APRIL FET

kristimh80 · April 2018

@J1006 Just tell them you bought one of those turkey baster things!

Though, by the time you announce it, people probably won't put the 2 together

mcgeeva · April 2018

Goodluck @laurengon82on your FET today!

@ndz201 How are you and your fam doing?

laurengon82 · April 2018

@mcgeeva thank you! Excited and very nervous.

kristimh80 · April 2018

@laurengon82 Happy transfer day!! Sending good vibes for a sticky little one!!

ndz2018 · April 2018

@laurengon82 HAPPY TRANSFER DAY!

@mcgeevaq and everyone .. I’m doing well memorial service is today and headed back tomorrow. It’s so nice to be with my family and I can Honestly say I have No regrets.. the weather has been awesome I almost Don’t wanna come home lol.

You guys!!! All your FETs are coming up so soon!!! I’m soooooooooo freaking excited for all of you

If my period cooperates and comes this weekend I’ll literally be RIGHT behind you guys for the first week of May!!

kristimh80 · April 2018

@ndz2018 So good to hear you're having a great time with your family!! I'm excited for you next month! I maybe hoping over to the May board. Not feeling good about this month, unless a miracle happens. Looks like you guys have a fun group over there

J1006 · April 2018

@laurengon82. Happy transfer day!! GL!

@ndz2018 so happy to hear that you have no regrets! Enjoy the nice California weather! I will be lurking the May board

dragonette505 · April 2018

laurengon82 OMG! Lets make a baby!! let us know how it goes and show us baby's first pic!
ndz2018 I'm sure it was exhausting and cathartic at the same time... I hope your family was comforted... now COME ON AF and lets get the new cycle on the road! Like J1006 says, I'm already stalking may...
AFM... ugh... while the estrogen helps, I'm still so exhausted by about 9 pm each day... ugh. How much worse its going to be with progesterone will probably mean me going to bed at 6 PM lol

mcgeeva · April 2018

ndz2018 that's great to get the fam time and having no regrets. It makes it easier if you feel that way when you look back. I am praying I feel the same way come thursday for my Grandmother's funeral. I am a ball of nerves thinking about the crazy.

ndz2018 · April 2018

@mcgeeva I really hope Thur is drama free for you.

@dragonette505 YES! The Estradriol made me lethargic too I can Only imagine what adding the progesterone will do... guess I’ll find out when it’s time but hopefully in a few weeks eeekkkk you’re next week!!!

@kristimh80 I’m sorry you’re not feeling good about this cycle I REALLY hope you’re wrong about this, when’s your beta, this week right?

kristimh80 · April 2018

@ndz2018 Thank you! My husband found out I have been POAS so he's sad now. I keep trying to tell myself...it's out of my hands! But I do feel good knowing you guys are on the May board waiting and that I'd be in good company

I figure if AF started right away then, maybe I'd still be in the 1st - 2nd of May with you

mcgeeva · April 2018

kristimh80 it's still early! Don't give up hope yet...

dragonette505 · April 2018

ndz2018 After this week I am clearing my after work schedule (as much as possible) for a week or so
kristimh80 I still have everything crossed for you!! You're only 7dp5dt right? How are you feeling?
also checking in on @artemis618 , @alfieb-2 and @smittenkitten_aka_knottie821 (have I missed anyone else?) How are you guys feeling? And what are you doing to keep from going bsc??

kristimh80 · April 2018

@dragonette505 Omg your gif just made me LOL! That explains me to a T this week!

Yes, 7 days today. Feeling ok, started slightly feeling like AF is going to show. Have those fun random lower back sensations. Last night when eating a salad, I almost threw it out because it tasted so bitter. That maybe all the fun hormones though. I kind of wish it would come back so maybe I'd start eating less! How is everything going with you?? Only 1 week to go!! YAY!

roisis · April 2018

**still lurking** @kristimh80 As others say - it's still early days - so don't give up yet

(but of course if it doesn't go your way we'll be waiting with open arms for you in May

)
Wishing you and all the beta testers the best results in the coming days

dragonette505 · April 2018

kristimh80 LOL Yep.. omg I was just looking at my (BSC) copious notes I took last year during my FET and I was going cray by 7dp5dt... I was SO reasonable until about 6dp5dt!! Then it all broke down! I will say that I absolutely had what felt like pre AF cramping. It sux so bad that a lot of the symptoms feel the same

tosh24 · April 2018

@laurengon82 GL today!!!! Thinking sticky thoughts for you!

