Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Subchorionic Hemorrhage (SCH) Support
am appalled that your doctor would have the gall to say something to completely insensitive and crude as "if you value this pregnancy...", but that's not really the point.
I personally would take it easy, rest as
much as you can, make sure you have AMPLE access to water, and make sure your husband is completely aware and on the same page as you about your restrictions, but I would go and just use common sense. The idea that a women can literally drop everything in her life and not get out of bed for weeks on end is such an antiquated idea - life doesn't work that way. Take it easy, don't overdo it, and drink gallons (figuratively of course) of water, but I would go, for your mental sanity as much as anything else.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
We went today and then bleed with Baby B was a bit smaller. I just have brown spotting now so I'm feeling better. The twins were moving and had heart rates in the 160's. The added ultrasounds are stressful, but we are really getting to see our twins grow week by week! Our next scan in two weeks she said she would look for gender!!!
Continued prayers for all of us and our little butter beans!
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@yanchuss Yes, how did your day go?
I've had no more bleeding, but I'm still wiping a bit of brown. I've been doing that since 6 weeks though, so I'm not overly worried. At my last ultrasound, I saw the baby moving like crazy, and it felt like there was a small fish flopping in my stomach. I've felt the same movements a few times over the last 2 days, so I'm assuming baby is still fine! I have an appointment with my OB on Monday, hoping for good news!
I'm so happy to see some of your SCH's have disappeared!
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She wasn't supposed to see me again until 20 weeks, but she found out my family dr hasn't done any of the required blood work I needed so far, so thankfully she's decided to see me from now until the rest of my pregnancy. Hopefully I'll get some real support from here on out! It's the first time I've felt hopeful about my medical care.
Hope you're all doing well! Has anyone else's hemorrhages gotten smaller/disappeared?
I stopped bleeding a week and a half ago, and am hoping they clear me at my anatomy scan on the 10th. In the mean time, I've been released from pelvic rest as long as I continue to not bleed. Unfortunately, my husband is in Hawaii for three weeks, so I'm still chaste a nun over here. Really, really hoping they see no SCH or praevia at my anatomy scan, but I am so, SO relieved that all of us seem to be doing better.
@ebennett1007, how is the second bleed with Baby B looking and how are you feeling?
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Still nauseated all day.... but that is a different story!
@yanchuss, any update from the ER? Been thinking about you today.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Hope you get some good news tomorrow @ktewart!
we also found out that both babies are BOYS!
Congratulations @ebennett1007
They said that it seems to be in the same place as it was before, though it's longer. They described it as long and skinny. They didn't seem too concerned, but everything has me so confused. How could nothing be there 10 days ago and now it's back and longer than it ever has been? The doctor was very adamant that there's nothing that is done to cause these, but I had a very stressful week and was on the verge of a nervous breakdown on Friday and Saturday. I'm talking full on screaming, crying hysterically, etc. on and off for 2-3 hours for 2 days. My mind keeps telling me that that's what caused it to come back or to get another one or re-open.
I'm trying to listen to the docs who say not to worry about it at this stage in pregnancy. They'll recheck it at my 20 week scan, and it poses no risks to the baby. I thought I could finally breathe a sigh of relief that everything seemed great at 15 weeks, 4 days, but now I feel like this SCH will make me lose the baby. Any insight/advice/experiences?
Married: November 2015
Also, 2.5 cm is small compared to the size of your baby right now, so take some comfort in that.
Edited a typo
I know how terrifying it is knowing you have a hemorrhage, but please trust it's absolutely nothing you did/caused. The stress will only make things harder. The crappiest thing about this condition is that there's no information other than "nothing you did caused it, and there's nothing you/anyone else can do to make the hemorrhage go away", which isn't helpful! Especially if you're like me and like to think we're semi-incontrol of our bodies lol.
I was diagnoes at 6 weeks with an SCH and have been having heavy bleeding pretty much every 2 weeks since then (I'm 15 weeks today and still have my SCH). The ER is my second home now. Your SCH is smaller than mine, and the doctor's still tell me every time I go in that there is no risk to the baby at this stage and that it will likely disappear by 20 weeks. Unfortunately, some women bleed throughout their entire pregnancies. The fact that we are so far along works in our favour. I know it's not as reassuring as knowing the hemorrhage is gone, but try to have faith that we've made it this far and our babies are still continuing to grow and are staying healthy! My OB also suggests counting to 24 weeks as opposed to 40. At 24 weeks, even if the baby is born early, there's a high chance of survival. Obviously this is not ideal, but for me knowing I can make it to 24 weeks is not as scary as thinking I HAVE to make it to 40 weeks.
I'm hoping your SCH will be gone next ultrasound! Keep us updated.