Now that many of us have gone public, it is only a matter of time until people decide that it's totally appropriate to say inappropriate things to you just because you're pregnant. So what has your SO/Family/Coworkers/Random Strangers/Anyone said that is making you say...
Me: 30 H: 30
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Re: Sh*t People Say to Pregnant Women
Nope, just a baby. Hoping for healthy.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Also: "I'm pregnant too." My husband, looking for any excuse to take a nap. Honey, no.
No, I'm not.
"why would you ever want another c section?!" DH's family
none of your beeswax, that's why.
My MIL was trying to convince me a VBAC is best this time, I'm like, well I didn't choose to have an emergency c the first time, and would rather not go through a traumatic experience like the first time around, so a scheduled c section is sounding great but thanks!
"Are you trying for a boy?" Yes, we did a magic penis dance before trying to conceive. Wtaf?
Yep, kind of. None of your business though, move along!
Literally the first thing my MIL said. Rage.
@jeanbean15 I'll be 21 with two! And I get the "you're so young." Comment ALL the time. Like thanks?
This was my MIL, and she meant well, because I’m a massage therapist and my boss will likely have to hire someone while I’m out on mat leave. We don’t have any real policy in place because it’s a small spa, so I am legitimately I little worried about if I’ll be able to pick up many days when I’m ready to come back to work. Thanks for increasing my anxiety!
"Second boy? It's ok, you can try for a girl again." It is ok. In fact, it's awesome. No need to console me about something awesome.
"You're gonna wanna quit nursing before the new baby arrives." Not true.
"You're trying to have a VBAC? Aren't you worried? I wouldn't do it." I'm terrified. But a repeat section and the trauma and my personal recovery is much more terrifying. How about support of any sort?
After telling one of my friends that I am pregnant, the first thing she said was 'Are you going to have your husband fixed finally so you don't have these accidents anymore?'
... She knows I had to use IVF to get pregnant
I didn't respond, I just walked away.
K guys one time I was a huge twatwaffle to a pregnant person. After DD was born I went to her 2 week check up. I was totally sleep deprived and miserable with ppd and I was not taking to early motherhood well. So that's my excuse. Not that it justifies it or anything because what I said was awful. Anyway this nurse who had been there throughout my entire pregnancy told me, "I'm pregnant! My due date is Christmas Day!" And I straight up said, without thinking, "That's going to ruin Christmas."
Yep. That's what I said. I wanted to eat my feet afterwards.
Thanks. *eyeroll*
Yep, after giving birth, there is absolutely no meaning. Non. Insert eye roll
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
She said something similar for my first/prior pregnancy too. She mentioned the last time she saw me she noticed by belly. At that time I was 12 weeks and still felt my normal self with my normal belly. Why comment at all on someones body besides saying you look nice/healthy??
12 years later and I still feel ALL THE RAGE just thinking about it. Why would you ever think something like that is ok to say - to anyone - let alone an (overweight) 9 months pregnant lady???
The other day I was walking out of my house to my car and 2 of my neighbors stopped me to tell me "how big I look already!" I'm just like... ummm... I just had a Big Mac
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
I'm so sorry for your loss. What a disgusting thing to say
when we found out we lost our son's twin in early pregnancy people actually told us it was for the best and twins are hard. I don't get it. It's not helpful and very hurtful. I don't care if twins are hard, I wanted both my babies. Some people need their lips glued shut
During my last pregnancy when I mentioned to my grandma that I was starting to show, she said "no dear, you've always just been chubby". Don't think I'll be saying anything this time around about my belly to her...
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18