@wildtot I agree about the fear of using sex. I also think most/some people do not understand the difference between sex and gender and/or don't care to differentiate them. I also think there's push back because once you "reveal" what you are having the stereotypical gender expectations start happening. I feel like that is going to happen anyway and as the parent it's my job to break those down. And I will do what i can.
@wildtot That's so funny you mention that. Originally on the invite I had put "reveal the gender of our baby" Then my husband changed it to "sex of our baby" We send the evites out, second thing my brother comments on (other than what he said above) was "lol sex of the baby." He said it looked funny, and he thought gender was more appropriate.
At this point it's whatever I guess..they all get the point of the party
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@dapple88 That's true about the stereotypical gender expectations. I'm taking care to not use the "baseballs or barbies" theme as I don't think being a girl/boy has anything to do with what they choose to play with when they grow up. I played baseball on an all boys team and also played with dolls as a kid. I tell my husband that too when he says he would like a boy so he can play sports with him and whatnot... I say what's to stop you from doing that with a girl? and how will you know a boy would even want to play sports? I guess this party could be a good way to start breaking down those stereotypical expectations as well. No matter what the sex is, baby can do or be anything they want
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I try to avoid stereotypical stuff too. DS plays with my make up and shoes signs of self-care which is awesome! But he also likes typical boy stuff. DS thinks is weird that he plays with my make up but its not like I am forcing it on him, he just copies me. He likes to hang out with me as I get ready. The other day we were looking for plastic dishes and there were only pink ones left. DH made the comment how he wished they didn't just have that color. I turned around and said that just because we get pink ones its not going to turn him into anything. I don't care what he decides to identify as (my sister is gay) as long as he is happy. I will still love him no matter what!
@dapple88 That's true about the stereotypical gender expectations. I'm taking care to not use the "baseballs or barbies" theme as I don't think being a girl/boy has anything to do with what they choose to play with when they grow up. I played baseball on an all boys team and also played with dolls as a kid. I tell my husband that too when he says he would like a boy so he can play sports with him and whatnot... I say what's to stop you from doing that with a girl? and how will you know a boy would even want to play sports? I guess this party could be a good way to start breaking down those stereotypical expectations as well. No matter what the sex is, baby can do or be anything they want
Absolutely! I think there can be a balance of staying aware as well as celebrating that you are having a baby. And being excited that your are having a boy or a girl while still allowing your baby to be their authentic self. Have fun at your party!
@MichelleAG05 how do you feel about cinnamon? My go to this time of year is a cinnamon dolce latte with caramel drizzle, but I ask for half the syrup because it’s sweet!
@hayhay93 stay! I’m due July 2nd/5th but I’m pretty sure he/she’ll be a June baby too because DS was a week early.
I don’t particularly like gender reveals, I didn’t have one for my son but I guess I will be this time around. My sister latched onto the idea when she found out we were having another and already started planning one- she literally sent out fb invites days after I announced on social media. She’s getting married in a year and a half, I think she’s looking for an outlet lol so I’m letting it happen. Plus, I’m not one to argue with free food and cake.
And yeah, I still call it gender reveal... I’m fully aware we’re finding out the sex but “sex reveal” gives me the mental image of strippers with those pants that rip off... Not exactly baby friendly, not that I would be opposed lol.
And yeah, I still call it gender reveal... I’m fully aware we’re finding out the sex but “sex reveal” gives me the mental image of strippers with those pants that rip off... Not exactly baby friendly, not that I would be opposed lol.
^^This just made my day. I always felt strange saying "sex reveal" and now it will feel even stranger thanks to this
We are not planning on doing any type of reveal. It's just not our thing. MIL keeps trying to convince us that we should since she wants to have the "experience". She is starting to drive me to the point that I want to say that if she doesn't give it up she won't even find out what we are having.
I'm usually on "on occasion" cinnamon dolce fan, but the addition of the caramel drizzle and half the syrup sounds good! I love ordering through the app so I can easily select less syrup on things without taking a full 60 seconds to tell the barista my order. I'll have to make a game time decision tomorrow between that and a caramel macchiato!
