@sharkmama39 Gotta be. I would be say that they might be better off just shutting down the month and starting over, buuuuuttttt.... where's the fun in that?
Me: 32 DH: 31 *The old lady by 5 whole weeks* Married: 11/2013 M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
@ivyvines6 well it’s women like those two that don’t have compassion for other women which perpetuate the bad gender stereotypes that girls hate each other and only care about themselves. And those two women perpetuate anti-feminism and allow men to rule this world without equality. I don’t hate them. I feel sorry for then because it’s obvious they probably weren’t taught love and compassion when they were growing up. I worry for their children and the future with future mothers like that.
Umm someone on here (I'm to ragey to scroll back and find out who to tag) mentioned her husband not wanting her to eat subs. So of course, I craved a sub. I went to Cousins because of 2 toddlers in tow and it has a drive-thru. There was 1 car ahead of me. They got 1 salad and 1 sub. It took over 12 minutes for me to get my sub. 12 minutes. You can also see inside from the drive-thru and there was no one I could see inside! When they finally came to take payment, I asked what took so long. The guy said "uh, I'm the only one here". To which I responded "there was a woman who took my order!" Him- "Oh... well she was washing dishes." At that point, I saw another male worker behind him in an apron and gloves. Wtf??? I know its such a fwp, but seriously? Thankfully my kids were really good in the car because had they not been, I probably would have pregnant lady cried.
Speaking of being sensitive to other people and their feelings, I have a question. I'm putting it in a spoiler because it mentions TW- loss
I posted last week that my friend found out they lost their baby at their anatomy scan. The week before this happened, I had told her I was pregnant. She publicly announced their loss yesterday. DH and I were planning on announcing on social media this week. Should I wait to announce? Should I text her and tell her that we are posting so it doesn't catch her off-guard even though she already knows, or is that worse? Should I post the announcement and filter the post so that she won't see it?
It was delicious. And I want another, ha. And I'm super mad because I was doing it all responsible like and had them put the meat on the side so I could heat it in the microwave.
@mileswithmyles, do you have mutual fb friends? If so, when they comment it'll keep popping up for her so I agree to block it from her. I think I would wait a week. And definitely let her know what day you plan to announce. And I'd also add "my plan is to block it from your newsfeed so you do not have to see it popping up randomly". That way she knows it exists and will understand why she can't see it. My hurt still aches for her.
It was delicious. And I want another, ha. And I'm super mad because I was doing it all responsible like and had them put the meat on the side so I could heat it in the microwave.
It has been decided. Subs for dinner. I am excited!
@mileswithmyles, do you have mutual fb friends? If so, when they comment it'll keep popping up for her so I agree to block it from her. I think I would wait a week. And definitely let her know what day you plan to announce. And I'd also add "my plan is to block it from your newsfeed so you do not have to see it popping up randomly". That way she knows it exists and will understand why she can't see it. My hurt still aches for her.
@mileswithmyles I also think this is your best bet. I wish my best friend had warned me before she posted about the birth of her daughter.
TW-loss
I had my 3rd loss two days before she gave birth. I saw it on instagram and went into a downward spiral of PTSD.
@mileswithmyles As you know, I’ve been in your friend’s situation, and nothing will make it better right now or for a very long time, but I agree that a warning and a block with her knowledge would probably be the best case scenario. I had a friend tell me she was pregnant about a week after my loss, but she told me in a way that showed she was really sensitive to my situation, and before she told everyone else more publicly, and it helped a lot.
I agree with the above ladies. I would give her a heads up and ask her how she would like you to handle it. Mom so sorry for your friend. She is lucky to have a compassionate and considerate friend like you
This is kind of random...I love my husband so much and he is a great guy all around, but he will not let me eat sandwiches while I'm pregnant!!!! All I want is a Big John Unwich from Jimmy Johns and he keeps saying it's not safe to eat deli meat while pregnant so I have to sneak them!!!! i know he means well, but cmon!!!!! At least he takes care of the cat litter without b****ing but man, I want an unwich so bad!!!
Hahaha. My husband is the same way, I was going to get a baked sub last night and I got the look of guilt from him, so I went with steak sub. I'm going to have to start sneaking them too!
Her ears must have been ringing, because she actually just texted me the following:
“I just wanted to let you know, that despite everything that has happened this week, I am still beyond happy and excited for your pregnancy. My little ***** (I removed the baby’s name) will have a friend to look over in April.”
ETA: and now I’m a crying mess because that’s probably the nicest thing she could have said to me.
Sorry, it was I who mentioned subs. My husband is shaking his head at all you ladies going and eating subs. I got to say "see, all the other women are doing it!!!" You go, ladies! Here's a dancing sub.
@mileswithmyles im crying now too and want to hug her. What a beautiful soul she is.
I just can't with people who think the world revolves around them. The girl I was talking about in June straight up rubbed her unplanned teen pregnancy (no judgement to anyone but her. Because she sucks and does drugs) in my face repetitively. And didn't get it. Or didn't care. Idk. But you can't teach people to be empathetic. Just because you're lucky and it hasn't happened to you, doesn't mean another persons pain isn't real.
people like that can't have friends because they'd treat them awful.
Sorry, it was I who mentioned subs. My husband is shaking his head at all you ladies going and eating subs. I got to say "see, all the other women are doing it!!!" You go, ladies! Here's a dancing sub.
Stuck in box Hahaha. You're clearly the bad influence in this BMB. Tell your husband it's okay if the meat is warmed up. This is why I like to go to Subway and have it toasted.
