I wonder daily if my coworkers have caught on that I'm pregnant or just think I'm getting fat. Ironically my husband told me I looked thin today...I'll take it with as bloated as I feel.
@mmb4532 haha yes every day is a struggle to figure out what to wear. I keep telling myself I'm crazy to get maternity clothes already, but I was already gaining weight before getting pregnant so pants are TIGHT! I might have to go back to H&M to get their comfy maternity jeans I tried on!
I still have a page to catch up on here, but I'm with @charlestonchew As long as we're getting deli meats from a clean, reputable establishment (and who wants to eat sketchy food anyway) there is so little risk with it. I mean, we're not living in 3rd world countries, there are actually safety checks in place. Also, for the first 2 months, cold turkey subs were legitimately the only thing I could keep down, and without dragon-level heartburn. At that point, at least I was giving my body and my baby some kind of nourishment.
Tell your husbands to kindly remember that they can eat or avoid whatever they would like, just as soon as they go seahorse and start carrying the babies! lol
Of course I get their concern and it's sweet that they care, but they have to remember that sometimes when something sounds good, other stuff makes you want to puke. Remind them that it would be like them having the flu and the ONE thing that would make them feel better (soup, tea, beer, whatever! lol) you saying "aww, I'm sorry, you're not allowed to have that...."
Also, if your dr's or nurses are "cool" you could probably get them to write you a prescription/note allowing deli meats lol
Angel Babies 1&2 2/14/09 DS born 3/11 Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!! divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started) Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!! Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18 TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
My night consisted of toddlers taking turns waking up for odd reasons and crying out in their sleep. My insomnia also made an appearance so I got a whopping 2 hours of real sleep and 2 hours of heavily interrupted sleep. Grandma is out of town so my easy backup is not around. I told DH I would not make it all 10 hours. He has meetings this morn, but is going to work a half day and come home so I can sleep. Tv will be overused this morning. I have no patience to constantly play ref with these toddler tornados who are also tired.
@suchaglencoco Both of my girls currently have fevers, but thankfully they're in the tired and snugly phase, so we just laid on the couch and watched TV all last night. Hope yours start to feel better soon! @justsuzie, I've been thinking about you (not in a creepy way!) How have your palpitations and other symptoms been? Have you talked to your doctor yet? @mileswithmyles What a heartbreaking situation for you and your friend. It's so nice that you are able to connect with one another and be there to support each other despite your different circumstances. June is just.....wow. Eat all the lunch meat. When I mentioned it to one of the OBs at my old office that I LOVED (and if it was only her I never would've switched), her response was, "When was the last time you've heard of anyone getting listeria?" I'm with everyone else. If it sounds good, eat it. I totally understand wanting to be cautious, but someone else telling you can't eat it gets under my skin. Heat it up if it makes you feel better, but honestly, I've been eating a ton of lunch meat right now because it's one of the only things that sounds good to me. And I ate a bunch of it with my girls, too. I read all these quickly this morning while eating breakfast and am just now getting around to responding, so I probably skipped a response or two.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Maybe I should save this for UO, but a friend who is pregnant with her first is probably getting induced because "her doctor just doesn't let people go over" and she "only does rounds on Mondays."
Ok. MAYBE the first part. But the second- COME ON!
More June fun, in case anyone's bored. Definitely not drama, but lots of side eye going on from me. Crunchy granola mom is talking about how she has a list of things her parents? In laws? Both? Don't remember...are ALLOWED to buy from for her kids. Including numbers of how many pieces of clothing. For example, 2 shirts, 3 skirts, 5 pairs of pants. And told them explicitly that if they buy anything not on the list, or more than they are allotted of any one item, it will be donated or sent back. Holy controlling much? I am all aboard the "non-toy" gift train for my kids, the less plastic crap we have to store in our house, the better. But to go so far as to tell people what they can and can't (and how much) buy my kids? Woooooow. This is on a Minimalist Mama thread. And I also found it amusing that one woman said she's a minimalist, but then went on to list about 20 things (many very non-essential in my mind) as her Essentials.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
More June fun, in case anyone's bored. Definitely not drama, but lots of side eye going on from me. Crunchy granola mom is talking about how she has a list of things her parents? In laws? Both? Don't remember...are ALLOWED to buy from for her kids. Including numbers of how many pieces of clothing. For example, 2 shirts, 3 skirts, 5 pairs of pants. And told them explicitly that if they buy anything not on the list, or more than they are allotted of any one item, it will be donated or sent back. Holy controlling much? I am all aboard the "non-toy" gift train for my kids, the less plastic crap we have to store in our house, the better. But to go so far as to tell people what they can and can't (and how much) buy my kids? Woooooow. This is on a Minimalist Mama thread. And I also found it amusing that one woman said she's a minimalist, but then went on to list about 20 things (many very non-essential in my mind) as her Essentials.
