own list and the other, so we had 4 names total. Then like a month later after we thought about it, we chose the top two. Then before DD was born, we just knew. Our daughter totally fits her name too.
@lcardinal04 When we had it down to just 2/3 names we started using them in conversation at home. Like a trial run. Instead of "baby is kicking" it was "Atticus is kicking", "Jude liked the ice cream", etc etc. One just felt more natural to us.
@Lcardinal04 we went through all the logical stuff with the top names first...how it sounded with the last name, how often we’d have to correct pronunciation and spelling, how annoying it was to spell every time, what nicknames we’d use, what nicknames others were likely to use, if our closest friends and family could pronounce it properly, and what famous people or associations were likely to come up with the name.
When more than one name passed muster we essentially waited until we saw her.
@MandyMost and @Lcardinal04 To add to the list, if the initials spell or mean anything! ex BMW or something worse or better..... Also, a note on Mackenzie.. obviously you are not capitalizing the "K" but have you thought about that?
Daughter #1 - Feb 2012 Daughter #2 - Oct 2014 Daughter #3 - Nov 2016 Baby #4 - Sept 2018
@arcticseal-2 forgot that consideration! I wouldn’t capitalize.... doesn’t seem to matter anyway. Dh doesn’t love Mackenzie and I don’t love Harper. This child may never have a name! Haha...
We’ve decided on Sophia Arlene. The first name was the hardest because of DH’s last name! Our last name is very difficult to pair with first names. It almost kept me from changing my name after we got married because honestly my first name sounds ridiculous next to our last name but oh well! Arlene is my DH’s late grandma’s name. She suddenly passed in September of last year, so honoring her with our LO’s middle name was an easy choice.
@arcticseal-2 forgot that consideration! I wouldn’t capitalize.... doesn’t seem to matter anyway. Dh doesn’t love Mackenzie and I don’t love Harper. This child may never have a name! Haha...
Since neither of you love both names I might consider putting those on a short list but continuing to look. There are websites out there that will suggest other names based on names you specify if you 2 have any interest in trying to find another name that you both love.
Otherwise I like the suggestions to try them out at home. Also you don't necessarily need to decide ahead of time. You could go into the hospital with both names and decide which one feels better once you meet her.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
What do you all think about the name Maxine? I really like the name and love the nickname Max (Husband likes Maxi as nickname). I feel like when I was growing up that this name could have been made fun of by calling Maxi Pad because kids are little shits but I don’t even know if Maxi pads are even a things now Lol. Thoughts?
@mauishay Not sure how I feel about Maxine...it might grow on me. However, as far as Maxi as a nickname goes, "maxi pad" immediately entered my mind before I even got to that point in your post (despite the fact that I don't think I've ever actually called a pad a "maxi pad"--it was still my thought).
@mauishay I don't think maxi pads are a band anymore? Yes it popped into my head but I don't see kids coming up with it. As long as you don't call her Kotex I think you're safe
What do you all think about the name Maxine? I really like the name and love the nickname Max (Husband likes Maxi as nickname). I feel like when I was growing up that this name could have been made fun of by calling Maxi Pad because kids are little shits but I don’t even know if Maxi pads are even a things now Lol. Thoughts?
Not my style but I like it. Agree with you nickname Max would be better than Maxi.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I think I’ve come to terms with the names. I had really stressed myself out bc I wanted these meaningful family names, and felt like I had narrowed my options, and I was seeing all these fun trendy names that I couldn’t use. But I’m over it haha. I’ve always loved “classic” names, and DH had mentioned long ago that he wanted James (for his grandfather). My mom made a comment about it sounding “very catholic” (my family is non-religious Jewish) and I was upset until I found it on a list of Jewish baby names and actually highlighted for her that it’s just another derivation of Jacob. I felt strongly that I wanted an R name (after my grandmother and DH’s mother who have both passed) but I was having trouble finding an R that I really liked. We are now thinking about Richard, which doesn’t seem like a fun baby name, but that’s ok. Or possible Reese. Or (don’t jump on me) Rex. Anyone NOT hate Rex? Lol
@ashh2018 I actually dig Rex. It'll look super cool on some wall art and on his little backpack for school. People will probably call him T-Rex or Dino Man or something but I think that's cute too. I'd pair it with a longer, boring AF middle name.
Eta: you might get some Rex Manning/ Empire Records jokes from the older crowd, but his classmates probably will be clueless.
Rex is my nephews name. I hated it so much when I first heard that's what they chose and now he is almost 4 and I adore it. It's seriously cute and I'm secretly jealous they went out on a limb and picked a non normal name.
We have had a major breakthrough with a potential boy’s name! DH has refused to even talk about names until birth (Team Green) but while reading a bedtime story to DS about an elephant named Oliver the other night he started choking up and said “that’s it.” I know it’s a pretty popular name right now nationally, but not so much in our area, and I love it too! It’s been a long-time favorite of mine even before it shot up on lists. It can’t be this easy, right?!
@Wishilivedinflorida I love Oliver! It’s crazy popular in our area though, otherwise it would be our top pick. Right now there are 3 or 4 other Olivers in DS’s daycare and at least 2 in our neighborhood.
@nackie That’s such a bummer. It’s ranked way lower in our state than it is nationally. I love how it is cute for a little kid but ages well also. Our neighborhood/area is rife with Owens, Parkers, and Leos. Then we have the typical Ellas and similar girls’ names. And a lot of matchy sibling names. Bleh. We will be avoiding all of that!
