@pawcall how awful of your MIL!!! My MIL did something similar when my BIL and SIL announced years ago.
We have immediate family and a few others because they knew we were going through infertility treatments. I never thought I would announce before 12 weeks but here we are. We are planning on telling extended family and close friends Easter weekend and after. Then we'll post to social media after our 12 week appt. on 5/1. I want to take a picture of our 2 dogs with a sign that says "Mom and Dad are getting us a human!" and a picture of the ultrasound. We'll see how that goes haha
TTC since: 1/2015 11/16: IVF #1. BFN 2/23/17: FET with a BFP on 3/8/17. EDD: 11/11/17 with a baby GIRL!
Wow I had to sit through a dinner with an old friend and her new fiancé (we have been ntnp for 6years and we're starting to wonder. Talking about getting checked maybe the last year or so but trying to not put pressure on ourselves) Anyway find out she's around 5mth (#4 unplanned )when we get to the dinner and she must of said it 4 times she didn't want this baby . It made me feel so I'll how she didn't even bother to find out where we were at anymore and how she didn't think it would impact us . They also fought in front of us over him speeding and not caring if he dies cause she'll get the insurance and he'll still be looking after the baby . I think there are defiantly topics you need to always be a little cautious with even with people you know .
We got the pictures and they came out great. We got a total of 84 edited pictures, not all pregnancy related since we did a good amount of couples pictures as well. Here are 2 we used to announce on FB:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
I told one of my best friends the other day and she started crying and told me it was the best news she'd heard in a while. It was the most perfect and sweetest reaction, I love her. MUCH better than "wow that was fast".
We're telling everyone on Easter. It's been 4-5 years since either of us have spent Easter with family so I'm making everyone baskets...grandparents are getting onesies and books, aunts/uncles are getting cookies and chocolate and niece/nephew are getting onesies and books as well. I'm excited to tell everyone but terrified of their reactions. My dad is very adamant that he wants to be a granddad but his family has been acting weird about us wanting babies (and they don't even know) so hopefully it all goes well. Our very close friends will be told then too. I bought Easter cards for them and will be putting a copy of the u/s in it with a saying about growing a best friend for their children (3/4 have kids of their own)
As for everyone else we will be announcing hopefully on mothers Day (I'll have just hit 12 weeks so if I can get another appt before that weekend I will be)
@slaven your photos turned out wonderful! I'm so glad you got them sorted out in the end!I'm dying over all these easter baskets! I am announcing at Easter, but announcing during a photo with my family and having the kids wear the shirts with numbers on them and I will have the number 5 on my belly for his family. But know these gorgeous baskets and eggs are making me jealous and I want one too!
I'm working all of Easter weekend so that plan was squashed. DH can't wait any longer to tell his parents so I invited them to DD t-ball practice today and late lunch. Since we are telling his parents, might as well tell mine tonight. I made these boxes.
I wanted to tell DH's family at Easter, but now that we aren't sure if there are two, I'm going to decide after tomorrow's ultrasounds with both doctors. If it is another baby, but measuring way behind, we may wait until Mothers' Day...
@pawcall I LOVE your announcement and I'm sorry that you are being treated that way, especially since they know what your son is going through.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
I told my Mom very early on. We have had losses and I wanted to share some good news and to have someone to talk with about it. It has been kind of weird though...like she doesn't want to say much because it is so early. She also told my Dad and I have seen them a couple times since and he hasn't said anything...not a word. Not sure if they have any negative feelings about it because I am having a third child at 39/40 or if they just don't like having to keep a secret and are waiting to celebrate it more once it's public.
I also told my best friends and I am so glad I did. Their joy for us and their thoughts and prayers coming our way have really been helping me through my PGAL anxiety. One friend who has 2 kids now but struggled with infertility said, "I know you are scared but I will be sending you so many prayers." They have been great and I am so glad I reached out. In contrast...I told my sister about my m/c after the fact (no one knew at the time it happened) and she said something like, "You could have told me since I have been through it myself." A comment more along the lines of, "I'm glad you told me. I will talk with you about it as much as you would like to" would have felt so much more supportive. My brother and SIL are expecting their first in July and their baby shower is 4/29 so may wait to tell them until after. They live far from us and I can't go to the shower, but my parents will be there and I would feel bad if there was any talk about my parents expecting another grand baby in addition to theirs. I would feel like we stole some of their shine, I guess. Maybe I just think about these things too much.
