So going back to our first born becoming a sibling.... My DD is only 15 months old. I am so nervous about her becoming a big sister. I can't even tell her that she is going to have a young sibling. I guess closer to the end I'll be showing and she will be more intelligent?
@chiquita928 The 'ignore this thread' was a bump picture that was posted as a new discussion instead of the HDBD thread. As you can imagine, it wasn't received well. I guess the OP had the Bump Gods deleted the whole thread.
@chiquita928 it was a random who has posted 3 threads that were random questions. She admitted that she doesn't participate in the board and doesn't understand why everyone was so upset.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
So going back to our first born becoming a sibling.... My DD is only 15 months old. I am so nervous about her becoming a big sister. I can't even tell her that she is going to have a young sibling. I guess closer to the end I'll be showing and she will be more intelligent?
I am in the same boat with my son, same age. And I can't tell him not to bounce on mommy's tummy either, so there's that. I am really nervous too. I also cried last night, telling hubby that I am scared and feel guilty. I saw the ultrasound yesterday of this new little squirmy worm, and felt love for it for the first time. I am sad that Carson won't have more time as an only child and that I won't be able to give him all of the attention he deserves.
What is the "exodus" that keeps getting referenced?
Back in 2014 the BmBs were handled by volunteer mods picked by general concensus from the members. The Bump did a huge reorganization, fired all of the volunteer mods with no notice, changed the TOS, and started banning like crazy. A whole bunch of the regulars here left in protest and never came back.
Its a shame because these forums used to be such an amazing resource. Every forum had multiple posts per day/hour (except for the regional ones). Now a lot of the specialty forums are lucky to get 2-3 posts per month. The BGs talk about creating a "welcoming tone" but it's the admin practices since 2014 that have driven away the majority of the membership.
I'll probably get banned for this but I have the location of where the mass exodus relocated too if anyone is interested I can share the link. I found the site to be less mobile friendly and I am lazy about trying so I don't go on their much. One of my favorite things is this opening in the intro post
"This community runs on the premise that we are adults who are responsible for what we say and do. We purposefully do not require members to be supportive, kind, or react in any way other than the way they choose to react; in other words, we do not police the personalities of our members. The Community Guidelines and Community Terms of Use listed below are the most basic needed to provide for the safety and welfare of this community.
The vibe and culture of different boards will be respected, and all new members should lurk and observe before deciding to jump in to these established communities. Take time to read any “Newbie Posts” or “Board Blogs” and all sticky threads on a board before participating. "
@dcwtada be careful because the Bump Gods even censored that site name when I would PM it to people!!!
@CarsonsMommy I was feeling the same about my now 19 month old becoming a big brother. It is so normal!! Google turns up some really great personal essays on the topic. Also, some STMs who I love and trust gave me a great pep talk, and now I'm pumped!! We've been around more babies lately, and DS looooves them. I'm excited for him to have a playmate. And honestly, I'm also excited for his company to keep me positive during the newborn stage, which is not my favorite part.
@virginiaunicorn11 I remember people created throwaway accounts to spam the location when it was going on. Do you still go on there? Did you find it mobile friendly?
As for the first child becoming a big brother/sister for the first time, my two are a year apart to the week. I was convinced my first would be too young to even understand what was happening. Nope the moment my DH brought her in the house after we came home she collapsed on the floor and sobbed. It was the first time she had ever really sobbed. Then she refused to even look at me for the rest of the day. She really wanted nothing to do with him for months after that. But now they are best friends, for example this morning when I went in to their room to get her and Davey was still asleep she ran right over to his crib and called his name until he woke up so they could go downstairs together. Just remember even if it's bumpy in the beginning or takes an adjustment (especially until the younger one is able to interact and play) they will be best friends and it is so good for their social development, learning to share, fight, play and live with a peer from early on is so great for them. Actually the only time I feel guilty is for my second and soon to be third that they will never have that individual attention but Davey would be so lost without his big sister it passes quickly
@dcwtada be careful because the Bump Gods even censored that site name when I would PM it to people!!!
@CarsonsMommy I was feeling the same about my now 19 month old becoming a big brother. It is so normal!! Google turns up some really great personal essays on the topic. Also, some STMs who I love and trust gave me a great pep talk, and now I'm pumped!! We've been around more babies lately, and DS looooves them. I'm excited for him to have a playmate. And honestly, I'm also excited for his company to keep me positive during the newborn stage, which is not my favorite part.
This! I did not love the newborn stage at all and am hoping my little buddy will keep me going!
I'll probably get banned for this but I have the location of where the mass exodus relocated too if anyone is interested I can share the link. I found the site to be less mobile friendly and I am lazy about trying so I don't go on their much. One of my favorite things is this opening in the intro post
"This community runs on the premise that we are adults who are responsible for what we say and do. We purposefully do not require members to be supportive, kind, or react in any way other than the way they choose to react; in other words, we do not police the personalities of our members. The Community Guidelines and Community Terms of Use listed below are the most basic needed to provide for the safety and welfare of this community.
