Shit people say to pregnant women

SpotConlon · March 2017

People are terrible. Share the most ridiculous things people have told you after finding out you're pregnant.

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SpotConlon · March 2017

"I bet your husband is happy you're having a boy."

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Kathryn0903 · March 2017

"Was it planned?" I feel like I get this question more because of how recently I got married, but seriously it shouldn't matter.

SouthernMama15 · March 2017

This was with my 1st, but at 30 weeks a female coworker told me I looked like I was ready to pop. When I said I hope not she said, "Why, are you not ready?" Ummm, no, and neither is he.

FIL called me a pregzilla because a smell made me feel sick

PinkPrincessPiper · March 2017

We've gotten some stupid comments with this pregnancy (#4).

"Don't you guys know how to prevent pregnancy?"
"Are you going for a football team?" "What, do you get a discount for multiple kids?"
"So this is your last, right?"

mia080 · March 2017

@Kathryn0903 - i just got asked this yesterday, and a few other times too when we told people. "were you trying? or was it an accident?"
umm... we have been together for 6.5 years and married for 1.5... why would that detail matter?! i don't think anyone means anything by it.... but maybe just fishing for drama or don't know what else to ask? they want to judge whether to be ecstatic for you, or sympathetic & supportive?? i'm not sure why this is such a common question, especially when there are no serious negative factors to give them cause for concern. not amused -__-

middy411 · March 2017

The worst comments have been around the fact that I'm having my second girl. I've had comments implying that my "poor" husband must be upset that he will have two daughters. People have literally said "Do you know what you're having?! Hope it's a boy!" Ummm nope it's a girl, but why do you care?
I think what takes the cake is that after my Anatomy Scan the nurse asked me what we're having and I told her we had already found out it was a girl a couple weeks prior at an elective ultrasound. Her response was, "aww bummer!". Excuse me? It's a bummer that I'm having a girl because I already have one?! This is only my second child it's not like I have 7 girls and even if I did it's never a bummer to have a healthy beautiful child growing inside of me. I could slap someone.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · March 2017

This is our first baby and one coworker asked if DH was disappointed that we were having a girl.. What is wrong with people and the sex comments?

My other favorite is when people ask how I'm feeling and I say great- then they respond with "oh just wait until you aren't sleeping" or ten other terrible things about motherhood.

lynkat · March 2017

Oh this is fun.

The cashier lady at Home Depot a couple weeks ago asked when I'm due and I replied "August". She then came back with, "You didn't plan that very well!" I live in Texas where August is hot AF. But really?? Who says that to a complete stranger?

AdvoCyndi30 · March 2017

@lyndshurt Texas girl here, too! Sooooo many weather related comments about my due date.

Leni410 · March 2017

Grandpa in law told me that I shouldn't be driving in my condition...

dinofreak · March 2017

"Were you trying?" What does that matter? I'm pregnant now and obviously happy...
"You don't even look pregnant." You don't even look like a butt head.
"It's a ____, that's why your skin is so oily/your hair is dry/you're bloated/you're moody/etc"

smallbutmighty77 · March 2017

Oh, you're having a girl...but your not very girly.

Um, so because I don't like pink or ruffles I couldn't possibly produce a girl or I won't like a girl or if won't be a good mom to a girl?? WTH does my level of girly have to do with the gender of my child?

Grrr all the gender comments!

SpotConlon · March 2017

I also had a coworker tell me that her cohort had been gossiping about whether or not I was pregnant. Why would you tell me that? Don't tell me you were looking that closely at my body, plz.

knottiee689565f63838b35 · March 2017

My dad when we told him at 6 weeks, "you must be pretty sure about this telling people this early." Gee, thanks dad, we only told family and have only told a handful of other people since then. *trigger warning* What he didn't know is that I had a miscarriage a couple months before hand. Only 2 other people besides DH know about that. *end*

belmont1785 · March 2017

Great-grandma : "have one more and then cut that thing off!!!"

Co worker : "are you fat? Or pregnant?"

Great grandma again :" I'm so sorry it's another girl, you must be so disappointed!!" (She's assuming that everyone in the whole world would never ever want more the two kids and that we are definitely done having children....my husband's whole family has crazy weird opinions about anyone that has more then two kids- but I've always wanted a big family...AND even if we never have a boy, I love being a girl mom! )

SouthernMama15 · March 2017

The comments from people regarding sex are ridiculous. DH's distant cousin is a photographer and we did family pictures last Friday to announce that we're having another boy. DH's great uncle happened to drop by as we were near his house and made the comment that _______ (our last name) men are special so it's ok if I have another one, even if I don't like the ________ men. FIL and I don't get along great so I'm sure hewas referencing that. Well, buddy, I love my husband and sons, and I plan to raise my boys to not be selfish, chauvinistic jerks so we won't have a problem.

knottie76d2afb8a2f15466 · March 2017

@belmont1785 no way on earth a co-worker said that...people are bold af. Wow!!!

