I don't remember where I posted about my welcome box from amazon (thanks pregnancy brain) and how I swear it said a g.c. couldn't be used to buy anything, but I was just on my registry and it says it was completed! I just ordered my box!! So excited!! I'll try to remember to post a pic when it arrives
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@chickyclg Ah! Thank you. I have just found out about this after being referred by the pediatrician, but do not know any of the acronyms. DS has an assessment in two weeks for a possible speech delay.
Question...and maybe it deserves its own thread, IDK, but I was reading the free kindle book that is being offered with your amazon registry if you didn't realize it (you can choose from a few different ones) and I didn't really even think about it much until now...circumcision. H and I haven't really talked about it yet, but I know it is something that we will have to discuss eventually. Any thoughts and/or experiences??
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@BabyMC517 I personally don't have a preferance and would probably skip it, but H has a preferance so I'll let him choose. It's something I don't really feel is fighting over unless you are 2 different religions. I've taken care of both and neither are really that hard, and I believe, equally clean. That said, I once knew a guy who did it as an adult, was in incredable pain, and noticed no differance between anythinh other than he no longer had extra skin.
@BabyMC517 we circumcised DS. I was pretty neutral on it but H felt strongly about it so I let him make the call. H didn't want his son to be too "different" in the locker room or with women which is funny, because as a woman even though I do know a few guys who aren't and had a hard time with it growing up, I don't think circumcised versus uncircumcised is a big deal at all. I didn't like the idea of it because it is very much a cosmetic procedure (we don't have any religious reasons to do it) but it was very easy and painless for DS which made me feel better. It's a very personal decision and I'm sure we have people on the board who feel strongly about not doing it as well.
@BabyMC517: I originally was against, knowing it's not medically necessary and as a practice is trending toward outdated. There's a reason why it's a choice left up to parents, and not some pediatrician's mandate. After ongoing discussions in our house, though, I felt I could have a yay or nay response to circumcision. Similar to what @absbubbs alluded to, my hubbs had the stronger opinion and, as a male dealing with a male issue, his vote counted for more than 50 percent. (It's not some sexist thing. If it were a "girl" issue, my vote would be heavier.) I didn't mind deferring to his experience. I've known males both cut and uncut. In the end, our son was circumcised. The procedure itself was maybe 20 minutes, and he was a day and a half old, and the doc who did it came and talked to us thoroughly first. There are risks involved. She gave him sugar water to get the endorphins flowing and lessen the pain, then he slept for like 5 hours, which gave me time to sleep (somewhat, it's still a noisy hospital). There is additional aftercare you need to provide for that first week or two until it heals. I hope this (varied) perspective helps you in your discussions with your SO.
Thanks, @RainyDays86! Didn't see your post before I posted. We don't have any religious reasons for it either, so really it is more of a personal preferences like you said. It makes me a little nervous to have a cosmetic surgery done so early, if that's what H decides. I fee like there are more risks/complications for surgery than not having the surgery.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@BabyMC517 , we did a lot of research and ultimately couldn't convince ourselves that there was any point, so we did not circumcise. I don't think that there is really a "wrong" decision because it is so personal and the kid will likely be fine either way. Our decision not to basically came down to a discussion about why we would surgically alter his genitals if there was no reason beyond cosmetics. It's very difficult to find non-biased facts on the internet, so if it's something you are trying to make a decision on, just be cautious on the sources you use.
@BabyMC517 I think it's something you and H have to come to an agreement on. My fiancé and I were totally butting heads on this one. We both feel very strongly one way, and unfortunately it's not the same way. But we talked it out (a lot), head one another out and came up with our decision together. Obviously one of us didn't get "our" original outcome, but in the end we decided what we felt was best as a team.
Did anyone go to any of the women's marches/protests this past weekend? A friend of mine went to one at 9 months pregnant! The pictures of her were amazing and I was reminded of just how giant we will all be in April-May.
@BabyMC517, We're having a son, and DH would like for him to be circumcised because I think he had some insecurities looking different from his peers growing up (in addition to being the only Asian in a white school). I don't think there's a right or wrong answer on this one, though.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@BabyMC517 I am guessing that will be a very controversial conversation and I am thinking it should probably have it's own thread when we're ready to go down that road (could be now!).