Our little girl's baby name is Nile. My DH is Nigil. I have it all planned... She will dot her i with a heart. Lol. Her middle name will actually be my first name Jasmine. It'll be too funny if she arrives and we're like naw... Nile isn't fitting. Lol
We told my husband's family the baby's name today. His cousins and my SIL were all supportive and excited. His grandmother and Dad both had critiques, which I expected but was still difficult to hear. We spent so much time thinking and working on this name and we love it. There's no plan to change it or take anyone's advice about what it should be. I just wish they could act like they like it since that will be their grandson/great-grandson.
On the flip side, we told my family last week and they love the name. My sister was having a bad day the day I told her and she said it made her day so much better after I told her. That felt great!
Does anyone still read this thread? We have no name. We dont even have a short list. We are team green and my husband dislikes all my name ideas. The only names he has throw in are Steven, Douglas, and Keith (all after his deceased uncle that he knew when he was like 5) and I hate all 3 names with a passion. I literally feel like we will end up leaving the hospital without a name because I feel very certain this baby is a boy and I am not giving in to his name choices like I did my last 2 pregnancies. Ugh.
I’m still here! I don’t blame you for not liking those choices...or wanting to stand your ground!
Maybe buy a name book and give him one color highlighter and you another and work through it indirectly but together? ...like for my dh I would leave it in the bathroom for his morning dump perusing... then at naptime I can grab it and mark my favs too.
As for me, I’m super attached to one name that dh says he likes enough but I feel guilty cause he isn’t as in love with it as I am... and we don’t really have any ideas for a middle name yet.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
H is deployed right up until the baby is born so we dont really have "time" to toss around names in person. He told me to make a list. So I'm hoping he will like something I choose for a first name! We never use our daughters middle names out loud so I dont mind using one of those names for a middle. But hey maybe it'll be another girl and we wont even have to go there haha
@ellbeedee I’m still here too! And we still haven’t finalized the name, and I’m having a ton of stress over it. I think using the family name as a middle is a great compromise. You could take the first letter for a first name.
@ellbeedee - We really just started talking names over the weekend and it's "easier" for us because we know it's a boy. It seemed so easy to agree on our son's name, I don't even remember having much of a conversation past I like this, oh I like it too, great, we're all set. This time I feel like the names I like and the names MH likes are not even close in style and I'm having a hard time figuring out where to really start.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
@DanyTargaryen it helped us to get on the sane page about some “rules” first, could you try that? For example, some of our rules were 1. Not too popular, 2. Easy to spell and pronounce, 3. No obvious historical/political/celebrity namesakes (I.e. no Reagan or Kennedy), 4. An easy and obvious nickname, etc.
@DanyTargaryen we’re in the same boat. We’ve been talking about it for a while, but we can’t agree on anything we both like. I’m starting to get very concerned.
**looking for ideas** A girl's middle name nod to Leonard. Must be a real name that is easy to spell, can be a play off the meaning. Thanks in advance!
Me: 34 | DH: 33 Married Aug. 2013 TTC #1 Sep. 2016 ***TW***
BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 4, 2017 at 10w6d BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF. BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
Re: Names
We finally have the list narrowed down to two names: Harper and Mackenzie.
No clue how to choose from here. With DD I had a huge list, DH mentioned a name not on my list and that just was her name. Totally different process.
When more than one name passed muster we essentially waited until we saw her.
@SkilledSailor I like that idea of trying them out for a certain period of time. Thanks!
@MandyMost all necessary considerations!
Daughter #2 - Oct 2014
Daughter #3 - Nov 2016
Baby #4 - Sept 2018
Otherwise I like the suggestions to try them out at home. Also you don't necessarily need to decide ahead of time. You could go into the hospital with both names and decide which one feels better once you meet her.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Thoughts?
Not sure how I feel about Maxine...it might grow on me. However, as far as Maxi as a nickname goes, "maxi pad" immediately entered my mind before I even got to that point in your post (despite the fact that I don't think I've ever actually called a pad a "maxi pad"--it was still my thought).
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I'd pair it with a longer, boring AF middle name.
Eta: you might get some Rex Manning/ Empire Records jokes from the older crowd, but his classmates probably will be clueless.
@Wishilivedinflorida Oliver is a wonderful name! It's just one of those awesome timeless ones. Congrats on it being easy!
On the flip side, we told my family last week and they love the name. My sister was having a bad day the day I told her and she said it made her day so much better after I told her. That felt great!
I’m still here! I don’t blame you for not liking those choices...or wanting to stand your ground!
Maybe buy a name book and give him one color highlighter and you another and work through it indirectly but together? ...like for my dh I would leave it in the bathroom for his morning dump perusing...
As for me, I’m super attached to one name that dh says he likes enough but I feel guilty cause he isn’t as in love with it as I am... and we don’t really have any ideas for a middle name yet.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
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@jhjocelyn My H was meh about my favorite as well. About two days into our private test run of using the name at home, H loved it. Could you try that?
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
A girl's middle name nod to Leonard. Must be a real name that is easy to spell, can be a play off the meaning. Thanks in advance!
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
I assume Leonard comes from leo/lion so what about something related to that? https://www.meaning-of-names.com/search/index.asp?nm=lion&stype=1