@jpearl2307 I have gotten that first comment several times, and I always say, "I'm excited to raise amazing humans who will make a positive impact on a world that desperately needs it!"
I had one person tell me im massive, and one person tell me im tiny in the same day today. Why do people think that weight/size comments are acceptable when someone is pregnant!
@AdvoCyndi30 Good! I know people have their own reasonings to stuff but goodness! I think it's funny when the person that said that tries to back track what they say.
@clairemwalker I had the same thing happen to me! One lady told me that I look "About ready" and another tell me that my belly is cute and small. It's starting to get to a point where someone comments on my weight everyday.
On Mother's Day, I had quite a few people tell me "Next year, you get to celebrate!" As someone who struggled with infertility for 10 years, and had a miscarriage last year, I'm like, umm... No, I can celebrate this year because I already have one child in heaven and one in my belly. Just because I haven't held them in my arms, doesn't mean they aren't my children or I'm not a mother. I know people don't mean anything by it and aren't trying to be hurtful or anything, so I just smiled and said I can't wait, but inside I wanted to scream like the crazy pregnant lady lol.
@clairemwalker I don't know people think they can say size comments. It's crazy! My sister likes to say every so often, "That dress makes you look pregnant". Well, duh! lol, she is trying to be funny, so I don't take it to heart, but depending on my hormones that day, it doesn't always go over well.
Thanks @AdvoCyndi30 They are painful, but I just try to remember people don't always know what I've gone through, and they are trying to be nice. I'm glad my husband lets me vent to him, and I'm glad I have this site for venting
So my mom has said a lot of stupid, not very nice things to me this pregnancy, but her comment last night took the cake. Out of the blue, she tells me that I'm pretty old to be having my first child (I'm 31). She's like, "and I thought that I was old, ha!". Let's be honest, she was also 31 when she had my brother which I pointed out to her. But then she went on to say, "yea, but I just turned 31, you'll be 32 later this yea". Ummm, what? Why even go there? It's just the latest in the long line of crap that she's said to me. I'm either too old or too fat. Ugh, parents.
Yesterday I walked into the kitchen at work to heat up my
lunch and group of coworkers were talking. They stopped when I walked in and
everyone was like "Wow you look amazing! Omg you look so great!" So I
had the biggest smile on my face, they really brightened my day. One minute
later another women walks in looks at me and says "You're HUGE!!! I just
saw you last week you've almost doubled in size! No way are you making it until
August" She stole all my happiness!
@britvahok Thats the worst! I had a similar thing happen to me today. The people who live across the street stopped me and asked if I was pregnant and then congratulated me, and told me how fantastic I looked (even though I really looked like crap, in leggings and a shirt that didnt really fit to walk my dog in), but then when I got to work, I had two women tell me how huge I was. I dont even know who they are!
So this weekend I saw my sister for the first time since christmas. Shes 22 and very into fashion and being cute. Well I was changing my clothes, and she saw me put on my maternity pants, with the big belly band, and she said "why are you pulling your pants up that high, it looks awful!". I just responded with, how else would you like me to wear my pants, and she tried to convince me that rolling the band down below my belly would work, and I just laughed. She then proceeded to tell me that she would never wear maternity pants, and she would just wear her regular jeans un buttoned the whole time, and be fine. She is going to be really interested when she gets pregnant (many years from now hopefully!)
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@littlebug2010 I know! I've never commented on a pregnant woman's size unless I was telling her she looked great. I have no idea have people have the nerve to tell someone they look huge!!!
@littlebug2010 My sister cannot stand anything over her bellybutton. Even as kids before low rise was a thing, she kept her jeans pulled way down. Through both of her pregnancies she refused to wear maternity bottoms. She just kept buying the next size up in pants. American Eagle jeans for the weekend and old navy khakis for work. It always looks so uncomfortable to me. When she had her first baby she brought jeans to wear home from the hospital. I didn't have kids yet, but I was like are you serious?
