Just found out, 2 of my supervisors who have been out all week? They have strep. I dont think I was around them last week though so I'm sure I am fine.
@nda_roxybabe - That seriously sucks! Glad they kept their germs at home though, so hopefully you avoid the awfulness that is strep.
So, I'm physically at work until this baby arrives....but mentally, I've been gone for a few days. I'm currently browsing the internet for affordable, cute nursing friendly clothes.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@kayemjay2 I am there with you. I am being induced Sunday night and I just decided I am taking Friday off since my H is off on Friday also. I have been mentally checked out since like a week before my due date (which was May 8th)
@nda_roxybabe two weeks ago ds had strep I was sharing everything with him thankfully I didn't get it. If it goes untreated it can be contagious for 3 weeks
@ShadeofGreen816 - two things from me. 1) definitely go on vacation. Echoing others, trips with DS at that age were far easier than the Florida trip I took right after he turned one. Once they are mobile, like gets harder! 2) can you take me on vacation too? I promise not to be a lot of work!
@ShadeofGreen816, traveling with a tiny one is totally doable! Depending on how long the flight is, I'd say consider getting baby an independent seat. The one time we flew with a lap infant I was totally uncomfortable and the whole thing felt unsafe. Like if we hit turbulence, my son would go flying into the air with my glass of wine.
@ShadeofGreen816 I just assumed that we were being punked by one of our regs, but will they only close a thread if the OP reports it? If that's the case, maybe it was for real!
@mdlorenz, I love the British baking show! I binged all of them on Netflix during my pregnancy. It's so relaxing. I ate dessert every time I watched it, though.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@nda_roxybabe two weeks ago ds had strep I was sharing everything with him thankfully I didn't get it. If it goes untreated it can be contagious for 3 weeks
Eek. I ended up going home after my chiropractor appointment as I just didn't feel good. Headache and sore throat. I had a smoothie and did some easy work in the nursery, just feeling tired now.
@ShadeofGreen816 I'd ditto others and say take the trip!!! I booked Hawaii from the east coast for when the little guy is 7 months - I wanted to go earlier too but h has vetoed an earlier trip for now....
Any STM+s or anyone who works with kids have any threenager advice? DD (3.5 yrs) has been AWFUL lately. Honestly, her behavior has maybe been the hardest thing about having DS. DD has had a hard time listening and following directions for the last 6 months, which I think is normal for that age. But lately she's been so defiant. She ran away from my dad in the park and almost ran into the street before he caught her. While Facetiming with my grandmother, we gave her a doll blanket my grandmother made that matched a quilt my grandmother gave DS. DD said, "is that a blanket?!? I don't need it. I don't want it." And she threw it on the ground while my grandma watched. Then today, my mom was putting her in the car seat and she said, "I don't like grandma and grandpa." DD has been great towards DS, but she's been so bad to everyone else. I'm sure part of the issue is that she has been pulled out of daycare for the week and is missing the structure of school. But her teacher also told me she'd been acting out there too. I feel like I'm missing out on the warm and fuzzy family of four feelings with bringing DS home because DD is being like this. At the same time, I'm trying to be understanding that a lot has changed in her life recently. Any one have any advice?
Any STM+s or anyone who works with kids have any threenager advice? DD (3.5 yrs) has been AWFUL lately. Honestly, her behavior has maybe been the hardest thing about having DS. DD has had a hard time listening and following directions for the last 6 months, which I think is normal for that age. But lately she's been so defiant. She ran away from my dad in the park and almost ran into the street before he caught her. While Facetiming with my grandmother, we gave her a doll blanket my grandmother made that matched a quilt my grandmother gave DS. DD said, "is that a blanket?!? I don't need it. I don't want it." And she threw it on the ground while my grandma watched. Then today, my mom was putting her in the car seat and she said, "I don't like grandma and grandpa." DD has been great towards DS, but she's been so bad to everyone else. I'm sure part of the issue is that she has been pulled out of daycare for the week and is missing the structure of school. But her teacher also told me she'd been acting out there too. I feel like I'm missing out on the warm and fuzzy family of four feelings with bringing DS home because DD is being like this. At the same time, I'm trying to be understanding that a lot has changed in her life recently. Any one have any advice?
I wish I had some helpful advice, but all I can do is tell you we are going through very similar behaviors here. DS just turned 3 and baby isn't here yet, but he has been incredibly defiant and naughty for the last month or so. He's never been the best listener, but it's definitely become worse recently.
I've done a little reading looking for some guidance, and it sounds like it's super normal. The things that have worked best for us are lots of calm, firm conversations down at his level (not easy for me when he's being sassy and I'm frustrated) and setting consequences/boundaries I follow through with religiously when he misbehaves. Sorry I can't be more helpful, but I can definitely relate!
@nda_roxybabe Vote yes for lunch. Hope you feel better soon!! I'll be thinking of you tomorrow! Good luck! @BabyMC517 Thank you! Yes. I'm very uncomfortable (symptomatic), but not really worse than my new usual, so I'm managing. "Hanging in there" has been my motto today. I also have had great co-workers today. Thanks for asking.