@mcgeeva I'm so sorry. I must have missed that your grandmother passed away. Grandmas are the best and it's so hard to lose them. Thinking of you

@ndz2018 Glad you are at peace with your decision. May is right around the corner!

@kristimh80 I totally get your feeling down. Once I get to 7dp5dt, I start to feel really bummed with BFNs. I try to remember that I'm not out until beta and I've seen it plenty of times on this board where ladies who thought they were out go on to be very much pregnant. Still keeping hope alive for you.

AFM, had a check-in appointment with my RE yesterday. She wants me to be positive and says that most ppl that come through the clinic and have multiple failures do end up pregnant as long as they keep transferring and she is very optimistic given my history. I pretty much burst into tears (for the first time!) and she handed me the contact for the social worker and wants me to speak with her since she can tell I'm getting emotionally fatigued. I am so embarrassed I cried. I'm usually a tough cookie. *TW* Doesn't help that right before that she looked at the lab procedures and confirmed that my last transfer did end in a CP and it wasn't lab error, so I guess I was already on the edge of the cliff emotionally. That makes 3 b2b losses now. And I'm kind of blaming myself for the CP because I stopped my progesterone before beta and likely brought on AF. *TW* Moral of the story: DO NOT stop your meds before beta, OK????? If this transfer fails, she put in a req for an ERA, so I'm spending the day today figuring out if my insurance will cover it because I I don't know that I can get DH on board otherwise. If not, I'll probably do a letrozole cycle next and start transferring two embies. Let's just hope 3rd time's a charm and I can stop stressing about all of this. I booked myself a half Swedish massage/half craniosacral therapy massage and a Reiki session this week to help with my stress level. I'll probably do another few rounds leading up to transfer as well.

ndz2018 · April 2018

@kristimh80 Like all the other girls said, Still REALLY early! Hang in there doll!

@dragonette505 Drinking, I'm drinking to not go BSC lol but I still have another few weeks till my FET so why not?

dragonette505 · April 2018

tosh24 I think its so nice your doc is also concerned with your emotional health as well! I'm with her! You can totally do this!!
ndz2018 I don't think ive ever gotten through a funeral without drinking... And yes, hopefully you wont be drinking again for a long while so enjoy it now!

artemis618 · April 2018

@laurengon82 Happy transfer day!

@ndz2018 Glad you enjoyed the time with your family despite the circumstances and that you got to enjoy some warmer (too warm up here!) weather. Have a safe trip home!

@kristimh80 Chin up! You’re not out till you’re out. I never feel anything either way (but I’ve also historically not been terribly in tune with/ aware of my body - like I never know my period is coming -aside from approximate timing based on tracking - until it’s here). Just remember that right now, you don’t have any concrete, absolute evidence that you’re out - so there’s still hope! (Easier said than done, I know - I’m still not feeling terribly optimistic myself)

Thanks for checking in @dragonette505. Um...I guess I’m not (doing anything to keep from going BSC)? Yesterday I felt mostly fine (aside from the aforementioned lack of “sufficient” optimism), today, a little more anxious. Maybe it’s different since it’s my second one? It also doesn’t help that I’m rarely busy at work to provide distraction. Watched some TV last night, played with the dog and did somebody training with her. Maybe doesn’t help that I’ve put myself on exercise restriction this week so I haven’t been going to the gym in the mornings. I made an acu appointment for Thursday night after work.

@tosh24 You shouldn’t feel bad about crying! Even if it’s out of character for you, these people deal with women on hormones on a daily basis! My first RE gave me a list of counselors after we got no blasts from our first IVF cycle, and I couldn’t stop crying going into my second retrieval for fear that the same thing would happen (we got our first normal from that cycle). This stuff is emotional - and it does accumulate (as of my first retrieval, I still hadn’t found a counselor to deal with my first *TW* miscarriage a few months prior). Insurance didn’t cover my ERA (I’d had two losses? Not sure if it matters), and it was about $1k (I think my Insurance would cover the office visit & biopsy, but I haven’t seen it come through yet and it was early January). Keep taking care of yourself!

