Same here with sex, I would really like to have it more, but it is still uncomfortable and I am not comfortable with my body (the stretch marks, leaky, saggy boobs). I just don't like my body right now although DH says I look fantastic.
Mike says motherhood is so sexy and I'm like what part? The part where I look like death from a lack of sleep? The part where Im covered in baby slobber, spit up or food? The part where my I'm walking around with boobs out ready to nurse? Or the part where I'm sucking out mucous with a nose Frida? Lol I've never felt more unattractive in my life.
Despite Baby J being sick, she mastered sitting this morning. When we support her back slightly she starts trying to scoot so hopefully she'll be moving in the next month.
On the sex thing, I didn't feel super attractive, but dh seems more attracted me since I had baby J. I don't know why, but it works for him. Despite the fact that I'm now 10 pounds above my prepregnancy weight, he works hard to make me feel beautiful. So on good days, I can get past feeling huge and saggy and tired.
For me it's so hard to turn off mommy and turn on sexy wife. I have a hard time relaxing after a long day of clingy baby that I don't want anyone touching, especially my husband. I wish I were into sex more and that I didn't feel like a bad wife, but it's hard! We do try after our date nights because I had a few hours baby free and can feel sexy, but then if we come home to a crank and he has a hard time getting to bed, I lose steam. Sex after baby is hard.
So in another working mom fail, I fell asleep at my desk during my last pumping session at work (I pump at 4:45 and leave at 5:10 to get C). When I woke up, it was 5:42, I have to get C by 6 PM! I got on the metro, called daycare and sprinted to her to get there at 6:02, I felt horrible, but her teachers were very understanding, but what if I didn't wake up to 7?
This is why I wish my family lived closer or that my husband didn't work nights (police officer), I can tell the night routine is wearing me down, considering I am falling asleep while pumping at work. By time I pick up C, walk home, feed her, spend some time together, get her to bed, eat dinner, do some school work, pump and get her bottles ready for the next day it is already 11/midnight. Which gives me no time to clean my house or unwind from the day, which is causing me even more stress, since we live in such a small place, where clutter happens easily. Is anyone going through this? I know I am supposed to take care of myself so I can take care of C and DH, but how?
I've been all about bumping again this week and avoiding the work on my desk...libido has been about the same as it was before pregnancy and in early stages of pregnancy. Sex has changed a little though - for the better. For whatever reason (maybe it was seeing all I went through to bring his child into the world) DH has been more open to trying different things which has been nice because I felt like sex had just become a routine. It's a nice change of pace...hopefully you ladies begin to feel some desire back! By no means do I feel comfortable in my body with my new stretch marks but that's why the lights go off
About the sex: I haven't even tried. And part of my hesitation is the fear of getting pregnant. But all the other stuff too -- unsexy feelings, exhaustion, body image, pain...
I have zero desire...we've done it about three times. Once we get going, I remember that it's nice but getting to that point is the problem. I'm happy with my body but I also feel super exhausted and am needing some 'me time' by the time bed rolls around. I'm trying to be better because I know DH takes it personally... but meh.
This sounds weird, but once my period came back so did my sex drive. We are back to normal now! It is pretty nice. For awhile there I did have trouble. It was hard when I was so tired and felt ugly.
Sex drive is definitely down lately. As soon as my head hits the pillow, it's game over and DON'T touch me...LoL
Ladies: Are your LO's starting to have favorites on television? Lucian watches a channel called BabyFirst TV. He LOVES the little character PeekABoo and Harry the Bunny. Mickey Mouse CH also keeps his attention.
@shaylalr yep, same here. Once I got my period at 5 months PP my drive came back. And boy, did it come back. That's probably what got me in this TWW limbo right now in the first place!
No tv here for M yet. Sometimes she'll glance up at what we're watching but I hadn't even thought to put a show on for her! We listen to lots of music though.
@LDSJM123 LO loves music too! This may stem from listening to excessively loud music in the car when he was in utero on my way to and from work. Now he will squat up and down if we hold him up with his feet on the ground or bounces in the exersaucer if its on....pretty adorable!!!
@Jodi1980 oh yes, we have babyfirst tv on usually when I am in the shower or doing something where i need her to be distracted. Peekaboo, rainbow horse, color crew, and notekins are favorites. She has zero interest in some shows and is fixated on others.
Baby J loves watching football.... I can't even explain it, but any game will captivate her. I end up having to put her down in another area so she'll stop. We've also put on Blue Clues since its available on Amazon prime, but she'll watch for a bit. Mostly during the week we listen to music or I'll have the news on in the background.
AJ loves watching morning news...? He also likes Sara and Duck (a british children's show) and he did tummy time for almost an hour while watching Star Wars with Daddy. Otherwise I try to avoid TV.
Phew! So glad I'm not alone in the zero sex drive thing. Maybe when I get my period again it'll come back. Or once I lose this tummy pooch and feel sexy again.
Bump keeps eating my post and won't save my edits...grr!
I've read too many articles about the bad effects of tv on kids and I believe they are right:( DH and I only watch tv when the girls are sleeping unless our favorite teams are playing in a game. We did a decent job (not great) of keeping DD1 from watching tv until she was 2. Unless we were sick because you can only read so many books on the couch before you get bored! It will be harder to keep DD2 away from tv since her sister likes to watch it in the mornings and after rest time. For now I can just turn her around but she will soon be mobile.
