Welcome to the September 2018 BMB! If you're new to TB, we're excited to have you! Below you will find information on how the flow of BMBs work, guidelines and helpful links.
Some links that you may find helpful:
How-To Guides:-How to quote: Hit the "quote" at the bottom of the post you want to quote. You will be taken to the reply box with the quote set up already.
-How to tag: Add a "@" in front of the username of the person you are talking to.
-How to change your username: log in to TheKnot, hover over My Knot, and click Account Settings. If you are having issues doing it that way, you can email
community@thebump.com and ask them to change your username. Give them a few suggestions just in case your top choice is taken. It may take up to 24 hours for the name to update.
-How to insert a spoiler box: click the drop down list arrow next to the paragraph symbol (third from the left, next to bold and italicize) and choose spoiler. It will insert a grey box, and everything that you type in there will go into the spoiler.
For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads:
DO:
-Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread
-Add yourself to the spreadsheet
-Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below: if a post is "assigned" but hasn't been started by mid morning, feel free to start it!
-Post your own thread if you have a confirmed loss
-Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: what to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc)
-Comment, share advice and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well
DON'T:
-Start a thread asking about symptoms; please post this in the current weekly "symptoms thread" - this is helpful because it keeps the board from getting cluttered and makes it so we can all see the whole discussion in one thread, rather than having one thread about MS, one about food cravings, another about vivid dreams, etc.
-Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against TOU
-Start a thread asking for relationship advice; a professional is better suited for this task
-Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU
-Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC
-Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board
MONDAY
- Weekly Appointments
- Weekly Randoms
- Meal Plan Monday
- Monday Bitchfest
- Product Spotlight: __________ (e.g., strollers, car seats, etc.)
TUESDAY
- Twatwaffle (TW) Tuesday or TMI Tuesday
- First Time Mom Check-In
- GTKY
- High Risk Pregnancy Check-In
- Moms of Multiples Check-In
- Ten Things Tuesday
WEDNESDAY
- WTF Wednesday
- HDBD (Hump Day, Bump Day)
- PGAL Check-In
- Second Time Mom+ Check-In
- Plus-size Mom Check-In
THURSDAY
- Due Date Weekly Check-in (separate thread for all 4 weeks)
- Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday
- TTGP Grad Check-In
- What My Pregnant Self is Eating
- Pregnant after IF
FRIDAY
- Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC)
- Why My SO is a ...
- Why My Pregnant Self is Crying
- Fit Mom Friday
- Canadian check-in
SATURDAY
- Why my SO is Awesome
- Weekend Randoms
- Small Business Saturday
SUNDAY
- Weekly Ticker Change Gif Celebration
- Healthy Habits Check-In
- Weekly Questions
- AMA Check in
- HG Check in
- Symptoms Thread
MONTHLY- CS Support Thread
- Home Birth/Birth Center Support Thread
Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like ultrasounds, sex announcements and birth announcements.
I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! For example, some boards do weekly ticker changes while others do weekly due date check-ins (ex, DD 1st week of Sept.).
If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion.
PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.
Let's have a great BMB ladies!
Re: **READ THIS FIRST** Board Organization
I guess we can play by ear whoever notices a particular check-in is missing that day can go ahead and start it, right? I have also seen groups have people sign up to start this or that, but I don't know if that's just in the beginning, or what. I feel like things should start to run themselves after a while here...
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
We have several ladies hoping for VBAC, but that might not necessarily be unmedicated, either. And to the woman whose labor and delivery ends in an unplanned c-section - your birth is not "unnatural." To the woman who had her heart set on delivering vaginally, but for the safety of her baby, her care team is recommending a c-section, your birth is not "unnatural". I just find it's a huge spectrum of birth plans and birth experiences, and I would hate to start creating the ickiness or division of too many boxes and labels.... my two cents.
Maybe "Home Birth Check-in" is more apt? Or "Unmedicated" Check-in? As much as I may personally aspire to an unmedicated, not too hospital-ish delivery, I'm not sure I'd feel right about participating in something called "natural," imho. I have too much love and mad respect for my c-section mamas who have been in the trenches.
*typos
I'm planning for an unmedicated home birth after cesarean myself. If you really think home birth is your thing and you can find a midwife who you can trust to recognize issues, and do plenty of research yourself, I don't think being a first time mom or over 35 is a reason to shy away from it.Too much dog hair, well, that one I understand and resemble. Good luck making that decision.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I think maybe a general coping with labor thread? I think it could be really beneficial to discuss all different pain relief- breathing, positions, drugs, ect side by side to help learn what one could do to make it without meds if they want and their birth allows for it and what the options are when/if drugs or epidural become necessary or preferable.
I think I have a few more days to edit the main post. Is the CS thread weekly or monthly? I can add that in. I can add the home birth/birth center one too.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Too early - brain not work yet...
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
ETA: *unmedicated* not uneducated. Good lawd, auto correct tryin to start some shit. lol
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I'll assume love tits to convey a vote for, "sure go for it."
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018