The vibe and culture of different boards will be respected, and all new members should lurk and observe before deciding to jump in to these established communities. Take time to read any “Newbie Posts” or “Board Blogs” and all sticky threads on a board before participating. "
I'll add to this... I know how to make it mobile-friendly. Feel free to PM me as well for details.
There's a seven year age difference between me and my sister (my parents kind of gave up and assumed I'd be an only child). I'm sure me being older helped, but I also went to my mom's ultrasound to see my new sibling. For Christmas that year, my parents gave me a blank baby book, and my mom and I put it together as an activity for just the two of us. Santa also gave me a dollhouse - just plain and wooden. My mom and I painted and stencilled the inside together. Activities with just her and me helped me get time with her before my sister arrived.
Guys please don't hate me but I feel like every time we get a new member post an introduction as a new thread it turns into a whole thing. I am fine with the initial response that explains what we do here and wonder if we can just leave it at that? Then, if anyone has relevant comments about the actual question then go ahead.
Guys please don't hate me but I feel like every time we get a new member post an introduction as a new thread it turns into a whole thing. I am fine with the initial response that explains what we do here and wonder if we can just leave it at that? Then, if anyone has relevant comments about the actual question then go ahead.
Guys please don't hate me but I feel like every time we get a new member post an introduction as a new thread it turns into a whole thing. I am fine with the initial response that explains what we do here and wonder if we can just leave it at that? Then, if anyone has relevant comments about the actual question then go ahead.
Hi, welcome to the internet. You really can't dictate how people respond to various threads they find annoying. So sure, this sounds like a great idea, but you'll make your own life a little better if you just accept that it can't be enforced and will likely not happen. Bringing the same drama into a different thread on a day that has been otherwise annoyance-free, is not productive.
@AdaByron I see your point. I can't change people. I don't want to bring any drama, I guess I was just venting because this happens so much here and really leaves a bad taste. I don't go looking for it, you know? I see a new topic and next thing I know, it spirals down. It's upsetting. Not much I can do about it, apparently.
@morgarita@mslynn2012 I am so down for the toddler bubble. I just worry he'll break more of my stuff than he already does. Kid just needs an entire padded room until he's 15
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
Hey everyone!! Thoughts or experiences on children sharing rooms at a young age? I'm thinking one room as play room, other room as bedroom. LO is 16 months and will be, fingers crossed, in his own room all night and 21/22 months when baby comes. Don't know the sex yet of number 2! Baby 2 will be in a basket in our room for a looooong time. Probably a full year. So DS and LO will be 22 months apart, and probably won't actually share a room until 12 months and almost 3 years old.
Hey everyone!! Thoughts or experiences on children sharing rooms at a young age? I'm thinking one room as play room, other room as bedroom. LO is 16 months and will be, fingers crossed, in his own room all night and 21/22 months when baby comes. Don't know the sex yet of number 2! Baby 2 will be in a basket in our room for a looooong time. Probably a full year. So DS and LO will be 22 months apart, and probably won't actually share a room until 12 months and almost 3 years old.
Just something I'm thinking about!
My friend had her 2 kids sleep in one room and play in the next room. I believe the ages were almost the same as yours. It worked well for her.
I can only assume that it's easier to manage. You can tidy up after they go to sleep. They can get a good sense of where to sleep and where to play. And at a young age I'm sure they'll enjoy not being alone.
DD will be 22 months when LO will get here and once LO sleeps through the night they'll share a room. But I have no choice living in a 2br.
Hey everyone!! Thoughts or experiences on children sharing rooms at a young age? I'm thinking one room as play room, other room as bedroom. LO is 16 months and will be, fingers crossed, in his own room all night and 21/22 months when baby comes. Don't know the sex yet of number 2! Baby 2 will be in a basket in our room for a looooong time. Probably a full year. So DS and LO will be 22 months apart, and probably won't actually share a room until 12 months and almost 3 years old.
Just something I'm thinking about!
I'd go ahead and make the other br into a playroom, since it will be so long before #2 is out of your room anyway, but have a plan B for sticking #2's crib in there if bedtime becomes difficult with the shared room, or if the baby has sleep trouble and is waking up the older one. I think there are a lot of pros/cons to both situations, and it will be nice to have the option to share or split them up.
I'll probably get banned for this but I have the location of where the mass exodus relocated too if anyone is interested I can share the link. I found the site to be less mobile friendly and I am lazy about trying so I don't go on their much. One of my favorite things is this opening in the intro post
"This community runs on the premise that we are adults who are responsible for what we say and do. We purposefully do not require members to be supportive, kind, or react in any way other than the way they choose to react; in other words, we do not police the personalities of our members. The Community Guidelines and Community Terms of Use listed below are the most basic needed to provide for the safety and welfare of this community.
The vibe and culture of different boards will be respected, and all new members should lurk and observe before deciding to jump in to these established communities. Take time to read any “Newbie Posts” or “Board Blogs” and all sticky threads on a board before participating. "
I also have it! I'm always mobile, though, and I found the same to be true. This app unfortunately is much easier to use. It's a shame the bump has gotten this ridiculous. It used to be really cool!
