DH and I were just sitting in the living room and then he just got up without saying anything and went to bed. Really?? Not even a good night?
Well that's a little ridiculous. I'll at least give a groggy half-assed wave if I'm really that tired. Come on man, get it together
That's pretty cold, even if he's dead-tired and half-asleep already, a simple "goodnight" is always a nice way to end the day. I can't sleep if I don't get 3 goodnight kisses from my husband, if he's home. No idea why, just one of those things I guess.
Dh got the call this morning to come to NYC because his grandfather is in the hospital and expected to pass away soon. So he and his sister are taking the rental car there (because his car is still in the shop from the accident last week). They just left, and it's a weird feeling. Just me and the kids for a while. I'll have to explain to the older two when I pick them up from school. And the curse of bad luck from the summer continues to follow us into fall.
Dh got the call this morning to come to NYC because his grandfather is in the hospital and expected to pass away soon. So he and his sister are taking the rental car there (because his car is still in the shop from the accident last week). They just left, and it's a weird feeling. Just me and the kids for a while. I'll have to explain to the older two when I pick them up from school. And the curse of bad luck from the summer continues to follow us into fall.
Oh no! That sucks. I hope telling the kids goes smoothly and that his grandfather is either able to make a recovery or goes peacefully.
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I know I complained before about swim classes being so late this season, but it didn't hit me until last night just how late Damien would be getting to bed on Tuesday nights because of it. We're going to test the waters (bad pun) for a couple of weeks but if it's just not working out, we're going to have to try signing up for this level again in the winter. Why on earth did they schedule swim classes for 12-24months at 7pm?! Grrrrr.
I know I complained before about swim classes being so late this season, but it didn't hit me until last night just how late Damien would be getting to bed on Tuesday nights because of it. We're going to test the waters (bad pun) for a couple of weeks but if it's just not working out, we're going to have to try signing up for this level again in the winter. Why on earth did they schedule swim classes for 12-24months at 7pm?! Grrrrr.
That is way late! We are pretty close to teetering on melt down phase at that time of day. Good luck! Maybe one day a week won't throw him off too much?
I know I complained before about swim classes being so late this season, but it didn't hit me until last night just how late Damien would be getting to bed on Tuesday nights because of it. We're going to test the waters (bad pun) for a couple of weeks but if it's just not working out, we're going to have to try signing up for this level again in the winter. Why on earth did they schedule swim classes for 12-24months at 7pm?! Grrrrr.
That is way late! We are pretty close to teetering on melt down phase at that time of day. Good luck! Maybe one day a week won't throw him off too much?
Damien's usually getting pretty cranky by 6:45pm but I'm hoping that if he's out of the house, he might be stimulated enough to be okay, at least until after the lesson. He'll have to have a bath when he gets home too, which I didn't originally account for so we're looking at maaaaybe a 8:30 bedtime, if we're lucky.
Yesterday was my last day at my Temp job. I was helping at my daughters preschool all morning, and had to go to work right after. I was there till 9:30pm, and had a splitting headache from the cold I'm getting over.
I got home at 10pm thinking I'd be able to crawl into bed. Instead dh and all 3 kids were asleep on the living room floor, food was still on the table, dishes all over the kitchen, school backpacks on the floor with lunch bags still in them, and dirty clothes on the floor. The pets hadn't even been fed. It took me an hour last night, and half the day today, to get the house back in order.
Yesterday was my last day at my Temp job. I was helping at my daughters preschool all morning, and had to go to work right after. I was there till 9:30pm, and had a splitting headache from the cold I'm getting over.
I got home at 10pm thinking I'd be able to crawl into bed. Instead dh and all 3 kids were asleep on the living room floor, food was still on the table, dishes all over the kitchen, school backpacks on the floor with lunch bags still in them, and dirty clothes on the floor. The pets hadn't even been fed. It took me an hour last night, and half the day today, to get the house back in order.
I love our daycare, the staff are wonderful, the facility is great, and Damien seems to be happy to go there every day. My issue is that they don't have AC. We had a fairly mild summer this year so it wasn't too much of an issue but there were a couple of times I picked him up and he was dripping in sweat. I felt so bad for him and the other kids (they do usually have the windows and doors open to allow for air-flow).
We've been hit this past week with hotter weather than usual and over the weekend and early next week, it's supposed to hit 100deg. I mentioned to my husband that I think we should keep Damien home on Monday (the hottest day) since we have AC and can ensure he's drinking the fluids he needs on such a warm day. He gave me this, "Seriously? Why?" look that made me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to do such a thing but I just can't see how keeping a 15 month old in that sort of environment all day can be good for him.