We don't let E watch tv. She is obsessed with screens already! We have a hard time when we go to other people's houses and they have their tv or computer on. She won't interact with toys or people. My current rule is no tv until 2, with exceptions for sickness.
We have the Tv on a lot at home, but I don't like him to watch it so I strategically place his toys/jumper out of the way of the TV. We have it mounted over our fireplace so it's hard if he is on the floor to watch it. I haven't noticed him watching it when he is playing with toys on the floor. He will get distracted if I am holding him and he can see it, but we try to do a good job of making sure he doesn't watch. We thought we would never watch TV until he was sleeping, but that is unrealistic for me so I just try to be diligent about it.
Now that a lot of us have started solids for our LOs, what are you ladies using to get stains out of their clothes? I'm about ready to give up on carrots even though the twins love them. I just can't get the stains out!
I just posted this on the UO, but I feel like all I do is read baby books and I need a good book for me. The only problem is when I start looking for something I'm interested in I get distracted or bored of looking and end up just watching tv to relax. So... anyone read any good books lately? Or if you haven't (because life) then what's one of your favs? Thanks!
I just read Secrets of a Charmed Life and really liked it! One of my favorite books is What Alice Forgot. I read it when I was pregnant with my first child and could really relate to the main character. I totally relate to reading too many parenting books. I try to alternate between parenting books and fiction, but that doesn't always happen! Have you read Unbroken, Gone Girl or Still Alice? I loved those as well.
@holly142 out of all of those I have only read Gone Girl. The Author of What Alice Forgot is one of my favs, I have read almost everything she has done except that one! Big Little Lies is awesome.
@winnie1122 I love them. Relationship goals. Thanks!
Baby oxy clean for stains. Nat made a white outfit doodie coloured one day and it completely came out when I used that stuff. It's miraculous. Any constipation remedies for baby? We've been told to use cereals with her because her weight is a little low. However the introduction of these has seemingly caused a backup on her poor little tummy.
Carrots are no joke!!! I didn't realize how much they would stain so I didn't even bother with extra cleaning solution prior to washing. Definitely learned now!!
Random thought of the day: If DS had eggs for breakfast and I had chicken sausage and eggs, how wrong is it to say we had a Mommy and me breakfast? Is that mean to the chicken?
Anyone else doing sign language? I think she's starting to understand one or two of them! Obviously she can't sign back to me, but she doesn't fuss or cry when I change her diaper if I sign her to beforehand what we are about to do.
@shaylalr We are! He hasn't seemed to make any sense of them yet as far as I can tell though. We sign mom, dad, eat, more, and have randomly added others when we think of it...but DH is much more consistent than I am, whoops. My aunt who's hard of hearing and signs a lot said that around 9 months is when it really starts getting reciprocal with the sign language in general, and his ped said the same, so we'll see!
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@shaylalr I don't sign but we have songs for different tasks. He loves them and they keep him calm lol. I'm sure once he learns to cover his ears, that's what he'll be doing.
@shaylalr we are signing and whenever I do Q pays close attention. It's super cute! I can tell he is interested in what I'm doing. We mostly sign around food right now (Eat, good, apple, potato, more, all done) because I am trying to master those. We will then work on other activities and motivational signs. I have a friend who signs with her boy and she told me that he wasn't signing back until 10 months and on the day he did he signed like 15 words in one day! I'm excited to see Q sign back!
Re: January Randoms
On the sex thing, I didn't feel super attractive, but dh seems more attracted me since I had baby J. I don't know why, but it works for him. Despite the fact that I'm now 10 pounds above my prepregnancy weight, he works hard to make me feel beautiful. So on good days, I can get past feeling huge and saggy and tired.
This is why I wish my family lived closer or that my husband didn't work nights (police officer), I can tell the night routine is wearing me down, considering I am falling asleep while pumping at work. By time I pick up C, walk home, feed her, spend some time together, get her to bed, eat dinner, do some school work, pump and get her bottles ready for the next day it is already 11/midnight. Which gives me no time to clean my house or unwind from the day, which is causing me even more stress, since we live in such a small place, where clutter happens easily. Is anyone going through this? I know I am supposed to take care of myself so I can take care of C and DH, but how?
Ladies: Are your LO's starting to have favorites on television? Lucian watches a channel called BabyFirst TV. He LOVES the little character PeekABoo and Harry the Bunny. Mickey Mouse CH also keeps his attention.
Now he will squat up and down if we hold him up with his feet on the ground or bounces in the exersaucer if its on....pretty adorable!!!
Frozen is like baby hypnosis..... as soon as the first song comes on P is completely zoned in. It gets the dishes done, no shame here!
I've read too many articles about the bad effects of tv on kids and I believe they are right:( DH and I only watch tv when the girls are sleeping unless our favorite teams are playing in a game. We did a decent job (not great) of keeping DD1 from watching tv until she was 2. Unless we were sick because you can only read so many books on the couch before you get bored! It will be harder to keep DD2 away from tv since her sister likes to watch it in the mornings and after rest time. For now I can just turn her around but she will soon be mobile.
@winnie1122 I love them. Relationship goals. Thanks!
Any constipation remedies for baby? We've been told to use cereals with her because her weight is a little low. However the introduction of these has seemingly caused a backup on her poor little tummy.
when we think of it...but DH is much more consistent than I am, whoops. My aunt who's hard of hearing and signs a lot said that around 9 months is when it really starts getting reciprocal with the sign language in general, and his ped said the same, so we'll see!