@ladygali I left my stylist for someone else a couple of
years ago. I just stopped going. I’m still friends with the ex-stylist on FB
but we don’t interact. I still feel guilty but I did what was best for me and
my hair.
I have a daycare question. Do most people use a daycare closer to home or to your office?
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
@laurad75 We use a daycare closer to home. It is closer to Dh's work than mine. I didn't want one near my work because I would have had to be responsibile for drop off and pick up! Plus it worked out because we found one we love!
@laurad75 - we chose one closer to work. We knew we were going to move in the near future and didn't want to drive from old town to new town then back and forth to work every day. But we also worked in the same building when we chose so that played a huge part in our decision.
I also was struggling with my milk supply, especially after going back to work so it was important to me to be able to swing by at lunch and nurse to keep my supply up as best I could
@laurad75 we chose one closer to home, but that’s mainly because I’m at home during the week since I work weekend night shift. If something were to happen, he’s close to me. If I worked a normal M-F 9-5, I’d probably choose something closer to my work.
I also drop him off after work two mornings every week, so it’s nice that I don’t have a far drive when I’m dead tired.
Our daycare is actually in the middle of my home and work which is nice and convenient because I drop him off on the way and pick him up and it's not out of my way but also it's only 10 minutes from the house so if I am not going to work, it's not annoying either. Plus, it's off of an exit that DH comes off of for work so either way works out.
Our daycare is close to home. DH works from home so if we had chosen one close to where I work, I would have been responsible for both pick up and drop off. No thanks!
@laurad75 - we chose one closer to work. We knew we were going to move in the near future and didn't want to drive from old town to new town then back and forth to work every day. But we also worked in the same building when we chose so that played a huge part in our decision.
I also was struggling with my milk supply, especially after going back to work so it was important to me to be able to swing by at lunch and nurse to keep my supply up as best I could
I also used one close enough to work so I could nurse at lunch - it helped me emotionally and my supply soooo much! I also liked being able to get there and nurse at pickup quicker
Ours is closer to home. We are teachers, so we wanted the option to send her on days we have off so that we can get work done or just relax. If we went closer to work, we would have to drive 30 minutes to drop her off.
We went with one that was about the same distance to both, if that makes sense. We have since moved to a neighboring town, so now it is closer to work. It works out well because I've been able to get there quickly if he's sick and it's convenient for pick up/drop off. DH and I work about a half a mile from each other and he has a work truck once he gets to the office, so some days we even carpool to save miles and gas money.
We may be switching to one closer to home once DS gets closer to school age because the one 5 minutes from our house offers before/after school care for our district and his current one is in a different district. We are prolonging it though because we do love the center we're at now!
A kid in my BMB recently had an allergic reaction at daycare. I need to be able to get to my son before an ambulance. I must be faster than 911. That thought terrifies me.
Thank you all for the daycare responses! It's super helpful. @pghctwife That's a good point about the opportunity to nurse at lunch.
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
So work is like 5 minutes away, but we also chose closer to home, but we don’t work typical 9-5 jobs (DH is 3rd shift). I like the idea of being able to go in to nurse, but if I work from home (or have a day off), I want to be able to drop him off quickly and get back home without a long commute.
Does anyone have any recommendations for books or general things that help with separation anxiety? DS is 14m and has been really struggling with it since DH was gone on his work trip for over a week.
Does anyone have any recommendations for books or general things that help with separation anxiety? DS is 14m and has been really struggling with it since DH was gone on his work trip for over a week.
We have and love The Invisible String but it may be a little old for a 14m old, depending on your child, of course. I tend to read "older" kid books to DS2 and always have because we do stories together with big brother who refuses to read "baby" books.
@livinthesunnylife I couldn't tell you all of the reasons why people chose to go that route, but it definitely happens. Scheduling preferences, anesthesia, and fears of tearing/incontinence are all among reasons I've seen for choosing a C section. It's becoming more common in the US, but it's already standard practice in several places including Brazil where over 85% of hospital births are C section.
So interesting re Brazil, I always thought the USA had one of the highest rates of planned C-sections in the world. I am pretty sure in Europe etc they are lower... could be wrong though.
Are bottle sterilizers really necessary? Or can running it through a dishwasher be sufficient enough? It just seems like more counter clutter to me, and goodness knows I've got enough of that as it is. heh
@scottishlass1213 & @amac12999 Thanks ladies! I sterilize my canning jars in our dishwasher with the sterilize function and that's seemed sufficient, but wasn't sure if I was missing something for baby bottles and supplies or not.
@legallykate we used them for travel, they only fit 2 or 3 bottles at a time so it took us so much longer, plus laying everything out today after. We used the medela ones. But a girlfriend of mine used them exclusively and loved them! She only needed 1-2 bottles a day plus pump parts.
@neeraja_k I’m going to make a plug for the sterilizer. We still use it about 3x a week because I’m obnoxious about putting rubber pieces in the dishwasher. So we put DS’s plastic cups in the dishwasher but the rubber spouts we hand wash and run through the sterilizer. I hand washed bottles and parts the entire time he used them, we just fully transitioned to silly cups and DS is 19months old.
@jsnakehole I wouldn’t buy one for myself. I already own large pots, and my stove boils water pretty quickly. I feel like a microwave sterilizer would just be one more thing I’d have to find a place to store.