AC is still kind of an unheard of thing here, which makes sense since the majority of the year is very cool, so I don't blame the daycare for not having it...but still.
I love our daycare, the staff are wonderful, the facility is great, and Damien seems to be happy to go there every day. My issue is that they don't have AC. We had a fairly mild summer this year so it wasn't too much of an issue but there were a couple of times I picked him up and he was dripping in sweat. I felt so bad for him and the other kids (they do usually have the windows and doors open to allow for air-flow).
We've been hit this past week with hotter weather than usual and over the weekend and early next week, it's supposed to hit 100deg. I mentioned to my husband that I think we should keep Damien home on Monday (the hottest day) since we have AC and can ensure he's drinking the fluids he needs on such a warm day. He gave me this, "Seriously? Why?" look that made me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to do such a thing but I just can't see how keeping a 15 month old in that sort of environment all day can be good for him.
AC is still kind of an unheard of thing here, which makes sense since the majority of the year is very cool, so I don't blame the daycare for not having it...but still.
They make portable ac's that work pretty well. Could you and a couple parents go in together on one for the daycare room? They make the normal window units, but also standalone ones that you vent through a window with what looks like a dryer hose. Maybe with a couple families you could each pay $20-$50 and get one for them to use.
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I love our daycare, the staff are wonderful, the facility is great, and Damien seems to be happy to go there every day. My issue is that they don't have AC. We had a fairly mild summer this year so it wasn't too much of an issue but there were a couple of times I picked him up and he was dripping in sweat. I felt so bad for him and the other kids (they do usually have the windows and doors open to allow for air-flow).
We've been hit this past week with hotter weather than usual and over the weekend and early next week, it's supposed to hit 100deg. I mentioned to my husband that I think we should keep Damien home on Monday (the hottest day) since we have AC and can ensure he's drinking the fluids he needs on such a warm day. He gave me this, "Seriously? Why?" look that made me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to do such a thing but I just can't see how keeping a 15 month old in that sort of environment all day can be good for him.
AC is still kind of an unheard of thing here, which makes sense since the majority of the year is very cool, so I don't blame the daycare for not having it...but still.
They make portable ac's that work pretty well. Could you and a couple parents go in together on one for the daycare room? They make the normal window units, but also standalone ones that you vent through a window with what looks like a dryer hose. Maybe with a couple families you could each pay $20-$50 and get one for them to use.
That's a good idea! I'll ask around (and ask the director of daycare) to see what people think. My SiL had a portable one, now that I think of it, when she lived here.
I love our daycare, the staff are wonderful, the facility is great, and Damien seems to be happy to go there every day. My issue is that they don't have AC. We had a fairly mild summer this year so it wasn't too much of an issue but there were a couple of times I picked him up and he was dripping in sweat. I felt so bad for him and the other kids (they do usually have the windows and doors open to allow for air-flow).
We've been hit this past week with hotter weather than usual and over the weekend and early next week, it's supposed to hit 100deg. I mentioned to my husband that I think we should keep Damien home on Monday (the hottest day) since we have AC and can ensure he's drinking the fluids he needs on such a warm day. He gave me this, "Seriously? Why?" look that made me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to do such a thing but I just can't see how keeping a 15 month old in that sort of environment all day can be good for him.
AC is still kind of an unheard of thing here, which makes sense since the majority of the year is very cool, so I don't blame the daycare for not having it...but still.
I live somewhere where is is frequently 90+ in the summer and you wouldn't catch me without air. I don't blame you. The girls school doesn't have air, they rent out space in a church from the 40's but they do have a couple portable units per room.
I love our daycare, the staff are wonderful, the facility is great, and Damien seems to be happy to go there every day. My issue is that they don't have AC. We had a fairly mild summer this year so it wasn't too much of an issue but there were a couple of times I picked him up and he was dripping in sweat. I felt so bad for him and the other kids (they do usually have the windows and doors open to allow for air-flow).
We've been hit this past week with hotter weather than usual and over the weekend and early next week, it's supposed to hit 100deg. I mentioned to my husband that I think we should keep Damien home on Monday (the hottest day) since we have AC and can ensure he's drinking the fluids he needs on such a warm day. He gave me this, "Seriously? Why?" look that made me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to do such a thing but I just can't see how keeping a 15 month old in that sort of environment all day can be good for him.
