Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Subchorionic Hemorrhage (SCH) Support
The not so great news, I have to wait to hear from my doctor tomorrow and still have no idea why I'm bleeding. Hoping it was the hemorrhage passing or getting smaller, but time will tell.
people, should be seeing a specialist and the delay from your doctor just sounds like sheer laziness. Is there ANY way around this ridiculousness?!
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Sorry, I know different health care systems work differently, and there are advantages and disadvantages to all the systems (Hell, I'm in the US, but since my husband is active duty, we're in a whole different system than the civilian world), but I would hope that common sense would still rule the day here. A healthy, active baby, but a mom who literally is in the ER every 3-4 days and literally bled through 6 pads in less than an hour isn't considered high risk?! That just makes me really, really angry on your behalf. They better hope that baby stays snug and healthy in there. There's a time for rules and there's a time for common sense and they seem to be confusing the two right now.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
I'm going to lose it. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks I'm not over-reacting.
Gonna keep it in mind too every time I hear how people are running to Canada for "free healthcare."
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
So if you combine the regular pregnancy fears with this added (and not unjustified) one, it can feel insurmountable. But I would start with, if you haven't already, asking that very direct question of your doctor, assuming you trust them and their opinion. I would also repeat to yourselves the mantra "Today, I am pregnant", and then remind yourselves that the human body is designed to perform miracles and the human condition is predisposed towards life. Both your babies are, inherently, before they're even born, coded to want to survive and they will do everything they can to get earthside to you safely. They need that same determination from you. Don't give up on them yet, even though it is so, so scary, what you're dealing with.
If it helps, the magic number for me, with my son, was 22-23 weeks. That is the edge of medical viability. Every day past that was a day closer to a baby who didn't need help out here, but it meant he could survive with help if he came early. That countdown was easier for me than the full 40.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
had a scan today to measure the size. It actually terrified me more because it was so big. They didn't measure it last week so there was no quantifiable way to see if it's grown but it's definitely...."substantial" as the tech said to me with wide eyes.
My OB thankfully called me after to talk me off a ledge. All the doctors I talk to keep saying...we HAVE had people with this size SCH have a good outcome. -- which is the nice way of saying it doesn't usually end well.
ugh. It was 6cm x 4cm x 2cm. Almost as big as my uterus.
ETA: that is NOT almost as big as my uterus I was thinking inches. Just getting carried away over here
@dancegurl1118, did the doctor happen to mention where in your uterus the hemorrhage is located?
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
PS: if last week's ultrasound images are stored at the office/ hospital where you had it, they should be able to go back and measure it on those.
I go go for my NT scan tomorrow. I'm really hoping for some good news with my SCH. Not getting my hopes up though. The cramping seems to be back these last two days.
These damn SCH are royal pains in the asses. I know the stress can be overwhelming at times - God knows we've all had our share of scares these pregnancies, but your body knew what to do the first time, and I'm sure it'll figure it out this time as well. You're going to have TWO beautiful babies come July.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
I've been on bed rest for almost 2 weeks now, and I have a 7 year old at home. I feel like I'm totally neglecting her, I can't cook, do any house chores, like you said...do anything put pee and shower basically. I can't work. I can't leave the house because we're in the middle of an ice storm and I'm afraid of falling. It's driving me insane. Hopefully these hemorrhages are gone soon