+1 for threenager troubles over here too. DD has started throwing fits a bawling up her little fist. I'm trying to be patient with her, but I'm totally failing. I know life isn't super rock solid right now for her, but it's still frustrating. Also DD says stuff very straightforward all the time too @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot sometimes she will say, "I don't like Grandpa, only Grandma." (Which is totally not true) I think some days she just want to be left alone and kids can't really explain it correctly so they will say I don't like "xyz". Le sigh.
Another threenager here! DD just turned three and has just straight out started ignoring us. Sometimes she can be very sweet, like tonight, but mostly I just want to drink an entire bottle of wine. I'm hoping things don't get worse once the baby arrives.
DD loves to read books before bed, so something that tends to work more often than not with her is that we start the day with 3 books and as she acts up during the day she gets books taken away. She is devastated when she loses a book. Sometimes she goes to bed with no books because she was a terror all day and we explain to her why she lost her books and that she can start fresh in the morning. It may be something that could work if your DD, @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot, is a bookworm too. Or maybe find something similar that she likes.
Thanks for the recommendations, ladies. Some days I worry I'm raising a sociopath. This sounds bad, but having met DS, it really seems like DD was challenging from the beginning. DS is so chill while DD was so temperamental about things.
@livin541 Excellent ideas on the firm conversations and setting consequences. I tend to try both, but DD struggles with consequences. If she loses something, she tends to throw a fit and will repeat the same phrase over and over in to eternity until we can somehow redirect her attention (I.e. "I want to go to the park!" Or "gimme back my *insert newly removed item here!"). I think we need to hold firm in those situations but it is soooo trying.
@bacorrea My DD only makes these statements when she has an audience. I suspect it's her way of grabbing attention. I don't know what to do about that, but I guess it helps me rationalize things. It doesn't help that my mother is a immature and is grumbling about this behavior. Tonight I told her to stop sinking to the level of a 3 year old. My mom is the worst about that. When I was a rebellious argumentative teen, she always matched my level in an argument. It was super frustrating then and never productive. I can't wait to have my house back to myself when my parents head home and DD goes back to daycare. Then I feel guilty for thinking that.
@achays11 I take away books too. Usually I start with those threats at the start of bedtime. But then I get too angry/consequence happy that might over react and take books away a little too quick. I'm working on that We've also tried sticker charts, but then I find myself holding one damn sticker over her head all day. And once it's gone, we have nothing to threaten with.
Cookies for everyone who read all that. I really do appreciate everyone's suggestions. Wine for those sisters struggling through the same issues too.
@jayandaplus glad your day was ok! "Hanging in there" has been my motto/go to answer anytime someone asks me how I'm doing/feeling for awhile now lol
eta: hit submit too soon lol @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot sounds like something fun is FTMd have to look forward to! I can only imagine how difficult that is with a newborn. Seems like you got some great advice though! Hopefully something will work and things will go back to normal when visitors are gone.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot +1 to what everyone else said. I don't have kids, but work with them. I was going to suggest a sticker chart, but to break it up for multiple parts of the day so that she has the opportunity to earn multiple stickers as opposed to the whole day being one sticker. Also, you could also try having feeling faces that she could point to when she is acting out. Often when kids are that little they are feeling something that they can't express. Good luck, 3 is such a hard age!
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot No advice but lots of solidarity. DD is only 2.5 but she has been the hardest part of this transition. Give me the newborn any day. She's also very defiant ant not listening, I'm exhausted by the end of the day just from dealing with her. None of our normal consequences have been working and I'm not even sure where to go from here
Well I'm not sure how else the BGs see those threads to close them unless something gets reported
Good point...duh on me. I guess I imagined that they were some all-powerful watchers with lots of time on their hands! Your thinking makes much more sense
Just saw this mentioned on Kelly this morning. @starphish18 & others, I know we've bemoaned the difficulties in meeting other women who are (1) mamas (2) nearby and (3) not bat crap crazy.
@ShadeofGreen816 - I would definitely get the passport, but I would probably hold off a while before actually booking anything (or just get good insurance with it). This sounds stupid and like such a no-brainer, but I think we were a little surprised to realize that vacations no longer felt like vacations unless we had other people with us who were actively helping with the kiddo. We've traveled multiple times with family, and depending on who it is, they are NO help, and we're still on our own 100% (which is fine since he's obviously our responsibility. )
Being somewhere nice and warm is still amazing and worth it, and for a friend's wedding, I would totally do it, but traveling has never felt relaxing or carefree to us with DS since it's routine as usual just in a different location without all of our stuff.....no late nights or sleeping in. Also, I SO missed the carefree day-drinking in a swim-up bar, which didn't quite work with the little human.
I don't really have any toddler advice but I love reading everyone's suggestions. My DS is almost 2 and I've been looking for tips/advice as well. I looked at the happiest toddler on the block book/DVD but it seems a little strange to me to mock their behavior. When DS is crying about something and repeating words I now try to repeat what he is saying so that he understands I understand him, that seems to be the cause of some frustration for him at this age. I am a little worried once new baby is born that he will be running our house even more than he currently is because I simply wont have the energy to fight with him or listen to the whining.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I luckily only have a hostile dictator of a twochebag right now But when all else fails I just run him ragged. Overtired isn't fun either but at least he eventually crashes out. If I can't reason with it or discipline it I go for passed out.