AC is still kind of an unheard of thing here, which makes sense since the majority of the year is very cool, so I don't blame the daycare for not having it...but still.
I live somewhere where is is frequently 90+ in the summer and you wouldn't catch me without air. I don't blame you. The girls school doesn't have air, they rent out space in a church from the 40's but they do have a couple portable units per room.
I'm originally from VA and spent most of my summers in FL and AL, so hot weather (especially humid ones) were the norm and I would have DIED without our AC. My husband, being the true Canadian that he is, melts at around 80deg. That's why I was kind of surprised by his response, given how delicate he is and all.
I love our daycare, the staff are wonderful, the facility is great, and Damien seems to be happy to go there every day. My issue is that they don't have AC. We had a fairly mild summer this year so it wasn't too much of an issue but there were a couple of times I picked him up and he was dripping in sweat. I felt so bad for him and the other kids (they do usually have the windows and doors open to allow for air-flow).
We've been hit this past week with hotter weather than usual and over the weekend and early next week, it's supposed to hit 100deg. I mentioned to my husband that I think we should keep Damien home on Monday (the hottest day) since we have AC and can ensure he's drinking the fluids he needs on such a warm day. He gave me this, "Seriously? Why?" look that made me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to do such a thing but I just can't see how keeping a 15 month old in that sort of environment all day can be good for him.
AC is still kind of an unheard of thing here, which makes sense since the majority of the year is very cool, so I don't blame the daycare for not having it...but still.
I live somewhere where is is frequently 90+ in the summer and you wouldn't catch me without air. I don't blame you. The girls school doesn't have air, they rent out space in a church from the 40's but they do have a couple portable units per room.
I'm originally from VA and spent most of my summers in FL and AL, so hot weather (especially humid ones) were the norm and I would have DIED without our AC. My husband, being the true Canadian that he is, melts at around 80deg. That's why I was kind of surprised by his response, given how delicate he is and all.
Humidity would literally kill me! I'm used to dry here.
We're in VA now, having moved from CA where you can get away with not have AC in some places. It was the top of my list when we were househunting. Any listing with a window unit upstairs immediately got nixxed.
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My great aunt and uncle came out from Pennsylvania to see my grandma (their sister) this week because she is in her last weeks and the weather has been super shitty. I know that this is trivial but when two people fly across the country I think they should be treated to beautiful sunny Rocky mountain views not crappy gloomy fog. Thanks weather, you suck!
100 degrees with no A/C? That is CRAZY. I live in south Texas where temps are STILL above 90 for the high even though it's fall. Our summers are typically 100 or more. *shrugs* Right now, it's a nice breezy 75 degrees since we've had 3 days of rain (!).
100 degrees with no A/C? That is CRAZY. I live in south Texas where temps are STILL above 90 for the high even though it's fall. Our summers are typically 100 or more. *shrugs* Right now, it's a nice breezy 75 degrees since we've had 3 days of rain (!).
Right!? That's what I'm saying! We have AC, thankfully, couldn't do without it. It worked out keeping Damien home since he needed a few "birthday suit" days to clear up a bit of diaper rash.
TX heat is no joke! Anywhere along the Southwest and the South in general is usually crazy hot in my book. The first time my husband visited me in VA during August, he acted like he was on his deathbed from the heat and humidity and I'm walking around in jeans.
Things that make me want to hurt my husband: using the blender at 12:15 am while making squash soup for the fall party at work tomorrow. If my children are awoken heads will roll!
Husbands just don't get it. I was having not a bad day, but a busy, stressful day. He napped on the couch while I took care of Jackie, scrambled to find a babysitter after ours canceled, got myself ready, and made a plan to get dessert because he didn't get my note to pick something up. Then I realize the shop I was getting dessert at closed at 7, the same time our babysitter arrived. While I'm on the phone pleading with them to package something up and stay open an extra ten minutes Jackie is crawling on me wanting to ready a book and DH has the wherewithal to come ask me what shoes to wear. Really? You can't see I'm busy and a little overwhelmed at the moment?
Then he wondered why I was so "spooled up"...
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@meggyme My husband does that some times as well, then after everything is done, he says, "Well just tell me what you need me to do to help!" Um, isn't it pretty obvious?! 99% of the time, I just need him to keep Damien entertained, that's it. Then he stands in the middle of the living room answering an email or text message while Damien is getting fussy because 1) dinner isn't ready and 2) I'm not playing with him. Last night I calmly asked, "Can you keep Damien occupied while I finish up dinner?" Without even looking up from his phone, "I just need to answer this text message." "Oh, is it for work or something?" *gets huffy* "No, it's such-n-such from upstairs." Soooo yes, that super urgent text message to our neighbor (trying to schedule a condo meeting) COULD have waited 10 minutes.
Last night as soon as I walked in the door with Damien, I started cooking up a salmon and green beans dinner. My husband isn't a fan of seafood but has always said that salmon is okay-ish and just asks that I forewarn him that we're having it for dinner so he can, "Mentally prepare myself." I did all of that but he was such a complete sour-puss about it once I was in the kitchen cooking. He decided to not touch the salmon whatsoever and only ate a plate of green beans as he grumbled about how I should know better than to cook seafood because he won't eat it. So frustrating, sets a bad example for Damien too.
@vintagevix2016@Tawny87 husbands are such children sometimes... it drives me nuts how oblivious they can be. Yesterday after I had been up since 4:30 and DH had had a nap he had the nerve to tell me he was tired... know your audience, man!
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Yup. Husbands can be clueless to their audience. My husband has had a sore neck and back, and he's acting like it is the end of the world. Can't do anything for himself.
Im sorry he's uncomfortable, but I have a bad spinal curve that got poor treatment when I was young, and I've had chronic back, shoulder and hip pain since I was 16. Some days my ribs get so twisted and sore that I have trouble breathing well. I'm sorry he is hurting, but dude, come on. At least show me more sympathy when I'm curled up in pain at the end of some days.
Yup. Husbands can be clueless to their audience. My husband has had a sore neck and back, and he's acting like it is the end of the world. Can't do anything for himself.
Im sorry he's uncomfortable, but I have a bad spinal curve that got poor treatment when I was young, and I've had chronic back, shoulder and hip pain since I was 16. Some days my ribs get so twisted and sore that I have trouble breathing well. I'm sorry he is hurting, but dude, come on. At least show me more sympathy when I'm curled up in pain at the end of some days.
I was going to like that in sympathy, but that truly sounds awful. I'm so sorry
Me: 32 DH: 31 *The old lady by 5 whole weeks* Married: 11/2013 M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
Yup. Husbands can be clueless to their audience. My husband has had a sore neck and back, and he's acting like it is the end of the world. Can't do anything for himself.
Im sorry he's uncomfortable, but I have a bad spinal curve that got poor treatment when I was young, and I've had chronic back, shoulder and hip pain since I was 16. Some days my ribs get so twisted and sore that I have trouble breathing well. I'm sorry he is hurting, but dude, come on. At least show me more sympathy when I'm curled up in pain at the end of some days.
I was going to like that in sympathy, but that truly sounds awful. I'm so sorry
Thanks. I'm used to it mostly, and most days it's manageable, it just gets really bad a few times a month, or when I've done a lot of lifting etc
Yesterday was literally the worst day emotionally that I've had in a long time, tears and all. Preston was so mean and cranky and hit me non-stop, constantly asking for milk, sleeping poorly, everything (bad molar). Well DH comes home well aware of all this and he looks a wreck so I ask how bad his day was and he gets all pissy saying he doesn't wanna start comparing who had the worst day. I say that I was just curious and he said his day started great until he realized he left his wallet at home. And when did he notice this, you ask? At 4!!! As he leaves work! So from 5am till 4 your day was great but because you didn't have you wallet from 4-5, it ruined your day?!?! You're kidding right? "But I was having a freak out the whole way home hoping I don't get pulled over!". I swear I was about to smack him. Then let's top it all off shall we? That night he had a D&D game online and as I put Preston to bed he started to cry. Damn tooth. I tried to keep him chill but nothing was working. I'm waiting for DH to either co e in and offer help or even text to see if he's ok. Nothing!!!! After an hour and a half he's finally asleep and I go in our room and smack him with a pillow. No regrets.
Away for a wedding this weekend- DH is a groomsman and is at the rehearsal. I'm staying in. House with all the WAGS of the groomsman who I don't know well and they are all getting ready. I'm up on the rooftop alone having a vodka red bull and enjoying the silence!!
Cheers!!
I'm also really wishing we were at one of my friends weddings because it would be so much more fun for me lol
Day two of cranky, sick, toddler. Day 4 of interrupted sleep. 10:30am and dh still won't get out of bed. Trying to shake off the general state of crankiness this has all created
Day two of cranky, sick, toddler. Day 4 of interrupted sleep. 10:30am and dh still won't get out of bed. Trying to shake off the general state of crankiness this has all created
I hear ya! My husband just emerged at 11 am. Normally this doesn't bother me because my husband usually works 15-18 hours a day but this morning I just wanted to punch him in the face because I know he played several hours of video games last night (which he rarely does) but definitely still annoyed me. I think I need to treat myself to a lunch with a friend or something. That usually makes me have less general annoyance towards him.
Day two of cranky, sick, toddler. Day 4 of interrupted sleep. 10:30am and dh still won't get out of bed. Trying to shake off the general state of crankiness this has all created
I'm a bitch and I would have gone in the room and been like "seriously? Get the fuck up!" And then proceed to start vacuuming in the room so he gets annoyed by the noise. Babies awake means you're awake. Because you decided to stay up late that's your problem.
MH is naturally a night owl, going to bed around 1 and waking up around 8 at the earliest (unless forced). It drives me insane to be sitting around in the am or struggling to get everybody going before work while he's still snoozing.
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MH is naturally a night owl, going to bed around 1 and waking up around 8 at the earliest (unless forced). It drives me insane to be sitting around in the am or struggling to get everybody going before work while he's still snoozing.
My husband is a night owl too but he also is up at 7am, even on weekends, naturally. It's rare he sleeps in longer than 7:30am. His body just doesn't let him, I have no clue how he gets through the day. Pre-Damien, I'd be in bed by 10pm and roll out on the weekends at 10am, glorious!
So beyond sick of all the 12+ hour days I do alone with my kids. Man I wish my husband at least made better money, I feel like I could suck it up better that way...
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I got home at 10pm thinking I'd be able to crawl into bed. Instead dh and all 3 kids were asleep on the living room floor, food was still on the table, dishes all over the kitchen, school backpacks on the floor with lunch bags still in them, and dirty clothes on the floor. The pets hadn't even been fed. It took me an hour last night, and half the day today, to get the house back in order.
We've been hit this past week with hotter weather than usual and over the weekend and early next week, it's supposed to hit 100deg. I mentioned to my husband that I think we should keep Damien home on Monday (the hottest day) since we have AC and can ensure he's drinking the fluids he needs on such a warm day. He gave me this, "Seriously? Why?" look that made me feel like I'm crazy for wanting to do such a thing but I just can't see how keeping a 15 month old in that sort of environment all day can be good for him.
AC is still kind of an unheard of thing here, which makes sense since the majority of the year is very cool, so I don't blame the daycare for not having it...but still.
I live in south Texas where temps are STILL above 90 for the high even though it's fall. Our summers are typically 100 or more. *shrugs* Right now, it's a nice breezy 75 degrees since we've had 3 days of rain (!).
TX heat is no joke! Anywhere along the Southwest and the South in general is usually crazy hot in my book. The first time my husband visited me in VA during August, he acted like he was on his deathbed from the heat and humidity and I'm walking around in jeans.
Then he wondered why I was so "spooled up"...
Last night as soon as I walked in the door with Damien, I started cooking up a salmon and green beans dinner. My husband isn't a fan of seafood but has always said that salmon is okay-ish and just asks that I forewarn him that we're having it for dinner so he can, "Mentally prepare myself." I did all of that but he was such a complete sour-puss about it once I was in the kitchen cooking. He decided to not touch the salmon whatsoever and only ate a plate of green beans as he grumbled about how I should know better than to cook seafood because he won't eat it. So frustrating, sets a bad example for Damien too.
Im sorry he's uncomfortable, but I have a bad spinal curve that got poor treatment when I was young, and I've had chronic back, shoulder and hip pain since I was 16. Some days my ribs get so twisted and sore that I have trouble breathing well. I'm sorry he is hurting, but dude, come on. At least show me more sympathy when I'm curled up in pain at the end of some days.
Married: 11/2013
M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
Then let's top it all off shall we? That night he had a D&D game online and as I put Preston to bed he started to cry. Damn tooth. I tried to keep him chill but nothing was working. I'm waiting for DH to either co e in and offer help or even text to see if he's ok. Nothing!!!! After an hour and a half he's finally asleep and I go in our room and smack him with a pillow. No regrets.
Cheers!!
I'm also really wishing we were at one of my friends weddings because it would be so much more fun for me lol
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20