This is bold. I regularly wish MIL would tone it down, but short of suggesting things like zoo membership, etc when she asks, not much we can do. We do end up donating a lot stuff that we never used or barely used, but I wouldn't tell her that in advance.
Is it possible to be a minimalist with young children? I gave up
@molly1108-2 I definitely lurked the thread because I've been really trying to be more a minimalist (along the same lines as what you mentioned, memberships and "experiences" instead of toys as gifts, etc) and thought they might have some helpful tips. And most of them seem normal, talking about how you truly don't "need" anything besides a car seat and somewhere for baby to sleep, that kind of thing. But this other girl was listing a baby bathtub and then a bath "seat" for when they're older than 5 months, an exersaucer, and a bunch of random other crap that IMO is totally not necessary.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@sandbar517 early FFFC. Last night during my long stretch in insomnia I may or may not have stalked her fb and her YouTube to see how legit this all is. And it was definitely incredibly easy to find her.
Maybe I should save this for UO, but a friend who is pregnant with her first is probably getting induced because "her doctor just doesn't let people go over" and she "only does rounds on Mondays."
Ok. MAYBE the first part. But the second- COME ON!
I'm with ya. I guess it depends on the case, but I always think it's sketchy when doctors won't let patients go past their due date, or they induce out of convenience for them. My doctor let me go 12 days and came in at midnight to deliver rather than sending in the on call.
My sister in law went to a doctor in a nearby town and he induced her too early, but then when 5 pm rolled around and she hadn't had the baby he wanted to do an unnecessary c section. Fortunately my sil is stubborn and said she didn't want one if it wasn't medically necessary.
@sandbar517 I often wish my mom would buy less for DS but I would never tell her she has a limit. We have been moving more toward experiences instead of things and she's been good about that and contributed toward getting him a Disneyland pass for his birthday since he enjoys it.
We absolutely limit the gifts my in laws can give. BUT we do not have a good relationship with them and they have in the past tried to use gifts and finances to control, so we nipped that hard.
Anyone else wish, hope, and pray that their pants will fit each morning?
I was just thinking its such a blessing to be pregnant in the fall and winter where I can just wear leggings and dresses the entire pregnancy!!! Pants are for chumps. And non pregnant people.
I couldn't find his channel. I'm not very good with YouTube so I don't know if there's a way to find a link between hers and his. I did see photos of him and he no clue who he is. I hope I'm not breaking tou by saying how easy it is to find her. I legit just typed her screen name name into Facebook and it popped up instantly.
Maybe I should save this for UO, but a friend who is pregnant with her first is probably getting induced because "her doctor just doesn't let people go over" and she "only does rounds on Mondays."
Ok. MAYBE the first part. But the second- COME ON!
I'm with ya. I guess it depends on the case, but I always think it's sketchy when doctors won't let patients go past their due date, or they induce out of convenience for them. My doctor let me go 12 days and came in at midnight to deliver rather than sending in the on call.
My sister in law went to a doctor in a nearby town and he induced her too early, but then when 5 pm rolled around and she hadn't had the baby he wanted to do an unnecessary c section. Fortunately my sil is stubborn and said she didn't want one if it wasn't medically necessary.
The funny thing was my friend also said she could be delivered by anyone else in the practice and she would be fine with it. That's basically how our practice works- there's a bunch of docs and you get whoever is on. I certainly felt stronger about some of the docs and one was my gyn before kids but I didn't care who delivered. And she lives in NYC so like...there will be a doctor around...she will not have this baby on a back road trying to find a hospital.
Maybe I should save this for UO, but a friend who is pregnant with her first is probably getting induced because "her doctor just doesn't let people go over" and she "only does rounds on Mondays."
Ok. MAYBE the first part. But the second- COME ON!
I'm with ya. I guess it depends on the case, but I always think it's sketchy when doctors won't let patients go past their due date, or they induce out of convenience for them. My doctor let me go 12 days and came in at midnight to deliver rather than sending in the on call.
My sister in law went to a doctor in a nearby town and he induced her too early, but then when 5 pm rolled around and she hadn't had the baby he wanted to do an unnecessary c section. Fortunately my sil is stubborn and said she didn't want one if it wasn't medically necessary.