Also, LOL at your "sex reveal" comments. And I agree!
I was looking back at my charts from my other kiddos and it looks like I gained the most weight from weeks 12 to 24 or so. Every appointment I had gained more than the “recommended” weight. Then, it steadied in the 3rd tri to “normal” (about a lb per week). So my theory is (for me anyway), I start feeling better after first tri and want all the FOOD, just like I do now, until baby is big and I don’t have room anymore.
@rachelsogo if we changed the word gender to sex I feel like people wouldn't care. It drives me nuts, they know what you mean. Your child will not remember this, and therefore will not feel in anyway shamed if they feel as though they identify with the opposite gender. You aren't forcing your will on them. You are celebrating the SEX they are and people KNOW that and they STILL choose to be all effing up in arms about it. I try to use gender neutral pronouns with people, I support a non-binary gender system, but I still think you should be able to have a GENDER reveal without people getting all PC on you. Ugh. Off soapbox, lol.
ETA: You aren't even celebrating their sex, you are celebrating finding out the sex. Like you care either way, its just exciting!
I had a small gender reveal with DH when we found out about our boy at 10weeks. It was cute, we took a video. But nothing else for us, we will have a co-ed shower.
Now I want bagels and Starbucks. DH sent me a funny video about Mac and cheese and I'm pretty sure that's what I need to have for lunch now!
My random. DH is back on healthy eating and working out. He is tracking food with my fitness pal because we get $$ into our HSA account for that. So I was curious and added in my calories and set my goal as "gain 25 pounds". He is mad because I get the same amount of calories as him and TBH I don't think I'm even maxing them out. It was quite funny!
As for the term "gender reveal" I think the problem is that the phrase got coined that way. Like "bandaid"- chances are you aren't using the brand name, but everyone calls it that and everyone knows what it means so no one says adhesive medical bandage. I think the reason we haven't changed to "sex reveal" is because that sounds weird to some people (like a previous poster stated about strippers). Just my thoughts
@kissableviv Please tell me more about your co-ed shower! I really want to have one as we have a lot of guy friends that should be able to celebrate this baby too. But I just think people would be weird about it. Especially my mom. So basically I want to do it but we probably we won't bc we think other ppl will think it's weird. I know that's dumb.
DH wants to find out if we are having a boy or girl, I want to do a gender reveal party (satisfies family demands). Would it be wrong if we did a gender reveal party where we knew and everyone else guessed? I'm trying to justify why we should still have one if DH wants to find out before everyone else...
@SmashJam I totally agree with everything you said! Thank you for putting it that way
@kissableviv I think the baby shower will be ladies only, so maybe this gender reveal party is a fun way to get the hubs included in a party as well. (It was his idea to do)
I got a chicken teriyaki bowl for lunch, and all I’m eating is the rice! Mmm starchy carbs
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@moguippy I had a jack and jill shower with DS, it was great! I’d rather have an inclusive shower anyways, the more the merrier! No one was weird about it, even the older guests. But if your family is more traditional I could see how it would be different. But ultimately it’s up to you and what you want- don’t let someone else’s views get in the way of what’s supposed to be your day.
I am being so lazy right now and DS is playing with trucks alone on the floor. I just shoveled a lot of snow and am exhausted. I feel bad I don't want to get up and play and am super happy he's doing it by himself right now, lol. Also I can't remember if I took my prenatals today.
@SmashJam +1 for laziness here. I brought in a bin of snow for DS to play with today because I reaaaaallly don’t want to go outside in the cold. But he’s being so quiet and good, it’s worth the puddle on the floor.
@zombiehoohaa we have done some kind of reveal for most of our babies. (We were team green for #3). With my first two DH and I knew first from the ultrasound, the tech just told us, and we just had a cake or cupcakes made for a reveal for our parents. And they knew we already knew the sex. With #4 my friend put balloons in a box for us to open and we didn't know beforehand and that was fun. We opened it at a family party at my Dad's house.