@SouthernMama15 My sister was like that when she was younger too. When low rise pants were popular she was young, so that helped. She is the kind that buys low rise tights and wears super low rise jeans. However, she does have a few high rise shorts (I dont get it). I think she will be a super funny pregnant lady, and wont know what to do with the lack of "cute" pregnancy clothes.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@littlebug2010 I actually like my maternity clothes better than my regular clothes. Probably weird, but I feel like it forces me to buy new stuff and I get cute new things instead of random clearance pieces.
@littlebug2010 I don't know about everyone else, but I LOVE maternity jeans. No love handles, no butt Crack hanging out. I may never go back to regular jeans! I couldn't imagine going through pregnancy without. When the time comes, I'm sure if she can make herself try them, she will change her mind haha.
@SouthernMama15 and @mrsw2017 Im with you both! I love all my maternity stuff, especially the jeans. I find they are even more comfortable the further along I get, becuase they are sort of supportive for the belly too. If I wear a dress all day, I have to wear my belly band to feel comfortable. Ill be very interested to see what my sister does when she does get pregnant, but something tells me she might change her mind!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@littlebug2010 I don't know about everyone else, but I LOVE maternity jeans. No love handles, no butt Crack hanging out. I may never go back to regular jeans! I couldn't imagine going through pregnancy without. When the time comes, I'm sure if she can make herself try them, she will change her mind haha.
I'm with you, my three pairs of Motherhood pants are SO comfy. I was in college when super low rise pants were in fashion, and those were so comfortable. As I got into my 20s/30s and mid-rises were not only more normal but also more age-appropriate, I kind of lamented them. They just constrict. Moving to maternity pants where nothing hits you anywhere constricting, it's like... magical.
@littlebug2010 That made me laugh picturing your sister horrified at you putting on maternity jeans. How does she think pregnant women wear pants, especially in the third trimester? Even if you keep buying the next size up, it's not like your legs are also ballooning out to fill the extra space (or at least not that extreme). I can't wait until my friends get pregnant... they just don't get it!
@secicc12 It was super funny! She just looked at me horrified by the giant panel that went up to my boobs, and couldn't imagine why it was needed. She is amazed by all things pregnancy, so its not super surprising that she reacted this way. When I was only about 10 weeks along, she wanted to know if baby could hear her, and she was shocked to find out how small it was, and how funny looking it was at that point.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@mrsjqg1024 That's not ok! Being your parents is not an excuse to be mean and hurtful. Whenever my mom says/do something extremely inappropriate (like posting an enigmatic message on Facebook about my pregnancy before I even announced) I tell her that's not ok and spend a month without answering her calls.
I find myself fussing with my one pair of under the belly pants, which is the same problem I always had with low-rise pants in general. Full panel ftw.
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@smallbutmighty77 I feel you!!!! UGH! Their looks or expressions when you say August...ugh.
I was at my Pure Barre workout class after work last night and usually I get the comments of "you're such an inspiration doing this class pregnant..." etc. Except one person, whose sister I know. Her facial expression when I told her I was due in August...man I could've punched that shock belief stare off her face. Then she says "well after baby you'll back at Pure Barre and probably push the baby really quick!"
WTF!!!???!!! Can I seriously sucker punch people and get away with it please? UGH! And p.s. I'm almost 27 weeks and only gained 11-12 lbs so it's all baby, wtf are they thinking?!
@dma0389 same boat as you, its all baby weight here at 27 weeks with ~12 lbs total gained. Although I'm having people tell me I need to gain more weight because it's not healthy for the baby and I must be starving it. Uh if my doctor says I'm fine then I'm fine and leave me alone about my weight
@SouthernMama15 HAHAHA that would be too funny! You could even wear it after your baby comes, and you still have a bit of the baby weight there, making people think that you are having another one.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
I read something, I think on Fit Pregnancy, where a woman's friend came to the hospital after she gave birth. The friend looked at her non-deflated belly and said, "are you sure there's not another one in there?"
People say a lot of stupid stuff but I thought that was just over the line. What a bitch!