That being said, if you don’t have a large pot to put all the bottles & parts in, or if you’re waiting 30 minutes for your stove to boil water, a microwave sterilizer would probably be nice. If you’re on the fence, you can always hold off and order one from Amazon if you decide you want one later.
@legallykate I used them sometimes for breast pump parts but never for bottles. I always just ran them through the dishwasher with all my other dishes. DS only got like one bottle a day, if that. I just added that because I never dealt with a ton of bottles.
I did the same as @livinthesunnylife. If I needed a bottle and ours were dirty, I’d hand wash one without sterilizing. DS never got sick from it. My SIL has four girls and never sterilized her stuff. They all turned out fine.
If you have a preemie or an immunocompromised baby, I can see where sterilizing would be more important. If not, it probably won’t hurt to just use soap & water.
I sanitized my oump parts once a week in the steamer bags for the microwave. Bottles I out in dishwasher or hand washed. I hand washed nipples and steamed them once a week along with pacis in the bags.
Before everyone goes boiling their oump parts make sure you read what the manufacturer recommends. You may just bring the water to boil, take it off the heat then add parts and let it sit.
I sterilized all new bottles, pacis etc by boiling in hot water. After that Bottles got ran through the dishwasher, or washed by hand if we needed one right away. We never had any issues at all!
I’ve had heartburn twice today, between my shoulder blades. It fucking kills. I used to get wicked bad heartburn with DS but it wasn’t this bad this early. HALP!!
Loved my microwave Tommy tippie sterilizer. I used it daily from newborn-8 months for bottles and pump parts. When I weaned and stopped pumping at 9 months I started just hand washing all bottles which I'm still currently doing. LO gets 2-3 small bottles a day at 17 months. She's never been a pacifier baby so I'm still clueless on bottle weaning her.
I’ve had heartburn twice today, between my shoulder blades. It fucking kills. I used to get wicked bad heartburn with DS but it wasn’t this bad this early. HALP!!
Did you use meds with your son? I don’t mean tums.
There are several safe otc meds to try, and you can also take Rx meds safely. After suffering with my first bc the gym I saw wouldn’t prescribe - he suggested I eat dpoonfuls of heavy cream lolol (no wonder I gained 60#). I decided that enough was enough. I started before the end of my 1st tri with 2&3, and was about to get them when I miscarried. This time it was like 16w, once the ms disappeared,
I’m on protonix once a day and it’s pure magic. I now need zero tums. I can up the dosage as time goes on if needed.
Theres bo foods that help only ones that make it worse, like freakin WATER. I couldn’t eat sweets st all even with the meds with the boys, luckily this girl wants to be my favorite by letting me eat chocolate lol
Does anyone exclusively use the microwave steamer bags? Those seem so easy.
Yes, and I also only used them 2-3 times. I boiled all the parts before use, sterilized with the bag a few times, but mostly just washed everything in hot, soapy water.
Re: Weekly Questions 3/20
@ladygali I left my stylist for someone else a couple of years ago. I just stopped going. I’m still friends with the ex-stylist on FB but we don’t interact. I still feel guilty but I did what was best for me and my hair.
I have a daycare question. Do most people use a daycare closer to home or to your office?
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
I also was struggling with my milk supply, especially after going back to work so it was important to me to be able to swing by at lunch and nurse to keep my supply up as best I could
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
I also drop him off after work two mornings every week, so it’s nice that I don’t have a far drive when I’m dead tired.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
We may be switching to one closer to home once DS gets closer to school age because the one 5 minutes from our house offers before/after school care for our district and his current one is in a different district. We are prolonging it though because we do love the center we're at now!
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
So interesting re Brazil, I always thought the USA had one of the highest rates of planned C-sections in the world. I am pretty sure in Europe etc they are lower... could be wrong though.
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
@neeraja_k I’m going to make a plug for the sterilizer. We still use it about 3x a week because I’m obnoxious about putting rubber pieces in the dishwasher. So we put DS’s plastic cups in the dishwasher but the rubber spouts we hand wash and run through the sterilizer. I hand washed bottles and parts the entire time he used them, we just fully transitioned to silly cups and DS is 19months old.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
We washed and boiled all bottles/pump parts/pacis etc
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
That being said, if you don’t have a large pot to put all the bottles & parts in, or if you’re waiting 30 minutes for your stove to boil water, a microwave sterilizer would probably be nice. If you’re on the fence, you can always hold off and order one from Amazon if you decide you want one later.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
If you have a preemie or an immunocompromised baby, I can see where sterilizing would be more important. If not, it probably won’t hurt to just use soap & water.
Before everyone goes boiling their oump parts make sure you read what the manufacturer recommends. You may just bring the water to boil, take it off the heat then add parts and let it sit.
I hate counter clutter
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
There are several safe otc meds to try, and you can also take Rx meds safely. After suffering with my first bc the gym I saw wouldn’t prescribe - he suggested I eat dpoonfuls of heavy cream lolol (no wonder I gained 60#). I decided that enough was enough. I started before the end of my 1st tri with 2&3, and was about to get them when I miscarried. This time it was like 16w, once the ms disappeared,
I’m on protonix once a day and it’s pure magic. I now need zero tums. I can up the dosage as time goes on if needed.
Theres bo foods that help only ones that make it worse, like freakin WATER. I couldn’t eat sweets st all even with the meds with the boys, luckily this girl wants to be my favorite by letting me eat chocolate lol
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w