For this one, I think I want to have my friend put something together for DH and me to find out ourselves. I'm just feeling nervous about reacting in front of people (I hate being the center of attention!). And we are going to do a reveal at a family party next Saturday for our kids and some close family members. So I don't think it's weird to know and still do a reveal. It's still fun for them either way. Personally, I wouldn't tell them that you know/knew until after the reveal though.
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
@zombiehoohaa Our friends did their reveal parties both ways. For the first they didn't know and found out with everyone else. For the second they found out and told their son a few days ahead of time. No one thought it was weird and they liked having a little family secret for a few days lol.
@acunamatada I know I shouldn't let other people's opinions affect what I do, its just easier to avoid confrontation (especially with my mom). We'll see how I feel in a few months. I'm assuming it will be my SIL's planning my shower so I will see what they say. We aren't having a gender reveal so I want my DH to get to experience it too. He is super excited for this baby.
We’re having a boy according to my OB and my first US, but to be certain we’re waiting until we get our blood work results in before we tell the boys what we’re having. If it was wrong for some reason, I didn’t want to confuse them.
Anyway, when we get those results back (hopefully this week or next) we’re going to do a little reveal for them. They really want one. I’m trying to think of something fun for them but also original. We’re going to video it for funsies. And when I’m talking to my kids about it I say “gender reveal” it definitely sounds weird to say “sex reveal.”
@SmashJam yes thank you for articulating exactly how I feel! I think everyone knows what you mean by gender, no need to make it a bigger issue than it is
I'm giddy right now - I looked up breast pump benefits on our new health insurance and it looks like I'll be able to get the Spectra S2 this time! WHEEE!!!!!!
@acunamatada@moguippy if I have any kind of shower, it will be co-ed. I was thinking just something at our house and having a barbecue or something. I tend to banish tradition, partially because I have to (my mom is not alive so a things like bridal showers with girls and moms and mom-friends etc has never made sense for me) and partially because the tradition is nonsensical anyway. The gifts are for my husband and I, and I assume he'd want to celebrate with his friends too. Anyway, I DO want to have some type of shower because this I want the gifts, this shit is expensive
I think the whole “nesting stage” of second trimester just kicked in because I have spent the entire day decorating the house, pulling old picture frames and decorations out of the garage, and cleaning up the clutter around the house. My husband is gonna wake up to an entirely new house
@SmashJam And now I’m letting my daughter watch several episodes of Little Baby Bums and entertain herself because all that cleaning just pooped me out!
No gender reveal here. We didn't do it for our first either. This time around is going to be a lot more boring for us as far as celebrating.. my husband has cut off his entire family and we didn't have a ton of friends to begin with, so we are probably just going to stay low key. I am super bummed out about him separating from his family since I actually really like them. Sorry, just moping a bit!
We did a co ed shower and I loved it. It was fun for H to be involved. We had bbq, lots of alcohol, and a few games but not so traditional. There was a contest to see who could finish a baby bottle of beer the quickest One of my favorite things is that my cousin went around with her go pro and asked everyone to give us parenting advice, then compiled it into a video for us. It was really neat.
Definitely stay even if you know you'll be a June or August baby! You'll still be pregnant along with everyone and go through the same milestones. I'll be delivering around week 37 - 38, which puts me at late June but even on my pregnancy apps, I still have July as my due date.
No gender/sex reveal for us. I don't see any problem with a party but I wouldn't trust my reaction. Has anyone seen those YouTube videos of people freaking out because they were disappointed? I don't know if they were genuine or not but I would hate for that to be made public. I was 100% sure I was having a girl last time and we found out it was a boy at the anatomy scan. Even though it made me feel complete to know we were having a boy, I still had to get over the thoughts and daydreams I had been having about potentially having a girl. I don't know what my face would have looked like if it was a surprise in front of other people!
Count me in as another one who is interested in a co ed shower. I went to a friend's last year, and it was so nice--just casual and fun, like a normal party, but we got to see the baby gifts at the end.
I've started telling people about the pregnancy now, and I just tell them I'm having a girl, even though I know that I'll want her to do anything she wants--sports, ballet, rock climbing, scientist, punk rocker, whatever. For some reason it just feels easier to reveal the sex.