So, we will probably tell our siblings sometime after the NT scan on 4/28. The results from the genetic blood testing should also be back around that time and we will tell the kids with a fun "balloons in a box" or "cupcake" gender reveal and post a video of that as our social media announcement.
My DH is visiting his parents today and may tell them, but given they have said things in the past along the lines of...you have a boy and a girl so you don't need to have any more...not sure what kind of reaction they will have.
DD- 9
DS-6
c/p- April 2016
missed m/c- 6w5d; discovered 8w2d- September 2016
I made easter egg announcements to send our parents, but then I got super paranoid (since we don't know if they are mo/mo and it's still so early). So then I just had DD1 tell the last set of parents over facetime (I already told my parents, but was planning to send them the cute announcement too just for fun). For some reason I feel uncomfortable sending a cute announcement so soon when I'm so worried, but I also want them to know, and know they'll be very supportive if anything goes wrong.
DD1 eagerly showed them a pic of the ultrasound and told them there were two little bumps and the bumps were babies in mommy's tummy. It was really cute and they were very excited. Then I was able to tell them it was still very early and high risk, but we're still excited.
@TallMomma29 My mom's obgyn friend eased my concerns about mo/mo considerably. She said the stats that come up on Google are out of date, and also agreed with you that the membrane can be hard to find depending on the u/s equipment and commonly shows up a little later. Still high risk, but I'm worrying slightly less. Hope you're doing well with all this!
Thanks @bklynchica! I think (hope!) I'll feel so much better after my 12 week appt. My OB totally said the membrane thing like it was NBD with no discussion of the possibility of momo twins at all, just that if the twins are identical I'll need extra monitoring. I wish I had known to ask more at the time but I was just in shock!
So far I have told my bible study group (they were very supportive during my last pregnancy with DS3, which was very difficult and I wanted their support again). I have also told a small group of close friends and will be telling my two other best friends tomorrow night. We had planned to wait to tell anyone else until Mother's Day, but today we had my inlaws over for a late lunch and it was just the 4 of us and DS3 and we knew it would be a not-so-good reaction from them, so we figured this was a good time to break the news. My MIL said,"I knew it!" And gloated about having 11 grandchildren. My FIL said, "oh, Jesus" with a scowl on his face and neither said congratulations. Sooo it went as expected.
I'm trying to decide if we should announce on my bday (4/27) or after our NT on 5/5. I would feel safer waiting until after the scan but announcing on my bday would be fun
I ended up telling my boss much earlier than anticipated because the way I've been feeling has just really plummeted and I didn't want her to think I'm just taking lots of breaks for fun. She was super excited and so understanding, said she had a feeling I was last week, and was actually appalled at our leave policy. She's allowing me to take off whatever time I need if I don't feel well and is going to try to get me a better maternity leave deal. She's the best and I'm glad I told her even though I'd hoped to wait. It's really nice working for someone who isn't going to try to screw you over.
Plan on announcing on social media next weekend (11 weeks). We took our photos yesterday and I'm slowly getting them back from my friend who took them. These are my two favorites so far. (DD's favorite superhero at present is Ladybug Girl.)
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
We have our first appointment today. We are going to give the shirt to our 6 year old and have her read it. Then going to the grandmas and have our daughter ask them if they like her shirt
All of these are cute! We will be telling our families over mother's day weekend and since baby will be the size of an orange at that point, I'm going to gift all of the mamas in our family with oranges. They will obviously think I'm crazy, so I'm excited!
I wish I had an ultrasound to share with them but I'm going to a midwifery and they don't do ultrasounds until 20 weeks. I completely understand why, but I'm a FTM and I just want to see the little pickle! Btw, I freaking LOVE my midwife. She's incredible. And happily agreed to do an U/S if it would give me peace of mind. Just seeing how long I can hold out!