@BabyMC517- I completely agree with @Kipperoo. We did a lot of research and discussed it amongst ourselves while I was pregnant with my son (though we were team green). While my husband didn't necessarily have the final say, I definitely took his opinion into account in forming my own. I agree that it's difficult to find non-biased facts, as both sides get a bit crazy with their rhetoric. I don't think circumcision is evil or anything like that, it just wasn't for us. The reasons touted by proponents of circumcision didn't persuade us. In the end, we agreed not to circumcise.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
IMO circumcision needs its own thread. It's going to keep coming up and there will be tons of opinions. We opted not to do it and we're happy with that decision.
Also, I will say again (and probably bring it up in UO Thursday) that I don't like how most things get relegated to "randoms." I'd like to see more so-called "random" posts on the main page. I usually skip this thread because it's too big and then there's not much else left on the main page. It's also hard to follow because there are like 6 conversations happening at once in the randoms thread, in addition to the one-off random posts. Maybe I just think the bar for "main post" should be lower than it is, and "randoms" can include truly random things. I think this kind of thread makes more sense if we were on a big board, but there are only so many people in this monthly board, so I don't think it would be so bad to "clutter" the main page a bit more.
I had an episiotomy with my first (that I was completely unprepared for and never given a choice about!) and it was a difficult healing process. I have no idea how many stitches I had because I was never brave enough to look. I used sitz baths, the little peri bottle, dermablast spray, and the ice pack/mesh undies combo that the nurses gave me. I wasn't cleared to have sex at my 6 week appointment ....I think I was to wait another 2-4 weeks before attempting. I am hoping I don't have one of those again and will be sure to speak up better this time (another of my reasons for hiring a Doula so she'll be able to help me find my voice; I was like so overwhelmed during my first labor that I barely spoke). I'd rather take my changes with tearing naturally if at all possible.
DH: 34/Me: 35 Married: Feb 2008 DD: June 2011 TTC# 2: April 2014 BFP!! 8/29/16 --> EDD: 5/11/17....it's a GIRL!!!
@kat81 Do you think we should do more new threads then? For instance we should've done one reg. tearing/episiotomy? If so, I like that idea. That way they're easier to find, especially when they become big topics.
I am for new threads! I definitely felt a little nervous/hesitant being new around here to do so. In my short time here, I've noticed the randoms thread gets crazy.
Add me to the list of those who are pro new threads! Definitely makes the searching and keeping up with the chatter a lot easier, especially on big topics like tearing/circumcision/breast feeding/etc...
I'm ok with new threads if it's a question that you feel more than one person would have an opinion/answer/question about. Like circumcision, it's probably going to be a debate and there's separate questions regarding the procedure that can all be lumped into one thread. Same with the tearing... there were multiple questions regarding it and it's something the majority of us will or have experienced.
Its the random questions, like "how do I order my Amazon completion box?" Something simple like that definitely doesn't need its own thread!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Maybe we should vote on this. I enjoy the randoms because some things truly only require 1 or 2 people to answer. I feel pretty strongly about keeping most things to randoms. I do think circ & tearing would be fine in their own threads. I think each poster should probably think about the subject of the post and the amount of people it applies to. I really don't think a bunch of "Hey is this a normal symptom?" separate threads are necessary and they can fit here.
^Yes. I think the random symptoms should definitely be kept in the random threads. Unless you start a whole separate "symptoms" post and ALL symptoms questions go in there. Just from my lurking on other boards, I think ours is run pretty smoothly!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Thank you to those who have responded to my question!
I only posted here because the thread is for "randoms and questions" but I can totally see this, and may other questions on this thread, being their own threads, which is why I said at the beginning that it probably could be. I have no problems with it being its own thread down the line (or now), it was just a question that came up in my head at the moment and just figured I'd ask.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Gosh I'm so behind. It's been a crazy week for us with closing on our house, trying to get stuff done and having my mom here all last week that I've lurked more than usual. Now that DD is down and I'm unmotivated to do anything house related, I'm going to bump instead.