We've also picked out a first name, and people have started asking me about it, but that is one thing I won't reveal until she's born!
@zombiehoohaa My sister did a reveal that way - her and her husband fknew before the party (which was just immediate family). At the party she revealed to everyone else they were having a girl. She gave everyone silly string (covered the colors) and we all sprayed at the same time. It was cool and I don't think anyone thought it was weird even though they already knew.
I am still deciding what we will do. Right now I'm leaning towards no party, but have the tech write it down so we can find out together later instead of in the US room. I still have 6 weeks before I need to make a decision..
Apparently my belly is starting to pop - just in time to hit second tri tomorrow. I was working in a different office today and one of the ladies asked me when I was due - I was shocked! I hadn't told anyone in that office, although it is possible she heard from someone else as I have told my department and some coworkers in my office.
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Thank you, ladies! I’ll stick around! That’s a good point, we will be at the same stages at the same time.
I have been worried about pre-term labor since the beginning since I found out I am high-risk for it. They told me yesterday that after 32 weeks they will be having me come in twice a week and they are hoping I make it to 39 weeks. To be honest, I’m surprised and thankful I made it to the 2nd tri! Unfortunately they expect my placenta to stop working as well after 30 ish weeks because of my diabetes and the possibility of pre-e. They didn’t mention steroid shots but I’m sure they will. My doctor seems to be really on top of things, so I know I’m in good hands. I hope everyone here makes it full term, too!
Okay. I would really like to vent about something random since we’re already on the topic of gender/sex. (I’m just gonna say gender because it’s what I’m used to and we all know I’m talking about the sex.)
Apparently the ultrasound technicians and doctors in my area of Nova Scotia do not tell you the gender... ever! They can clearly see it but they aren’t allowed to tell you because the local health care system wants you to make a separate appointment at an ultrasound business that charges you $200+ (depending on the package you choose) just to reveal the gender. Canadian healthcare is honestly such a mystery to me. There are so many other frustrating things about the healthcare that I would love to vent about, but maybe Canadians like it this way because it’s what they’re used to and maybe I’m over reacting because I’m not used to it at all. I’m going to move back to Michigan for a couple months to give birth because I cannot deal.
And one more thing! I just found out that because there are no specialized fields covered by the free healthcare in Canada, family doctors have to specialize in everything! They are the obgyn, pediatrician, and anything else you may need unless it’s serious enough to be sent to the ER. My friends husband is a family doctor and he has thousands upon thousands of patients and it’s impossible to get on a waiting list to see a doctor. I am so sad right now. I miss America.
@zombiehoohaa my hubby and I found out the sex this week and are still doing a small reveal with family! Seemed like a fun event for them. Will just do brunch food and mimosas. For the reveal we’re going to have little baggies filled with a drink powder and everyone will pour into their drinks at the same time and watch them turn pink!
also unrelated i keep overguessing every single stomach gurgle, twinge and hoping and praying it's baby i feel... sadly it never is. ugh stupid anterior placenta!!!
@kissableviv Please tell me more about your co-ed shower! I really want to have one as we have a lot of guy friends that should be able to celebrate this baby too. But I just think people would be weird about it. Especially my mom. So basically I want to do it but we probably we won't bc we think other ppl will think it's weird. I know that's dumb.
We had a co-ed shower for my first and it wasn’t weird at all. It was honestly just a party where we happened to open gifts. Some cute decorations, but nothing over the top. No games which are weird to me anyways. We did have a couple of baby-related things for guests to do (ie leave a card with advice for the parents to be/note to the baby). There was lots of food and a keg. It is a running joke though that my brother in law (21 yo) has a very skewed perception of what a baby shower is
ETA: actually there were several moments of hilarity caused by the guys during the opening of the gifts. DH referring to some teething toys as “chew toys”, other guys asking “what’s that?” about pumping supplies, etc. It made it funnier than it probably would have been otherwise!
Work has kicked my butt today! Ugh! Less time for our chats, lol.