We told my parents within the first week. I had saved a mug that I had given my (late) grandfather as a kid - it reads "Special Grandpa." My parents had DH and me over for a casual dinner shortly after we found out we were expecting. When it came time for coffee afterwards I gave the mug to my Dad and told him I thought it might be appropriate for him to use now. He was speechless, and my Mom shrieked! I hadn't planned to do anything special initially, but now I'm glad I did. It was such a wonderful moment. This is my parents' first grandchild, and they couldn't be more excited!
I have told a few of my closest friends, and so has my husband, but we're not spreading the news more widely until after the first trimester. Basically the only people who know are the people who's support we would want anyway if something went wrong. Tomorrow I'm at 10 weeks, though, so not too much longer to wait!
Well, my parents and DH's mom now both know about us expecting our little bean.
And while they are both super excited...they are already barraging us with questions, comments and trying to plan things. Oh dear. We told them both they cannot tell anyone else until after May 16 (my 12 week scan and when we will announce to friends/other family) and they can only talk with each other. I think my mother and my MIL have talked for at least a few hours about it so far.
We also said we haven't planned anything, don't prefer a sex for the baby, have no names picked out and do not plan to buy anything during the first trimester. Both my MIL and my mother have offered to already help out during maternity leave, to be babysitters, buy things, plan showers (which I don't actually want) and spoil the child rotten.
They haven't even known more than 24 hours, haha, and it's been a whirlwind. I love that they are excited, but this is going to be a long 7 months
Last night DH and I changed our minds and decided to tell our family and our LO's!! We were trying to wait till Mother's Day, but we realized that this would be our only opportunity to tell our extended family in person before the summer. So, we hatched a plan (pun intended) and we set up a scavenger hunt for our 5 kids and our 5 nieces and nephews. We hid Easter eggs in various spots inside and outside with clues to the next egg inside them. When they got to the last regular egg, the clue was that "the oldest people are the wisest and they would have all the answers", leading our kids to their Papa, the patriarch of our family. When they got to him, he had a giant Easter egg which he helped them crack open. Inside was a picture of our ultrasound and a small stuffed bunny. It took the kids a while, as they assumed the ultrasound was an old picture from our 8 month old. The adults all figured it out rather quickly and were totally surprised!! Once the kids figured it out they were so excited and already speculating on if it is a boy or a girl. We still can't believe we are going to have 6 kids!!
@dragonfly87 My mom and MIL have already been talking about a shower and my mom asked me for names and addresses for my friends last week. And my mom has already bought stuff for LO and is making a blanket. She posted on FB asking her friends which colors to use since we aren't finding out the sex and I chimed in that our nursery colors are most likely gray and navy so that's a good choice. Someone literally suggested camo b/c DH is military and there's no way I want more military stuff in my house lol
I invited one of my best friends over today to hang out on our roof deck. Once she got in I told her I wanted to show her the new picture on our fridge. She freaked out in the best way and was so excited! It made my heart so happy to tell her. I told her I think I'm having a boy and she said she guesses girl because I'm a girl and I like pink
My FIL is so excited and right away wanted to post a picture of the countdown blocks we got to tell them with. We won't be ready to actually announce for another week or so though, we are waiting on a friend who can print something for us, and then I'm going to put together our final announcement post. I'll be between 9 and 10 weeks when we announce, which is a smidge early, but people are getting suspicious since I've had to cut back so many of my normal activities because they aren't safe while pregnant.
I've told several of my close friends, and our siblings and parents. But everyone has been sworn to secrecy until further notice. I haven't decided if we will announce on fb or not. We did with our first, but we will see. I want to wait until I'm showing at least.
I told my husband with ninja turtle masks. I was wearing one, our little was wearing one, I had her hand him one, and the forth one was under my shirt across my belly.
His brother and his wife are expecting in June so for his parents, I made Big Cousin, Middle Cousin, Little Cousin shirts to tell them the news.
My sister got married on April Fools and had a lot of pranks planned but didn't have one for our parents. When I told her my news she came up with the perfect plan. After the wedding and family pictures she and her husband pulled my parents aside and my sister put on the biggest theatrical performance of her life - like real tears and everything - about how they weren't planning for it but "you're going to be grandparents again..." We come from a very conservative family, so the silence that followed was deafening. Then we walked in with our little wearing a Big Sister shirt. My parents didn't know what to believe at that point. It was hilarious.
