Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Weekly Randoms 3/5
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Although, I have to say, this is a poorly thought out plan.
Nailed it. That bread reference
I just don’t understand people who has that much time on their hands and finds it amusing??
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
I’m just curious what brought them to an old thread to say something. And it does make me think that it’s someone who is around and has an AE.
I’m in bed alone.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
or, it’s someone on here with an ae trying to stir everyone up. (Disagree it’s someone pushing for fb - as a fb poster lol it seems like it would make ppl not want to go).
Or its true and someone on here isnt pg and is catfishing is all, and faking being pregnant. Wouldn’t be the first time. But I think this is least likely because that person wouldn’t want to call attention to themselves, chance ppl figuring them out.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
@calimom2524 congrats on your poop. Haha. It’s the little things.
And this is O/T but SO drives a Dodge diesel truck. It’s not jacked up but it’s high normally and I made the comment that I’d have to stop riding soon because it’s hard to get your leg up that high with baby in your pelvis. Well, he went and put steps on the side. And it might be the sweetest thing ever. Lol. It seems so minor but I’m like awwwwe he does care. Lol. He kept telling me he was gonna get me a step like for the shower haha.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
I won't post my photos on here for privacy, also won't list my location, or some specific other details. Tbh so much info is given put without you thinking about it and it makes you easily identifiable. With my other bmb another user and I took to investigating people and figuring out who they were, so we could them message them and invite them to the fb group since everyone disappeared during the bumpsplosion. We found 98% of the people just by their usernames/what they posted.
Eta we never used information in a mean way, we just messaged ppl to say "hey, bump exploded, do you want to join the fb group?"
The hormones again - I cried when I posted to get it and when I opened the bag tonight!!
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
ETA: Spelling is hard at 1 a.m.
I just think that stuff is fun and hilarious. I mean we all need to keep in mind that the stuff we say here is public but that we can weed out trolls pretty easily in a few months when we head to FB.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12462811/newb-in-town/p1
So I checked out our catfish's post history and they seem pretty low-key, offering advice on baby names and shower etiquette. So, pretty harmless. I also suspect (if this is for real and they're a regular poster not just someone trying to stir up drama on our board for fun) that they do have kids, there are several references to a Kindergarten aged kiddo in the post history. So even though I'm thinking harmless, I'll be a bit more cautious about posting. You are all right, you never know who is reading
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
The problem is that TB creates a paranoia about trolls too. Even after we moved to FB and had been together close to a year a group was investigating another girl in our group because they didn't believe she was real and she got word of it. That does irreparable damage to the relationship. Everytime someone seemed "too cool to be real" it would launch another investigation.
I LOLing at your siggy
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
A coworker gave me two bags of baby clothes her son (who was born last August) outgrew really quickly. I won't have to get my son anything else, clothes wise, for the first month of his life.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!