The funny thing was my friend also said she could be delivered by anyone else in the practice and she would be fine with it. That's basically how our practice works- there's a bunch of docs and you get whoever is on. I certainly felt stronger about some of the docs and one was my gyn before kids but I didn't care who delivered. And she lives in NYC so like...there will be a doctor around...she will not have this baby on a back road trying to find a hospital.
This is kind of how I feel about the whole doctor thing. I told my doctor today when she told me she doesn't deliver babies anymore and I'll be seeing someone else closer to my due date that it doesn't really matter, I just need someone to catch the baby when it comes!! The nurses do a lot of the work before hand anyways!
Yeah, nurses can make or break a labor experience. My first I had great, amazing, super supportive nurses. My second I had an awful one. DH was about to go over her head but then he realized I was in transition and it was almost over anyway.
Absolutely! I was so glad I had the nurse I did when I delivered. She was amazing. The nurse I had during the day wasn't that great so I was happy I labored into the night.
With my first I had a 34 hour labor, and i had so many nurses. There were some that I was so sad to see leave when their shift ended!! Nurses dont get enough props, they are the real heroes in a hospital!!!
@molly1108-2 thanks for your unnecessary snark in the it’s a boy/girl thread; even after I requested you move your ridiculous conversation, you felt the need to reply yet again with useless banter.
And I’m happy to debate gender/sex with you any time. Just not in that thread.
With my first I had a 34 hour labor, and i had so many nurses. There were some that I was so sad to see leave when their shift ended!! Nurses dont get enough props, they are the real heroes in a hospital!!!
Fact!! And the nurses who are around after labour is complete and show utter compassion. Who help you to the bathroom, or the shower. Who help you with pain management. Who show you how to swaddle your baby and change that first diaper. I'm getting all teary-eyed. Those people are so amazing.
Good gracious! DS is so blessed to have grandparents that want to get him stuff and he has more toys than he could ever play with; however, there is no way I would ever tell anyone what they are ALLOWED to get him. How does that conversation even begin? What is wrong with people? Let's just tell people what they are allowed to spend their own money on. People are crazy.
Has anyone else had people ask if their pregnancy was planned? I told the ladies I work with and see on a daily basis that I'm pregnant (partially since I've been feeling badly). One lady came up to me today and said, "So this... you know... was it planned? Are you guys excited?" I've worked with this lady for several years now. I'm in a stable relationship, have a job (as does my husband), pay my bills, etc. I don't understand why someone would ask me that? That is NEVER a question I think to ask a pregnant woman. Is this weird to anyone else, or am I being hormonal?
JNCPro3130 said: Has anyone else had people ask if their pregnancy was planned? I told the ladies I work with and see on a daily basis that I'm pregnant (partially since I've been feeling badly). One lady came up to me today and said, "So this... you know... was it planned? Are you guys excited?" I've worked with this lady for several years now. I'm in a stable relationship, have a job (as does my husband), pay my bills, etc. I don't understand why someone would ask me that? That is NEVER a question I think to ask a pregnant woman. Is this weird to anyone else, or am I being hormonal?
I had that question a few times with my first and like you I found it really invasive and ignorant. And just like you I was (and am still) in a very stable relationship, great job, no issues etc.
Not many people know right now that I am pregnant again but so far that question hasn't come up. I attribute this to our first being 2 so this is a nice gap to have in ages between kids so people now assume it was planned. Which it was. But it's none of their damn business lol
@JNCPro3130 MH's best friend asked us if it was planned when we told him. We've been married 5 years and have 3 year old twins. I'm guessing because of the twins he was surprised we wanted more? No clue. But yes, that's something you never ask anyone. Ever.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
So I missed a ton since midday yesterday!! @JNCPro3130 ...yes, and I also am married, have a two year old, have talked about wanting more kids...it's so odd to ask that, but I also think people don't want to shove their foot in their mouth. But still, know your audience! @mileswithmyles that was such a touching conversation to share. It wasn't super recent but with one of my sisters I did call and tell her before we told anyone because earlier this year she had to deliver a stillborn at 17 weeks. They had gone in for an ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. But she wanted to hold him once so she opted for delivery instead of D&C. It's so amazing to have a friend who in the midst of a hard time can still show kindness and love. @ (I'm not even sure the OP) but bagels...mmmm!
also I really like our board. My kiddo would not take a nap today and we just went out to the playground for about an hour and did a few errands so he should crash early. I might just beg out in front of the TV and read the June board!
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I have a feeling dresses and pjs will be my new pregnancy uniform.
I tried to post an awesome gif and it didn't work so I'll just say "these sweatpants are all that fit me right now."
I wonder daily if my coworkers have caught on that I'm pregnant or just think I'm getting fat. Ironically my husband told me I looked thin today...I'll take it with as bloated as I feel.