@mcgeeva Hang in there!

My DH’s birthday is next Tuesday so it would be great if this sticks. *TW* It’s also kind of messing with me that our little girl from our first pregnancy would already have been a year old on the same day (not that many babies are actually born on their due dates - and my MIL and I have the same birthday too, coincidentally). Last year on his birthday we hiked to visit the site of where he buried our little one and we got the news of our first normal embryo that afternoon. I booked a lovely garden dinner for Saturday night (beta day) for us with my SIL and her bf so that’ll be distraction either way - of course, DH and I would rather be celebrating two things.

kristimh80 · April 2018

@tosh24 (((hugs))) So sorry you're enduring all of this. I am glad your doctor is concerned and trying to help anyway she can. It's a great sign she is still positive for you!! I wish all fertility clinics had onsite counseling for us all. I had gotten a 2nd opinion with another clinic before starting IVF. They had a counselor on hand 24 / 7 for patients, I really thought was such a nice touch! This process is so emotional draining. Enjoy your massage!!! That sounds amazing!

dragonette505 · April 2018

artemis618 I definitely feel more apprehension going into my second one too! Last time I just "knew" the transfer would work... and while I understood that was just me being a transfer rookie, but I sort of went with it. Obviously I was nervous on transfer day just that my embies would thaw, but otherwise I look at my notes and I was basically just waiting to confirm a pos. Now I just feel more worried in general (again I think its because I was so confident last time). And like you right now, my job doesn't require a lot of focus so honestly ive been just wallowing in information. they do say to restrict exercise in the TWW so that sux (but good for your ute!). Staying hopeful for you guys really helps me stay out of my own head a bit more. Your plans for celebrations sound awesome... so so so hoping you have many things to celebrate!!!

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kristimh80 · April 2018

@artemis618 I'm going to tell you what you told me...chin up lady!! But I totally get it! If my baby (CP) would have been a year old as well now. Try to stay positive knowing you have been pregnant and it can happen! I always revisit those times in my head trying to remember the happy side of things after trying for so long. This journey is such a roller coaster. But know we are here if you need anything

kristimh80 · April 2018

Random ? Anyone else on PIO get a little itchy near the injection site? I've been good but the last couple days it'll itch here and there randomly. Almost like a bug bite feeling.

alfieb-2 · April 2018

@kristimh80 I have everything crossed for you. You are still PUPO. We are all rooting for you and your embaby.

@laurengon82 Happy transfer day!

@dragonette505 Thank you for asking.

I don’t have any symptoms...makes me worried. My last two transfers were BFN’s and I’m too chicken to test right now. I’ll test Thursday morning, the day of my beta.

@tosh24 I’m on my third FET, too. I had a fresh in between. Hoping the third FET’s the charm for both of us. Have a nice, relaxing massage. Such a good idea to do a few sessions leading up to transfer.

dragonette505 · April 2018

alfieb-2 lots of girls have zero symptoms, so don't let that get you down! Its so funny because girls who get preggers normally sometimes don't have a clue or feel anything until after 5 weeks or 6 weeks... here we are trying to feel symptoms in week 3!

laurengon82 · April 2018

Thank you everyone for wishing me a happy transfer day! The transfer went well. The RE said he had a tough time getting a clear picture for us, but the catheter went in easy and was in the right place. I guess my bladder wasn’t full enough. I was too full and still waiting. The nurse told me to go just enough to fill a small cup she gave me. It was really hard to stop once I started going. He told me not to worry and that the embryo is in there in the right place.

laurengon82 · April 2018

@mcgeeva very sorry for your loss.

@ndz2018 glad to hear you are doing well.

@tosh24 I’m sorry you are feeling so down. Don’t worry about crying in the office at all. I’ve done it also. IF is so emotionally draining. I wish my clinic offered counseling too.

@kristimh80 FX so hard for you still. You’re not out yet!

ndz2018 · April 2018

@laurengon82 Thanks doll and congrats on PUPO!! YAY!

