@RainyDays86 girl, I haven't had remotely the same challenges as you and I still identify so hard. It sounds like a lot of what you're feeling is typical STM doubts and frustrations so please be kind to yourself! I haven't had chemo or surgery and I still get frustrated with my 2.5 year old for typical toddler behavior, still take on too much, and still can hardly lift and move him without something hurting or tears. This part of pregnancy is really challenging, especially with another kid that still needs you so don't beat yourself up about it. You're kicking ass.
Random: I got some pretty bras to wear for labor, but I go to thinking...is that weird to wear under my gown?
No its not weird, whatever makes you feel good! Last time I made sure I had a cute sports bra for labor but they had me remove my bra when I got to the hospital last time I believe... or right before I started pushing... cant remember.
Random: I got some pretty bras to wear for labor, but I go to thinking...is that weird to wear under my gown?
I don't think that's weird. I plan on wearing a bra for a while under my gown until they need it to be removed. It'll make me feel better to have a little modesty intact in the beginning, so why not pick a pretty one?
@RainyDays86 I'm so sorry you had such a rough morning. It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. You totally did take care of your DS for a whole morning-- you're supermom for sure. You're taking on so much right now, don't forget to give yourself the major credit you completely deserve. I'm glad DH was able to help out today. I hope you had that second breakfast and you're feeling better. Just remember that you're doing awesome, and so many others would not be able to handle the situation you're in with such grace and positivity. You're doing an incredible job and it's important you keep that in mind.
@RainyDays86 sorry about your rough morning...I hope you got the second breakfast! I totally had cereal before I left for work and then had pop tarts a couple of hours later at work You definitely deserved it more than me! Hope you're day has gotten better!
@RainyDays86, I'm sorry your morning beat you up. Doing anything alone with a toddler is challenging, add in pregnancy and the cancer thing and you deserve a medal just for making it through all the steps BEFORE having a meltdown. It's important to slow down and know your limitations, but for now, pat yourself on the back for just making it through the morning. And then eat all the breakfast pastries. And take comfort in knowing that you will likely have a newfound appreciation for how damn easy babies are compared to the toddler tyrants...
@RainyDays86 I just want you to know you're story is an inspiration to me. You are so strong and calm and you deserve 3 breakfasts! You'll get better you'll be able to wrangle that toddler. Many hugs to you! @thistlenweeds good luck!
@rebecca517-2 Good luck tonight! @kns1988 We had a bottle of aveeno lotion and barely made a dent in it with DD lol. It's nice to have on hand though! @bacorrea I saw some baby dove products out. And someone in another group I'm in on fb was talking abott how she got a 30pk of wipes for like.. 2 or 3 bucks. I don't know how much their stuff are but I thought that was ridiculous. @thistlenweeds exciting time! good luck and safe/fast delivery and recovery for both of you! @absbubbs ugh so sorry to hear the chair broke! it shouldn't have even if it was your H sitting in it. I hope they send the replacement quicker. @rainydays86 sorry it was such a rough morning! I hope you're feeling better now And that the appointment tomorrow goes well too. @nda_roxybabe bahaha. I think I wore a sport bra during labor? I can't remember. Kind of dumb since it's not the easiest to get off when confined to bed. I plan an old nursing bra this time because I'm also considering the fact that LO will be covered in "dirtiness" from the womb and I won't care if he's placed on my bra that way, and I'll save my newer ones for later.
Nothing exciting going on over here. We have a friend coming over tonight with her son for dinner. Part of me was like can I just go into labor and not worry about making the house a little be more presentable and having to prepare dinner? Totally selfish I know but I'm sure it will be nice. I just only hope that her son is behaved well enough. Last time we had him over was 2 years ago and he was so incredibly out of control and made all of us stressed out.
@RainyDays86 - I'm so sorry you had such a rough morning. Don't beat yourself up, your body is still recovering. Hope you got your second breakfast and enjoyed some quite time!