I think we are going to do a little barbecue or something like that for the Jack and Jill shower. I'm from Italy and we don't have baby showers...so I find the games and the gift reveals a little bit silly and boring (please don't take offense ) but I'm sure we'll have a couple, I understand people want to make sure you open and like their gift.
Now to find a kind soul who will host it at their place, we have a small townhome and a narrow patio that I really would not call a backyard!
P.S. I ate the whole Mac and cheese box. I regret nothing! However, I've been feeling super full and my only snack before the gym was some fruit.
Re: Weekday Randoms pt.2 1/10-1/11
I agree about the fear of using sex. I also think most/some people do not understand the difference between sex and gender and/or don't care to differentiate them. I also think there's push back because once you "reveal" what you are having the stereotypical gender expectations start happening. I feel like that is going to happen anyway and as the parent it's my job to break those down. And I will do what i can.
At this point it's whatever I guess..they all get the point of the party
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I guess this party could be a good way to start breaking down those stereotypical expectations as well. No matter what the sex is, baby can do or be anything they want
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@hayhay93 stay! I’m due July 2nd/5th but I’m pretty sure he/she’ll be a June baby too because DS was a week early.
I don’t particularly like gender reveals, I didn’t have one for my son but I guess I will be this time around. My sister latched onto the idea when she found out we were having another and already started planning one- she literally sent out fb invites days after I announced on social media. She’s getting married in a year and a half, I think she’s looking for an outlet lol so I’m letting it happen. Plus, I’m not one to argue with free food and cake.
And yeah, I still call it gender reveal... I’m fully aware we’re finding out the sex but “sex reveal” gives me the mental image of strippers with those pants that rip off... Not exactly baby friendly, not that I would be opposed lol.
We are not planning on doing any type of reveal. It's just not our thing. MIL keeps trying to convince us that we should since she wants to have the "experience". She is starting to drive me to the point that I want to say that if she doesn't give it up she won't even find out what we are having.
Married 9/2015
TTC #1 6/2016
Dx Unexplained IF 6/2017
Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI 7/2017 - Cancelled (overstimulated)
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #1 - BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #2 -BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI#3 - BFP! EDD July 15 2018
Baby Girl H - July 22 2018
Also, LOL at your "sex reveal" comments. And I agree!
ETA: You aren't even celebrating their sex, you are celebrating finding out the sex. Like you care either way, its just exciting!
Now I want bagels and Starbucks. DH sent me a funny video about Mac and cheese and I'm pretty sure that's what I need to have for lunch now!
My random. DH is back on healthy eating and working out. He is tracking food with my fitness pal because we get $$ into our HSA account for that. So I was curious and added in my calories and set my goal as "gain 25 pounds". He is mad because I get the same amount of calories as him and TBH I don't think I'm even maxing them out. It was quite funny!
@kissableviv Please tell me more about your co-ed shower! I really want to have one as we have a lot of guy friends that should be able to celebrate this baby too. But I just think people would be weird about it. Especially my mom. So basically I want to do it but we probably we won't bc we think other ppl will think it's weird. I know that's dumb.
@kissableviv I think the baby shower will be ladies only, so maybe this gender reveal party is a fun way to get the hubs included in a party as well. (It was his idea to do)
I got a chicken teriyaki bowl for lunch, and all I’m eating is the rice! Mmm starchy carbs
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
For this one, I think I want to have my friend put something together for DH and me to find out ourselves. I'm just feeling nervous about reacting in front of people (I hate being the center of attention!). And we are going to do a reveal at a family party next Saturday for our kids and some close family members. So I don't think it's weird to know and still do a reveal. It's still fun for them either way. Personally, I wouldn't tell them that you know/knew until after the reveal though.
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
@acunamatada I know I shouldn't let other people's opinions affect what I do, its just easier to avoid confrontation (especially with my mom). We'll see how I feel in a few months. I'm assuming it will be my SIL's planning my shower so I will see what they say. We aren't having a gender reveal so I want my DH to get to experience it too. He is super excited for this baby.