I love the couple of "soooo (pause) a congratulations is in order?"...No pray for me and my sins like wtf do you think I told you for

edit: typos irk me

cmmiller531 · March 2017

"Oh I just noticed your baby bump! When are you due?" I replied with August "Oh... you look big for August.. you have a long way to go" Uhmm... She was a heavy set women and I REALLY wanted to ask her when she was due!

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · March 2017

dinofreak said:

"Were you trying?" What does that matter? I'm pregnant now and obviously happy...
"You don't even look pregnant." You don't even look like a butt head.
"It's a ____, that's why your skin is so oily/your hair is dry/you're bloated/you're moody/etc"

Love the "you don't even look pregnant!" comment.. I bitched about this a few weeks ago when this one co-worker literally told me every day that I didn't look pregnant. I wore a form fitting shirt the other day and she decided that I now look pregnant. Thank you, co-worker for confirming.

Kudlica27 · March 2017

I also have been getting gender/sex comments. (we have two boys and haven't shared the newest baby's sex) As well as the "You don't look pregnant" comments (while wearing obvious maternity clothes.)

For me, I am due August 17th. The second day of school. (I'm a teacher) I get a ton of "That sucks" comments.
Thanks people.

DeansGirl14 · March 2017

Good grief people!

So far, I think I've been lucky. It's our first, we've been married a few years, we're in our low 30s, so "too this" or "too that" comments aren't coming our way; it's just variations on "congrats!"

That being said, my longtime hairdresser did seem aghast that I only want this one. She said, "Just wait, she'll be three years old and you'll start really wanting a second baby!"
I mean, sure, that's possible, but highly unlikely.

I was also told in the earlier months that I'm "so tiny!" to be pregnant but I've been hearing that kind of comment on my weight- or lack thereof- for years; at this point it's just noise.

smallbutmighty77 · March 2017

@DeansGirl14 Similar here, 1st kid, married over a year, low 30's. But I still got some comments on her sex, and I have already been asked, when we are thinking about the next one.
Um, can I have this one first please?!?
My niece is 6 and an only child, and my family still pesters my sister. They have already informed me, 'you can't have an only child, think of the burden when they are older'. You don't know our plans or thoughts on number of kids so why they assume things and comment is beyond me!

Leah821 · March 2017

I'm having twins and someone said to me "you know you're going to be huge, right?"

JWatt5 · March 2017

From my SIL - "If it's a girl, can I have it?" - ummm no you can't & also - ITS A BOY!

"You're getting a bit old, good thing you've gotten started finally, cause if you want two..." I'm not that old (this one comes from the older ladies that think I've wasted my time getting a career and waiting to meet the right person apparently). I just got married in 2015, and then had to go through fertility treatments so shut it...I'm doing the best I can. haha

The new one - my 1 yr old nephew Jack who I love dearly is an amazing, extra cute little baby boy - "You're having a boy, that's great, hopefully he's as good & cute as Jack, he set the bar high"

and_peggy · March 2017

Ours will be 15 months apart, so I've gotten some fun comments. Most common is, "You know how this happens right?" Sometimes I want to look and them and say, "Insert penis, shoot sperm, baby" but usually I just walk away.

Because apparently you can't have 2 kids in 2 years and understand how reproduction works.

Mango517 · March 2017

I've gotten the late August baby weather comments a lot. Whatever.

I think the rudest one I've gotten is from our town tax lady. We have a few properties in town and one of our tax bills was seriously messed up. At about 8 weeks pregnant I had to go sit in a stuffy tax office, while fighting morning sickness so I mentioned my pregnancy, for well over an hour and argue about why the bill was wrong. At the end of it (I was right!) I stood up go and she goes "well next time I see you, you'll be fat."

Wtf.

brookeelyse527 · March 2017

I don't like people commenting on what I'm eating or drinking.

SouthernMama15 · March 2017

@smallbutmighty77 when DS was 4 days old FIL told me we should start trying again in 3 months. I finally got him off my back when I told him the obstetrician recommends 18 months between pregnancies.

littlebug2010 · March 2017

Ive gotten a lot of weather comments and I live in boston! Like yes, I completely understand that weather is august is hot, but thats why god created AC!