Thankfully everyone we've told has been very excited and supportive. I feel so terrible that not all of you are experiencing that. My main worry at this point is that our moms won't be able to keep the secret much longer.
My MIL has already tried to pretend that my BEST FRIEND leaked the news so we need to tell soon. With our first she would tell me "no, I didn't tell! They just guessed!" And I was like "How? Did you say 'guess who's pregnant?'??"
Now that we know the gender we have decided how to tell pur family when we go home for Mother's Day Weekend. For my Mom I got the book "Just Grandma and Me" and I am going to wrap it up and put a note on the inside cover that says, "Happy Mother's Day Grandma! Can't wait to meet you Nov. '17 Love Robert George" (that's the name we had picked for a boy and Robert is my grandfather's name who my Mom was super close to, he passed away in 98). If we have another ultrasound pic I'll tape that there as well. For my Grandma I am going to wrap up a blue onsie that says, "I love my great grandma" with a note from the baby. For DHs Mom he wants to just do a mother's day card and sign it from the baby. He's less sentimental. Lol but I might get a frame and put an ultrasound pic in it for her. For the rest of our family I have the classic "ice ice" with an arrow pointing down in blue and I am just going to wear that and see if the nieces and nephews figure it out. For FB I think we will just do a collage of pics from our trip home, like one of me in the shirt and a few of the Mom's and grandma holding their gifts and just say something about having an eventful Mother's day weekend.
Eta all of the people we will announce to are done having kids so I am not worried about upsetting anyone and we won't do it in a public place. The FB post will be lowkey since we always post pics from our trip home.
I told my sister right away and my moms group pretty early (like at 7 weeks). We will wait a bit for other family because I want to make sure all is ok and I'm old so I'm nervous about that. My son on the other hand has already told his whole school and all the teachers.
I love all of your announcement ideas. Im so close with my mom I instantly told her. Lol but for TH we are going to do a public announcement when we get the blood gender test back (any day now). Then we will do mine,DH,Ds and a pair of pink or blue shoes all sitting on the steps labeled.
Re: Plans/Ideas for pregnancy announcement
We have immediate family and a few others because they knew we were going through infertility treatments. I never thought I would announce before 12 weeks but here we are. We are planning on telling extended family and close friends Easter weekend and after. Then we'll post to social media after our 12 week appt. on 5/1. I want to take a picture of our 2 dogs with a sign that says "Mom and Dad are getting us a human!" and a picture of the ultrasound. We'll see how that goes haha
11/16: IVF #1. BFN
2/23/17: FET with a BFP on 3/8/17.
EDD: 11/11/17 with a baby GIRL!
Anyway find out she's around 5mth (#4 unplanned )when we get to the dinner and she must of said it 4 times she didn't want this baby . It made me feel so I'll how she didn't even bother to find out where we were at anymore and how she didn't think it would impact us . They also fought in front of us over him speeding and not caring if he dies cause she'll get the insurance and he'll still be looking after the baby .
I think there are defiantly topics you need to always be a little cautious with even with people you know .
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TTC since August 2018
TTC since August 2018
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
Our very close friends will be told then too. I bought Easter cards for them and will be putting a copy of the u/s in it with a saying about growing a best friend for their children (3/4 have kids of their own)
As for everyone else we will be announcing hopefully on mothers Day (I'll have just hit 12 weeks so if I can get another appt before that weekend I will be)
@pawcall I LOVE your announcement and I'm sorry that you are being treated that way, especially since they know what your son is going through.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
I also told my best friends and I am so glad I did. Their joy for us and their thoughts and prayers coming our way have really been helping me through my PGAL anxiety. One friend who has 2 kids now but struggled with infertility said, "I know you are scared but I will be sending you so many prayers." They have been great and I am so glad I reached out. In contrast...I told my sister about my m/c after the fact (no one knew at the time it happened) and she said something like, "You could have told me since I have been through it myself." A comment more along the lines of, "I'm glad you told me. I will talk with you about it as much as you would like to" would have felt so much more supportive. My brother and SIL are expecting their first in July and their baby shower is 4/29 so may wait to tell them until after. They live far from us and I can't go to the shower, but my parents will be there and I would feel bad if there was any talk about my parents expecting another grand baby in addition to theirs. I would feel like we stole some of their shine, I guess. Maybe I just think about these things too much.