@luckywife10 DH didn't read any books at all except a little bit of wonderweek and some of the BLW book when permitted. If anything came up and he didn't understand, he just researched online.
@mspacman34 go for the camera on the registry!!! if you're worried about judgement from baby shower goers, I'd add it after the event.
@jayandaplus I hope you're feeling better, let me know if you need anything
@auro_c I hope the mole situation checks out okay. I'm team better safe than sorry. I had one that I was really concerned about and ended up getting two extras removed). It's been a few years since, so y'all are allowed to get on my case to go get checked as well.
@laurapalmier I had a 2nd degree tear. No idea how many stiches. I had an epidural so I was on my back. I didn't do any massages or oil prior to the birth. My OB did a lot of stretching that really hurt, and she didn't start to until DD was coming down the canal. I believe she used some oil or something as well. I really don't remember. I do remember the first pee burned like hell.
@babymc517 ahhh circumcision! I know this can get heated, but I love our board and how everybody is able to share their personal opinions without anybody feeling attacked. DH is very pro circumcision, mostly because he feels it's the norm and it's what he's used to. I did some research on both and am personally okay with either way, I just asked him to do his research as well so he can understand both sides. Like some PPs said, there's really no wrong or right decision, do what you and DH feel is best for your boy.
I'm also with the idea of more threads on topics that will involve a lot of answers. I took me nearly an hour to catch up and reply here
@BabyMC517: Everyone seems to have voted for the circ discussion to be its own thread. Why don't you go ahead now and post your question in its own new post. Then we (half dozen?) people who've replied could at least copy & paste our answers there, for searchability's sake later on. Just a thought.
I agree that more threads on the main page wouldn't be a bad thing. I think everyone who posts regularly here would be able to use their discretion as to what really belongs in the random thread and what would be a better main page post (symptoms stick to random, big topics like circumcision go to main page). Sometimes the randoms are just way too big to weed through, especially for people who don't check in during work hours (today's an exception because I'm working from home).
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
WOW I didn't expect that people would be in so much agreement.
Yeah, my thought is that if it's not really bump related but a fun update like "we closed on our house today!" or "I got a raise!" it can be in randoms. But if you want to ask/talk about something that odds are someone else would be interested in (like probably most pregnancy stuff), just make its own post. I put the women's march thing in here because it's not bump related, even though I thought maybe people would weigh in. But for something like circumcision I'd make my own thread.
Sometimes it's also in how you word it. You could ask about something that might be somewhat specific to you, but then say, "who else has a weird symptom to share?" and then it's a conversation. Worst case scenario it's a bum thread and it falls off the first page pretty fast.
My kids haven't napped today, I just went in their room to put them back into bed and they tore up their freaking blinds! I desperately put up the PNPs and plopped them in. They are both getting molars and NEED a nap, like I NEED them to take a freaking nap.
Finally trying to catch up! I'm pro more threads (that are relevant to everyone/nearly everyone/at least 10+ people). One I would love to see that other boards have is basically like a big "labor/postpartum dumb questions" thread. Primarily would be FTMs like me asking STM+s things but I always learn new things reading them! Not sure how everyone else feels about this
Here's a random. Got a dental cleaning today BC my insurance told me pregnant women need it at least every 6 months or more because of hormones. My gums are sooo irritated but I'm glad I went.
@jayandaplus it would definitely be a bottle of wine or 2 type of a night if I weren't pregnant. I also need to suck it up and go get my teeth cleaned badly.
Anyone else feel like they're in a second trimester slump of some sort? In general, I still have a lot of energy/motivation and have been working on a lot of things around the house. But, if I don't have something to actively do, it's like I can't relax. I end up just sitting, looking over my baby registry for the 20th time that day, then I get really sleepy. I seem to only have energy for baby stuff and don't feel like reading or doing other "relaxing" activities I'd normally do.
@chickyclg Yikes! DS's molars are coming in as well (which is why I think that cold he had last week was way worse). But you are dealing with it x2! I hope they nap for your sanity's sake. FX
After 30 minutes of screaming in pack n plays both kids are sleeping! Oh, and they both had pants on at the start of nap time but you know...... toddlers.