Hey everyone!! Thoughts or experiences on children sharing rooms at a young age? I'm thinking one room as play room, other room as bedroom. LO is 16 months and will be, fingers crossed, in his own room all night and 21/22 months when baby comes. Don't know the sex yet of number 2! Baby 2 will be in a basket in our room for a looooong time. Probably a full year. So DS and LO will be 22 months apart, and probably won't actually share a room until 12 months and almost 3 years old.
Just something I'm thinking about!
I'd go ahead and make the other br into a playroom, since it will be so long before #2 is out of your room anyway, but have a plan B for sticking #2's crib in there if bedtime becomes difficult with the shared room, or if the baby has sleep trouble and is waking up the older one. I think there are a lot of pros/cons to both situations, and it will be nice to have the option to share or split them up.
That's a great idea. It's not like I can't just switch the crib into the other room if it doesn't work?! Nothing is permanent. I am excited though because I can't wait to get all the toys that have overrun my home, into a playroom!!!! I swear it's like his toys multiply, I don't even buy him much. It just shows up between birthday/Christmas and hand me downs from friends/family.
So apparently the BG's think ams512 is a troll and they won't reactivate her account. WTF?
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@BumpAdmin can you please free our definitely not a troll friend ams512???
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Hey everyone!! Thoughts or experiences on children sharing rooms at a young age? I'm thinking one room as play room, other room as bedroom. LO is 16 months and will be, fingers crossed, in his own room all night and 21/22 months when baby comes. Don't know the sex yet of number 2! Baby 2 will be in a basket in our room for a looooong time. Probably a full year. So DS and LO will be 22 months apart, and probably won't actually share a room until 12 months and almost 3 years old.
Just something I'm thinking about!
My friend had her 2 kids sleep in one room and play in the next room. I believe the ages were almost the same as yours. It worked well for her.
I can only assume that it's easier to manage. You can tidy up after they go to sleep. They can get a good sense of where to sleep and where to play. And at a young age I'm sure they'll enjoy not being alone.
DD will be 22 months when LO will get here and once LO sleeps through the night they'll share a room. But I have no choice living in a 2br.
I hope it works well for us and you! I don't know why but I really like the thought of sharing rooms.
Ugh*** I had this whole thing typed out and then my phone died and it didn't save?!
Omg ETA: it was going crazy and doubled quoted everything! I deleted it.
Re: Randoms 2.0
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
edit for spelling.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
Its a shame because these forums used to be such an amazing resource. Every forum had multiple posts per day/hour (except for the regional ones). Now a lot of the specialty forums are lucky to get 2-3 posts per month. The BGs talk about creating a "welcoming tone" but it's the admin practices since 2014 that have driven away the majority of the membership.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
"This community runs on the premise that we are adults who are responsible for what we say and do. We purposefully do not require members to be supportive, kind, or react in any way other than the way they choose to react; in other words, we do not police the personalities of our members. The Community Guidelines and Community Terms of Use listed below are the most basic needed to provide for the safety and welfare of this community.
The vibe and culture of different boards will be respected, and all new members should lurk and observe before deciding to jump in to these established communities. Take time to read any “Newbie Posts” or “Board Blogs” and all sticky threads on a board before participating. "
@CarsonsMommy I was feeling the same about my now 19 month old becoming a big brother. It is so normal!! Google turns up some really great personal essays on the topic. Also, some STMs who I love and trust gave me a great pep talk, and now I'm pumped!! We've been around more babies lately, and DS looooves them. I'm excited for him to have a playmate. And honestly, I'm also excited for his company to keep me positive during the newborn stage, which is not my favorite part.
@Rae1 lmao you are a genius
As for the first child becoming a big brother/sister for the first time, my two are a year apart to the week. I was convinced my first would be too young to even understand what was happening. Nope the moment my DH brought her in the house after we came home she collapsed on the floor and sobbed. It was the first time she had ever really sobbed. Then she refused to even look at me for the rest of the day. She really wanted nothing to do with him for months after that. But now they are best friends, for example this morning when I went in to their room to get her and Davey was still asleep she ran right over to his crib and called his name until he woke up so they could go downstairs together. Just remember even if it's bumpy in the beginning or takes an adjustment (especially until the younger one is able to interact and play) they will be best friends and it is so good for their social development, learning to share, fight, play and live with a peer from early on is so great for them. Actually the only time I feel guilty is for my second and soon to be third that they will never have that individual attention but Davey would be so lost without his big sister it passes quickly
^sorry for the wall of text
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
Just something I'm thinking about!
I can only assume that it's easier to manage. You can tidy up after they go to sleep. They can get a good sense of where to sleep and where to play. And at a young age I'm sure they'll enjoy not being alone.
DD will be 22 months when LO will get here and once LO sleeps through the night they'll share a room. But I have no choice living in a 2br.
makes no sense.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
Ugh*** I had this whole thing typed out and then my phone died and it didn't save?!
Omg ETA: it was going crazy and doubled quoted everything! I deleted it.