@kristimh80 can you put some cortisone or calomine lotion on your bum? Oatmeal bath? Is it constant? That would drive me nuts and probably will lol

kristimh80 · April 2018

@laurengon82 YAY!! So excited for you!!!!

@ndz2018 It's not constant. It's like that mosquito bite you forget about until you rub up against something. So shouldn't complain too much! lol

mcgeeva · April 2018

Okay so now I’m panicking. Went for my apt and where my lining is a 9 I have fluid and fluid in my c-section scar. Said they will talk to my doctor but if progesterone doesn’t help the fluid or aspirating they won’t waste good embryos. I swear I need to mentally check out today to just go cry.

Has anyone made it through a FET with this issue?

mayflower513 · April 2018

Oh no @mcgeeva! No experience, but I hope they can figure it out ASAP and you CAN** complete this transfer!! FX!

kristimh80 · April 2018

@mcgeeva So sorry you're having to deal with this! Praying the progesterone will help!! But you don't want to waste the embryos your worked hard to get either. ((hugs))

ndz2018 · April 2018

@mcgeeva DAMN IT! It’s always something, right? So sorry, this is my first FET no advice here.

laurengon82 · April 2018

@mcgeeva so sorry this is happening. FX that your doctor gets this figured out and you are able to have your transfer.

dragonette505 · April 2018

mcgeeva UGH! Lets just hope it resolves! Ive heard of it happening to other girls, and sometimes it does clear up!

tosh24 · April 2018

Ugh, @mcgeeva, that's so annoying! Fluid in the uterus can be a side effect of the Estrace. There are a few ladies on the IF board that have had this problem. I've only ever seen one instance where the RE aspirated instead of cancelled and that lady's cycle was a BFN (not sure if the two are in any way related). I have seen it a few times where once the progesterone is started, the fluid disappears and all is good to go. I really hope that is the case for you too! FX!

mcgeeva · April 2018

Thanks ladies...I'm hoping this will be the case. I read and it doesn't sound like aspirating works. I knew I had fluid still from the retrieval but was hoping it would resolve. Then it makes me wonder if I will always have fluid. I feel like I had fluid when I started IVF to begin with so no flipping clue

Now I get to brace myself for family drama. It's possible I may lose my shit on someone if they act a fool in church. Today is NOT THE DAY.

tosh24 · April 2018

Thanks, ladies. Nice to know my emotional weakness the other day won't be held against me lol My RE is so sweet and I love her.

@kristimh80 PIO does not sound fun. I've never had to use it so I have no personal experience but I hope you find something that brings relief and that all of this ends up being for a very good reason

@laurengon82 Glad everything went well yesterday!

@artemis618 Yes, I think you're right. All of these emotions do accumulate over time. *TW* I know I still haven't come to terms with my first miscarriage, especially since the way it happened was so traumatic, and I know that affects how I am dealing with everything that has happened since (I wouldn't be surprised if I have PTSD). Loss anniversaries are hard. My baby girl would have been turning 1 in June and that thought is such a punch to the gut. Not that good news will erase your loss (I know nothing ever will), but I sincerely hope that you and DH are able to celebrate good news next week and hopefully a sad anniversary will be shared with an anniversary that ends up bringing your life joy.

@alfieb-2 Hope you're hanging in there! One more day until beta!

@mcgeeva When do you go back for a follow-up u/s?

AFM, hesitantly talked to DH about the ERA last night, and to my surprise, he said to just pay for it. You could have knocked me over with a feather! My insurance doesn't cover it but I did find out that it covers 3 different diagnostic tests for sperm function....interesting. My union appeals coordinator told me that there is also another woman who has brought forward an appeal for an ERA to be covered which has been going on for 6+ months and the employer keeps saying no but can give no good reason as to why. Methinks this is rather discriminatory based on sex. I think I'll go ahead and pay OOP for the ERA if it's needed (hopefully not) and then continue to fight to have the ERA covered and be reimbursed.

mcgeeva · April 2018

@tosh24 I don’t know which also makes me wonder if I’m waiting for my doc to call and say it’s cancelled.

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