@chickyclg yay for them finally going down! DD resisted a nap for an hour and after some talk over the monitor to lay down and shut her eyes she finally conked out. Her first 2yr molar just broke through so another must be not far behind. Oy.
Re: Randoms and Questions 1.23 - 1.29
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Also, I will say again (and probably bring it up in UO Thursday) that I don't like how most things get relegated to "randoms." I'd like to see more so-called "random" posts on the main page. I usually skip this thread because it's too big and then there's not much else left on the main page. It's also hard to follow because there are like 6 conversations happening at once in the randoms thread, in addition to the one-off random posts. Maybe I just think the bar for "main post" should be lower than it is, and "randoms" can include truly random things. I think this kind of thread makes more sense if we were on a big board, but there are only so many people in this monthly board, so I don't think it would be so bad to "clutter" the main page a bit more.
DH: 34/Me: 35
Married: Feb 2008
DD: June 2011
TTC# 2: April 2014
BFP!! 8/29/16 --> EDD: 5/11/17....it's a GIRL!!!
Hows everyone else feel?
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Its the random questions, like "how do I order my Amazon completion box?" Something simple like that definitely doesn't need its own thread!
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
Just from my lurking on other boards, I think ours is run pretty smoothly!
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
I only posted here because the thread is for "randoms and questions" but I can totally see this, and may other questions on this thread, being their own threads, which is why I said at the beginning that it probably could be. I have no problems with it being its own thread down the line (or now), it was just a question that came up in my head at the moment and just figured I'd ask.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@luckywife10 DH didn't read any books at all except a little bit of wonderweek and some of the BLW book when permitted. If anything came up and he didn't understand, he just researched online.
@mspacman34 go for the camera on the registry!!! if you're worried about judgement from baby shower goers, I'd add it after the event.
@jayandaplus I hope you're feeling better, let me know if you need anything
@auro_c I hope the mole situation checks out okay. I'm team better safe than sorry. I had one that I was really concerned about and ended up getting two extras removed). It's been a few years since, so y'all are allowed to get on my case to go get checked as well.
@mrsrep123 I hope you kick butt on the GD test!
@thistlenweeds congrats on passing the road test!!!
@laurapalmier I had a 2nd degree tear. No idea how many stiches. I had an epidural so I was on my back. I didn't do any massages or oil prior to the birth. My OB did a lot of stretching that really hurt, and she didn't start to until DD was coming down the canal. I believe she used some oil or something as well. I really don't remember. I do remember the first pee burned like hell.
@babymc517 ahhh circumcision! I know this can get heated, but I love our board and how everybody is able to share their personal opinions without anybody feeling attacked. DH is very pro circumcision, mostly because he feels it's the norm and it's what he's used to. I did some research on both and am personally okay with either way, I just asked him to do his research as well so he can understand both sides. Like some PPs said, there's really no wrong or right decision, do what you and DH feel is best for your boy.
I'm also with the idea of more threads on topics that will involve a lot of answers. I took me nearly an hour to catch up and reply here
Thanks for all of the well wishes ladies!
I'm in for starting new threads that will benefit a majority of the group, I.e. Circumcision, tears/labor experiences...
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Yeah, my thought is that if it's not really bump related but a fun update like "we closed on our house today!" or "I got a raise!" it can be in randoms. But if you want to ask/talk about something that odds are someone else would be interested in (like probably most pregnancy stuff), just make its own post. I put the women's march thing in here because it's not bump related, even though I thought maybe people would weigh in. But for something like circumcision I'd make my own thread.
Sometimes it's also in how you word it. You could ask about something that might be somewhat specific to you, but then say, "who else has a weird symptom to share?" and then it's a conversation. Worst case scenario it's a bum thread and it falls off the first page pretty fast.
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
Here's a random. Got a dental cleaning today BC my insurance told me pregnant women need it at least every 6 months or more because of hormones. My gums are sooo irritated but I'm glad I went.
I also need to suck it up and go get my teeth cleaned badly.
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks