For as long as I've been going to my current gym, I've only seen 1 other person wipe down the machines once he's done using them. It takes two seconds to do after each person is finished with a machine, please be kind to the person using it after you and clean up after yourself!
On a related note: It would be awesome if people would put their weights back as well...tiny folks like me don't exactly enjoy removing 200+lbs of weights off a machine every dang time.
The last two weeks have been a series of things going wrong! Something has to get better and fast. Last weekend the contractors screwed up so badly at our old rental place that they totally jamed up and voided the warranty on the brand new foundation repair and water drainage system that cost thousands of dollars. They did a crappy job fixing things, and way overcharged. Dh hired independent people, not through a company, and I didn't know about any of this till it was already messed up. So we were out a tone of money, and I'm just trying to get through till next paycheck, but today the renters called and the pilot light on the water heater won't stay lit. I'm going soon to check it out, and praying I can get it working.
There are only 4 weeks of summer brake left, and I don't want to spend them consumed with anxiety like the last month has been. I need something to go right today!
The last two weeks have been a series of things going wrong! Something has to get better and fast. Last weekend the contractors screwed up so badly at our old rental place that they totally jamed up and voided the warranty on the brand new foundation repair and water drainage system that cost thousands of dollars. They did a crappy job fixing things, and way overcharged. Dh hired independent people, not through a company, and I didn't know about any of this till it was already messed up. So we were out a tone of money, and I'm just trying to get through till next paycheck, but today the renters called and the pilot light on the water heater won't stay lit. I'm going soon to check it out, and praying I can get it working.
There are only 4 weeks of summer brake left, and I don't want to spend them consumed with anxiety like the last month has been. I need something to go right today!
I feel for you! My last couple weeks have been like this and it has sucked! I hope today works itself out for you and there are no more issues!
The last two weeks have been a series of things going wrong! Something has to get better and fast. Last weekend the contractors screwed up so badly at our old rental place that they totally jamed up and voided the warranty on the brand new foundation repair and water drainage system that cost thousands of dollars. They did a crappy job fixing things, and way overcharged. Dh hired independent people, not through a company, and I didn't know about any of this till it was already messed up. So we were out a tone of money, and I'm just trying to get through till next paycheck, but today the renters called and the pilot light on the water heater won't stay lit. I'm going soon to check it out, and praying I can get it working.
There are only 4 weeks of summer brake left, and I don't want to spend them consumed with anxiety like the last month has been. I need something to go right today!
I feel for you! My last couple weeks have been like this and it has sucked! I hope today works itself out for you and there are no more issues!
Thanks! I'm sorry you're going through it too. Don't you hate when problems come from, or depend on, other people's choices? I feel like I can't control or resolve anything. I don't do well with things outside my control
The last two weeks have been a series of things going wrong! Something has to get better and fast. Last weekend the contractors screwed up so badly at our old rental place that they totally jamed up and voided the warranty on the brand new foundation repair and water drainage system that cost thousands of dollars. They did a crappy job fixing things, and way overcharged. Dh hired independent people, not through a company, and I didn't know about any of this till it was already messed up. So we were out a tone of money, and I'm just trying to get through till next paycheck, but today the renters called and the pilot light on the water heater won't stay lit. I'm going soon to check it out, and praying I can get it working.
There are only 4 weeks of summer brake left, and I don't want to spend them consumed with anxiety like the last month has been. I need something to go right today!
I feel for you! My last couple weeks have been like this and it has sucked! I hope today works itself out for you and there are no more issues!
Thanks! I'm sorry you're going through it too. Don't you hate when problems come from, or depend on, other people's choices? I feel like I can't control or resolve anything. I don't do well with things outside my control
Agreed! Relinquishing control of a situation is so hard! Hope you have a resolution soon!
I'm sorry both of you are having such a difficult couple of weeks! Wishing there was something we could do to make it better Creepy Internet hugs to you both!
I'm sorry both of you are having such a difficult couple of weeks! Wishing there was something we could do to make it better Creepy Internet hugs to you both!
Toddler tantrum has begun...in my 13 month old. I know he can't be the only one so I'm curious to hear how you are handling the screaming. Tips on how not to lose your sanity? Also, we are trying to get our house ready to sell, now I've got to sort and de-clutter. I've got a 13 month old and two dogs...um yea, byer beware...this house it lived in but I'll do my best, lol. New work schedule starts this week. Pros and cons to it but will be an adjustment on top of everything. DH is out of town again this week so I don't know how much time I will get to organize stuff!
Toddler tantrum has begun...in my 13 month old. I know he can't be the only one so I'm curious to hear how you are handling the screaming. Tips on how not to lose your sanity? Also, we are trying to get our house ready to sell, now I've got to sort and de-clutter. I've got a 13 month old and two dogs...um yea, byer beware...this house it lived in but I'll do my best, lol. New work schedule starts this week. Pros and cons to it but will be an adjustment on top of everything. DH is out of town again this week so I don't know how much time I will get to organize stuff!
We sold when my twins were 8 months old. My tip to everyone I talk to who is selling is to hire a cleaning service right before you put it on the market so all the extra deep cleaning tasks get done so it looks great in photos and you have less on your plate
@StayingFocused for tantrums I suggest the book no bad kids by Janet Lansbury. She also does a blog and Facebook feed with good tips.
I try to get down on her level and talk through the feelings she's experiencing. The idea being that you put words to the emotions they're grappling with. Then I usually offer a hug or if she's still too upset just say I'll be here when you're done.
Sometimes it helps her get over it, other times she melts down into a baby puddle and I just have to wait. Most of the time it's because she's tired or hungry.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Ugh these diapers are killing me. Of course I have a heavy wetting kid. I've tried everything except hemp but that's costly. I'm literally changing a diaper per hour or so because he pees so much. It's like, do I spend the money to get something that it top of the line and "should" solve the issue or save the money and just change his diaper and clothes every 2 hours?. Part of me says I should just get them to save me the headache and I guess ultimately it would reduce the laundry that I do but idk. I always have issues making decisions like that. Maybe y'all can weight in. The simple hemp inserts cost about $4.50 each where as the prefolds that hold twice as much cost $9.50. I was thinking of getting some inserts and a single prefold to test it out first. Thoughts on using hemp. Geffen baby is the brand btw.
Home insurance basically just told me "just kidding. Remember that $3,500 we were supposed to pay you? After we made you run around and provide itemized details of expenses and contacts, we won't cover any of the basement work." I want to cry. This stupid loophole technicality, because of the type of foundation problem, they are saying it's upkeep and age of the house so not payable. I'm fuming
Home insurance basically just told me "just kidding. Remember that $3,500 we were supposed to pay you? After we made you run around and provide itemized details of expenses and contacts, we won't cover any of the basement work." I want to cry. This stupid loophole technicality, because of the type of foundation problem, they are saying it's upkeep and age of the house so not payable. I'm fuming
That's terrible!!!! Is there anyway to appeal with the insurance board?
Home insurance basically just told me "just kidding. Remember that $3,500 we were supposed to pay you? After we made you run around and provide itemized details of expenses and contacts, we won't cover any of the basement work." I want to cry. This stupid loophole technicality, because of the type of foundation problem, they are saying it's upkeep and age of the house so not payable. I'm fuming
That's terrible!!!! Is there anyway to appeal with the insurance board?
Everything is closed right now since it's after business hours, so I'll have to attack it in the morning. Again! I was so pleased with myself for getting all the correct paperwork and information in, I thought it was all taken care of. I honestly can't stand dealing with these companies
@adiaz132003 I use hemp inserts for overnight diapers in addition to the regular microfiber insert in my Bumgenius pockets. I also use covers and prefolds, but never overnight. I purchased all of my hemp inserts and prefolds secondhand (still in great shape but much cheaper). Maybe you can find a good deal on either option secondhand? Also, you might be able to recoop some of your costs when you're done diapering by reselling them. Good luck finding what works for you guys!
@adiaz132003 I use hemp inserts for overnight diapers in addition to the regular microfiber insert in my Bumgenius pockets. I also use covers and prefolds, but never overnight. I purchased all of my hemp inserts and prefolds secondhand (still in great shape but much cheaper). Maybe you can find a good deal on either option secondhand? Also, you might be able to recoop some of your costs when you're done diapering by reselling them. Good luck finding what works for you guys!
Thanks I'll look into it. I bought a three pack of inserts to test out so if I like them I'll go and look secondhand.
Ugh how the F*** am I supposed to brush this kid's teeth?! I've tried everything and we are at the point where the only way they will get clean is if DH pins him down while I stick a finger bin his mouth to hold it open. He cries hysterically and I know he's totally traumatized by it. I've tried giving him one to play with, singing songs, flavored toothpaste, macanical brush. Nothing works. He's got his first molar with 3 more in the way and I HAVE to brush them.
Ugh how the F*** am I supposed to brush this kid's teeth?! I've tried everything and we are at the point where the only way they will get clean is if DH pins him down while I stick a finger bin his mouth to hold it open. He cries hysterically and I know he's totally traumatized by it. I've tried giving him one to play with, singing songs, flavored toothpaste, macanical brush. Nothing works. He's got his first molar with 3 more in the way and I HAVE to brush them.
I'm in the same boat. I have to pin him and pry open his mouth; he's usually flailing and crying the whole time. It's unpleasant all around. None of the tactics I've tried have worked. Funny thing is, he loves watching us brush our teeth. He giggles and thinks it's just the bee's knees. He'll even try to brush our teeth for us if we let him grab a hold of the handle.
Nadia has to be holding a toothbrush while I'm brushing her, sometimes 2, and I have to put on some kind of baby safe toothpaste so that it tastes good
Lol... Tristan hates having his teeth brushed. We can I torture time at our house. He loves to hold the brush and chew on it though, hence this picture...btw I think I posted it already
The CEO of the company announced yesterday that we've been bought out by another company. This new company will basically be the umbrella corporation, which will include my current company and our sister company. As far as we've been told, nothing changes for our day-to-day operation but this change can still mean a lot for my team. I'm at our small satellite branch in Canada and there is always a chance that restructuring will take place and dissolve my branch so that our team can be shifted back to the US (part of my team is in NJ and VT already, but the team lead/attorney and I are in Montreal). The higher ups are being super vague on a lot of important details so we're kinda left in limbo.
It definitely has me nervous because if I'm out of my job, I don't have a lot of options in Montreal since I don't speak/write French well at all and the majority of places require employees to be fully bilingual. Time to hit the books again and try to be as prepared as possible.
The CEO of the company announced yesterday that we've been bought out by another company. This new company will basically be the umbrella corporation, which will include my current company and our sister company. As far as we've been told, nothing changes for our day-to-day operation but this change can still mean a lot for my team. I'm at our small satellite branch in Canada and there is always a chance that restructuring will take place and dissolve my branch so that our team can be shifted back to the US (part of my team is in NJ and VT already, but the team lead/attorney and I are in Montreal). The higher ups are being super vague on a lot of important details so we're kinda left in limbo.
It definitely has me nervous because if I'm out of my job, I don't have a lot of options in Montreal since I don't speak/write French well at all and the majority of places require employees to be fully bilingual. Time to hit the books again and try to be as prepared as possible.
Home insurance basically just told me "just kidding. Remember that $3,500 we were supposed to pay you? After we made you run around and provide itemized details of expenses and contacts, we won't cover any of the basement work." I want to cry. This stupid loophole technicality, because of the type of foundation problem, th
Man the boxes are awful today, I'm stuck again:
Buy outs are always hard. My husband's company was bought out for a billion dollars in January so therefore the parent company wanted an immediate return on their investment and 400 people lost their jobs. He said it was really hard watching everyone get laid off, and out of his team of twelve only he and 2 others are left. My advice sounds like what you are already doing, beefing up your skills but hoping for the best. Best wishes!!!
This move and some of the associated complications have sent me spiraling back into the feelings of anxiety and depression. I don't sleep because I'm up worrying about things, when I do sleep I have nightmares, but even just unpacking a box or cleaning up after the kids feels overwhelming.
Dh is super touchy about the move, he knows I was reluctant to it and any time I mention something negative he gets mad, so I really don't feel like I can confide in him. But I don't see my old friends regularly now, and I just don't know where to turn. I would go to a therapist, but thanks to our home insurance not paying out for our foundation problems, I can't even afford the copayment for at least a few months.
I'm just feeling dark, and sad, and overwhelmed. I really want to enjoy these last two weeks of summer with the kids before school starts up, but I feel weighed down. I used to feel strong, and now everything feels impossible.
@AmberLiz99 I'm a very introverted person, so putting myself out there to invite someone to do something out of the blue is difficult but I've found with mom friends that unless you put together a specific plan it's just too easy to say "we should hang out sometime" and never do anything. I've sort of taken it upon myself to be the mom's night coordinator for my friend group because otherwise I'd never see them. I just went out Friday night and before that I hadn't seen more than one or two of them at a time since mid June.
I say this say that even though you haven't talked to your friends in awhile doesn't mean they're not there for you. They just need to know you need a friend and they'll probably come running. You might find a lot of comfort in just meeting up for coffee one day. The first text is the hardest.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@AmberLiz99 I'm a very introverted person, so putting myself out there to invite someone to do something out of the blue is difficult but I've found with mom friends that unless you put together a specific plan it's just too easy to say "we should hang out sometime" and never do anything. I've sort of taken it upon myself to be the mom's night coordinator for my friend group because otherwise I'd never see them. I just went out Friday night and before that I hadn't seen more than one or two of them at a time since mid June.
I say this say that even though you haven't talked to your friends in awhile doesn't mean they're not there for you. They just need to know you need a friend and they'll probably come running. You might find a lot of comfort in just meeting up for coffee one day. The first text is the hardest.
Thanks. I did already invite a friend and her boys over on Tuesday, maybe it will help a little
@AmberLiz99 I'm a very introverted person, so putting myself out there to invite someone to do something out of the blue is difficult but I've found with mom friends that unless you put together a specific plan it's just too easy to say "we should hang out sometime" and never do anything. I've sort of taken it upon myself to be the mom's night coordinator for my friend group because otherwise I'd never see them. I just went out Friday night and before that I hadn't seen more than one or two of them at a time since mid June.
I say this say that even though you haven't talked to your friends in awhile doesn't mean they're not there for you. They just need to know you need a friend and they'll probably come running. You might find a lot of comfort in just meeting up for coffee one day. The first text is the hardest.
Thanks. I did already invite a friend and her boys over on Tuesday, maybe it will help a little
Even just face timing or texting with someone helps me. There was a 2 week period a couple weeks ago where I kept putting myself out there and no one would commit so I started face timing some of my out of town friends. That helped me feel a lot more connected to life in general. I hope it helps.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
I think I've mentioned before that while I try not to have the tv on when Damien is awake, if it is on it is just background noise. My husband loves when he pops in a movie and Damien just sits and watches it. I hate it. I don't like seeing our 1yr old glued to the tv. It doesn't happen often and Damien does lose interest after about 15min but still. I try not to be a hard-ass about it but I just don't see a reason for him to watch when there is lots to do instead. When I say as much to my husband, he just rolls his eyes and say I'm overreacting and it isn't going to hurt him (despite everything I've showed him and the ped has said to us).
I think I've mentioned before that while I try not to have the tv on when Damien is awake, if it is on it is just background noise. My husband loves when he pops in a movie and Damien just sits and watches it. I hate it. I don't like seeing our 1yr old glued to the tv. It doesn't happen often and Damien does lose interest after about 15min but still. I try not to be a hard-ass about it but I just don't see a reason for him to watch when there is lots to do instead. When I say as much to my husband, he just rolls his eyes and say I'm overreacting and it isn't going to hurt him (despite everything I've showed him and the ped has said to us).
We have the baby enstien videos that we use to kinda bring Preston back to center, if he's too hyper before sleep or if he's super upset we put one on and he zones out for 20 min then he's ok. I try to limit the tv to only 30 min a day if that. We do have the kids channel on sometimes for background but Preston doesn't really watch it. He may stop for a minute to listen to a theme song but is back to playing as soon as it's over. I don't like doing it but sometimes I need a quick fix.
I think I've mentioned before that while I try not to have the tv on when Damien is awake, if it is on it is just background noise. My husband loves when he pops in a movie and Damien just sits and watches it. I hate it. I don't like seeing our 1yr old glued to the tv. It doesn't happen often and Damien does lose interest after about 15min but still. I try not to be a hard-ass about it but I just don't see a reason for him to watch when there is lots to do instead. When I say as much to my husband, he just rolls his eyes and say I'm overreacting and it isn't going to hurt him (despite everything I've showed him and the ped has said to us).
I'm exactly the same and my hub thinks I over react too! I figure he won't know what he's missing out on if we never make it a habit? Not that I think it's super bad or anything I just want to try to not rely on it
I went into the girls room this morning to get their bedtime water cups to put in the dishwasher only to find that instead of water my husband gave them lemonade for bed last night! What in the actual F?!?!
I totally understand that sometimes we just need them distracted for a few minutes so we can have a breather or get something done, no shame in that! I just don't love how my husband seemingly pushes for him to sit still and watch tv and it's when we are both present and not doing anything (minus playing with Damien).
@kay12321 That's pretty much my mindset too. It's not a terrible thing from time to time. There are tons of great programs for children out there and I can't wait until he is old enough to enjoy some of my favourites.
I went into the girls room this morning to get their bedtime water cups to put in the dishwasher only to find that instead of water my husband gave them lemonade for bed last night! What in the actual F?!?!
I went into the girls room this morning to get their bedtime water cups to put in the dishwasher only to find that instead of water my husband gave them lemonade for bed last night! What in the actual F?!?!
Certainly a risky move! Did they sleep okay?
Haha! They did, when I got home around 11 they had just gone to bed so they must have been exhausted lol.
Just signed up Damien for his next round of swim lessons (they don't offer them in the Summer) but I'm not sure how we'll be able to do it since the only slots left during general registration are Tuesday at 7pm (his bedtime). My husband his hellbent he take classes and this is the closest facility to us. When I enrolled him for the Spring session, you could register early if your child was previously enrolled in the Winter session. I figured they do the same thing for each session, nope! I was told we could enroll on the 28th but when I tried, it wouldn't work because we aren't full-fledged members of the aquatic center ($500 a year for 2 adults+1 child). I had to wait until this morning but by that point, all the Saturday classes were full and the early evening classes on the weekdays were full too. Really frustrated and not really sure how well this will go over with Damien but we'll give it a go but I'm not going to push it if he is too tired.
@vintagevix2016 I had similar problems with swim lessons. I wanted to sign jackie up, but they only had weekday classes and with her in daycare and both of us working full time the last thing I want to do is go to swim lessons when she's already tired. I'm hoping to find something for next year, I just need to sign up early.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
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On a related note: It would be awesome if people would put their weights back as well...tiny folks like me don't exactly enjoy removing 200+lbs of weights off a machine every dang time.
Last weekend the contractors screwed up so badly at our old rental place that they totally jamed up and voided the warranty on the brand new foundation repair and water drainage system that cost thousands of dollars. They did a crappy job fixing things, and way overcharged. Dh hired independent people, not through a company, and I didn't know about any of this till it was already messed up. So we were out a tone of money, and I'm just trying to get through till next paycheck, but today the renters called and the pilot light on the water heater won't stay lit. I'm going soon to check it out, and praying I can get it working.
There are only 4 weeks of summer brake left, and I don't want to spend them consumed with anxiety like the last month has been. I need something to go right today!
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
New work schedule starts this week. Pros and cons to it but will be an adjustment on top of everything.
DH is out of town again this week so I don't know how much time I will get to organize stuff!
I try to get down on her level and talk through the feelings she's experiencing. The idea being that you put words to the emotions they're grappling with. Then I usually offer a hug or if she's still too upset just say I'll be here when you're done.
Sometimes it helps her get over it, other times she melts down into a baby puddle and I just have to wait. Most of the time it's because she's tired or hungry.
I use hemp inserts for overnight diapers in addition to the regular microfiber insert in my Bumgenius pockets. I also use covers and prefolds, but never overnight. I purchased all of my hemp inserts and prefolds secondhand (still in great shape but much cheaper). Maybe you can find a good deal on either option secondhand? Also, you might be able to recoop some of your costs when you're done diapering by reselling them. Good luck finding what works for you guys!
It definitely has me nervous because if I'm out of my job, I don't have a lot of options in Montreal since I don't speak/write French well at all and the majority of places require employees to be fully bilingual. Time to hit the books again and try to be as prepared as possible.
Dh is super touchy about the move, he knows I was reluctant to it and any time I mention something negative he gets mad, so I really don't feel like I can confide in him. But I don't see my old friends regularly now, and I just don't know where to turn. I would go to a therapist, but thanks to our home insurance not paying out for our foundation problems, I can't even afford the copayment for at least a few months.
I'm just feeling dark, and sad, and overwhelmed. I really want to enjoy these last two weeks of summer with the kids before school starts up, but I feel weighed down. I used to feel strong, and now everything feels impossible.
I say this say that even though you haven't talked to your friends in awhile doesn't mean they're not there for you. They just need to know you need a friend and they'll probably come running. You might find a lot of comfort in just meeting up for coffee one day. The first text is the hardest.
We have the baby enstien videos that we use to kinda bring Preston back to center, if he's too hyper before sleep or if he's super upset we put one on and he zones out for 20 min then he's ok. I try to limit the tv to only 30 min a day if that. We do have the kids channel on sometimes for background but Preston doesn't really watch it. He may stop for a minute to listen to a theme song but is back to playing as soon as it's over. I don't like doing it but sometimes I need a quick fix.
@kay12321 That's pretty much my mindset too. It's not a terrible thing from time to time. There are tons of great programs for children out there and I can't wait until he is old enough to enjoy some of my favourites.