So, we will probably tell our siblings sometime after the NT scan on 4/28. The results from the genetic blood testing should also be back around that time and we will tell the kids with a fun "balloons in a box" or "cupcake" gender reveal and post a video of that as our social media announcement.
My DH is visiting his parents today and may tell them, but given they have said things in the past along the lines of...you have a boy and a girl so you don't need to have any more...not sure what kind of reaction they will have.
DD- 9
DS-6
c/p- April 2016
missed m/c- 6w5d; discovered 8w2d- September 2016
@slaven: Your pics turned out great!
DD1 eagerly showed them a pic of the ultrasound and told them there were two little bumps and the bumps were babies in mommy's tummy. It was really cute and they were very excited.
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Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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I wish I had an ultrasound to share with them but I'm going to a midwifery and they don't do ultrasounds until 20 weeks. I completely understand why, but I'm a FTM and I just want to see the little pickle! Btw, I freaking LOVE my midwife. She's incredible. And happily agreed to do an U/S if it would give me peace of mind. Just seeing how long I can hold out!
I have told a few of my closest friends, and so has my husband, but we're not spreading the news more widely until after the first trimester. Basically the only people who know are the people who's support we would want anyway if something went wrong. Tomorrow I'm at 10 weeks, though, so not too much longer to wait!
And while they are both super excited...they are already barraging us with questions, comments and trying to plan things. Oh dear. We told them both they cannot tell anyone else until after May 16 (my 12 week scan and when we will announce to friends/other family) and they can only talk with each other. I think my mother and my MIL have talked for at least a few hours about it so far.
We also said we haven't planned anything, don't prefer a sex for the baby, have no names picked out and do not plan to buy anything during the first trimester. Both my MIL and my mother have offered to already help out during maternity leave, to be babysitters, buy things, plan showers (which I don't actually want) and spoil the child rotten.
They haven't even known more than 24 hours, haha, and it's been a whirlwind. I love that they are excited, but this is going to be a long 7 months
TTC since August 2018
TTC since August 2018
We did this as our facebook announcement on Easter. The caption told everyone that our un"egg"spected blessing will be joining us in November!
I told my husband with ninja turtle masks. I was wearing one, our little was wearing one, I had her hand him one, and the forth one was under my shirt across my belly.
His brother and his wife are expecting in June so for his parents, I made Big Cousin, Middle Cousin, Little Cousin shirts to tell them the news.
My sister got married on April Fools and had a lot of pranks planned but didn't have one for our parents. When I told her my news she came up with the perfect plan. After the wedding and family pictures she and her husband pulled my parents aside and my sister put on the biggest theatrical performance of her life - like real tears and everything - about how they weren't planning for it but "you're going to be grandparents again..." We come from a very conservative family, so the silence that followed was deafening. Then we walked in with our little wearing a Big Sister shirt. My parents didn't know what to believe at that point. It was hilarious.
Thankfully everyone we've told has been very excited and supportive. I feel so terrible that not all of you are experiencing that. My main worry at this point is that our moms won't be able to keep the secret much longer.
My MIL has already tried to pretend that my BEST FRIEND leaked the news so we need to tell soon. With our first she would tell me "no, I didn't tell! They just guessed!" And I was like "How? Did you say 'guess who's pregnant?'??"
For my Grandma I am going to wrap up a blue onsie that says, "I love my great grandma" with a note from the baby.
For DHs Mom he wants to just do a mother's day card and sign it from the baby. He's less sentimental. Lol but I might get a frame and put an ultrasound pic in it for her.
For the rest of our family I have the classic "ice ice" with an arrow pointing down in blue and I am just going to wear that and see if the nieces and nephews figure it out.
For FB I think we will just do a collage of pics from our trip home, like one of me in the shirt and a few of the Mom's and grandma holding their gifts and just say something about having an eventful Mother's day weekend.
Eta all of the people we will announce to are done having kids so I am not worried about upsetting anyone and we won't do it in a public place. The FB post will be lowkey since we always post pics from our trip home.