My FIL and I were asked on Sunday, by one of the church members (MIL is the pastor of this church) who had previously asked me how my weight was, when they started to call me Humpty Dumpty. FIL and I were stunned, but then he responded with "How long have people been calling you Humpty Dumpty".
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@mrsmatt1212 I wish it had happened outside of church so he really could have brought the snark. He is super funny, and always has the best comeback, but becuase it was in church he didnt want to risk really pissing the man off, and then causing trouble for his wife to deal with. I do love my FIL though!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@hpotaito you and me both! I understand there are levels of concern from friends, but really the decision is yours/spouse's with OB guidance. Do what is healthy for you and listen to your body. My OB gave me very few "limitations" and said I'm smart to know what's too risky and my body will tell me what I should or shouldn't do anymore. The more people keep saying it to me, the more is pisses me off. For reference, if it encourages you or others at all (apparently I have inspired some of my friends in the process), I am still doing most of my previous activities (with the exception of soccer/football --> too hard to avoid collisions in my leagues) such as playing volleyball 1x/week, and softball 3-4x/week, plus yoga and hiking. I am still doing 8-10 mile day hikes. I was just on our babymoon where I did stand-up paddle boarding and surfing. I discussed it all prior with my OB.
@lewliv same boat! Married 10 years, no children. I said the exact same thing. Sure, it is possible that after 10 years of successfullly using contraception, not trying to have a kid, that one night we could have slipped up but I doubt it and WHY WOULD YOU ASK/SAY THAT ANYWAY? lol. When we made it public on Facebook, most people were happy, sure some were shocked but I don't expect people to actually say they are. I got a comment "Wow, didn't see that coming, or... never thought that would happen!" Or the are you serious? After all this time, really?
@lewli I forgot about the hot summer/August comments. Yes, b/c we're all super fertile 20 year olds that can pinpoint the exact day/month we'd like to give birth AND have that actually happen. Maybe I didn't want a baby in August but maybe I'm just happy I'm having a baby! And so what, what if I picked August! It's not like A/C doesn't work, or there aren't pools or other ways to keep me cool. And I dislike that people always say, "Oh August! That's the most popular time for having a baby... all that downtime staying indoors in the winter...you two sure kept busy!"
Re: Shit people say to pregnant women
@clairemwalker I had the same thing happen to me! One lady told me that I look "About ready" and another tell me that my belly is cute and small. It's starting to get to a point where someone comments on my weight everyday.
i'm almost 29 weeks.
Yesterday I walked into the kitchen at work to heat up my lunch and group of coworkers were talking. They stopped when I walked in and everyone was like "Wow you look amazing! Omg you look so great!" So I had the biggest smile on my face, they really brightened my day. One minute later another women walks in looks at me and says "You're HUGE!!! I just saw you last week you've almost doubled in size! No way are you making it until August" She stole all my happiness!
So this weekend I saw my sister for the first time since christmas. Shes 22 and very into fashion and being cute. Well I was changing my clothes, and she saw me put on my maternity pants, with the big belly band, and she said "why are you pulling your pants up that high, it looks awful!". I just responded with, how else would you like me to wear my pants, and she tried to convince me that rolling the band down below my belly would work, and I just laughed. She then proceeded to tell me that she would never wear maternity pants, and she would just wear her regular jeans un buttoned the whole time, and be fine. She is going to be really interested when she gets pregnant (many years from now hopefully!)
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I was at my Pure Barre workout class after work last night and usually I get the comments of "you're such an inspiration doing this class pregnant..." etc. Except one person, whose sister I know. Her facial expression when I told her I was due in August...man I could've punched that shock belief stare off her face. Then she says "well after baby you'll back at Pure Barre and probably push the baby really quick!"
WTF!!!???!!! Can I seriously sucker punch people and get away with it please? UGH! And p.s. I'm almost 27 weeks and only gained 11-12 lbs so it's all baby, wtf are they thinking?!
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
People say a lot of stupid stuff but I thought that was just over the line. What a bitch!
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020