@nda_roxybabe - I wore a bra the entire I time during L&D with DS, they never made me take it off. They told me whatever I was comfortable in was fine unless I needed a C-Section.
@nda_roxybabe I was totally naked by the time the kid came out, I don't remember getting to that progress though. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable! Think about if you want immediate skin to skin and how easy the bra would be to get off in the event you're hooked up to any IVs/monitors!
@RainyDays86, I hope your day got better. It's really hard to be limited by your body when you just want to get things done. You're doing a great job, and I hope your recovery is fast so that you can get back to feeling like yourself very soon.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@RainyDays86 as everyone has said, I am so sorry you had such a rough parenting morning! We've all been there, especially with toddlers and their quirks. Being a mom is one difficult job, but you are an amazing one!
@RainyDays86: I'm sorry to hear about your crappy morning, and I hope your day's gotten better since then. I echo everyone's notions of focusing on one day/hour at a time; taking care of emotional-you by cutting yourself some slack; and realizing that, even though it seems such a small thing, lifting your toddler IS a big deal and you needn't push yourself too hard before you're healed.
I'll tell you what my hubbs told me the other day: "You're doing a great job, and I know how hard it is. You really are doing great, even if you can't see it."
@nda_roxybabe: I wore a sports-bra-style maternity bra during my whole delivery, beneath the johnny/gown. It offered a bit of modesty and helped me avoid flashing my boobs to a dozen people, which happened last time and wasn't a big deal, but I figured all the action is south of the border so it doesn't hurt to cover myself up top. So to answer your Q, no it's not weird... but... the only part that gives me pause is the part where you said your bras are "pretty"; just be sure you're willing to part with them for good if it came to it. Don't bring them to the hospital if you'd be disappointed in them getting wrecked, soiled, or lost.
@nda_roxybabe, I had a pretty (but cheap) bra that I wore to the hospital, but they had me take it off basically immediately. It's clearly a hospital to hospital thing. I do suggest only bringing one that you aren't too attached to!
Ahh, I'll see if they let me keep it on. I am never comfortable without one on, so hoping. They are "pretty", but they were inexpensive and I bought for this purpose so a-okay if they get ruined or even had to be cut off/
I'm cracking up at the Katy Perry lyrics. They're so true for pregnancy!!
@kns1988 - you know, something I didn't remember from DS, but at discharge from the hospital this weekend the nurse told us not to use lotion for a few months. Does anyone else think that's weird sounding?
@rainydays86 - sorry you had such a bad morning. Hopefully things turned around!!
@nda_roxybabe - I had to take mine off immediately. I did buy a pretty hospital gown on etsy, though, and then snaps on it made it a lot easier to retain a little bit of modesty than the hospital provided ones. It also made skin to skin really easy because I could kind of snap her in, and not worry about the cheap ties coming undone and accidentally flashing someone!
@RainyDays86 I'm so sorry you had a rough morning. You really are amazing and badass for handling everything you've been dealt--be easy on yourself! I hope your day picked up
Ahh, I'll see if they let me keep it on. I am never comfortable without one on, so hoping. They are "pretty", but they were inexpensive and I bought for this purpose so a-okay if they get ruined or even had to be cut off/
I am so uncomfortable without a bra that I fought to wear one during my csection with DD. They didn't want me to because it had metal on it (just the clasps). I had an awesome nurse who put tape around it, told me the risks, and advocated for me. I got to wear it! This time I got a sports style one that I plan on wearing the whole time. I made sure it doesn't have any metal and I'll fight to keep it on again. There's are very few reasons to have it off if you want it on.
May Siggy Challenge: Labor Memes
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10 DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI) BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
@nda_roxybabe I was told to remove everything but the gown when I was admitted. This was true for DD that was vaginal and DS that was a C-section. I'm sure it differs at each hospital.