The one I hate though is "so, hows your weight?" I have had this from a few older men. They all go to the church my MIL pastors, but still, WTH! Why would you ask a women that, pregnant or not.

My MIL also likes to tell me how I am carrying baby all around, and not just in the front. DH has assured me that I am not carrying all around, and dont look like a beach ball. He even said that he cant tell im pregnant from behind. My MIL is and has always been super thin, and I think she forgets that I was always a bit rounder and 8 inches shorter than her!

DeansGirl14 · March 2017

Oh! Shit people say to fathers. DH was told, "You're having a Cubs baby!"

Well unfortunately we're actually White Sox fans, so not quite.

budzynb · March 2017

littlebug2010 I am getting weather comments too and I'm in Michigan! I'm sorry I didn't purposely get pregnant during one of the two decent months we have all year lol

I'm 110lb and 5'7" so I've always gotten "you're so thin, go eat a burger" comments but now co-workers are saying "I can't wait to finally see you get fat!!"

When I bounce back I'll be sure to let you know I have my size 2's back on, @sshats.

and_peggy · March 2017

I've gotten the weather comments. I'm in south Texas. DD was a May baby so I dodged it last time around but the heat will be brutal this time.

NatSprat0703 · March 2017

I live in southern Louisiana. If I have one more person tell me I'm going to be huge and miserable come May-August, I seriously just may slap them. Never fails, that's the very first thing out of people's mouths when I tell them my due date. Like sorry we couldn't time exactly when we wanted to give birth. We TTC for a year. I'll take any due date!!
Also when I say I want some type of junk food, people always say "I wish I could have that. you're pregnant and can eat whatever you want." Up until 18 weeks, I could barely hold down anything let alone eat what I wanted. Secondly, just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I should pig out on a dozen donuts a day. Still need to eat decently and control my weight gain...

Lauradi1010 · March 2017

I've gotten the side eye in food/ drink choices both scolding me for different reasons. One time my MIL was trying to talk me into shark & swordfish which is a pregnancy no-no. I have never eaten either. She doesn't get some cooked fish are off limits.

While at a meeting filled with 3 dozen sorority women, "should you really be drinking that?" I had to explain a cup of caffeinated coffee was okay to about a dozen older ladies. Thankfully the host (my age) jumped right in and said she never gave up coffee while pregnant because she's a bitch without it.

littlebeansma · March 2017

+1 for the weather comments: I live in socal... yes I understand how hot I will be, I realized this very early on.. but hey baby will be here for the holidays

Also telling gma that we're having a girl: super excited, looks at me and says "oh are you disappointed it's a girl?"....WHAT...so confused. I never had a preference, just gimme a healthy baby

And the friggin best so far which I can't even believe how many people have said: when and if SO and I will get married. Umm that's our business. You will find out when and if you get an invite. It seriously drives me crazy everytime I'm asked this and I have yet to come up with a good response (snarky response)

Edited: autocorrect

kvh22 · March 2017

We went to one of DH's college (and grad school) roommate's weddings this past weekend. Another roommate and good friend said something along the lines of how pregnancy was disgusting (as I was adjusting my high waisted skirt over my bump). It was not meant as offensive and we had a conversation about why I don't think it's disgusting (he thinks that having essentially an alien growing inside of you is terrifying). In isolation, probably the worst thing anyone has said to me, but in context, he was just thinking about the idea and grossed out while being open to a conversation about it. Afterwards, he turned to his wife and said "and you want to do this?" She responded "yes, eventually." and he just shrugged and said "okay."

AB518 · March 2017

One of the most common comments I hear is that "Your husband must be happy that it's a boy." I don't get it. Would they expect him to be disappointed if it were a girl? I'm confused. I don't even know how to respond to that statement. I usually just do an awkward smile and change the topic.

I also constantly get asked, "Was it planned?" or "Were you trying?" Does it matter? They ask it like as if my pregnancy was an accident. I'm always surprised by this question too because DH and I are not that young, we've been married for several years, and we both have established careers. I'm just surprised that people haven't made the comment that it was about time that we finally decided to have a kid especially since most of our family and friends who are about the same age as us are done having kids.

lynkat · March 2017

@Kudlica27 I get the beginning of school year comments too *eye roll*

Mango517 · March 2017

I've also found that some people get really weirdly ....patriarchal (?) when they find out we're having a boy. As if they think it's amazing we are producing a son. A few people have been like "A boy! And you got him on your first try! "

Then everyone assumes my husband must be thrilled it's a boy.

and_peggy · March 2017

That's so weird about all the boy comments. My husband absolutely adores our little girl. We both would love if this baby was a boy, but we would also be ecstatic if it was a girl. I don't get people.

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