Ok guys...I'm trying not to lose my shit, but my visiting parents are driving me insane. There is nearly nothing worse than visitors that think they are the "easy visitors" when in fact, they are difficult. They keep telling me "go take a nap! We will hold the baby!" And I keep saying "it's not the lack of sleep that's a problem, it's everything else that needs to get done", to which they say "that's what we are here for!" And I give examples of things they can do to help--all of which essentially entail keeping my house mess and clutter free (unload the dishwasher, take the diapers outside, pick up the toddler toys, etc)...and they do that ONE thing and then sit on the couch. I know this is mostly my problem, as I hate clutter and mess and most people can probably just accept it as part of a new baby, but it literally drives me crazy. Like I'm just sitting here on the couch staring at crap sitting out on my countertop and stewing...I know we've talked about this before, but let this serve as a warning to all. House guests in the days post birth are challenging.
@Kipperoo I'm sorry you're dealing with that!! Our MIL is so overbearing in her helpfulness that it becomes the opposite of helpful and just an added stress! I can see us wanting to kick her out minutes after she comes to see us. She only lives 20 minutes away & I can only imagine how frustrating she will be when LO is here...For example:
Her after dinner at her house: "Do you want some ice cream?" Me: "Oh no thanks I am so full from dinner!" Her: "I can put it in Tupperware and you can take it with you so when you're not full you can have it!" Me: "That's ok it'll melt by the time we get home. Thank you though!" Her: "We have cookies! Would you like some of those!?" Me: "No thank you, I'm still full!" Her: "I'll just put them in a ziplock bag so you can..." Me: "OK GREAT." Me (in my own head): OMG OK FINE WHATEVER ANYTHING TO MAKE IT STOP!!!"
If you say you don't want something she will literally drive you crazy trying to find something you do want until you finally give in out of exhaustion...
Ok guys...I'm trying not to lose my shit, but my visiting parents are driving me insane. There is nearly nothing worse than visitors that think they are the "easy visitors" when in fact, they are difficult. They keep telling me "go take a nap! We will hold the baby!" And I keep saying "it's not the lack of sleep that's a problem, it's everything else that needs to get done", to which they say "that's what we are here for!" And I give examples of things they can do to help--all of which essentially entail keeping my house mess and clutter free (unload the dishwasher, take the diapers outside, pick up the toddler toys, etc)...and they do that ONE thing and then sit on the couch. I know this is mostly my problem, as I hate clutter and mess and most people can probably just accept it as part of a new baby, but it literally drives me crazy. Like I'm just sitting here on the couch staring at crap sitting out on my countertop and stewing...I know we've talked about this before, but let this serve as a warning to all. House guests in the days post birth are challenging.
Kipperoo can you make an actual list (like on paper or on a whiteboard) that people can cross things off or just reference of things to do? It's got to be so frustrating when you have people there to "help" but they only want to hold the baby. I know when my sister had her twins earlier this spring that was the only thing that helped her get through with her extended family who wanted to help bit basically just sat around. She made a list on a white board and everyone could see it. Every time someone said they wanted to help she would refer them to the list. It seemed to work for her in the short term at least.
@rkstro2, that's a really great idea! I think part of my problem is that I can't stand when things are messy even for a few minutes. My white board would say "look around. Pick it up now, please!" Haha
@rkstro2, that's a really great idea! I think part of my problem is that I can't stand when things are messy even for a few minutes. My white board would say "look around. Pick it up now, please!" Haha
Omg I'm so glad it's not just me. Are other people completely blind? Or just lazy? Seriously, do you not see the clutter?? It drives me bananas!! Give me 20 minutes prepregnancy and I can hurricane through my entire house, I can only imagine how nuts it'll drive me when I am recovering at home and can't do it myself. Motivation to heal!
@rkstro2, that's a really great idea! I think part of my problem is that I can't stand when things are messy even for a few minutes. My white board would say "look around. Pick it up now, please!" Haha
Omg I'm so glad it's not just me. Are other people completely blind? Or just lazy? Seriously, do you not see the clutter?? It drives me bananas!! Give me 20 minutes prepregnancy and I can hurricane through my entire house, I can only imagine how nuts it'll drive me when I am recovering at home and can't do it myself. Motivation to heal!
Ugh I feel this way when MH asks for a list of things to do while I'm at work or something. I'm like... you live here too. Can't you tell what's not clean??? I'm willing to accept that we have different standards. But don't tell me you can't see the sink full of dishes and the laundry overflowing and the bathroom sinks that need to be wiped out...? Find something and just do it!
@rkstro2, that's a really great idea! I think part of my problem is that I can't stand when things are messy even for a few minutes. My white board would say "look around. Pick it up now, please!" Haha
Hahaha! I feel the same way about people and lists. Can't people just use their damn eyes?
@rkstro2, that's a really great idea! I think part of my problem is that I can't stand when things are messy even for a few minutes. My white board would say "look around. Pick it up now, please!" Haha
First time posting! STM, fewer questions, less time...
This pregnancy has been plagued again my severe pelvic girdle pain. I've had painful false labor on a regular basis and Braxton hicks like they're going out of style. Several times in the last week I've been sure DS2 was going to make his entrance early. Due date is May 16, but my pregnancy was made high risk last week due to macrosomia and a potential c section has been tabled for the time being.
Stressed about work, FMLA, and two year molars for first DS.
@mrstgb: welcome & I'm sorry to hear about the painful false labor! Pregnancy really is different with an "outside" little one running around, right? And teething to boot, that's no fun for anyone. Just think, it's all temporary. Hang in there!
Re: B*tch Fest/WTF?!? 4.10 - 4.16
Her after dinner at her house: "Do you want some ice cream?"
Me: "Oh no thanks I am so full from dinner!"
Her: "I can put it in Tupperware and you can take it with you so when you're not full you can have it!"
Me: "That's ok it'll melt by the time we get home. Thank you though!"
Her: "We have cookies! Would you like some of those!?"
Me: "No thank you, I'm still full!"
Her: "I'll just put them in a ziplock bag so you can..."
Me: "OK GREAT."
Me (in my own head): OMG OK FINE WHATEVER ANYTHING TO MAKE IT STOP!!!"
If you say you don't want something she will literally drive you crazy trying to find something you do want until you finally give in out of exhaustion...
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
This pregnancy has been plagued again my severe pelvic girdle pain. I've had painful false labor on a regular basis and Braxton hicks like they're going out of style. Several times in the last week I've been sure DS2 was going to make his entrance early. Due date is May 16, but my pregnancy was made high risk last week due to macrosomia and a potential c section has been tabled for the time being.
Stressed about work, FMLA, and two year molars for first DS.
*audible sigh*