@RainyDays86 Sorry your day was so rough. You are one of the toughest chicks I have ever (sorta) met.
@nda_roxybabe I really had no modesty during delivery this time around. I labored in the hospital gown and wanted immediate skin to skin with my baby. So as soon as I knew he was almost out, I ripped the snaps of the hospital gown down on both sides so I was topless and they put him right on my chest. After delivery, I wanted to put on a nursing bra since my parents were coming to visit, but it wasn't functionally possible due to the IV in my hand and the connection to the post-labor pitocin bags. I imagine getting a bra off during labor would have the same issue. You'd have to cut it off to get it past your iv tubes.
I know we discussed this, but I can't find the thread on mobile. Can anyone recommend a good nursing, diaper, etc tracking app?
I had this freaking weird dream last night and I keep remembering it.
Basically, I had a "rash" on my low back that consisted of even rows of spots that were either like a nipple(no areola) or what essentially was like the pop up timer on a turkey. So freaking gross and weird!
I imagine partly inspired by the weird plant stuff in Guardians of the Galaxy, that fact that I feel like a popped turkey timer, and my damn heat rash annoying me.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot: I downloaded Glow Baby two days ago and have been using it for feedings and diapers. There's other items you can track (growth measurements, medicine, sleep hours) and so far it seems pretty straightforward.
ETA: I like that when I open the app, it immediately shows "last time was on the Right" b/c I need to know right away!
Re: tracking apps, I'm using Babio and I'm only "meh" about it. I dont love the clunkiness of it or the way that it tracks breastfeeding. I don't hate it enough to change, but certainly wouldn't recommend it.
@kns1988 +1 for Aquaphor, but I would cut it with lotion
@thistlenweeds hope all is well! Looking forward to an update
@rainydays86 - sorry you had such a rough morning. At 38 weeks plus, I'm getting help from family with my toddler. It's hard and you have way more hurdles than the rest of us. We all have tough days. Don't be so hard on yourself!
@nda_roxybabe - I took my sports bra off almost immediately. I wanted skin to skin and I realized it was going to get in the way and be hard to remove between the IV and monitors and what not. I plan to go without this time or at least wear one that will be easy to remove.
Last week I was 2-3 cm and 50% effaced. I've been checked the last 2 weeks. Afterwards I'm always crampy and uncomfortable.
I have doc appt tomorrow morning. I also have a wake tomorrow night and funeral on Wednesday morning. It's going to be a long 2 days. My mentor, boss, fellow law partner, and dear friend passed away unexpectedly. I'm already emotionally and physically drained.
Would you get checked and risk feeling bad afterwards or decline? I'm torn. I'm also curious if a cervix check could induce labor bc I don't want to do anything that could trigger labor before the funeral.
Re: **Weekly Randoms 5/8-5/12**
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@thistlenweeds yay! Good luck today!
May '17 labor memes
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@thistlenweeds yay!!! hope all goes well!
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@thistlenweeds good luck!
@kns1988 We had a bottle of aveeno lotion and barely made a dent in it with DD lol. It's nice to have on hand though!
@bacorrea I saw some baby dove products out. And someone in another group I'm in on fb was talking abott how she got a 30pk of wipes for like.. 2 or 3 bucks. I don't know how much their stuff are but I thought that was ridiculous.
@thistlenweeds exciting time! good luck and safe/fast delivery and recovery for both of you!
@absbubbs ugh so sorry to hear the chair broke! it shouldn't have even if it was your H sitting in it. I hope they send the replacement quicker.
@rainydays86 sorry it was such a rough morning! I hope you're feeling better now
@nda_roxybabe bahaha. I think I wore a sport bra during labor? I can't remember. Kind of dumb since it's not the easiest to get off when confined to bed. I plan an old nursing bra this time because I'm also considering the fact that LO will be covered in "dirtiness" from the womb and I won't care if he's placed on my bra that way, and I'll save my newer ones for later.