Just like Uncle Jesse....
Tell your husbands to kindly remember that they can eat or avoid whatever they would like, just as soon as they go seahorse and start carrying the babies! lol
Of course I get their concern and it's sweet that they care, but they have to remember that sometimes when something sounds good, other stuff makes you want to puke. Remind them that it would be like them having the flu and the ONE thing that would make them feel better (soup, tea, beer, whatever! lol) you saying "aww, I'm sorry, you're not allowed to have that...."
Also, if your dr's or nurses are "cool" you could probably get them to write you a prescription/note allowing deli meats lol
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
I told DH I would not make it all 10 hours. He has meetings this morn, but is going to work a half day and come home so I can sleep.
Tv will be overused this morning. I have no patience to constantly play ref with these toddler tornados who are also tired.
@justsuzie, I've been thinking about you (not in a creepy way!) How have your palpitations and other symptoms been? Have you talked to your doctor yet?
@mileswithmyles What a heartbreaking situation for you and your friend. It's so nice that you are able to connect with one another and be there to support each other despite your different circumstances.
June is just.....wow.
Eat all the lunch meat. When I mentioned it to one of the OBs at my old office that I LOVED (and if it was only her I never would've switched), her response was, "When was the last time you've heard of anyone getting listeria?" I'm with everyone else. If it sounds good, eat it. I totally understand wanting to be cautious, but someone else telling you can't eat it gets under my skin. Heat it up if it makes you feel better, but honestly, I've been eating a ton of lunch meat right now because it's one of the only things that sounds good to me. And I ate a bunch of it with my girls, too.
I read all these quickly this morning while eating breakfast and am just now getting around to responding, so I probably skipped a response or two.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Right? Gave up on that before the stick dried.
Maybe I should save this for UO, but a friend who is pregnant with her first is probably getting induced because "her doctor just doesn't let people go over" and she "only does rounds on Mondays."
Ok. MAYBE the first part. But the second- COME ON!
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
This is bold. I regularly wish MIL would tone it down, but short of suggesting things like zoo membership, etc when she asks, not much we can do. We do end up donating a lot stuff that we never used or barely used, but I wouldn't tell her that in advance.
Is it possible to be a minimalist with young children? I gave up
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
My sister in law went to a doctor in a nearby town and he induced her too early, but then when 5 pm rolled around and she hadn't had the baby he wanted to do an unnecessary c section. Fortunately my sil is stubborn and said she didn't want one if it wasn't medically necessary.
@sandbar517 I often wish my mom would buy less for DS but I would never tell her she has a limit. We have been moving more toward experiences instead of things and she's been good about that and contributed toward getting him a Disneyland pass for his birthday since he enjoys it.
I hope I'm not breaking tou by saying how easy it is to find her. I legit just typed her screen name name into Facebook and it popped up instantly.
And I’m happy to debate gender/sex with you any time. Just not in that thread.
And the nurses who are around after labour is complete and show utter compassion. Who help you to the bathroom, or the shower. Who help you with pain management. Who show you how to swaddle your baby and change that first diaper. I'm getting all teary-eyed. Those people are so amazing.
Has anyone else had people ask if their pregnancy was planned? I told the ladies I work with and see on a daily basis that I'm pregnant (partially since I've been feeling badly). One lady came up to me today and said, "So this... you know... was it planned? Are you guys excited?" I've worked with this lady for several years now. I'm in a stable relationship, have a job (as does my husband), pay my bills, etc. I don't understand why someone would ask me that? That is NEVER a question I think to ask a pregnant woman. Is this weird to anyone else, or am I being hormonal?
Not many people know right now that I am pregnant again but so far that question hasn't come up. I attribute this to our first being 2 so this is a nice gap to have in ages between kids so people now assume it was planned. Which it was. But it's none of their damn business lol
Sorry they are asking you
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@JNCPro3130 ...yes, and I also am married, have a two year old, have talked about wanting more kids...it's so odd to ask that, but I also think people don't want to shove their foot in their mouth. But still, know your audience!
@mileswithmyles that was such a touching conversation to share. It wasn't super recent but with one of my sisters I did call and tell her before we told anyone because earlier this year she had to deliver a stillborn at 17 weeks. They had gone in for an ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. But she wanted to hold him once so she opted for delivery instead of D&C. It's so amazing to have a friend who in the midst of a hard time can still show kindness and love.
@ (I'm not even sure the OP) but bagels...mmmm!
also I really like our board. My kiddo would not take a nap today and we just went out to the playground for about an hour and did a few errands so he should crash early. I might just beg out in front of the TV and read the June board!