Daycare helps a ton on that front too, is she going back soon? I have got nothing on the structure and stimulation of a room full of toddlers.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot you might try to think about ways that DD can feel in control. Letting her make as many choices as possible so she feels like she has some control over her world. I feel like when I make myself slow down and connect with my son more it's easier to see what he's after and get him to tune into me a little more so he doesn't take off into the street which seems to be his natural instinct! 3 is a tough age!!
@WombThereItIs She is going back to daycare on Monday. I think the lack of structure combined with being cooped up in our house is causing a lot of this. Daycare is across town by our work locations and since my parents have been in town, we haven't sent her.
Re: Threenagers, I have no other ideas but plenty of solidarity. DS1 never really went through that stage, but DS2 see a to be taking care of it for both of them. Lately he's been throwing himself on the floor, even it's a parking lot or hard surfaces. The funny thing is he knows what he is doing because he gently lays down on the hard surfaces then starts to cry.
@SKZW I have heard about that app and tried it. It might work if you live in a big city but for those of us that do not it wasn't worth it. All of the members were quite a drive away so I deleted it.
Re: **Weekly Randoms 5/8-5/12**
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
So, I'm physically at work until this baby arrives....but mentally, I've been gone for a few days. I'm currently browsing the internet for affordable, cute nursing friendly clothes.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
May17 Siggy Challenge
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It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I've done a little reading looking for some guidance, and it sounds like it's super normal. The things that have worked best for us are lots of calm, firm conversations down at his level (not easy for me when he's being sassy and I'm frustrated) and setting consequences/boundaries I follow through with religiously when he misbehaves. Sorry I can't be more helpful, but I can definitely relate!
@BabyMC517 Thank you! Yes. I'm very uncomfortable (symptomatic), but not really worse than my new usual, so I'm managing. "Hanging in there" has been my motto today. I also have had great co-workers today. Thanks for asking.
DD loves to read books before bed, so something that tends to work more often than not with her is that we start the day with 3 books and as she acts up during the day she gets books taken away. She is devastated when she loses a book. Sometimes she goes to bed with no books because she was a terror all day and we explain to her why she lost her books and that she can start fresh in the morning. It may be something that could work if your DD, @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot, is a bookworm too. Or maybe find something similar that she likes.
@livin541 Excellent ideas on the firm conversations and setting consequences. I tend to try both, but DD struggles with consequences. If she loses something, she tends to throw a fit and will repeat the same phrase over and over in to eternity until we can somehow redirect her attention (I.e. "I want to go to the park!" Or "gimme back my *insert newly removed item here!"). I think we need to hold firm in those situations but it is soooo trying.
@bacorrea My DD only makes these statements when she has an audience. I suspect it's her way of grabbing attention. I don't know what to do about that, but I guess it helps me rationalize things. It doesn't help that my mother is a immature and is grumbling about this behavior. Tonight I told her to stop sinking to the level of a 3 year old. My mom is the worst about that. When I was a rebellious argumentative teen, she always matched my level in an argument. It was super frustrating then and never productive. I can't wait to have my house back to myself when my parents head home and DD goes back to daycare. Then I feel guilty for thinking that.
@achays11 I take away books too. Usually I start with those threats at the start of bedtime. But then I get too angry/consequence happy that might over react and take books away a little too quick. I'm working on that
Cookies for everyone who read all that. I really do appreciate everyone's suggestions. Wine for those sisters struggling through the same issues too.
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
eta: hit submit too soon lol @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot sounds like something fun is FTMd have to look forward to! I can only imagine how difficult that is with a newborn. Seems like you got some great advice though! Hopefully something will work and things will go back to normal when visitors are gone.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
+1 to what everyone else said. I don't have kids, but work with them.
I was going to suggest a sticker chart, but to break it up for multiple parts of the day so that she has the opportunity to earn multiple stickers as opposed to the whole day being one sticker. Also, you could also try having feeling faces that she could point to when she is acting out. Often when kids are that little they are feeling something that they can't express.
Good luck, 3 is such a hard age!
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
Just saw this mentioned on Kelly this morning. @starphish18 & others, I know we've bemoaned the difficulties in meeting other women who are (1) mamas (2) nearby and (3) not bat crap crazy.
https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/05/10/style/tinder-for-moms-peanut-app.html
Apparently the Android version s/b available in a couple months. If anyone scores using this, please report back!
Being somewhere nice and warm is still amazing and worth it, and for a friend's wedding, I would totally do it, but traveling has never felt relaxing or carefree to us with DS since it's routine as usual just in a different location without all of our stuff.....no late nights or sleeping in. Also, I SO missed the carefree day-drinking in a swim-up bar, which didn't quite work with the little human.
Daycare helps a ton on that front too, is she going back soon? I have got nothing on the structure and stimulation of a room full of toddlers.
May '17 labor memes
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Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
actually that whole thread was priceless. I love you all