@yesthisiskim0401 thanks. Our friendship has had a rocky few months. We’ve been friends for almost 18 years at this point and we were due for some growing pains. This has been the most open we’be been with each other in a long time.
I asked her what she would like me to do and that this would be the only time I will ever bring up my pregnancy to her.
Her response was: I appreciate the offer, but you don't have to. I can't wait to publicly comment on how happy I am for you guys. And I pray with all my heart that you have a strong and healthy pregnancy
And now I feel like such an asshole because part of the reason our friendship has struggled is due to me feeling like things were very one sided in support in a few situations where I felt like I wasn’t being supported during some hard times.
Sorry, it was I who mentioned subs. My husband is shaking his head at all you ladies going and eating subs. I got to say "see, all the other women are doing it!!!" You go, ladies! Here's a dancing sub.
Stuck in box Hahaha. You're clearly the bad influence in this BMB. Tell your husband it's okay if the meat is warmed up. This is why I like to go to Subway and have it toasted.
Well, I found out today one of my seniors is pregnant. I have very mixed feelings about this. She doesn't have the most stable home life and I just worry how she will do with how overwhelming it can be to have a newborn. I don't know how supportive boyfriend will be once the baby is here. I think their relationship is rocky as it is. At least baby won't be here till after graduation so that's a plus.
Gals, tell your husbands to shove off about the subs. As long as you're not putting toxic substances in your body, you know what's best to take care of you and your baby.
Her ears must have been ringing, because she actually just texted me the following:
“I just wanted to let you know, that despite everything that has happened this week, I am still beyond happy and excited for your pregnancy. My little ***** (I removed the baby’s name) will have a friend to look over in April.”
ETA: and now I’m a crying mess because that’s probably the nicest thing she could have said to me.
@suchaglencoco I do. I know that this is not all about me, but I was feeling so guilty and awful and she really did make me feel at peace today and I feel so relieved that we’ve been able have an open dialogue about it.
@mileswithmyles so sorry for your friend. I'm glad you were able to talk about it and you feel more at peace about everything. Sending creepy internet hugs!
also, went to the gym for the first time in 3+ weeks (OTF). Feels good, but also exhausting. At one point my heart rate went up a bit too high for my liking and was telling myself "easy cowgirl"
Eta: @mileswithmyles what a sweet exchange between you and your friend. I have been going through something similar with my friend (feeling onesided, she had IF And suffered a loss). You are such a good friend and it obviously paid off because she is now being supportive of you. ❤
There are no words for those 2 crazies on the June board. The lack of empathy and compassion for others is just floors me. They are on the top of my post it for sure.
Has anyone else watched the movie Vegas Baby on Netflix? I just finished watching it with my H and a) it's a really well done documentary and b) I should not have watched it!! It's so emotional and so much goes wrong for those poor people I am back to being as paranoid as I felt before seeing a heart beat.
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I went to Cousins because of 2 toddlers in tow and it has a drive-thru. There was 1 car ahead of me. They got 1 salad and 1 sub. It took over 12 minutes for me to get my sub. 12 minutes. You can also see inside from the drive-thru and there was no one I could see inside!
When they finally came to take payment, I asked what took so long. The guy said "uh, I'm the only one here".
To which I responded "there was a woman who took my order!"
Him- "Oh... well she was washing dishes."
At that point, I saw another male worker behind him in an apron and gloves. Wtf???
I know its such a fwp, but seriously? Thankfully my kids were really good in the car because had they not been, I probably would have pregnant lady cried.
I posted last week that my friend found out they lost their baby at their anatomy scan. The week before this happened, I had told her I was pregnant. She publicly announced their loss yesterday. DH and I were planning on announcing on social media this week. Should I wait to announce? Should I text her and tell her that we are posting so it doesn't catch her off-guard even though she already knows, or is that worse? Should I post the announcement and filter the post so that she won't see it?
And I'm super mad because I was doing it all responsible like and had them put the meat on the side so I could heat it in the microwave.
I think I would wait a week. And definitely let her know what day you plan to announce. And I'd also add "my plan is to block it from your newsfeed so you do not have to see it popping up randomly". That way she knows it exists and will understand why she can't see it.
My hurt still aches for her.
TW-loss
I had my 3rd loss two days before she gave birth. I saw it on instagram and went into a downward spiral of PTSD.
Mom so sorry for your friend. She is lucky to have a compassionate and considerate friend like you
Her ears must have been ringing, because she actually just texted me the following:
I just can't with people who think the world revolves around them. The girl I was talking about in June straight up rubbed her unplanned teen pregnancy (no judgement to anyone but her. Because she sucks and does drugs) in my face repetitively. And didn't get it. Or didn't care. Idk. But you can't teach people to be empathetic. Just because you're lucky and it hasn't happened to you, doesn't mean another persons pain isn't real.
people like that can't have friends because they'd treat them awful.
I asked her what she would like me to do and that this would be the only time I will ever bring up my pregnancy to her.
Her response was:
I appreciate the offer, but you don't have to. I can't wait to publicly comment on how happy I am for you guys. And I pray with all my heart that you have a strong and healthy pregnancy
And now I feel like such an asshole because part of the reason our friendship has struggled is due to me feeling like things were very one sided in support in a few situations where I felt like I wasn’t being supported during some hard times.
also, went to the gym for the first time in 3+ weeks (OTF). Feels good, but also exhausting. At one point my heart rate went up a bit too high for my liking and was telling myself "easy cowgirl"
Eta: @mileswithmyles what a sweet exchange between you and your friend. I have been going through something similar with my friend (feeling onesided, she had IF And suffered a loss). You are such a good friend and it obviously paid off because she is now being supportive of you. ❤