Nothing exciting going on over here. We have a friend coming over tonight with her son for dinner. Part of me was like can I just go into labor and not worry about making the house a little be more presentable and having to prepare dinner? Totally selfish I know
@nda_roxybabe - I wore a bra the entire I time during L&D with DS, they never made me take it off. They told me whatever I was comfortable in was fine unless I needed a C-Section.
comfortable! Think about if you want immediate skin to skin and how easy the bra would be to get off in the event you're hooked up to any IVs/monitors!
@RainyDays86 big hugs girl. You're a great mom!
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
I'll tell you what my hubbs told me the other day: "You're doing a great job, and I know how hard it is. You really are doing great, even if you can't see it."
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
I'm cracking up at the Katy Perry lyrics. They're so true for pregnancy!!
@kns1988 - you know, something I didn't remember from DS, but at discharge from the hospital this weekend the nurse told us not to use lotion for a few months. Does anyone else think that's weird sounding?
@thistlenweeds - good luck!!!!
@rainydays86 - sorry you had such a bad morning. Hopefully things turned around!!
@nda_roxybabe - I had to take mine off immediately. I did buy a pretty hospital gown on etsy, though, and then snaps on it made it a lot easier to retain a little bit of modesty than the hospital provided ones. It also made skin to skin really easy because I could kind of snap her in, and not worry about the cheap ties coming undone and accidentally flashing someone!
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
@thistlenweeds FX for a smooth delivery!!
@nda_roxybabe I was told to remove everything but the gown when I was admitted. This was true for DD that was vaginal and DS that was a C-section. I'm sure it differs at each hospital.
@nda_roxybabe I really had no modesty during delivery this time around. I labored in the hospital gown and wanted immediate skin to skin with my baby. So as soon as I knew he was almost out, I ripped the snaps of the hospital gown down on both sides so I was topless and they put him right on my chest. After delivery, I wanted to put on a nursing bra since my parents were coming to visit, but it wasn't functionally possible due to the IV in my hand and the connection to the post-labor pitocin bags. I imagine getting a bra off during labor would have the same issue. You'd have to cut it off to get it past your iv tubes.
I know we discussed this, but I can't find the thread on mobile. Can anyone recommend a good nursing, diaper, etc tracking app?
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
I had this freaking weird dream last night and I keep remembering it.
Basically, I had a "rash" on my low back that consisted of even rows of spots that were either like a nipple(no areola) or what essentially was like the pop up timer on a turkey. So freaking gross and weird!
I imagine partly inspired by the weird plant stuff in Guardians of the Galaxy, that fact that I feel like a popped turkey timer, and my damn heat rash annoying me.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
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ETA: I like that when I open the app, it immediately shows "last time was on the Right" b/c I need to know right away!
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
@kns1988 +1 for Aquaphor, but I would cut it with lotion
@thistlenweeds hope all is well! Looking forward to an update
@rainydays86 - sorry you had such a rough morning. At 38 weeks plus, I'm getting help from family with my toddler. It's hard and you have way more hurdles than the rest of us. We all have tough days. Don't be so hard on yourself!
@nda_roxybabe - I took my sports bra off almost immediately. I wanted skin to skin and I realized it was going to get in the way and be hard to remove between the IV and monitors and what not. I plan to go without this time or at least wear one that will be easy to remove.
Edit to add "off" re bra
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
Last week I was 2-3 cm and 50% effaced. I've been checked the last 2 weeks. Afterwards I'm always crampy and uncomfortable.
I have doc appt tomorrow morning. I also have a wake tomorrow night and funeral on Wednesday morning. It's going to be a long 2 days. My mentor, boss, fellow law partner, and dear friend passed away unexpectedly. I'm already emotionally and physically drained.
Would you get checked and risk feeling bad afterwards or decline? I'm torn. I'm also curious if a cervix check could induce labor bc I don't want to do anything that could trigger labor before the funeral.
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17