As you all know CarsonsMommy was banned because of everything that went down. She then came back as TheMommyofTwoLittles. This account was made the same day the first account was banned. At first she denied it was her. After some digging around I was able to find her on FB(she inadvertently gave important information here that I used) and found a photo that matched the profile pic she had for that account. I sent her an email with the proof and after she saw it is when she came forward and admitted she lied. I'm the one that told her to apologize even though it would not change anyone's mind about her but that it was the right thing to do.
Now the day I sent the email this 3rd account was created. So even before she was found out she had already created another account. This new account is MissCassy. She intro'd on Aug '17 intro board and right away people flagged her but it was more because of what happened with TheMommyofTwoLittles. I noticed however, that the profile pic of this new account looked like a profile picture of a friend of CarsonsMommy on Facebook. So I did a comparison and got others takes, Rae1 and a friend IRL. After they said they were pretty sure it was the same person I messaged this friend from my facebook. She has confirmed it is a photo of her and that her and CarsonsMommy are friends IRL. Also, in talking with her I matched some info that MissCassy put in a thread on Aug '17 about her mother being bipolar and being on meds since she was a child. CarsonsMommy's mother IS bipolar and there have been problems. So that is just one more piece to the puzzle to wrap up these 3 AE's as the same person. The friend said she is going to talk to her because she used the photo without her permission. Not sure what all will happen with that but maybe the friend will help keep her away.
*Edited because didn't think of TOU violation for posting photo of someone else* Thank you @AdaByron
I don't feel right posting the photo of the friend next to MissCassy's profile picture because of details she gave me of her personal life. Which makes me even more upset that her photo was used for the profile picture. I have told her that I will be looking for anymore photos that might surface of her or her child though in the future.
If she really IS going through the things she posted about as CarsonsMommy I hope her pregnancy progresses and she gets a take home baby but what she has done since March 2nd is not acceptable in any way. Since I will violate TOU if I say what I want to say all I will say is I will be watching.
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TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Thank you for the update. I expect she's reading this even if she's not posting. I hope she finds a helpful, beneficial outlet for what she is going through... but at this point, it's not the bump.
How do people have so much time on their hands to put that much energy into conning strangers on a mom board? It's sad, and she sounds like she may need some mental health help herself.
Thank you for the update. I expect she's reading this even if she's not posting. I hope she finds a helpful, beneficial outlet for what she is going through... but at this point, it's not the bump.
At this point, she needs psychiatric help. This is not something any of us can help. She needs serious help.
Also as to the question someone had about whether she is really pregnant? According to her FB she IS and it is a little girl. It took me reading through comments on photos to find this because there were no photos of baby on there.
Thanks for your sleuthing! But I'm pretty sure that posting photos of someone else is a major TOU violation. You may want to take those photos out to protect yourself.
I knew when I saw the profile pic with her suspected FB friend that she didn't obtain permission to use her image. Using someone elses identity, with or without permission (but especially the latter) is a huge red flag and should be grounds for an IP ban.
@BumpAdmin What do you say? After all this proof of who she is and what she has done(including using someone else's identity for a profile) is an IP Ban something that should be done?
@GreenBean Sorry I didn't want to make people paranoid. She inadvertently posted the information(she was private about that too) and I only used it because of what happened. I would never take someone's information and look them up just because. She really ticked me off with what she said and I wanted to make sure she couldn't come back and do it again.
@michelle04us Oh no, I was really unclear. You're not the one making me paranoid. You're awesome It's more seeing the proof that someone on here has been inventing an identity and trying to trick everyone. Which I always knew was possible, but to see it actually happen... yikes.
I am seriously impressed that you found her on FB. When you mentioned FB pictures before I assumed someone knew her from her previous BMB or something. But holy crap to hunting her down from random pieces of info on TB.
I am seriously impressed that you found her on FB. When you mentioned FB pictures before I assumed someone knew her from her previous BMB or something. But holy crap to hunting her down from random pieces of info on TB.
There was a post where her name was on a screenshot.
@AdaByron she made the mistake of posting a screen shot of her Facebook account in the Announcements thread around the first of the year. It had basically her full name in the shot.
Just throwing this out there but do we want to discuss the idea of a private group again? Not fb, but on this forum? If we are going to be really skeptical about new comers this late in the game (see the other thread going on today) and if we have so many people that are just lurking and not contributing I personally think it may be a good idea. I think I am more weirded out by the people who watch this board every day, don't post anything, but still send PM's when stuff hits the fan. Why bother "being part of a community" if you aren't going to actually contribute. Just my .02.
This is seriously sad. Sad that someone would say the things she said. Sad that she is wastes so much time and energy making these AE's. Sad she used her friends pictures like that. Just super sad.
I feel like @michelle04us though. I hope she gets a take home baby, and wish her well. That being said I don't want anything else to do with her because of the hurtful things she said (that hurt a dear buddy on here who is going through an equally challenging time) and the names she called people on other BMB's. Obviously she is going through some stuff but her actions and words are just too hurtful for me to move past.
+1 on a private board. I think if there is a way we can figure out to let those of us who are regular contributors in, we should do it. Yes, some crazy could still come out there, but I'd rather it be there than a FB group and I'd rather not have to worry about this scenario again.
I'm going to be honest. I've stopped contributing any kind of pictures (hdbd, etc.) because of this craziness. I'd like to be able to feel comfortable posting again and I really like the community we have here. There's lots of diverse opinions without being hateful. It's not very common that you find that.
I am 50/50 on a private board. I mean, we didn't really realize carsonsmommy was crazy until she went crazy lol. Had we been on a private group before, she probably would have been included. So it's not like we can really weed that out without just continuing to get to know each other.
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BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
Also, if my "friend" stole my pictures and did was Carsonsmommy did she would not be my friend anymore. How creepy!!!
Married: 6/2016
TTC:6/2016
BFP: 11/22/2016 | EDD: 7/29/2017
But I'm pretty sure that posting photos of someone else is a major TOU violation. You may want to take those photos out to protect yourself.
That's some good sleuthing @michelle04us well done.
I really do hope she gets the help and support she needs but she also needs to not be here anymore, for everyone else's safety and sanity.
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
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BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
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BFP: 11/4/2016
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My husband says I'm better than the FBI at finding info online when someone ticks me off.
Married: 6/2016
TTC:6/2016
BFP: 11/22/2016 | EDD: 7/29/2017
Just throwing this out there but do we want to discuss the idea of a private group again? Not fb, but on this forum? If we are going to be really skeptical about new comers this late in the game (see the other thread going on today) and if we have so many people that are just lurking and not contributing I personally think it may be a good idea. I think I am more weirded out by the people who watch this board every day, don't post anything, but still send PM's when stuff hits the fan. Why bother "being part of a community" if you aren't going to actually contribute. Just my .02.
Edit for spelling as usual.
You guys did it! +1 on the IP ban. That's nutzo.
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Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
I feel like @michelle04us though. I hope she gets a take home baby, and wish her well. That being said I don't want anything else to do with her because of the hurtful things she said (that hurt a dear buddy on here who is going through an equally challenging time) and the names she called people on other BMB's. Obviously she is going through some stuff but her actions and words are just too hurtful for me to move past.
May 17 (my fave to lurk) seems to have had success calling out some lurkers to participate... We may be too rowdy of a bunch though! Lol
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
I'm going to be honest. I've stopped contributing any kind of pictures (hdbd, etc.) because of this craziness. I'd like to be able to feel comfortable posting again and I really like the community we have here. There's lots of diverse opinions without being hateful. It's not very common that you find that.
ETA: spelling. Mobile bumping is not my forte