Anyway, when we get those results back (hopefully this week or next) we’re going to do a little reveal for them. They really want one. I’m trying to think of something fun for them but also original. We’re going to video it for funsies. And when I’m talking to my kids about it I say “gender reveal” it definitely sounds weird to say “sex reveal.”
@SmashJam And now I’m letting my daughter watch several episodes of Little Baby Bums and entertain herself because all that cleaning just pooped me out!
No gender/sex reveal for us. I don't see any problem with a party but I wouldn't trust my reaction. Has anyone seen those YouTube videos of people freaking out because they were disappointed? I don't know if they were genuine or not but I would hate for that to be made public. I was 100% sure I was having a girl last time and we found out it was a boy at the anatomy scan. Even though it made me feel complete to know we were having a boy, I still had to get over the thoughts and daydreams I had been having about potentially having a girl. I don't know what my face would have looked like if it was a surprise in front of other people!
I've started telling people about the pregnancy now, and I just tell them I'm having a girl, even though I know that I'll want her to do anything she wants--sports, ballet, rock climbing, scientist, punk rocker, whatever. For some reason it just feels easier to reveal the sex.
We've also picked out a first name, and people have started asking me about it, but that is one thing I won't reveal until she's born!
I am still deciding what we will do. Right now I'm leaning towards no party, but have the tech write it down so we can find out together later instead of in the US room. I still have 6 weeks before I need to make a decision..
Apparently my belly is starting to pop - just in time to hit second tri tomorrow. I was working in a different office today and one of the ladies asked me when I was due - I was shocked! I hadn't told anyone in that office, although it is possible she heard from someone else as I have told my department and some coworkers in my office.
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Thank you, ladies! I’ll stick around! That’s a good point, we will be at the same stages at the same time.
I have been worried about pre-term labor since the beginning since I found out I am high-risk for it. They told me yesterday that after 32 weeks they will be having me come in twice a week and they are hoping I make it to 39 weeks. To be honest, I’m surprised and thankful I made it to the 2nd tri! Unfortunately they expect my placenta to stop working as well after 30 ish weeks because of my diabetes and the possibility of pre-e. They didn’t mention steroid shots but I’m sure they will. My doctor seems to be really on top of things, so I know I’m in good hands. I hope everyone here makes it full term, too!
Apparently the ultrasound technicians and doctors in my area of Nova Scotia do not tell you the gender... ever! They can clearly see it but they aren’t allowed to tell you because the local health care system wants you to make a separate appointment at an ultrasound business that charges you $200+ (depending on the package you choose) just to reveal the gender. Canadian healthcare is honestly such a mystery to me. There are so many other frustrating things about the healthcare that I would love to vent about, but maybe Canadians like it this way because it’s what they’re used to and maybe I’m over reacting because I’m not used to it at all. I’m going to move back to Michigan for a couple months to give birth because I cannot deal.
And one more thing! I just found out that because there are no specialized fields covered by the free healthcare in Canada, family doctors have to specialize in everything! They are the obgyn, pediatrician, and anything else you may need unless it’s serious enough to be sent to the ER. My friends husband is a family doctor and he has thousands upon thousands of patients and it’s impossible to get on a waiting list to see a doctor. I am so sad right now. I miss America.
also unrelated i keep overguessing every single stomach gurgle, twinge and hoping and praying it's baby i feel... sadly it never is. ugh stupid anterior placenta!!!
ETA: actually there were several moments of hilarity caused by the guys during the opening of the gifts. DH referring to some teething toys as “chew toys”, other guys asking “what’s that?” about pumping supplies, etc. It made it funnier than it probably would have been otherwise!
I think we are going to do a little barbecue or something like that for the Jack and Jill shower. I'm from Italy and we don't have baby showers...so I find the games and the gift reveals a little bit silly and boring (please don't take offense
Now to find a kind soul who will host it at their place, we have a small townhome and a narrow patio that I really would not call a backyard!
P.S. I ate the whole Mac and cheese box. I regret nothing! However, I've been feeling super full and my only snack before the gym was some fruit.